Question about manifesting a physical relationship

[Bluerose224]

I'm attempting an intentional manifestation. This is my first time and despite a few implementation mistakes I think it is working!

I'm using Steve's blog entry as a guide:
How Intentions Manifest

My manifestation is for a caring, physical relationship with someone I only see about once a month and I have had some amazing alpha reflections.

I also discovered Steve's version of subjective reality recently and I have been successfully practicing that also. It has really become a part of me.

The "problem" I am having is as follows. My subjective reality efforts have, I believe, made me more desirable to the opposite sex. There are four people who have made it clear that they would like to have a physical relationship with me if I give the signal. My sex drive is now driving me crazy especially with these frequently-seen potential partners basically 'at the ready.'

Steve's blog post says it's important not to sabotage an intentional manifestation during the lull phase which is where I am now. Will having sex with someone else when I'm trying to manifest a caring physical relationship sabotage my efforts?

I won't do anything which may do so but I'm climbing the walls. I'm practicing Steve's suggestion of imagining the energy coming out higher up from the heart and mind which does help. When it gets too intolerable I have a couple of martinis which gives me a partial break from my sex drive for about 4-5 days. This is the only drinking that I do.

Any thoughts or advice is appreciated. Questions, comments and links to related posts are very welcome.

Thank you. I appreciate a supportive environment in which to ask these questions.

[curiouslyrandom]

What makes you think none of these people are the one you are looking for? Go out on a date, make it clear that you want to take things slow, then enjoy yourself and don't have sex. If you want to see them again, do. Things may progress in the direction you desire.

Then again, why limit yourself to just one?

[themaster]

Originally Posted by Bluerose224

Any thoughts or advice is appreciated.

Act on your damn sex drive!

Which is better for you drinking 6 martini's or having sex?

Well........????????

I vote sex.. that's just my vote.. and it doesn't count!

But understand that "alcohol" is usually used to "give" you a false connection to the universe.. it's used as a "I'm so disconnected" I'll take this buzz to be connected.. you can connect in sex..

Originally Posted by Bluerose224

Steve's blog post says it's important not to sabotage an intentional manifestation during the lull phase which is where I am now. Will having sex with someone else when I'm trying to manifest a caring physical relationship sabotage my efforts?

See these relationships as working your way up to the one that is "caring" and maybe they'll surprise you and what you "judge as not caring" is caring..

(For I take it that's why you haven't taken them on)

I'm pretty sure if we can get steve in here.. he will say "don't limit yourself" take the car/person for a test drive.. you don't know what you want till you sample..

I heard a interesting idea the other day.. 99% of all relationships start after sex not before.. because then you've sampled the person and found if you want to continue..

[Bluerose224]

A big thank you for all of the great responses. I'm aware that I can have a relationship with another person. Believe me, I've put a lot of thought into it and I know that I don't want to compromise. I like this goal for my first intentional manifestation. I've learned so much that it's not the goal but the process that is amazing.

I realize now that perhaps I should have left 'caring' out of my posting. It seemed to shift the focus to that being my manifestation when my goal is a specific partner. Even if it doesn't fully work out the process has been amazing and very educational as I mentioned. I'm glad I'm pursuing it.

Due to the responses I have broadened my viewpoint of those expressing a desire for a physical relationship with me. I realize now that I pigeon-holed them a bit too much and will think of them in expanded terms which may lead to being physical. A big thank you to those who responded and led me to this insight.

In summary, my main concern is if having sex simply for the release can derail an intentional manifestation of...well...sex. I know no one can answer for sure but I value all input, ideas and thoughts.

Thank you.

[Vayy]

In summary, my main concern is if having sex simply for the release can derail an intentional manifestation of...well...sex.

I have had similar doubts associated with relationship manifestation, though I can live without the sex enough to wait . I set an intention for a specific kind of relationship, and suddenly three of my male friends were asking me out on dates, and two other acquaintances of mine expressed interest in dating as well. And it's only been a month. The problem is that none of them are the ideal I intended, but I can see how they all posses pieces of the whole that I want.

I don't want to sabotage my true intention by playing around with other guys. Unfortunately, I don't have any advice. For now, I've been playing it safe and just telling them I'm too busy with University.

I choose to see these interested guys as alpha reflections of my true intention. What I really want is coming. I trust that. And these requests for dates/sex/relationships are just the Universes way of telling me to hold on tight and wait just a little longer. That's not to say I haven't flirted with the idea to have some fun with one of them, but I know that what I want isn't here yet.

Best of luck to you!

[themaster]

Originally Posted by Vayy

I don't want to sabotage my true intention by playing around with other guys

Let me clarify for Xermes.. how this doesn't always help you..

(in case he didn't get it )

First off.. just so were clear.. if this guy/gal you want is MR. PERFECT you’re not going to sabotage anything because you’re playing around.. if there really right for you.. you'll just be drawn together..

What I'm saying is everyone on the planet is in the judgment system.. and we are constantly looking at people evaluating them to that "mr. perfect" picture in your brain.. but sometimes the path and alignment to "mr. perfect" requires going through "mrs. imperfect"

Some people spend FOREVER waiting for them to show up! And that might has well be all of your journey's..

The journey of love is LOVE OF SELF.. when you really love yourself it doesn't matter if you have "mr. perfect" or not! Your happy either way.. that is how you create the POWER of ATTRACTION in your life.. and that's how finally one day you let it in.. and mr. perfect arrives (probably in the most unexpected way.. and probably a most unexpected person, yet exactly what you needed/helps to enhance your life )

I would not avoid opportunities because your waiting for mr. perfect.. and I wouldn't be waiting either.. but that's just me..

(I'm not telling you waiting doesn't work.. but the real question is.. do you believe if you’re not socially active or at least doing a "search" for mr. perfect.. you'll ever find them??? the general answer is NO all or most us believe in a action based universe make sure you are doing ACTION in alignment with your intentions )

Thanks for listening..

[Vayy]

but sometimes the path and alignment to "mr. perfect" requires going through "mrs. imperfect"

This is definitely a very good point and something to consider. I haven't ruled this possibility out.

I guess the main concern is, if you make an intention for one thing, then take whatever you're given (even if it isn't quite right), are you canceling out or distorting the original intention? Are you saying "thank you Universe, guess this is close enough" and in effect whatever forces were working towards your original intention get a mixed signal and prevent the fruition of the original intention? Or, as you've said, is the journey needed? Is THAT the manifestation you need in order to get what you want in the end?

I'm honestly not sure.

[RomanHD]

I don't know if anyone else said this, but if you believe in objective reality, then manifesting a relationship with a certain person is a violation of that person's free will. So really, go out on all those dates and see which one you like the best!

[RomanHD]

Originally Posted by themaster

Act on your damn sex drive!

Which is better for you drinking 6 martini's or having sex?

Well........????????

I vote sex.. that's just my vote.. and it doesn't count!

...

I heard a interesting idea the other day.. 99% of all relationships start after sex not before.. because then you've sampled the person and found if you want to continue..

Hey master, you are quite pro-sex, considering that you are into New Age and channeling!

[themaster]

Originally Posted by RomanHD

Hey master, you are quite pro-sex, considering that you are into New Age and channeling!

My teachers are pro-sex

Abraham has said "if we were in your physical shoes we would have as much sex as we could all the time" (think the para-phrasing is a little off.. but close!)

Originally Posted by Vayy

Are you saying "thank you Universe, guess this is close enough" and in effect whatever forces were working towards your original intention get a mixed signal and prevent the fruition of the original intention? Or, as you've said, is the journey needed? Is THAT the manifestation you need in order to get what you want in the end?

I'm honestly not sure.

It's not something I would judge with EGO (or try and figure out) you understand it's not your job to figure out HOW things happen right? The EGO can only figure out HOW things happened! (past tense )

If I were you.. I would work on being relaxed, at ease, open, non-judgmental.. and just go with the flow!

That's how happiness, excitement, joy, surprise is created!

It's not in the... I want and insist on this.. this is what I want! (watch for a statement of RESISTANCE.. which is what I'm trying to say here.. )

There is nothing wrong with saying what you want.. but just make sure you’re not closing the doors that may actually lead you there with EGO, judgment, closed mindedness etc.

Be fluid, be flexible, be everlasting.. be yourself.. and love yourself!

[Vayy]

Originally Posted by themaster

There is nothing wrong with saying what you want.. but just make sure you’re not closing the doors that may actually lead you there with EGO, judgment, closed mindedness etc.

Be fluid, be flexible, be everlasting.. be yourself.. and love yourself!

Gotcha. Thanks for clarifying.

[Bluerose224]

Originally Posted by Vayy

I choose to see these interested guys as alpha reflections of my true intention. What I really want is coming. I trust that. And these requests for dates/sex/relationships are just the Universes way of telling me to hold on tight and wait just a little longer. That's not to say I haven't flirted with the idea to have some fun with one of them, but I know that what I want isn't here yet.

Best of luck to you!

Thank you so much for replying as I feel we are taking similar journeys right now. Using the approach you describe above, I thought about the other four people and (I can barely believe it but) they are components of the person I am interested in.

[Bluerose224]

Originally Posted by RomanHD

I don't know if anyone else said this, but if you believe in objective reality, then manifesting a relationship with a certain person is a violation of that person's free will.

Oh gosh, you're right! I just discovered Steve's blog and forum about one month ago, so as a newbie I deeply appreciate your sage advice. I spent yesterday contemplating your posting. I also received two synchronicities about the person I am interested in and it's the first time I've received two in one day.

Of course I'll be evolving my manifestation when I know what is right for it while trying not to let objective reality encroach on my effort...something it is trying to do to analyze yesterday.

[RomanHD]

Originally Posted by Bluerose224

Oh gosh, you're right! I just discovered Steve's blog and forum about one month ago, so as a newbie I deeply appreciate your sage advice. I spent yesterday contemplating your posting. I also received two synchronicities about the person I am interested in and it's the first time I've received two in one day.

Of course I'll be evolving my manifestation when I know what is right for it while trying not to let objective reality encroach on my effort...something it is trying to do to analyze yesterday.

I very much appreciate your appreciation, but just so you know, I'm neither sage nor expert at manifesting intentions! Heck, I don't even practice most of this stuff right now, I'm focusing on other things.

But thanks again