being positive all the time?

[sarahsarahsarah11]

Is it really possible to be positive and have a good attitude all the time? Do you personally have a good attitude all the time?

Is it possible to have incredibly good intentions and then see them fall flat? For example, is it possible to have a strong intention of a positive outcome, but then get the negative outcome instead?

I want to hear people's personal experiences.

[judge45]

It's more about beliefs than emotion. A rock steady fundamental core belief with over ride any happy thought or positive intention.

A constant steady flow of determination with occassional bursts of happytime is better than a roller coaster of emotion.

HTH

Jeff

[Nneka]

Hi Sarah, I think it's absolutely possible. Am I doing it? No.

If I remain present to all the activity that is going on around me and all the things I'm involved in, I can catch myself before my reactions to them. At that moment, I can choose to react lovingly, neutrally, in joy, angrily, or nonchalantly. The key is that I am present enough to choose. Sometimes I choose to get po'd. It's not what you would consider enlightened, but it works for me.

The question now is how present am I. Well, honestly, about 60% of the time. Sometimes, I catch myself running away with an emotion or line of thought. The moment I catch myself, I'm present. The moment I'm present, I can choose.

It's not so much about willing yourself to feel something you're not comfortable feeling as it is an awareness of what's going on in your life and how you choose to be with it.

In Spirit,
Nneka

[starlet]

I am in a positive state at least 95% of the time. I lapse into negative states, but can flip it back very quickly. I like being happy, I spent nearly 24 years miserable and depressed, and it takes so much less energy to be happy and free.

[Chloe]

^ I have also spent 24 years being miserable! It is only since discovering the LOA that I have seen the light. I'm in early stages so I find that I have to constantly remind myself to be positive/have a great attitude. I hope that continually making this re-affirmation will ultimately change my internal belief system for good. I guess it just takes a little bit of time to re-program the mind.

[starlet]

It does, but as positive thoughts are more powerful then negative, I was able to take 23 and a half years of damage and fix the majority of it in about four months. I suggest finding your "happy place." What is the one thing that never fails to bring a smile to your face?

I am going to embarrass myself here and say it is Right said Fred's song I'm Too Sexy. Nothing makes me start laughing harder then when I'm sining to myself "I shake my little tush on the catwalk" and I'm actually doing the tush shaking! Either that or Amy Grant's Baby Baby.

I also suggest putting comedy into your life. Watch sitcoms, rent funny movies. My personal favorite is watching Whose Line is it Anyway?, that show is the only thing that kept me going throughout my life and I love it. Hysterical. I adore improv comedy and now I go to live performances. I also watch old Dean Martin and Jerry Lewis movies...those guys were the kings.

Or go do something that you've always wanted to do but have feared you might embarrass yourself. Go bowling and hit gutter ball after gutter ball. Go minigolf and keep missing the hole. Go ice skating and freeze your tush as you spend the majority of the time on the ice. Go to Disneyland and spin yourself sick on the teacups. Go to a karoke bar and sing something by the Spice Girls (especially if you are male!) Make a fool of yourself. Rediscover that life is fun and suddenly that happy state will become natural.

[Chloe]

^ what you say is very inspiring starlet. I think within a few months I will be worlds away from what I was last year and the many years before. I completely agree with you about finding your 'happy place'

[Smokefish]

I think it is possible. I'm positive 99% of the time. As others have posted, I also spent a lot of time being depressed, feeling like I was a worthless screw up and my life sucked. One day when I was sitting around doing my usual thinking that my life sucked, that it always sucked and always would, I stopped and realized that thinking that my life sucked was an expectation, it was a choice that I was making and if I wanted something different I needed to choose different thoughts and expectations. I decided then that I would be happy. It took some time and work and moments of falling back into old patterns of thinking, but I can honestly say that I've been happy since then. I occasionally allow something to annoy me or irritate me, but it doesn't last long before I change it around. I hope that this is helpful to you! Happy Thinking!

[BelleEnchanted]

Good question. I do always tend to experience more positive feelings than negative, but I think it becomes easier with practice.

For me, it's about always being aware of how I'm feeling.

And having a less than positive feeling isn't something to beat myself up about. I find that it's more than okay to sit with that feeling for a while, accept that that's where I am, and then reach for the better feeling thought.

Having a negative emotion isn't a bad thing. It's more like a signpost, telling you to be aware of which way your thoughts and feelings are headed.

Abraham-Hicks likes to use the concept of "happy stickering" - putting a happy sticker on things doesn't work. It's like Starlet says - it's good to have a list of things that put you in the "happy place". Because sometimes you'll be faced with a situation in which no amount of "positive thinking" is going to change how you feel.

When that happens, I don't try to feel better about the situation. I reach for something totally off-topic that makes me feel even a fraction better.

I think that's why being aware of how I'm feeling all the time works for me. I know that I have the choice as to how I'm feeling, and being aware of how I'm feeling helps me to remember to exercise that choice towards the better feeling.

[thestral]

I am. This does not mean I do not go off-track sometimes, I do. But my EGS (emotional guidance system) alerts me with a sinking feeling in my stomach, and I get back on track. I usually either try and find the good in the situation, or I forgive the person I am annoyed with, or pull up a happy memory.

[yamayama]

I'm not positive all the time but I'm trying. Everytime I catch myself thinking of upsetting things I clear my head stop thinking of it, otherwise I get caught up in a loop of bad thoughts and my day is ruined.

I think that there is zero benifit in pursuing thoughts that make you angry or sad. One good thing for me is that I no longer suffer pms.

[Andy Mills]

My hole life I've tried to be posative. But eventually you can't take it any more. It hurts. You feel nothing. Other than your bottled up emotions that get filled day after day. Nobody loves you. You have nobody to lean on, nobody to love, nobody to hang out with. Nobody likes you. You cant make friends. You think you are normal but for some reason you cant be yourself at times. I dont know why. Some people take your kindness for weakness. Theres a hole in my heart. Ive been told I dont feel as though I am loved, but jesus always loves you. I have a hole in my heart. THey say Jesus is supposed to fill that hole. They say I will try to fill that hole with lovers, video games, or pornography. But Jesus cant help me. My father has foresaken me. When life shits on you enough times then you give up on looking for Jesus. God doesnt even love me? The hole in my heart is to big for Even jesus to fill anyways. What about the missing peices of my heart from my family not loving me, or not having any good friends, nobody to talk to. I don't trust to many people anyways. I am lonely. How am I supposed to survive without feeling loved. I dont feel loved? Why??? Is ther something wrong with me??? Sometimes I hate life. Im sick of everything. Sometimes i want to get up and leave my scheduled life. Go somewhere far. But then I realize Im not going to find anything. I have no place. The worlds exhistence would not change if I died. I think of suicide. I would never commit suicide. But I think what's the purpose. NOBODY LOVES YOU??? Ive loved others. Ive been loved. Ive been knocked down. I get back up. And I keep doing so. But sometimes I wonder whether or not to get back up. nobody loves me. I hate life! Is this just a phase? But nothing is going to change so I am miserable

[thestral]

Originally Posted by Andy Mills

My hole life I've tried to be posative. But eventually you can't take it any more. It hurts. You feel nothing. Other than your bottled up emotions that get filled day after day. Nobody loves you. You have nobody to lean on, nobody to love, nobody to hang out with. Nobody likes you. You cant make friends. You think you are normal but for some reason you cant be yourself at times. I dont know why. Some people take your kindness for weakness. Theres a hole in my heart. Ive been told I dont feel as though I am loved, but jesus always loves you. I have a hole in my heart. THey say Jesus is supposed to fill that hole. They say I will try to fill that hole with lovers, video games, or pornography. But Jesus cant help me. My father has foresaken me. When life shits on you enough times then you give up on looking for Jesus. God doesnt even love me? The hole in my heart is to big for Even jesus to fill anyways. What about the missing peices of my heart from my family not loving me, or not having any good friends, nobody to talk to. I don't trust to many people anyways. I am lonely. How am I supposed to survive without feeling loved. I dont feel loved? Why??? Is ther something wrong with me??? Sometimes I hate life. Im sick of everything. Sometimes i want to get up and leave my scheduled life. Go somewhere far. But then I realize Im not going to find anything. I have no place. The worlds exhistence would not change if I died. I think of suicide. I would never commit suicide. But I think what's the purpose. NOBODY LOVES YOU??? Ive loved others. Ive been loved. Ive been knocked down. I get back up. And I keep doing so. But sometimes I wonder whether or not to get back up. nobody loves me. I hate life! Is this just a phase? But nothing is going to change so I am miserable

Hon, I've so been there. Slapping a smile over a broken heart is like putting a band-aid on a broken bone - it does no good. I spent my entire life depressed, attempted suicide countless times and did self-abuse. You cannot expect others to love you until you love yourself. Forget everyone else right now. Start by focusing on yourself, your needs, what you love to do. Fall in love with yourself and the world will follow.

It took me a long time to realize this, when I would cry and wonder why I was on this earth simply to be a scapegoat. Then one morning I yelled that I was not taking this bull anymore, I was going to be happy come hell or high water. I started doing thingss for me, and realizing that all my "flaws" were what made me so perfect.

[Acting Like Godot]

Originally Posted by Andy Mills

My hole life I've tried to be posative. But eventually you can't take it any more. It hurts. You feel nothing. Other than your bottled up emotions that get filled day after day. Nobody loves you. You have nobody to lean on, nobody to love, nobody to hang out with. Nobody likes you. You cant make friends. You think you are normal but for some reason you cant be yourself at times. I dont know why. Some people take your kindness for weakness. Theres a hole in my heart. Ive been told I dont feel as though I am loved, but jesus always loves you. I have a hole in my heart. THey say Jesus is supposed to fill that hole. They say I will try to fill that hole with lovers, video games, or pornography. But Jesus cant help me. My father has foresaken me. When life shits on you enough times then you give up on looking for Jesus. God doesnt even love me? The hole in my heart is to big for Even jesus to fill anyways. What about the missing peices of my heart from my family not loving me, or not having any good friends, nobody to talk to. I don't trust to many people anyways. I am lonely. How am I supposed to survive without feeling loved. I dont feel loved? Why??? Is ther something wrong with me??? Sometimes I hate life. Im sick of everything. Sometimes i want to get up and leave my scheduled life. Go somewhere far. But then I realize Im not going to find anything. I have no place. The worlds exhistence would not change if I died. I think of suicide. I would never commit suicide. But I think what's the purpose. NOBODY LOVES YOU??? Ive loved others. Ive been loved. Ive been knocked down. I get back up. And I keep doing so. But sometimes I wonder whether or not to get back up. nobody loves me. I hate life! Is this just a phase? But nothing is going to change so I am miserable

Well, Andy. I once knew someone who sounded a lot like you. In addition, he was recovering from schizophrenia. I did not know him that well, but when I knew he was in trouble, I offered friendship and a helping hand.

It went well for some time, but abruptly he cut himself off, disappeared and his last contact with me was an email where he told me not to contact him again and added that if he would no longer be checking this email account of his.

And that was that. I don't know where he is.

Looking back now, and from a LOA perspective, I think that I was unable to help him because he was thinking too many negative thoughts. He distrusted people and perceived his own circumstances as dark & bleak. Under such conditions, I could not continue to play any role in his life.

His thoughts shape his reality, and his thoughts left no space for someone like me to exist in his life.

I guess what I'm trying to tell you is that if you keep thinking thoughts like "Nobody loves me" and these thoughts are dominant for you, then by the Law of Attraction, your life will reflect those things. No one who might possibly love you will be able to enter your life, for your life, as always, is a perfect reflection of your thoughts.

[yamayama]

Originally Posted by Andy Mills

My hole life I've tried to be posative. But eventually you can't take it any more. It hurts. You feel nothing. Other than your bottled up emotions that get filled day after day. Nobody loves you. You have nobody to lean on, nobody to love, nobody to hang out with. Nobody likes you. You cant make friends. You think you are normal but for some reason you cant be yourself at times. I dont know why. Some people take your kindness for weakness. Theres a hole in my heart. Ive been told I dont feel as though I am loved, but jesus always loves you. I have a hole in my heart. THey say Jesus is supposed to fill that hole. They say I will try to fill that hole with lovers, video games, or pornography. But Jesus cant help me. My father has foresaken me. When life shits on you enough times then you give up on looking for Jesus. God doesnt even love me? The hole in my heart is to big for Even jesus to fill anyways. What about the missing peices of my heart from my family not loving me, or not having any good friends, nobody to talk to. I don't trust to many people anyways. I am lonely. How am I supposed to survive without feeling loved. I dont feel loved? Why??? Is ther something wrong with me??? Sometimes I hate life. Im sick of everything. Sometimes i want to get up and leave my scheduled life. Go somewhere far. But then I realize Im not going to find anything. I have no place. The worlds exhistence would not change if I died. I think of suicide. I would never commit suicide. But I think what's the purpose. NOBODY LOVES YOU??? Ive loved others. Ive been loved. Ive been knocked down. I get back up. And I keep doing so. But sometimes I wonder whether or not to get back up. nobody loves me. I hate life! Is this just a phase? But nothing is going to change so I am miserable

I've been there too. Depression is like a downward spiral that's harder to get out of the deeper you sink into it. You forget what it's like to be happy and you don't have the energy to pull yourself out of the funk.

I say go see a doctor and get some anti depression medicine.

This helped me.

God does love you. Hold onto that thought. Take care of yourself. Do things that make you happy and don't hurt anyone. Watch funny movies and laugh damnit. Force yourself to think about what you want your life to be like. Make it like a movie in your head that you can revisit anytime. Help people when ever and where ever you can, this helps you get out of your own head. Be friendly to everyone and smile.

Although all this sounds like a bunch of band aids it all helps.

[Sarek@Vulcan]

I also was unhappy before and I know why. Since I was a kid, since I can remember I was very negative and pessimist. I can remember saying things like "nobody loves me" many times. Of course now I realize that was like affirmation, a belief and I projected more of that. In primary school pupils always made fun of me cose I was different, made a lot of time fool of myself and was depressed cose I didn't have a girl. I had a belief that i can't find i girl cose something is wrong with me...
Now I don't have such problems, it was all my beliefs and me projecting them. Wonder when that started, in what year of my youth did i became so negaitve.
Now I'm trying always to look positive on things, not that I can always do that but intention is what matters

[Andrew Michaels]

Originally Posted by starlet

I am in a positive state at least 95% of the time. I lapse into negative states, but can flip it back very quickly. I like being happy, I spent nearly 24 years miserable and depressed, and it takes so much less energy to be happy and free.

How did you make the switch?

[madgeylou]

for me, it's a lot easier to be positive about things when:

* i've exercised/broken a sweat recently
* i'm well rested
* i'm eating nutritionally dense foods much more than crap

if those 3 items are in place, then i can handle almost anything. for me, this is square one, and i have to remind myself to not let myself get too tired, lazy, or full of grubby food, or else i'll have a hard time being positive about anything.

[The Coronet]

same here! Tiredness is the biggest killer for my positivity!

[Billy]

The balance between happy and sad is nothingness, the void, there can be no happiness without some reciprical sadness.

[Andrew Brunelle]

There is a certain amount of joy I get from taking action towards doing whatever it is I want to do. If I am doing something I want to do, am working towards, there is no comparison to how joyous I feel. But when I have to do my taxes or fill out meaningless paperwork, I make the best of it. You can maintain a positive mental attitude whenever you wish, but it takes practice and possibly a massive lifestyle change. You must no longer be attached to outcomes or possessions that may or may not have a significant bind on your emotions.

[Lychee]

It's not possible to be positive all the time in this world. These obstacles are integrated in the program of life which exists to present problems and to push you to the limit, which often means that you will experience negative emotions in your life. I don't believe it's very productive to be happy 100% of the time, or to force yourself to be happy all the time. Sadness is a part of life, and you are denying yourself something meaningful by trying to exclude it from your experience. Being sad all the time is not good, as is being happy all the time. Balance must be maintained between the two.

I do believe it is possible to have good intentions and then experience negative outcomes. There is a greater plan for all of us. If our intentions, no matter how good they are, do not line up with that plan we will experience what we perceive to be negative results.

[thestral]

Originally Posted by Lychee

It's not possible to be positive all the time in this world. These obstacles are integrated in the program of life which exists to present problems and to push you to the limit, which