Trusting the universe no matter how bad it hurts..

[ChangingYang]

So I believe that we become who we are through adversity. That the decisions we make during the trying times in our lives make us into the people we are.

I believe the universe is constantly talking to us, whether or not we listen, in my case it sometimes seems like it's yelling in my ear no matter how hard I try not to listen. Looking back, I realize how much of my life in these past couple years have been shaped by synchronicity and following.

So, my car broke down on the side of the road about a month ago, and much to my horror, I discovered that my house is 40 min away from the nearest bus stop and it takes me a grand total of two and a half hours to get to work now with out a car. With a car it takes 20 min. And I get off work at midnight, two hours after the last bus towards my home leaves. So I have been, spending three hours a day busing/walking to work, and mooching rides off people to get home. It was absolutely aggravating…still is. But even though I’ve had plenty of chances to buy a car, and I have the money. When I ask if it is the right thing to do, the universe says wait. Every time I ask, I am told to just wait, when I ask why, I’m told it’s because I’m building character, when I say, that I am very content with the amount of character I have already, can I just have a car now please, I’m told to wait.

I was wondering if anyone else had had a similar experience to mine, if any of you have successfully followed the universe’s will all the way through to the end, and were you happy with the result? Or is it just one of those promises held out like a carrot on a string, seeing how much improvement we make before we finally break.

I have two other experiences like this, one that I’m still waiting on, after nearly three years of following now… (I really don’t want to be without a car for three years….). And the other is when I found the apartment of my dreams.

I had been living in a rathole with a horrible roommate and every time I asked if moving into this apartment or that one was a good idea or not I was told no. After about two weeks of this, I found a place that I decided to move into anyways, and after the worst three days of my whole year, losing $200 and having my car towed. I managed to talk my way out of that apartment, and moved my stuff back into the old rathole. The next one that came along was better than anything else I had seen, but the universe said danger. So despite my absolute desperation I turned it down, two days later I found the best place in the world, a place that made it all seem worth it, the universe said go for it and I couldn’t be happier…except of course for my 40 min walk +two hour commute every day I face now… but even with all that, I am still absolutely in love with where I live.

Anyone have any opinions?

Oh by the way! Hello! My name is Changing Yang, found your forums today, and couldn’t believe the wealth of knowledge and cool people here! I hope to be a regular face here!

[Silenced140]

Mabye the universe just likes to test us ?

Idk sometimes I feel the same way. Stuff just doesn't go right sometimes and I think you just have to ignore it and see past the fog. This happened to me today

So the street is loaded with people right, and there's some crossing guard flaggers stopping traffic. So I'm looking ahead and everythings clear so as I get into an intersection, I start to slowly drive out looking. No stops signs.

And this old f***** jumps out in front of me yelling. I put the window down and ask what the F*** is he doing ? And he starts freaking out at me, telling me how I could have hit kids. He was a traffic flagger that wasn't even doing his job.

I didn't do anything wrong, this idiot should have been standing in the road stopping traffic like the rest of them. There's supposed to be traffic flaggers in the road stopping cars so people can cross. So when he's not there, I drive like normal.

So I have this guy yelling at me because he's not doing his job. Not my fault, so I did what came natural.. " Dude get your old ass back to work so this doesn't happen" and I drove off.

I managed the bad situation, and kept a high vibration. Even had a little laugh as I was driving away.


So when stuff goes bad, just tell it to **** off. And think about good things.

Worked for me

[nicbrahms]

My interpretation of the universe testing you is when you don't have any other choice in the matter, or you think you do but its just resistance, not when you could buy a car but don't cause you think you are learning something, that makes no sense, its self inflicted on a conscious level. Usually the universe's doings are not of your conscious understanding.

Makes no sense to suffer if you don't need to, just cause you have convinced yourself the universe is talking to you and telling you that you should. Sides if you have a choice in the matter, i.e when the suffering gets too bad you resort to buying a car, suffering is only when you can't see a way out.

I think you should buy a car love and take it easier on yourself.

I do agree that you should trust the universe though esp when its at its worst, but the trust and love occur when you are at your lowest, similar to what I am going through now, except I have learned love and acceptance and I am at peace, and there is no way out. The universe is not providing the solutions for me yet, and thats why I know this has to be gotten through for it to all become what I want it to.

Peace.

[Federer]

I agree with nicbrahms.

See, i want to tell you something. Never struggle to understand this universe. It's damn hard and impossible. But it loving it can open your own world as you want. Be grateful to it, this is enough for it.

[On A Lark]

So I believe that we become who we are through adversity. That the decisions we make during the trying times in our lives make us into the people we are.

This is what you believe, so this is what you are creating. If you think you need adversity to "become who you are", and you desire to "become who you are", then you will create adversity to get there. Change your belief and you will start to see new evidence in your life.

[wstein]

Originally Posted by ChangingYang

So I believe that we become who we are through adversity. That the decisions we make during the trying times in our lives make us into the people we are.

Your beliefs are your beliefs AND your limitations. As long as you believe that adversity is the only way to be who you are, then other possibilities are not open to you.
I also choose to express who I am by creating.

[positive power]

Originally Posted by wstein

Your beliefs are your beliefs AND your limitations. As long as you believe that adversity is the only way to be who you are, then other possibilities are not open to you.
I also choose to express who I am by creating.

Time and again we are caught out by our belief systems. I often say 'without the darkness we cannot appreciate the light.' Is this another limited view point. How about we can always appreciate the light even if we haven't had the contrast?

[Alan1986]

If you feel excited about getting a car, then you should get one.

We don't need trying times to make us into who we are. There is no external reason for who we are. Circumstances do not determine who we are. Circumstances are mirrors to our belief systems. Our state of being determines circumstances.

[Grandiouse]

Agreed! Faith and surrendering does miracles for the soul.

[Marth]

There's a big trap out there and it's tolerating your situation. As men we feel we're manly or (it builds characters) to tolerate a bad situation no matter how bad it gets. We must do our best to avoid this and lead a rich bountiful life.

[MissEmpress]

I too am waiting on the universe to say yes about something....

I have been looking for a job for months and FINALLY one came along that appeared to be what I manifested, right up to the interview and it fell through.....

I didn't get too discouraged because I believe, well hey, something better is probably in the wings. However, I feel like I am in a place of waiting. I have received offers for unpaid internships but that is not what I want but I ask the Universe if that is the path meant for me to take why those seem to come up, but each time I seem to get a NO about it....I give it a day or so, weigh it before deciding if I should take it or not. But I never feel compelled to....

Soooo right now I am in a place of wondering am I missing the signs or am I in the correct place, where I am supposed to be waiting until I get a YES.

[alexb5784]

This is an interesting post, I'm curious to hear about other people's stories.

[ChangingYang]

Thankyou all for responding to my post!

I am really quite fortunate to find a place with so many people not caught up in the day to day sleep that most people in my life seem to be in.

I'm sorry it took me so long to respond, but some of the initial posts weren't quite what I was expecting to get. I was thinking I would get responses from people who had gone through something like I had, and see what their outcome was. But I am very greatful to all of you for giving me a different view of my situation, that's what I really needed, and you gave me a lot of things to think over.

I will continue to wait until it is the right time to get a car, but this post has got me thinking a lot about why I am in the situation I am in. I came to the realization that there is something I wanted more than a car, something else I had asked for, and that's what I am working towards right now. I had asked for personal strength, to be less of a wishy-washy person. I spend much of my life worrying about what others think of me, of how to accommodate the people in my life. I lose my center very easily, worrying about this or that.

This experience of nearly two months without a car has changed me drastically for the better. Everyone in my life is trying to tell me what to do, it is so hard not to just go for it and accept help from generous friends or to just buy the first decent thing I find. I’m learning to cope with anxiety and desperation too, I’m learning to find my center and stay there, not to let the external world play a part in how I feel.
Hope I don’t sound too crazy.

As for the belief I have, that may well be limiting, about adversity making us who we are, the idea originally came to me from the movie “bottle shock” anyone see that? The part where the vineyard owner tells his apprentice that “stressing the vines make a sweeter grape”.

It may be limiting, but it is working for me, but that doesn't mean I am not open to any suggestions or criticisms anyone may have.

Thanks again!
ChangingYang

[ellie]

I trusted the universe and took a risk a few weeks ago. On a spur of the moment decision I decided to quick my job there and then and thought well I will let the universe work it out, it always seem to work itself out...lets see if it does this time, where I haven't had much thought about it, and have nothing to fall back on. I had no other job lined up or any idea what will happen. I saw it more like a game.

So I wrote a letter there and then on the spot, it took 2 minutes to write and then pressed the send button

This is something I would of not done in the past, I would of been stressing over it for weeks, feeling sick in the stomach, that was I making the right the decision, what would I do financially...but this time, I just didn't put much thought into it.

So what happened, you may ask? I got a million dollar contract the next day...ok just joshing...nothing as fancy as that. In fact nothing major apart from my bosses convincing me to stay, but do only the work that I want to do. So that suited me, the reason I wanted to quit, was I felt the area I was in was not right.

But even though it doesn't seem like much, it did teach me, that things always work out for me and taking risks are not the end of the world

[UpwithDawn]

Hi ChangingYang,

Might I ask just how exactly you "ask the universe" and how exactly the universe answers?

Dawn