If I have requested a man why do I keep receiving women?

[FutureShock83]

I have asked for the universe to manifest me a new man and have been enjoying my life in anticipation for one coming, yet women keep flirting with me instead. Before I put out this manifestation neither sex bothered me much.

I'm gay and don't want a woman! I am sure they are coming because I've put out this request as before I did I was chatted up by neither sex. The first time it happened was at the train station and then a couple of days later in the lift at work. It's flattering, but also kind of frustrating. :P

[Lionman]

lol, that's absolutely fascinating.

Are you attracted to feminine men perchance?

[FutureShock83]

Originally Posted by Lionman

Are you attracted to feminine men perchance?

I like my men to be men, but I do probably like them to be slightly more feminine and submissive than myself. Not like a wimp, but someone who would try to dominate and overpower me doesn't appeal at all! I prefer to take charge a little bit, but in a nice way... in that I like being with someone who likes me to take the lead.

Originally Posted by VinceG

because there's many more females than there are gay men who like masculine men, you're getting women.

Ah, that would make sense! Yeah, I am quite masculine (most people don't know I'm gay until I tell them) but the thing is, this is who I really am and by changing my demeanor to someone more camp and feminine I wouldn't be being true to myself at all.

[VinceG]

Originally Posted by FutureShock83

Ah, that would make sense! Yeah, I am quite masculine (most people don't know I'm gay until I tell them) but the thing is, this is who I really am and by changing my demeanor to someone more camp and feminine I wouldn't be being true to myself at all.

It's subtle and tricky. It doesn't mean to do things you wouldn't ordinarily do. It means to stop doing things that are unconsciously attracting women. When I took honest stock of how I was acting in public, I realized that I knew a lot of gay guys, and that I was appropriating a lot of their mannerisms, drawing other gay guys to me. Once I identified those unconscious mannerisms, I replaced them with conscious elements designed to grab the attention of women.

[Cochonette]

It's unnecessary to increase your masculinity or femininity to attract people, if that's not who you are. You are probably getting women hitting on you because you have changed your vibe, and there are a lot more straight women in the world than there are gay/bi/queer men. It's always been this way for me... I am female, and attracted to women. Inevitably unless I am hanging out primarily around queer folks, I get more men interested in me than women. And I am certainly not very feminine in appearance... the guys interested in me, I'd tell them I looked stereotypically gay, and they'd say, "NO WAY, YOU DON'T!" which I don't agree with.

[curiouslyrandom]

Last year when I was trying to attract a woman into my life, I got a man. Some of his friends thought he was gay, so when they found out he was seeing me (a bisexual woman) they were surprised. I guess I just like my men a little swishy, but also really manly. It's a fine line.

This guy keeps suggesting I get myself a girlfriend, so maybe I will after all!

[HeartExalted]

Actually, I'm kinda curious about this myself. How could the OP tweak his manifestations to be all male?

Originally Posted by FutureShock83

I like my men to be men, but I do probably like them to be slightly more feminine and submissive than myself. Not like a wimp, but someone who would try to dominate and overpower me doesn't appeal at all! I prefer to take charge a little bit, but in a nice way... in that I like being with someone who likes me to take the lead.

Oh, reeeeeally? Say, where do you live, anyway?

[FutureShock83]

Originally Posted by HeartExalted

Oh, reeeeeally? Say, where do you live, anyway?

England, sorry!

So I guess I need to go to more places where gay people hang out, but I'm skeptical about meeting a potential partner in a bar or a club. I'm not really in to that scene so it's not really ideal to be with someone who is. Hmm....

[stewartM]

Originally Posted by FutureShock83

England, sorry!

So I guess I need to go to more places where gay people hang out, but I'm skeptical about meeting a potential partner in a bar or a club. I'm not really in to that scene so it's not really ideal to be with someone who is. Hmm....

Me neither, but my last relationship I met someone in a bar but we were together 7 years, so it does happen...

[Lionman]

Originally Posted by FutureShock83

I like my men to be men, but I do probably like them to be slightly more feminine and submissive than myself. Not like a wimp, but someone who would try to dominate and overpower me doesn't appeal at all! I prefer to take charge a little bit, but in a nice way... in that I like being with someone who likes me to take the lead.

Yeah I'm thinking that you're attracting feminine energy based on your desires. Women of course tend to carry a lot more of it than men, so that's why they're coming to you.

Maybe if you get the physical aspects of what you're attracted to more clear and focused on then you'll attract men better.

That's my theory anyway, **** knows.

[VinceG]

Originally Posted by FutureShock83

I have asked for the universe to manifest me a new man and have been enjoying my life in anticipation for one coming, yet women keep flirting with me instead. Before I put out this manifestation neither sex bothered me much.

I'm gay and don't want a woman! I am sure they are coming because I've put out this request as before I did I was chatted up by neither sex. The first time it happened was at the train station and then a couple of days later in the lift at work. It's flattering, but also kind of frustrating. :P

Haha, three years ago I wanted women and not men, but I'd get gay guys hitting on me all the time. My guess is that you're unconsciously pursuing masculinity, which, because there's many more females than there are gay men who like masculine men, you're getting women.

I realized back then that I was unconsciously being far more feminine as a strategy for attracting women. Not only did it not get me any women, but gay guys kept stopping and talking to me! Once I fixed my demeanor, it stopped happening.

[pc99]

Originally Posted by FutureShock83

I have asked for the universe to manifest me a new man and have been enjoying my life in anticipation for one coming, yet women keep flirting with me instead. Before I put out this manifestation neither sex bothered me much.

I'm gay and don't want a woman! I am sure they are coming because I've put out this request as before I did I was chatted up by neither sex. The first time it happened was at the train station and then a couple of days later in the lift at work. It's flattering, but also kind of frustrating. :P

Perhaps the universe knows best - you’re straight! So ask those women out.

I kid of course – but, you did mention neither sex bothered with you before; therefore you’re making progress so you should be happy about that.

Sounds like the focus may be off somewhat. Why do you want a man? Is it for a long term relationship? Do you want just anonymous sex? Do you want just to date? Are you wanting him for a “plus 1” at events? Are you looking for a friend with benefits? Just asking for a new man sounds pretty generic.

As I said, it sounds like you’re making progress if the fairer sex is paying attention – so it shouldn’t be long before your focus audience does. But, it would be a shame if you’re looking for a relationship and you meet a man who only wants a one night stand – or vice versa. So ask again and be more specific this time.

[FutureShock83]

Originally Posted by pc99

Perhaps the universe knows best - you’re straight! So ask those women out.

I kid of course – but, you did mention neither sex bothered with you before; therefore you’re making progress so you should be happy about that.

Sounds like the focus may be off somewhat. Why do you want a man? Is it for a long term relationship? Do you want just anonymous sex? Do you want just to date? Are you wanting him for a “plus 1” at events? Are you looking for a friend with benefits? Just asking for a new man sounds pretty generic.

As I said, it sounds like you’re making progress if the fairer sex is paying attention – so it shouldn’t be long before your focus audience does. But, it would be a shame if you’re looking for a relationship and you meet a man who only wants a one night stand – or vice versa. So ask again and be more specific this time.

I want a long term relationship and that is what I've been focusing my energy on, yeah. Wouldn't mind a few dates in the meantime though, may need a few of them to find the long term.

[TiffyLove]

What first came to mind is your looking to attract a partner in your life and because you don't really want a woman there is no negative beliefs around your ability to attract a woman (no beliefs at all, would still be an absence of negative beliefs preventing it from happening).

You have a big desire for a man, In which I am assuming you have some beliefs around that. Even if its, "where is my man at?" "Why haven't I found a man?" "Where are all the good men?" etc.. I am sure your beliefs are different, those were just examples.

But the truth is if you thought you could manifest your dream man without any doubt in your mind, he would be here already. Because you don't have such a desire for a woman you also don't have anything that would have created doubt.

So just look at this as the universe has heard your intention. Now your only work is to trust its moving mountains to bring you your dream man. And enjoy the wonderful attention from women in the meantime. After all it means your are so attractive that when that man does come along you are going to be attractive to him as well!

It's the whole idea of when your not looking for a relationship is when it drops in your lap. And when we are looking we keep looking. Just know he is already here and enjoy life as it is now. He will be here in NO time at all.

Enjoy!