Talking about your goals/manifestations - and comfort zones

[jacare]

After a lot of experience, my conclusion is that it's best not to speak about your goals or manifestations, until they become "reality". The exception is to speak of them only to people who are directly involved in helping the achievements.

I'm not speaking of little goals, like manifesting a good lunch or something, but big life changers. Something outside your current comfort zone.

Otherwise, and I'm not sure why, maybe somebody can help me with the answer, it seems that speaking of your goals seems to diffuse their power, to dilute their strength, and to diminish the chances of their positive outcome. In some cases, it may actually cause others to sabotage you to suit their own agenda. In other cases, it may cause you to question your own goals, depending on the response you get.

Here's another thing I've noticed. If you begin to achieve a goal that is past where your "thermostat" has been for a long time, the universe does need to rearrange itself. And it's not always fun or wonderful like you might think. I can be outright uncomfortable. But if you're uncomfortable, it means, by necessity, you are out of your comfort zone. And that is key, to extend beyond your comfort zone - you must be.....uncomfortable. And being uncomfortable is a powerful repellent. Like a space shuttle which may have to use 90% of it's fuel just to get through the resistance of the earth's atmosphere.

[cylon]

I think part of it is when we have the intentions in our minds, they feel more comfortable because they are all ours, no one can get into our heads and judge them.

But when we speak them out loud, the intention's character changes completely. Once you actually hear yourself speaking your goal to someone else, it's now "out there"... and whatever appears to be "out there" will reflect back to you your true beliefs about it. If you are confident about your goal, and speak it, you will feel good. If you aren't confident, that will be reflected back to you in either a bad response to your idea, or even a hopeful response that you yourself know is misguided--"of course they believe I can do it, but I know I can't. I should have just kept my mouth shut."

I think that there are no "others", consciousness is just one big thing that is more or less "you".

So basically, whatever response you get from "others" is the response you are giving yourself. The universe has no choice but to reflect back to you what you put out. If you doubt the possibility of it happening, that will be reflected back to you in negative feelings.

[Angela]

I feel that when I share my intentions with others, it tends to spiral up! I love being the central nucleus of a team that generates something new in the world -- or to be be a team member of someone else's intention when they inspire me. The power expands, synergistically!

How others respond to my intention and how I communicate it is kind of a mirror in which I can see how effective I'm being. Am I inspiring them? No? Well, is that because the intention isn't inspiring, or because I'm not communicating it in an inspiring way? Either way, the feedback I get gives me an opportunity to grow and expand. (An opportunity I have the choice to either go with or pass on, by the way.)

If my intention, or my communication of it, is so measly and meager that it's diminished or stopped by the feedback I get from others, then the learning I may get from that is that I'm playing too small, and there's something to learn here!

[jacare]

Originally Posted by cylon

I think that there are no "others", consciousness is just one big thing that is more or less "you".

So basically, whatever response you get from "others" is the response you are giving yourself. The universe has no choice but to reflect back to you what you put out. If you doubt the possibility of it happening, that will be reflected back to you in negative feelings.

Cylon and Angela, thank you for the responses. You are so right, I also believe everything is a mirror back. Point well taken. I think once we have the experience of manifesting something one time, and it is within our new circle of "certain possibilities" we can talk about it, etc. all we want, with no impact.

For new things, outside our circle of "certainty", it is like a fragile sprout. Of course we are not confident of it, we have a lot of doubt. Because we've never done this before! So if we are ever growing, we are ever in that place that is outside our circle, and we are ever doubtful - to a degree. So we are more open to the contrary opinions of others.

Perhaps mastery in this case is to embark on a new manifestation and have the ability to remove all doubt in spite of the fact this is something new. Fake it until you make it, have total faith, proceed as if you cannot fail.

I've been having some incredible results lately, that are beyond a shadow of a doubt due to years of studying and practicing LOA concepts in a conscious way. As I said, the interesting thing as my universe is changing to expand my circle of comfort and into my goals, it is creating a dichotomy. As my old world "implodes", my new, bigger world is being created. And it is not necessarily comfortable or easy, as in various births, like emerging from a cocoon. You are temporarily caught in both worlds.