LOA/IM - When my reality conflicts with another's, how does one deal with it?

[RedneckGyrl]

The reason why I am asking this, is because hubby and I have our own law of attraction as well as intentions to manifest....our wishes to have his daughters from a previous marriage in our care.

Their mother is neglecting them in every area and breeding hate and disrespect towards their dad. Their life is so out of control that they have been in trouble with the law, their grades are severely failing and they think their dad doesn't love them and shows all sorts of disrespect towards him. Mom has used their anger towards him as a tool to persuade them to not see him...and they haven't for a year.

We want to see them grow and prosper in every area of their lives and we feel that we can help guide them on their paths to everything good for them, just by being the example for them to learn from. We want them to know the truth about how much their dad loves them....and me....and that we would go to the ends of the earth to help them develop their own awesome law and attraction as well as their own great intentions to manifest.

So, we just recently filed for a modification of the parenting plan. Now, my concern here is.....our intentions will conflict with the mother's intentions, of course. Since this is the case, how is it that we justify our intentions trumping over another's intentions, even if we feel ours is for the best interests of the girls?

It would have been better if mom's intentions were to see the girls living the best of life as they could and perhaps allow us to help her raise the kids more. It feels sorta uncomfortable having to use the court system, who we all know is banking bucks off from people not able to get along....but, in this case we feel we have no other choice.

But, what if she is supposed to go through mothering those kids for a greater good of some sort and we are just hindering her from her journey as it should be? Don't know if I am making sense, but all I know is we love those girls and we don't want to hurt the mom by doing this, we just want the best for the girls.

Thanks,
Amanda

[renie408]

Originally Posted by RedneckGyrl

... all I know is we love those girls and we don't want to hurt the mom by doing this, we just want the best for the girls.

That is your answer. Work to manifest what is best for these girls. Hold love and joy for them in you and pour energy into manifesting their greatest good. I am not sure if that is specific enough, but it might help you to see the best way to proceed.

[judge45]

Since this is the case, how is it that we justify our intentions trumping over another's intentions, even if we feel ours is for the best interests of the girls?

If you feel they are the best intentions....they are. Other people's intentions are irrelevant, because only yours, as long as you believe they are the best, are actually the best.

Your only problem is doubt, because you believe that a natural mother still has some kind of right almost regardless of how she treats the kids.

HTH

Jeff

[RedneckGyrl]

Work to manifest what is best for these girls.

This is our intentions and it does come with a heart of love for those girls.....thank you!

Your only problem is doubt, because you believe that a natural mother still has some kind of right almost regardless of how she treats the kids.

You are right...and you helped me to see this. And, I can tell you where this doubt came from, now that I have thought about it.

I am a natural mother to these wonderful boys and for the most part, my motherhood skills are excellent...and it was my weaknesses that was used against me in court that my ex was able to get custody...they were not weaknesses that would harm them, but enough to allow the judge to get a not perfect image of me as a mommy...all while the diagnosed narcissist went through the entire court scene with flying colors.

As reality is, none of us parents are absolutely perfectly functioning humans and we all make mistakes....and I go back to that court date when I think about what we are about to do....and I go through feeling those feelings of defeat and not being allowed to remain in the lives of my sons as I had always was before the divorce.

So, what if she will perfect the areas of her motherhood that needs perfected for the well being of the girls and we just interrupt her growth and her and her daughters don't get to grow together on a daily basis? I am just the type to feel this strong desire to do unto others as I would want them to do unto me.

I know that I wanted the judge to hold off making a judgment against me and reviewed how things were going, just to allow me to prove my motherhood was fit...so, I am in essence projecting my own experience into this one and not allowing it to flow on it's own course...instead of what I had wished it to have flown in my own case....and her situation is way different than mine.

I am still working out all of this in my mind, so any further comments or suggestions is welcomed.

Doubt....gotta work on getting rid of that, huh?

Thank you so much,
Amanda