Smile while your heart is breaking

[era1213]

I understand that the hardest way is to think positive all the time. I would like to share a little explanation on this. The Law of Attraction is very popular for a superior cause. It's a way for people to handle their lives, get things done, and get what they want. Essentially, the Law of Attraction says: "like attracts like". And one indispensable action that we need to do is to think positive, because if you think positive all the time, you’ll attract positive too, but as you mentioned, it’s hard to always think positive or be positive all the time, due to some reason, depression, stress, and our environment itself. I started law of attraction the same way as you are starting right now. I have a hard time of thinking positive things all the time, like when I start thinking positive and I see one little error and mistake and see that things are not going my way, I stumble and it leads to feeling down and negative again. So what I did was find a way, search on the net for more tips on how can I successfully start, And the very basic is to SMILE, smile?! Yup, try to start your day with a smile, face the mirror and practice your sweetest smile, then smile to the very first person you face. When they smile back to you, you’ll know the feeling why smile can help. If you feel happy inside and out, it would be easier to think positive, think of the happy old times, and think of your crush, your desired new shoes, think of happy thoughts. That will make you smile =) Mines strategy, I listen to reggae every morning, it makes me energized and happy, it makes me hum while walking and it’s easier to share a smile. When people smile back at me, I feel light and thus, it’s makes easier for me to become positive.


Life is one big road with lots of signs. So when you riding through the ruts, don't complicate your mind. Flee from hate, mischief and jealousy. Don't bury your thoughts; put your vision to reality. Wake Up and Live! -----Bob Marley Quotes

[elucidate]

Mine's the Mighty Boosh. You just can't NOT smile when those two are making mischief

[kenny r]

Yes, smile is a very good and simple one. I think Anthony Robbins would like that one.

[SethWilliams]

What a wonderfully simple, yet ingenius idea.

[James81]

The current mark of our generation is the notion that an emotion or a thought is negative or wrong. It's not the rightness or wrongness of an emotion that stunts our growth, it's our desire to flee any particular emotion or thought instead of seeing it through to fruition and then gracefully letting it go.

Last night I told a girl who was facing heart break after losing her first love, to feel the pain and embrace it. That it's our resistance to the pain that keeps us mired where we are, not the pain or the situation itself. We live in a society that has taught us to feel shame when we cry.

The other day I was in the market and I saw this young girl crying in the buggy (because she wanted a particular toy and didn't get it), and I saw what I assumed to be her grandma telling her to get it together...to stop crying or she would lose the candy she was going to buy and go home with nothing. And the girl couldn't stop crying, and the grandma kept telling her to stop...no doubt because she felt embarassed to have a crying child out in public with her.

I remember thinking to myself how sad it is that crying and being upset is something that is shamed. That we're conditioned to not feel a particular emotion publicly.

And then again today I wake up and see a comment in that girl's facebook post (under mine) that said, "We told you to stay away from you know who, but you never listen, so feel your heartbreak."

And I thought, wow, we're missing the forest for the trees. You feel like you need to "think positive" because you've been conditioned that that's what you need to do. And I say that that is rubbish.

Think your negative toughts. Feel your crappy emotions. Think MORE negative thoughts. Feel MORE crappy emotions. You feel what you feel in any given moment, so embrace it.

And then, when you've thought and felt it...let it go by recognizing that no thought is ultimately and totally true.

Smile while your heart is breaking? Pishaw! Cry big ole fat goopy gobby tears. Cry so much that you drown the world. Your heart is breaking, let it break...and in it's breaking watch as it transforms itself into something more compassionate and free.

[nicbrahms]

Yep cause remember to go more into the light, one must first experience the dark. It is a world of contradictions and polarities, one can not be without the other.

Whether you want to partake though is entirely upto you. However, the illusion will keep dragging you back in if you still hold desires, needs, wants etc.

We should all become buddhist and do away with all of the desire and just become observers. That is the aim I guess.

Transcend the illusion.

Peace

[Diandra25]

your post reminded me of the song of JOsh Groban :

YouTube - Josh Groban - Smile - Live at Soundstage

[kenny r]

Originally Posted by James81

Think your negative toughts. Feel your crappy emotions. Think MORE negative thoughts. Feel MORE crappy emotions. You feel what you feel in any given moment, so embrace it.

And then, when you've thought and felt it...let it go by recognizing that no thought is ultimately and totally true.

Smile while your heart is breaking? Pishaw! Cry big ole fat goopy gobby tears. Cry so much that you drown the world. Your heart is breaking, let it break...and in it's breaking watch as it transforms itself into something more compassionate and free.

I took the op as having already felt the pain. I think many people don't do it as you have explained here, so they shut it off too early to reach the level you're talking about.

I agree, though, it's best if the emotion be felt fully, THEN moved on.

If one moves on an yet faces more upset, that is when smiling (or other method), I think, can help. Otherwise you can get stuck in a pit of experiencing ONLY negative emotions. That's what happened to me at least, and if I hadn't tried things like smiling while I was in the middle of poo, returned myself to positive outlook and hope, I would possibly still be stuck now.

[XxNatyxX]

Originally Posted by era1213

I understand that the hardest way is to think positive all the time. I would like to share a little explanation on this. The Law of Attraction is very popular for a superior cause. It's a way for people to handle their lives, get things done, and get what they want. Essentially, the Law of Attraction says: "like attracts like". And one indispensable action that we need to do is to think positive, because if you think positive all the time, you’ll attract positive too, but as you mentioned, it’s hard to always think positive or be positive all the time, due to some reason, depression, stress, and our environment itself. I started law of attraction the same way as you are starting right now. I have a hard time of thinking positive things all the time, like when I start thinking positive and I see one little error and mistake and see that things are not going my way, I stumble and it leads to feeling down and negative again. So what I did was find a way, search on the net for more tips on how can I successfully start, And the very basic is to SMILE, smile?! Yup, try to start your day with a smile, face the mirror and practice your sweetest smile, then smile to the very first person you face. When they smile back to you, you’ll know the feeling why smile can help. If you feel happy inside and out, it would be easier to think positive, think of the happy old times, and think of your crush, your desired new shoes, think of happy thoughts. That will make you smile =) Mines strategy, I listen to reggae every morning, it makes me energized and happy, it makes me hum while walking and it’s easier to share a smile. When people smile back at me, I feel light and thus, it’s makes easier for me to become positive.


Life is one big road with lots of signs. So when you riding through the ruts, don't complicate your mind. Flee from hate, mischief and jealousy. Don't bury your thoughts; put your vision to reality. Wake Up and Live! -----Bob Marley Quotes

you're right sometimes when you start this journey it can be difficult to stay positive. I know i have been through a lot this past year... one thing that i found that helped me was using affirmations... but the most powerful affirmation when one faces that battle with your ego is "I am free from internal conflict" It is just soo powerful... when ever i am trying to stay positive... and my ego is nagging at me with something negative... i just say to myself " I am free from internal conflict" I swear it is soo powerful that all those negative thoughts just vanish.

But a smile is always a good way to stay positive. I also take a lot of pride in making someones day. Right now i'm working at a place that from time to time i get some very upset people... i always seem to make them happy no matter how frustrated they are with a situation. That always helps to keep me positive.

[Angela]

I don't advocate positive thinking or affirmations or smiling when your heart is breaking.

I've tried 'em, and I've seen others do 'em, and sometimes they help a little, slowly. I'd rather get breakthrough results, FAST. And I actually think that thinking positive and affirmations often put the brakes on breakthrough results -- they're all about trying: reaching for a state, as if a state were a goal. Focusing on believing you can do it, or believing you can feel good, which is very different from doing it and feeling good. "I think I can, I think I can!" is for the little engine that could - someday, maybe. I'm far more interested in being the big ol' engine that does right now.

And smiling when your heart is breaking looks like insanity to me. I'm not going to slap a bandaid on an open gaping chest wound, and I'm not going to slap a smile on my mug when my heart is rife with pain.

I'm going to get the learnings. When I start smiling, you'll know my heart's not broken any longer.

[Solipsist]

Originally Posted by Angela

I don't advocate positive thinking or affirmations or smiling when your heart is breaking.

I've tried 'em, and I've seen others do 'em, and sometimes they help a little, slowly. I'd rather get breakthrough results, FAST. And I actually think that thinking positive and affirmations often put the brakes on breakthrough results -- they're all about trying: reaching for a state, as if a state were a goal.
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I'm going to get the learnings. When I start smiling, you'll know my heart's not broken any longer.

Seconded.

Even a broken heart is a positive thing, in itself, as it teaches us not only how to get over a broken heart, but also how to prevent it from being broken again. As painful as it can be, sometimes, we live in a world of duality, and we chose to be here, for the very purpose of experiencing that pain, so as to transcend the concepts of pleasure and pain entirely. This is positive growth.

As the phrase goes, "it's all good!"

[Futhark]

I went through a period of feeling fake because I decided to try to feel positive in every single situation in life, which did not really help with either the positive or the negative times. The best way I have found so far to "fight" negative emotions is by reframing the current situation and looking at roadblocks as opportunities. By seeing all negative events and emotions as potential energy, as opportunities, you can turn them into useful feelings instead of destructive actions. For, being positive only means that you carry on with life with vigor and energy. It does not mean manifesting postive emotions by distracting yourself from what is really happening around you.

Next time you feel anxious, realize that it is for a reason, and it will help you if you pay attention to why and do something about it.

Next time you feel lonely, it is because you have not tried connecting with enough people or the right way, it is not because you are flawed and people don't like you.

You have the choice to make use of negative aspects, or to wallow and go further down the spiral.

An easy choice if you ask me, but don't cover up a pile of crap with glitter, because there is still a pile of crap underneath.