What about when you just feel "Yucky"??

[renie408]

I have felt icky for the past three days. I can tell I feel icky, I know I should work to not feel icky, I have tried my anti-icky strategies that have worked in the past...still icky. I feel crabby and flat and I can't seem to drag out of it.

I woke up this morning feeling less icky, got online to check the bank and got a shock. The bank balance was WAY not what it was supposed to be and they had charged me SEVEN NSF charges for debit charges when I KNOW the money was in there. Went to the bank this morning and they said, "Oh, yes. When you make a deposit it shows up in your available balance, but it isn't REALLY available until it clears into your current balance which would be either at midnight that night or the next depending on when you made the deposit." Net result: I made a huge deposit on Friday, it showed up immediately into my available balance leading me to assume it was, well, AVAILABLE. I used the debit card all weekend and while they cleared because the balance said the money was there, the money didn't go in until Monday night. I asked the woman at the bank if that seemed quite right and she agreed with me that, No it didn't....but she still couldn't do anything about it. I stayed calm and said that it didn't seem fair for the bank to tell me the money was available, allow me to draw the money from their ATM and then to charge me $36 for getting it out. She agreed. But she can't do anything about it. So I am closing the account as soon as the last couple of checks I have drawn off of it come through. I am moving back to the big impersonal bank that at least doesn't tell you your money is there when it really isn't yet.

Moral to all that venting: I am right back to feeling yucky, convinced that feeling yucky brought all this on and wondering how to feel un-yucky.

[John Wesley]

I occasionally go through periods when I lose confidence, feel flat like you said, and have trouble breaking out of it. For some people, I think it's all just part of the emotional cycle of highs and lows.

I actually wrote about it a ways back: Overcoming a Loss of Motivation.

I'm not sure if there is any way to snap right out of the Yuck. The best you can do is understand that it will eventually pass and try to keep going without getting too down on yourself.

[Happiness]

Well, I have been feeling the same way. And I did read the suggested article. And yes, I am going through a down period right now.

I have thought about a new business idea. As someone once told me: where there is a problem, there is a business venture. So, last week, I came about this great business idea. But, my husband does not seem to keen about it and I had him call a few places (because I am at work cannot make the calls myself) and from the results, it does not seem as easy as I thought.

So for the past few days, I have been a bit down.

I want to make a big financial change in my life this year but I feel like giving up sometimes.

As I was going through the article about "overcoming a loss of motivation", I noticed that I can use my negatives thoughts in a good way. Maybe it might work for me.

I will definitely keep you posted on the results!

Thank you!

Happiness.

[VacMan]

Doesn’t that suck!

(What a positive beginning! )

I've been feeling yucky lately as well.

Like a fog that just invades my head. I'm usually a very positive person, and I still have a very positive long term outlook; however, sometimes my short term interactions become negative.

Which really sucks, because I'll be unintentionally sharp, or short with people who are close to me. It seems like when I'm like this it's easier to be nice or positive to complete strangers.

Really strange, and I don't like it, and it's really hard to shake sometimes.

Sometimes it's just easier not to talk at all than it is to risk saying something negative.

I feel like I am working against myself when I act like what I am describing. And I am even wary that by typing this it is somehow working against me.

And at the same time I feel like if I talk about the "yucky" feeling, sometimes that helps it go away.

Like "MAN! I am just feeling really crappy right now, and I have no idea why, I shouldn’t feel like this, but for some reason I do... I should stop!"

I know that that is almost a negative affirmation "I am just feeling really crappy right now." But sometimes I feel like that is unavoidable.

One other thing that has kind of helped is EFT.

I'm totally new to this, and it may be placebo, but it does seem to work a bit.

You can check it out here - Tapping.com - Tapping.com

Anyone have any other ideas for getting "un-Yucky!?"

Thanks!

[Angela]

How about the exercises at the back of the Hicks' book, Ask and It is Given.

I particularly like the "Rampage of Appreciation" game, which if I describe it to you it'll sound all pollyanna-ish, but in practice it really does make me feel better. I've imposed it on my innocent bystander friends who were in a bad mood and they report excellent results. There are other exercises in the book, too; maybe one would appeal to you?

Best wishes to you in your quest to chuck the yuck.

[VacMan]

Angela,

Thanks for the reply!

I'm familiar with Hick's work, but have never read her books.

If it's fairly easy to do so, could you explain the "game"?

Thanks!

[Angela]

Well, I'll have to paraphrase it, but best to actually read the book. Basically you start where you are. Focus on something in your view that you can be grateful for. any little or big thing or quality will do. Say to yourself or outloud a few reasons why you appreciate it. Then move to another thing or quality, and say a few reasons why you appreciate it. Repeat.

My friend V was having all kinds of troubles and had a hard time starting, but she chose the gray wall behind me and said she appreciated the gray color because it reminded her of her mom's hair, and it made her feel calm. She appreciated the glass of wine in front of her and found lots of reasons to appreciate that! Then she said she could appreciate the waitress because of how hard she had to work and managed to smile and make us feel welcome and well-wined. Next, she looked me in the eye, told me she appreciated me and was grateful to have a friend who loved her enough to care about having her feel better. We got pretty verklempt at that point. Ok, maybe part of it was the wine.

If you're open to feeling gratitude, joy can blossom inside even the most glum heart. I warned you, it sounds pollyanna-ish. In practice, it really can transform your mood.

Here are the names of the other "processes" or games in the book. Maybe one or more will light a fire under you if you take a look at the book.

The Magical Creation Box
The Creative Workshop
Virtual Reality
The Prosperity Game
The Process of Meditation
Evaluating Dreams
The Book of Positive Aspects
Scripting
The Place Mat Process
Segment Intending
Wouldn't It Be Nice If...?
Which Thought Feels Better?
The Process of Clearing Clutter for Clarity
The Wallet Process
Pivoting
The Focus Wheel Process
Finding the Feeling-Place
Releasing Resistance to Become Free of Debt
Turning It Over to the Manager
Reclaiming One's Natural State of Health
Moving Up the Emotional Scale

[JMan]

Also keep your B6/B12 Vitamin/Folic/Amino Acid levels up - most psychological conditions correlate with deficiencies in these areas, including depression, manic, bipolar, paranoia, etc.

[Lauxa]

I am a recovering depress-o-holic and I am trying hard not to let myself think "yucky" thoughts. I just replace them with un-yucky thoughts, the best one being "I am grateful". I liked Steve's article about gratitude and trying to move to a place where you are truly grateful for everything, not just the positive things. I have another thought I am substituting for "I am tired/sick/depressed/cranky" is "I am having a human experience". Just trying to embrace that this is all part of the human experience and to be grateful for just being here to experience these things. The other thing I catch my brain doing is telling me "This is hard, being positive all the time" which I then change to "It's very easy to think positive thoughts."

And I would not give up with the bank if I were you; you should talk to people higher up who have the authority/power to help you before you consider that money lost. That is, if it is worth it to you.