Yes, this is bizarre, but when I visualise, coincidently others get what I want!

[Enlightenment]

This is really bizarre, but really important. I need some advice. A few years ago, when I started on this journey I did everything that was suggested: I started visualising, posting up goals, a dreamboard, meditating, etc. HOWEVER, I have noticed that everything I visualise for myself, OTHER people in my life seem to get! I realise I'm a very giving person, but this is ridiculous!
It especially happens for people close to me. Some examples are:
I wanted to go to Prague and some other cities in old Europe so I visualised it. Instead, my younger sister managed to go there for an extensive trip. I still haven't gone.
I wanted a nice apartment so I visualised it. My other sister managed to get an apartment at the exact same building I wanted!
I wanted to finally finish my Masters in Art History, but during that time and to my complete surprise, my brother got his Masters in Art History even though that wasn't even his original area of study.
What gives? I'm not saying I caused all this, but it does seems very coincidental. Am I crazy? How can I direct my wants towards me instead of others.

[Rainsong]

Same problem here. All of the sudden everybody has a cute girlfriend . Perhaps there's still something inside us that needs attention and once it's solved all of our manifestations will be ours again. I'd like some more thoughts on this, I've never read about his anywhere. Books always talk about attracting something into your life, but not necessarily to yourself.

[Enlightenment]

The only thing I've read or heard was that it is not easy to manifest stuff for others. But in my case, it keeps happening and in very specific ways. I re-read my post and it sounds selfish, but when what you want happens to other people and they seem to not even appreciate, it gets frustrating.

[SethWilliams]

One question, do you feel you deserve what your trying to create?

[Enlightenment]

I don't feel I deserve anything. It is because I'm used to others having what I have and since this was on my radar it is probably how I noticed that others were getting what I wanted. I was the scapegoat of the family, my parents didn't want me. I got all the beatings in lieu of my siblings. In fact, when my younger sister came along they named her almost exactly the same name as me thereby basically wiping out my achievements, wiping out my existance. It sounds almost funny, like Larry and Larry from the Bob Newhart show, but it is extremely painful and a very powerful message from my parents.

[SethWilliams]

Originally Posted by Enlightenment

I don't feel I deserve anything. It is because I'm used to others having what I have and since this was on my radar it is probably how I noticed that others were getting what I wanted. I was the scapegoat of the family, my parents didn't want me. I got all the beatings in lieu of my siblings. In fact, when my younger sister came along they named her almost exactly the same name as me thereby basically wiping out my achievements, wiping out my existance. It sounds almost funny, like Larry and Larry from the Bob Newhart show, but it is extremely painful and a very powerful message from my parents.

Okay, then this is probably a big reason as to why what your creating in your reality, is being created for others. You need to feel as though you deserve what your trying to create. Otherwise, the feeling of not deserving anything will act as a filter for your creative consciousness and put things that you desire in your reality, but not with you.

[desertrat]

For me I found a lot of repressed stuff . Pain , hurt , fear , confusing believes , stored in differnt places . Stuff from this life and past lives. If you believe from a past life you are guilty of the sin of being born and need to suffer and practice self deinal to account for that sin it is not likly you can manifest any thing . Use white light medatation , yoga , breathing , ect to resolve the repressed stuff .

[Enlightenment]

Can you tell me what white light meditation is and how it helped you? I used to have a meditation on my old computer where I visualised a white light above me and I became taller and taller, etc. I've searched for it on the web but only found a Kabbalah one that is similar but it's not as comfortable as the other one I used to use.

[cylon]

I think the reason this happens is because you are split. One part of you is starting to really believe in the power of intention in and of itself. Another part of you doubts that intention can manifest for you personally. This is just an extension of self-doubt that follows us through our lives.

We often feel that other people are more capable and more deserving than we are. When confronted with something like LOA, we naturally continue that train of thought and assume other people are better manifestors than we are, even if we are not consciously aware of this.

Now as to why your particular intentions are happening in other people's lives, but you are there to see it? Well, see above, and, the trick is that there are no other "people". We are one big "person", a larger awareness that mistakenly believes it's been split off. So when someone else gets what you intended, that's only your perception. THEY are YOU. So in the end you ARE getting your manifestation, except it's happening based on your beliefs which are inaccurate:

1-the belief that there are "other people" and that you are separate.

2-the belief that "other people" are more likely to be successful at intention than you are.

When you intend for something it makes its way to you but takes pit stops on the way, depending on your beliefs. This is what alpha reflections are all about. Say you intend for a lot of money. A couple days later, you find a quarter on the street.

That was the first pit stop. Depending on where you take it from there, your intention either gets closer, or doesn't. If you say "so what, it's just a quarter" then the pit stop will be a long one. If you say "cool! It's started coming my way!" then even more will come to you, and take its second pit stop. And again, you'll have to decide if you are going to allow the abundance in, or resent it, or wish it were more, or anything else that will push it away.

When things happen to "other people", that's the first pit stop. It gets close to you, but only as close as your beliefs allow.

If you see someone else get "your" manifestation, it's an opportunity to say "yes! It's starting to happen!" that's a new belief--the end result manifestation happens quicker.

If you say "dammit, what about MY manifestation?" you push it away, because you weren't able to recognize your manifestation in its earlier form, and thus weren't able to form a new belief about it (manifestations in somone else's life count as my own manifestation taking form).

So, that's a lot of info but I too have wrestled with this. This is what I've come to feel over time.

Take care.

[desertrat]

White light meditation is filling and srounding your self with white light . Many of the self hypnosis tapes use it . I think it was one of the rituals form the golden dawn . desert rat

[Enlightenment]

Yes, I've been pondering what you've said Cylon, and I realise these people, besides getting what my ego wanted, have hurt my ego in other ways. The good part about it is that I don't need their acceptance to change my own thinking and being. Sure, it sucks when I see someone else's ego being fulfilled and not mine, but I guess I have to recognize that perhaps it's not all rosey for them either in order for me to move on. It's tricky stuff. But that doesn't mean I don't want the things that I have wished for; I do, but for different reasons than vanity, pride or jealousy. If it helps people (all of us) then I think that's a very good indication that it is a worthwhile endeavour.

[desertrat]

You may share karma with the people getting what you are visualizing. Ask your higher self/guides masters . desert rat

[Enlightenment]

Originally Posted by desertrat

You may share karma with the people getting what you are visualizing. Ask your higher self/guides masters . desert rat

I'be never heard of 'sharing karma' with other people. That's very interesting. I want my own karma! lol

[nowgirl]

Originally Posted by Enlightenment

I don't feel I deserve anything. It is because I'm used to others having what I have and since this was on my radar it is probably how I noticed that others were getting what I wanted. I was the scapegoat of the family, my parents didn't want me. I got all the beatings in lieu of my siblings. In fact, when my younger sister came along they named her almost exactly the same name as me thereby basically wiping out my achievements, wiping out my existance. It sounds almost funny, like Larry and Larry from the Bob Newhart show, but it is extremely painful and a very powerful message from my parents.

Interesting. From my perspective reading: It makes entirely too much sense then, in lieu of these beliefs, particularly the underlined, that this would happen. What you are "used to" is likely what you believe, and what you believe is what you will manifest. You believe others will get what you want or get, so you're manifesting it. Seems sensible to me, though I imagine it's incredibly frustrating.

[Enlightenment]

Originally Posted by nowgirl

Interesting. From my perspective reading: It makes entirely too much sense then, in lieu of these beliefs, particularly the underlined, that this would happen. What you are "used to" is likely what you believe, and what you believe is what you will manifest. You believe others will get what you want or get, so you're manifesting it. Seems sensible to me, though I imagine it's incredibly frustrating.

That was a freudant slip I made, I don't think I meant 'I'm used to others having what I have.'

This opens an entirely new can of beans. I've got to think about that which I wrote.

[puguglypress]

Steve wrote a post once about how people's vibrations (not a literal term) are more effective manifestors than their thoughts. If you feel deep down that you deserve nothing and that your family is better than you, then that's gonna be your MAIN manifestation. Your thoughts of apartments etc. are just gonna be one small part of your bigger manifestation, which is that you don't deserve what you want.

If you were beaten as a child, that's not gonna go away cuz you wish for a nice place. It might color all of your attempts at happiness until you work through it and get closure. This might be the universe's way of telling you that.

[shinyjourney]

Originally Posted by Enlightenment

This is really bizarre, but really important. I need some advice. A few years ago, when I started on this journey I did everything that was suggested: I started visualising, posting up goals, a dreamboard, meditating, etc. HOWEVER, I have noticed that everything I visualise for myself, OTHER people in my life seem to get! I realise I'm a very giving person, but this is ridiculous!
It especially happens for people close to me. Some examples are:
I wanted to go to Prague and some other cities in old Europe so I visualised it. Instead, my younger sister managed to go there for an extensive trip. I still haven't gone.
I wanted a nice apartment so I visualised it. My other sister managed to get an apartment at the exact same building I wanted!
I wanted to finally finish my Masters in Art History, but during that time and to my complete surprise, my brother got his Masters in Art History even though that wasn't even his original area of study.
What gives? I'm not saying I caused all this, but it does seems very coincidental. Am I crazy? How can I direct my wants towards me instead of others.

I think that maybe your higher belief is that other people always have what you want. And this even before starting to put intentions. Did you notice something like this in your thoughts before starting to apply these LOA techniques?

[desertrat]

I dont know if you do share karma with them, just a possibilty . Lets say you hurt or killed some one in a past life , and you come back at the same time to balance the karma . desert rat