Is she the one ?

[Micky]

Hello to everyone,this is my first post.

Ok,I am male 47 and have been on my own for a while now,but decided I wanted a long term relationship,life partner etc.

I have used visualisation before and decided to use it to find me a life partner.I have been visualising and asking the law of attraction for me to find someone.

stay with me on this please..lol

Ok,someone has now appeared in my life,and I am thinking is she the one.

We get on really well but its just on a friendly basis.

But,I am not sure how to proceed,I am starting to visualise her,and specifically her as the one I want,but this is where I get confused because some people say you cant specifically choose one person and others say you can.I am certain the loa has brought her to me,but is she the one??

Hope people understand what am getting at.

help please

[freddy]

Don't worry about if this is the one. Take the adventure as far as you want.

[Bliss Sage]

Originally Posted by Micky

Hello to everyone,this is my first post.

Ok,I am male 47 and have been on my own for a while now,but decided I wanted a long term relationship,life partner etc.

I have used visualisation before and decided to use it to find me a life partner.I have been visualising and asking the law of attraction for me to find someone.

stay with me on this please..lol

Ok,someone has now appeared in my life,and I am thinking is she the one.

We get on really well but its just on a friendly basis.

But,I am not sure how to proceed,I am starting to visualise her,and specifically her as the one I want,but this is where I get confused because some people say you cant specifically choose one person and others say you can.I am certain the loa has brought her to me,but is she the one??

Hope people understand what am getting at.

help please

She might be.

I agree with freddy - it's best not to worry and take each day as it comes.

Over a year ago, I attracted many guys into my life while I was healing from a horrendous relationship. Each guy was interested in me, but I was pushing them all away, thinking they were all the same as the previous guy I was with. About 8 months later, I did a final healing on my previous relationship, after which, I decided (again) that I wanted to get married. Shortly after that, I began to realize that one of those many guys was actually quite different from the rest. And he is my "one" now (I call him my white night ).

The point of my story is, it may be who you think it is, or it may not. In my case, it was someone in my life who I just couldn't see through my pain. And, moreover, I had personal issues that even came up in the beginning of my relationship with this new guy and I had to heal those issues in myself as well. Normally, I would have just left the guy if I had issues, but this guy was so committed to me that I healed my issues instead, so I could be happy with him. If you have "issues" they will also keep you from finding and staying with your "one."

Best to be open until a love relationship begins to develop naturally between you. Don't force anything and don't tie yourself to one possibility. Let things come.

Fyi - I never did visualize much. I could never do that very well. Just, every few months, I would make an updated list of my guy. It was a lot less work than what we are told by "LoA" people. No conscious visualizing was necessary. I can't speak for non-deliberate visualizing or dreaming, but I do know this guy came into my life at a time when the last thing I wanted was another guy, and I was still emotionally attached to the previous guy (albeit not in contact with him). So it didn't really work the way LoA people told me.

[iatethewholewheel]

@Bliss Sage, I have a question about when you say "If you have "issues" they will also keep you from finding and staying with your "one."

Does that mean we can find and be with someone who actually is the "one", but not remain together? If that person truly is the one wouldn't the relationship find a way to come back together once the issue is resolved and the time is right?

Thanks!

[curiouslyrandom]

I think releasing yourself from the concept of "The One" would be a big step. Imagine, if you will, that there are many people who might be just right for you, not just one. If you meet only one of those many people in your lifetime, lucky you! If you meet more than one, then lucky you again!

Grasping and clinging to and idea that there may only ever be one person that is perfect for you is really quite limiting. What if things go wrong? Does that mean you can never love again?

And to echo the other replies, just let things go where the will go. Enjoy the journey, don't worry so much about the destination.

[reiki717]

If she is the one it will happen. Try not to think about it too much. And I don't really think the LOA should be used to manifest a relationship with a specific person, but rather just continue to focus on attracting the type of mate you want.

[Micky]

Thanks to all your replies,all very interesting and giving good advice.

[nicbrahms]

Indubitably she is THE ONE.

[TiffyLove]

Enjoy your time with her. Whether she is the one(as you are referring to it) or not, she is in your life and you enjoy her there. So enjoy it.

Also if you would like her to be the one, connect with those feelings and how allow yourself to feel those things for her. It will happen naturally.

[Micky]

Thanks again for the advice,

Yes,I am very happy she is in my life,and I really do beleive she is the one.

[alexb5784]

I've met people I thought were "The One" but when it came down to the truth, I realized that I was forcing myself to think they were the right one for me. Sometimes if you have to ask yourself "Is this person the one?" and your intuition is telling you that they're not right for you, then I would say no.

Unless you get a really good gut feeling about this person and there is very little doubt, then they could be one of the many "Ones". I believe we have more than one soul mate.

Good luck!

[James81]

Load the jump program and let's see what she can do.

[xermes]

Micky, friend..if you believe that she is the one then you will lose her.
I am not discouraging you, i am actually trying to help you by pointing to a certain way.
If you believe that she is the one, you will allow to helplessly fall in love with her. You will be calling her every day, buying her a gifts, going to places only she wants. You will be doing everything that is "supposed" with common logic to make her fell attracted to you. Well, if you planned this, you may end up disappointed sooner than you think.
Please, find some books or video seminars about attraction and communication in general.
Try David DeAngelo or Real Social Dynamics.

"Attraction is not a choice" - David DeAngelo
You cannot choose for someone to be attracted to you.

If you want to become attractive guy, and win the woman from your dreams, you will need to become authentic and stay that way.
When you become more authentic, you will be more happy and Law of Attraction will work flawlessly.
Key for law of attraction to work like in that movie "The Secret" is to feel good and stay relaxed all the time.

Now, how to get to that stage...is a story for itself

PM me, if you want to find out more about this, so i can direct you to right places, if you want.

[xermes]

Originally Posted by Bliss Sage

As far as I understand, not necessarily. The reason is because, when I say "issues," for example, I have had a fear of abandonment all of my life. If I am with a good guy, one I could really be happy with, but things transpire, like he gets too much work, for example, and doesn't have time for me. I'd be inclined to make a fight about it, claiming that he doesn't treat me right or pay attention to me. That could lead to the end of the relationship.

Unless you deal with the fear of abandonment, that issue has the potential to ruin every potentially happy relationship, including the relationship with "the one."

I have to admit, after all my experiences, I'm not sure I believe there is a "one." Or, if I do, I will never be with my "one," because he ended up in a pile of trouble and had to get married. He was also quite a bad guy.

I kind of gave up on the idea of "one" and just went for "one I can be happy with."

Having said all that, I also have to admit, that despite all of my fighting with him to get him to leave me, my current "one" didn't leave me, still. I don't think there's anything I could do, short of outright dumping him, that would get him to leave me. And I have dumped him, or tried, but every time I changed my mind and apologized, he accepted me back. So...maybe...

It's confusing, because each individual in the relationship has the power to end it, or to start it up again.

If you want a needy guy to leave you alone, then you will need to improvise.
Give him all the power and confidence that you have and become EXTREMELY needy. Call him every two hours, demand attention from him whenever occasion arises. And, ouh...brag about yourself all the time. For day or two he will be ok with it...but he will not be able to hold out for too long. Soon he will be dumping you..and that will be the end. cheers

[richardxthripp]

If you have to ask, then no. But don't worry about it.