How do YOU let go of limiting beliefs?

[Tanemon]

I was thinking about the idea of getting beyond (or letting go of) limiting beliefs, and it seemed to me that different people may have different experiences with this. For instance, one person may find that substituting a more empowering, optimistic belief may be a way of letting go of her or his limiting one. While another person may find that being taken by syrprise by a startling new experience in everyday life is usually the only thing that dissolves her or his old limiting belief.

For me, affirmations have sometimes worked to an extent - like in situations of human interaction that have made me timid or nervous. Repeating an affirmation may give me enough confidence to dive into the situation, and find that I can do okay in it... then I can gradually get more comfortable in it and develop more finesse.

But I've also had the experience of 'the giant leap' in which suddenly I'm in a new personal, subjective space and a number of old, limiting beliefs dissolved away, more or less all at once.

For me there is a parallel in this second kind of experience, a parallel with the question of forgiveness and healing. I've found that - in the past - it could be very, very difficult for me to forgive certain things that people had done toward/to me - but once a pool of inner pain was dissolved inside me, I could pretty well automatically forgive the person or people who'd been involved in the situations that had been painful. Yet prior to that, no amount of "trying to forgive" had been very successful.

But back to my main question... so I'm asking you, personally, how do you do it? It would be great to share what we each experience as the way(s) we let go of old limiting beliefs about ourselves and our lives. Please post...

[zeitgeist]

Originally Posted by Tanemon

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But back to my main question... so I'm asking you, personally, how do you do it? It would be great to share what we each experience as the way(s) we let go of old limiting beliefs about ourselves and our lives. Please post...

In whatever you do, aim high! When you talk, or think, and catch yourself saying or thinking something limiting, immediately re-phrase and neutralize the limiting belief - a series of ongoing little steps will bring exponential growth if you are consistent.

Hope this helps,

Zeitgeist

[tarajc]

It helps me to remember that I am not my beliefs. What I believe does not own me.

Beliefs are continually changing and rearranging themselves. There are so many possiblities how can we hold onto but a few of them?

Hold on to something too tightly and you can't reach for anything else.

[Tanemon]

Originally Posted by zeitgeist

In whatever you do, aim high! When you talk, or think, and catch yourself saying or thinking something limiting, immediately re-phrase and neutralize the limiting belief - a series of ongoing little steps will bring exponential growth if you are consistent.

Thanks for explaining your approach, zeitgeist. Can you give me some examples of how this has helped you in specific situtions or challenges?

[ssandra]

I have several ways of dealing with it.

Before, I used to think things through. Think about what would be the absolute worst thing that could happen, realize that that isn't so bad, and therefor the decision would be ok (for example, "I cannot just go and talk to people" "why not" "they'll laugh at me" "and then what" "well.... euh... I'll feel bad?" "So what, you will feel bad when you're not talking to them as well, so what's the difference" "sign.. ok you're right" "now go talk to them" "Ok".)

But that took a lot of mental energy and not always worked. Because although it helped me work through anxiety, it didn't take it away.


A bit later, I just recognized something as a limiting belief and choose something different.

Or, what I do now is if I see myself having a limiting belief, I know that I am not choosing to be something inspiring. So I choose to be something that inspires me, and the whole world changes

[Tanemon]

Originally Posted by tarajc

It helps me to remember that I am not my beliefs. What I believe does not own me.

Beliefs are continually changing and rearranging themselves. There are so many possiblities how can we hold onto but a few of them?

Hold on to something too tightly and you can't reach for anything else.

Okay, well what you are saying makes some sense, as far as it goes. But...

Well, some people believe that what we are dealing with, in an individual human lifetime, is a set of conditons that are indicated by our natal horoscope - our astrological chart cast for the moment of our birth. And some people believe that what we are dealing with is a set of hidden limiting beliefs.

In other words, let's say I want to become a natural harmonizer and facilitator of actions or projects in my community or neghborhood, but find that sooner or later the projects I've been involved with seem to run into internal obstacles based on pig-headed attitudes and/or laziness amongst the assembled participants - where am I to look for the limiting factor? Afterall, I'm beng frustrated by not being able to manifest group harmony and effectiveness. Do I blame 'these fools or jerks I have to work with'? (excuse the labels) or do I seek the limitation within myself?

If I then decide that maybe the limitation is within myself, then how do I identify the limiting "belief" and how do I alter or eliminate it, practically speaking?

[zeitgeist]

Originally Posted by Tanemon

Thanks for explaining your approach, zeitgeist. Can you give me some examples of how this has helped you in specific situtions or challenges?

Well, I give you a simple example - time. I always did things well in advance of every deadline because I hated working under time pressure - then somebody in this forum - I believe it was Angela - pointed out the irony - I am Zeitgeist, loosely translate the spirit of our time. Since then I have decided that time is on my side - I threw my watch, or rather subconsciously bumped two watches against the wall within a few weeks. Since then I feel I am in the flow, time just magically bends for me - every interruption works to my advantage. You see, it is all about your belief. When you aim high and convince your subconscious about it, the sky is the limit.

PS: While I would always recommend aiming high but taking small steps every day in the right direction so that the growth is exponentially. This way your subconscience believes it is so. But of course, there is no need for this approach if you really believe in your unlimited powers.

All the best, and may the sky be your limit!!!

Zeitgeist

[Tanemon]

Thanks for that, Zeitgeist.

[themaster]

How do YOU let go of limiting beliefs?

Okay, first you destabilize it in the 4th ray.. then you float it up into the 5th ray.. then you pull down words from the 6th into geometry.. easy right?

Do you want the EGO way or the easy way?

Alright, EGO way.. Bashar says.. when you notice a re-occurring pattern or belief.. say "what do I have to believe is true to experience this?" (this is a internal question you ask.. then wait for the the answer..

If you want the easy way.. ?

It's heal it away.. don't search for beliefs.. perform daily healing.. becoming more conscious and less unconscious..

Course these are the methods I always recommend.. but remember.. healing has many modalities Essential Energy Tools

[James81]

I take big deep limiting beliefs and shrink them. Then I laugh at them and love them and consider them perfect creations of mine.

[Acting Like Godot]

Well, I often use self-hypnosis.

To me, it's just another form of the LOA. So are NLP, creative visualisation, meditation, prayer etc.

[Guard]

I have very limiting beliefs...which makes me skeptical of things I come across. Like mediums, psychics, etc. Even though I have had what seem to be validating experiences. I feel like I am in prison every time I wake up. And my dreams sometimes remind me. But I am sure that is simply because its on my mind like 24/7 these days. My heart tells me that God doesn't judge and we were not forced into this life to gamble with our destiny. This does not make sense.

[bobd]

This is a discussion I frequently have with my wife. I find the easiest way for me to let go of a limiting belief is the same as letting go of anything else. I look for something I prefer holding on to more than the limiting belief and I focus my attention on holding on to what's preferred. As long as I'm able to give more attention to what's preferred than to the limiting belief, my hold on the limiting belief eventually relaxes and lets go so I can grab hold of what I prefer over the limiting belief.

I'm a believer in the law of attraction. In my understanding of the LoA, we attract to ourselves what we focus our attention on. If I'm in the habit of focusing my attention on how to let go of a particular limiting belief, I'm attracting the limiting belief to myself by my focus of attention on it. In the same way, if I have a desire to stop focusing on a limiting belief, I'm still focusing on the limiting belief and attracting more of it to myself.

I'm also a big believer in appreciation. If I can find ways to appreciate a belief that seems limiting, the belief begins to feel less limiting. As the belief feels less limiting I gradually begin to experience increased freedom. When I let the feeling of increased freedom - no matter how small - become more of the focus of my attention than feeling limited, the law of attraction attracts more feelings of increased freedom. (I imagine this is frequently the goal behind the desire to let go of a limiting belief.)

If whatever you've been trying isn't working to your satisfaction, try playing with letting/allowing the law of attraction do more of the work. I've heard that's what it's there for.

Bob

[dharmabuddy]

The same way you put down an imaginary watermelon?

[taylor]

Originally Posted by dharmabuddy

The same way you put down an imaginary watermelon?

That's THE perfect answer.

I goggled that phrase and found this great little talk. I don't agree that senses are real, but the rest is really great.

[moonrambler]

Heads up, old thread got bumped by spam.

[Manuel]

Mine is to try and have as few beliefs as possible! Quite hard to not believe anything at all of course, but I don't really like the idea of replacing a negative belief with a more empowering one. I prefer to sidestep the whole issue altogether and have a mind that is open to every possibility. So it's not about NOT believing something either, but keeping the possibility open that it's ALL true or not, depending on what you focus on.

I can't say I am 100% successful with this, but it has had some interesting positive effects in certain areas! One advantage is that you don't have to TRY to make yourself believe something you really don't, nor struggle to let go of a belief you don't want anymore. You simply think that it's not NECESSARY to believe anything. You just DO and see what the result is.

[Tanemon]

This is an interesting topic. Thanks for the answers, so far.

Still, I kinda wish more of you were illustrating how your process (of letting go) works. Like... give an example of when you let go of a belief and had it alter your life situation. Zeitgeist sort of illustrated something that worked.

Just how did you do it? Let's make this an interesting and really useful discussion.

Dharmabuddy mentioned 'letting go of an imaginary watermelon'. Made me giggle. And it's sort of an interesting point... BUT...

Let's say you've had a belief that you are not a very good dancer: have you let go of that belief, then become a star dancer (modern dance, ballet, hip-hop video star)? Have you let go of the belief you are not an oustanding athlete, and then become one?

Please give the illustrative example.

And how far have you, personally, taken the principle of letting go? Let's say you've had a belief that you are not a healer or not a very good healer: have you let go of that belief and been able to heal people of severe illnesses?

Has anyone let go of the belief that you cannot levitate? and then been able to levitate??

Have you walked on water?

[Tanemon]

My previous post (the one just above) was maybe a bit too challenging - meaning I pushed the idea of getting rid of "an imaginary watermelon" out there and applied the idea to examples that may have struck people as too extreme.

In any case, no one responded to it. Actaully, I do not expect the people posting here in this forum to be Supermen and Superwomen.

I posted maybe a bit too boldly, mainly because I thought it would be nice if some posters illustrated the outcome of their methods of discarding limiting beliefs. Tell us how you do it, and give some examples of how your approach has worked out for you. That's really where I was trying to go with this.

I'll say something about my own experience. It's when I have a novel experience (something that naturally goes beyond my assumed limits) that I discard a belief. This could be by trying something new when a necessity arises (in other words, while I still carry the old limiting belief). Then I realize, "aha!" So sometimes it's been when circumstances have thrust a new experience on me.

Or sometimes it's the outcome of a big chunk of inner healing that opens up a whole bunch of new possibilities - possibilities that now seem obvious. But the healing, when it happens, just seems to happen. There's no deliberate getting rid of an identified limiting belief.

By describing these ways (which is accurate to my experience), I'm describing a situation in which I'm not consciously discarding the belief first. I'm having new experiences. Experiences that would afterwards cause me to describe my beliefs in new ways.

I'd actually like to experience it the other way around: deliberately get rid of a limiting belief, and have new possibilities just happen naturally. I'm not sure how to do that.

[Tanemon]

Originally Posted by James81

I take big deep limiting beliefs and shrink them. Then I laugh at them and love them and consider them perfect creations of mine.

You know, this is an interesting-sounding approach. You've identified some "deep limiting beliefs" and done something with them - recognizing along the way that they're "perfect creations" of yours. An approach that is different from mine - where, I've experienced the most result by the healing-away of old hurts & confusions - and old decisions that are at-odds with each other... then finding my beliefs change as a result.

Chicken-and-egg type topic, maybe.

[Acting Like Godot]

Originally Posted by Tanemon

Actaully, I do not expect the people posting here in this forum to be Supermen and Superwomen.

That is a limiting belief.

Tell us how you do it, and give some examples of how your approach has worked out for you.

It goes like this.

1. Identify your limiting belief, and define, in a short simple phrase, the alternative belief you would like to have. Eg "I love going to the gym."

2. Lie down in a dark, quiet place.

3. Close your eyes.

4. Breathe deeply and slowly.

5. Slowly count backwards from 50 to 1, visualising the numbers.

6. Every now and then, stop to tell yourself, "With each number I count, I am going into a deeper, quieter state of mind."

By the time you reach 1, you may experience tingling sensations in your hands; your legs may feel very heavy or very light (as if they were floating); you may be perceiving plenty of phosphenes. Your mind should be feeling somewhat "clear" or "empty".

6. At this point, affirm the belief to yourself. You can do this mentally, or you can speak softly to yourself.

"I love going to the gym."

7. Repeat this statement, in slightly different forms.

"I love going to the gym."
"I enjoy going to the gym."
"Going to the gym is fun!"
"I want to go to the gym."
"I really like the gym."
"Yes, I love going to the gym."

8. Another technique is to focus on your breath, inhale slowly and deeply, exhale slowly and deeply, and right before you inhale again, state the belief mentally to yourself:

"I love going to the gym."

Do this several times.

9. Tell yourself, "Now, I am returning to a normal state of consciousness. I will return to normal consciousness, by the time I count to 10. One ... two ... three ...."

10. On ten, open your eyes and get on with your life.

[Showtime]

Burn them with fire.

Works like a charm.

[torilink]

Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot

That is a limiting belief.



It goes like this.

1. Identify your limiting belief, and define, in a short simple phrase, the alternative belief you would like to have. Eg "I love going to the gym."

2. Lie down in a dark, quiet place.

3. Close your eyes.

4. Breathe deeply and slowly.

5. Slowly count backwards from 50 to 1, visualising the numbers.

6. Every now and then, stop to tell yourself, "With each number I count, I am going into a deeper, quieter state of mind."

By the time you reach 1, you may experience tingling sensations in your hands; your legs may feel very heavy or very light (as if they were floating); you may be perceiving plenty of phosphenes. Your mind should be feeling somewhat "clear" or "empty".

6. At this point, affirm the belief to yourself. You can do this mentally, or you can speak softly to yourself.

"I love going to the gym."

7. Repeat this statement, in slightly different forms.

"I love going to the gym."
"I enjoy going to the gym."
"Going to the gym is fun!"
"I want to go to the gym."
"I really like the gym."
"Yes, I love going to the gym."

8. Another technique is to focus on your breath, inhale slowly and deeply, exhale slowly and deeply, and right before you inhale again, state the belief mentally to yourself:

"I love going to the gym."

Do this several times.

9. Tell yourself, "Now, I am returning to a normal state of consciousness. I will return to normal consciousness, by the time I count to 10. One ... two ... three ...."

10. On ten, open your eyes and get on with your life.

This is good, I'd only add that sometimes what we think our belief is that needs changing isn't necessarily the belief that needs changing.

For instance, in this example: The stated belief to change is that you don't like going to the gym. If our belief is that we MUST go to the gym to be healthy or in shape then this exercise will only focus on getting us physically to the gym - but won't change the underlying belief about requirements to being healthy or in shape.

I'm not picking on this example or making any statements about working out -- only that sometimes we don't know exactly what our beliefs are and some time should be spend in finding the underlying belief before taking steps such as alg has outlined.

[seateal]

With me, I write down the limiting belief and why I feel that way, see if I can get to the crux of the matter. Then I take all the reasons why I CAN'T and switch then to I CAN. My most recent one was why I wouldn't get this job I wanted. I wrote down all my fears and limiting beliefs, and took each one and wrote why each one was "wrong." Literally 10 minutes after I did this, I found out that I had moved up to the next round of the application process, which only 5% of less of applicants every make it to.

[TractusVicisLiberatio]

By paying attention and identifying the limiting beliefs, feeling them for what they are, ending the resistance of them (which only serves to make them more solid and hold them in place) and let them dissolve.

[SethWilliams]

Step 1: Enter meditative state

Step 2: Identify limiting beleif

Step 3: Identify where the limiting beleif came from

Step 4: Release the beleif back to the place or person

Step 5: Install new uplifting beleif in the form of affirmation or visulisation

Step 6: Wake up

Step 7: Dont take life too seriously

Love Seth <3

[jellybeanpimp]

I say you have to do it gradually.

You have to start with something small that you thought you could never accomplish, accompish it, then move onto something a little bigger.

Pretty soon after you bust through a couple of limiting beliefs, you start to realize that you have more potential than you think. Your problem then becomes realizing that you do have your limits. Like those people who smoke a bunch of amphetamines, get too maniacal, and jump out hotel windows because they think they can fly or something (don't laugh, that actually happens!).

So yea, take it gradually, and remember when you reach the other side to not tilt the unlimited thing too far in the other direction. Thinking you are limited can be just as dangerous as thinking you are limitless.

[bobd]

Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot

1. Identify your limiting belief, and define, in a short simple phrase, the alternative belief you would like to have. Eg "I love going to the gym."

I particularly like what Acting Like Godot says in #1 of the process he/she offered.

For me, I find that when I can begin to find a feeling of appreciation for a belief that feels limiting, because it inspires me to new belief or desire I prefer instead, that's a pretty good indication the belief that seemed limiting is evolving/transforming into a more useful belief.

Then finding the feeling of what I'm inspired to prefer in place of a limiting belief is the most powerful method I've found of experiencing less limiting/more expansive beliefs. For me, finding a feeling of what a less limiting/more expansive belief feels like is a powerful addition to speaking words of affirmation about the new belief.

Focusing attention on thoughts and feelings of what's preferred does the trick for me.

Bob
Ask The Council (blog)

[bobd]

Originally Posted by Showtime

You can have whatever you want.
As long as you don't want it.

I like the law of attraction idea that we get whatever we want (in a non-physical, vibrational reality), the instant we experience the desire for it, and the more we're willing to feel the vibrational reality of what we desire, the closer it comes to our physical experience.

You can have whatever you want, as long as you're willing to make the transition from feeling like you want it, to feeling the reality of having it, even if you don't see evidence of it yet in your physical experience.

Bob

[AngelPsychic444]

"A belief is nothing more than a chronic pattern of thought, and you have the ability—if you try even a little bit—to begin a new pattern, to tell a new story, to achieve a different vibration, to change your point of attraction. The Law of Attraction is responding to your vibration, and you can easily change your vibrational point of attraction by visualizing the lifestyle you desire and holding your attention upon those images until you begin to feel relief, which will indicate that a true vibrational shift has occurred."

Excerpted from Money and the Law of Attraction