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[Jersey]

First let me say that I am grateful to have found this website. I kind of just stumbled upon it at just the right time when I think I needed it the most....which of course is the point.

At this time I am going through a rough patch in my personal life and have been doing a lot of reading on IM, LOA, energy, emotions, etc. I go through periods of highs and lows which I think is to be expected. But of course I know the lows are not good for my overall health, energy and just being positive in general and getting what I want. I can be cruising along feeling so confident that what I want will come to be, that everything is happening in the right order and time, etc. and then something will come along and through me off course so to speak. When I read this forum, or some other material, I tend to feel better....like I needed a reminder. But my question is...on the fly, what are some techniques that people use when that little voice inside starts up and tries to talk you into the negative side of everything. For example, if I'm in the car or at work (I'm a teacher) and all of a sudden a thought pops into my mind that doesn't align with the way I want my reality to be...how is the best way to handle that? I have tried a few different things...like picturing something everytime, or a phrase everytime. But then I remember...what we resist, persist. So by me actually picturing a stop sign when these thoughts come up might not be the best way. As usual, I overthink almost everything. I have sometimes even taken to talking to myself or what really is I guess talking to my ego. I have tried the grounding technique, but am not feeling it? Nor is this something I can do on the fly. I have started to try meditating every night before bed and a little in the morning but I need a quick hitter technique on the fly for times when I can't really take the time to sit down and read or meditate. Any suggestions?

[themaster]

I like this post.. better then your last one

Alright, sorry grounding isn't working for you.. I think if you keep trying it.. you will see it has a effect.. but there are also some more tools/ideas from my teacher that are also effective (least they work for me)

Essential Energy Tools

(these tools work in combination.. so getting good at all of them = good)

Alternatively.. there is channeled teachers which aren't big on methods more like there big on "permissions slips" to be yourself/allow etc.

This video here has quite a few of e'm.. have a watch and see if it resonates..

http://www.youtube.com/view_play_lis...aynext_from=PL

If you really want a super dose of change I would recommend my teachers 1st class. alchemy level 1.. (it's expensive $500) also we do have methods on the forum like NLP (no experience) and silva method and others.. you can also give those a shot..

I had even more suggestions for you to try.. but then they flew out of my head

Okay, I remember now.. learning the chakra's or even getting yourself a chakra teacher would be good.. or learning to breath would help you like yoga/chakra or just meditation

Here's a simple method too.. "ask for help" ask once a day.. and keep asking till everything feels better.. every time you ask.. help is sent

(you may not.. note a change.. you may not even know what was changed.. but every time you ask for help it's answered)

[Jersey]

Thanks...I just watched through part 5. There is some good stuff in there and as always, I feel more confident right now after watching it and jotting down some key points so I can review them when I am feeling "out of touch".

Let me get your opinion on something that was in there...because this keeps popping up for me. Its about the "creating your whole reality". What I am taking from this idea is that things in your life may be one way (which lets say you dont like how they are) but they are that way because thats your perception of them? We think...this situation is this way because of x, y and z. We think we know why something is happening or is the way it is and then we take this as "yes, this is reality". When in fact, a situation or event is happening but what we see or how we see it is not really so or may not be so? Im starting to confuse myself...its like we are misinterpreting an event. But we think we "know" so we take that as our reality.
And if something is happening, we can say...ok these are the events that are happening (because that is factual) BUT this is really why or how it is all going down (and just make the why and how, more in your favor).
Almost like pretending? I'm trying to think of a real life situation that would make my explanation clearer.

I might need to make this a new thread??

[themaster]

Originally Posted by Jersey

I might need to make this a new thread??

Naw, if you want.. I'll answer here though..

Jersey.. before we start into anything.. I get the feeling you've now created 4+ threads about one simple thing..

You still pining for that girl right?

that's what these threads all are.. aren't they..?

I want her.. and I want to fix this problem..?

I write to you inside my car at 9 p.m. in chicago in front of lake superior w/ a rain storm and 30-50 mph winds blowing.. (I just heard a tree crack in this park and watched the wind carrying along trash) I guess that's why they call it the windy city..

Dunno, why I share that with yah.. but there yah go!

Originally Posted by Jersey

Thanks...I just watched through part 5. There is some good stuff in there and as always, I feel more confident right now after watching it and jotting down some key points so I can review them when I am feeling "out of touch".

Yes, exactly that video will make you "feel good" has some very freeing points of view in it.. "permission slips"

1st off I'm going to say.. if you really want this girl.. can't allow yourself to be happy etc. until you get her.. then you my friend should rise up and get the "holodeck" in between the time you’re waiting.. (which could be forever) as the holodeck is a "permission slip" to create anything and everything!

Originally Posted by Jersey

Let me get your opinion on something that was in there...because this keeps popping up for me. Its about the "creating your whole reality". What I am taking from this idea is that things in your life may be one way (which lets say you dont like how they are) but they are that way because thats your perception of them? We think...this situation is this way because of x, y and z. We think we know why something is happening or is the way it is and then we take this as "yes, this is reality". When in fact, a situation or event is happening but what we see or how we see it is not really so or may not be so? Im starting to confuse myself...its like we are misinterpreting an event. But we think we "know" so we take that as our reality.
And if something is happening, we can say...ok these are the events that are happening (because that is factual) BUT this is really why or how it is all going down (and just make the why and how, more in your favor).
Almost like pretending? I'm trying to think of a real life situation that would make my explanation clearer.

Yes, indeed that real life situation would help..

Let's throughout some random facts here see if this helps, okay..?

Every one is a unique viewpoint of the creator.. "who you are" is who you are!

And you have inside you certain triggers that go off "towards excitement/love etc." in certain ways.. for example you may think "Sex in the City" or "Twilight" is the best movie ever! Everyone else around’s you hate it.. but you watched that movie and you saw things you loved and you felt things that you feel explained on the screen.. and it was a lovely experience.. you liked that movie.. okay?

So the idea is when those things went off.. that was part of your configuration or makeup.. When I first saw the matrix that is exactly some of the feelings that movie gave me.. (to throw out a real example)

So everyone is a unique aspect of the creator, a unique configuration of the one

And so 2 people can be sitting in the exact same theater.. exact same sporting event and have totally opposite reactions to what's presented and what's going on.. that's unique perspectives.. now here's a key thing to understand.. given enough time looking at anything.. anyone can learn to appreciate that which they don't like for example I didn't like "twilight" even though we know thousands of screaming girls do

And that's what I'm saying.. even if I can't see what there is to appreciate about "twilight" or "country music" or "square dancing" there is something there.. it can be found with a little exploration.. everything we do is beautiful.. it just takes coming around to the right perspective to see that

1 last tidbit.. if you haven't heard me say so.. we all create reality.. all of us.. there are interactions here that are somewhat *random* yes.. but since it's a designed reality even that can be argued as "not random"

But there are two ways to create reality consciously (and in power) and even when you know consciously what you’re doing (aka you believe in LOA and or use it) you can still create reality unconsciously as well.. and that's things you placed there or allowed to be placed there that create for you too..

[Jersey]

You can see right through me lol

I'm not going to say I'm not thinking about the girl....but I realize that "the girl" is the reason that has brought me to where I am right now. If it wasn't for the girl, I wouldn't be delving into all of this new information which is opening up a new way of seeing things for me. So my interactions and experiences with her have actually pointed me in a good direction (as painful as I think they are sometimes). What if I met her and she exited the relationship she is in and entered one with me? I certainly wouldn't be exploring all these resources right now! I wouldn't feel the need to...I would believe that I have everything I need/want and there would be no growth?!

Anyway....I have been trying to come up with an example not related to my situation and they are all pretty weak. But let's go with this one....you get a job at a new place. Obviously you make friends with some of the people there over time. You become close and friendly with person "A". You hang out, eat lunch all the time, etc. Then there is person "B" who you also work with but she seems a little standoffish towards you. You try to be nice to her but she is just all business with you even though you try to be friendly with her. So...your perception of this situation is: Person B is just not a friendly person, she doesn't like you, your feelings are hurt because she didn't even take the time to get to know you...how dare her? In turn, your feeling about this situation then creates a negative vibe when you two are together -- not nasty, just all business, like you can't be bothered with her now. So that creates the reality that she doesnt like you, you in turn say whatever and you begin to not like her.
BUT....we forgot about person A. What if...person A and person B have a history. They do not get along. And when you became friendly with person A, that turned off person B thus perpetuating the situation described above?
Maybe not the best example? And its funny that I used women in the example lol.
SO...your thoughts about person B created the scenerio or what you perceived as your reality. But what if you just sat with the feeling that Person B didn't like you but you wanted to change it by creating a different scenerio. You think, maybe she is having a rough time at home, maybe this and maybe that. Thats why she is the way she is...its not me really. Even though her interactions with you might say otherwise if you believe it to be something else, then you in turn can "live with the way it is" and still try and be friendly with her sometimes which then maybe puts out a better vibe and she starts to lighten up and you would break through? In essence, just saying to yourself...everything "appears" to be this way but I just don't believe it so I am going to live like it really "is" this way....

But one of the things that you mentioned was "designed" reality. It that saying that everything is predetermined, that things were meant to be a certain way? or are you "designing" them as we go?

Thanks again for listening!

[themaster]

Originally Posted by Jersey

You can see right through me lol

I'm not going to say I'm not thinking about the girl....but I realize that "the girl" is the reason that has brought me to where I am right now. If it wasn't for the girl, I wouldn't be delving into all of this new information which is opening up a new way of seeing things for me.

Exactly, I'm 110% with you.. good for you

Originally Posted by Jersey

What if I met her and she exited the relationship she is in and entered one with me? I certainly wouldn't be exploring all these resources right now! I wouldn't feel the need to...I would believe that I have everything I need/want and there would be no growth?!

That's absolutely true and not true..

You might also get the relationship and realize it's not what you wanted..

There is something to be appreciated and experienced in every situation.. every situation!

But sometimes what could be taken with a positive attitude is taken with a negative one.. and that's choice too.. because I'll tell you again "you get to choose how you feel"

Originally Posted by Jersey

Anyway....I have been trying to come up with an example not related to my situation and they are all pretty weak. But let's go with this one....you get a job at a new place. Obviously you make friends with some of the people there over time. You become close and friendly with person "A". You hang out, eat lunch all the time, etc. Then there is person "B" who you also work with but she seems a little standoffish towards you. You try to be nice to her but she is just all business with you even though you try to be friendly with her. So...your perception of this situation is: Person B is just not a friendly person, she doesn't like you, your feelings are hurt because she didn't even take the time to get to know you...how dare her? In turn, your feeling about this situation then creates a negative vibe when you two are together -- not nasty, just all business, like you can't be bothered with her now. So that creates the reality that she doesnt like you, you in turn say whatever and you begin to not like her.
BUT....we forgot about person A. What if...person A and person B have a history. They do not get along. And when you became friendly with person A, that turned off person B thus perpetuating the situation described above?
Maybe not the best example? And its funny that I used women in the example lol.
SO...your thoughts about person B created the scenerio or what you perceived as your reality. But what if you just sat with the feeling that Person B didn't like you but you wanted to change it by creating a different scenerio. You think, maybe she is having a rough time at home, maybe this and maybe that. Thats why she is the way she is...its not me really. Even though her interactions with you might say otherwise if you believe it to be something else, then you in turn can "live with the way it is" and still try and be friendly with her sometimes which then maybe puts out a better vibe and she starts to lighten up and you would break through? In essence, just saying to yourself...everything "appears" to be this way but I just don't believe it so I am going to live like it really "is" this way....

I can't make heads or tails of this.. maybe your confusing the issue.. or maybe your just making these 2 paragraphs way too long and not simplifying the issue

Originally Posted by Jersey

But one of the things that you mentioned was "designed" reality. It that saying that everything is predetermined, that things were meant to be a certain way? or are you "designing" them as we go?

Yes, we are designing them as we go.. certain things we experience we don't even ask for here.. they were actually agreed to before we came here.. so the oversoul can throw a "safety experience" into your awareness.. but the inner self actually translates this experience into your reality.. so it could just be being "trained" to safely lift things.. or it could be be robbed at knife point.. your inner self chooses for you and your reality

You do have power to change your reality.. and you do have power to win this girl over.. and from my perspective I see many options for you.. maybe albeit good ones (to you) but I do see many options..

The crux of your real problem though.. I think is the detachment part..

If this thing is really bothering (and the elusive) holodeck is no answer.. then I suggest you seek out a "channel" for answers or my teachers "mastering alchemy level1" for happiness.. either or..

You can for example have her boyfriend.. disappear.. die.. you can even do that yourself without the LOA (here I mean action )

But according to hollywood if you do that.. you will have all these feelings of guilt etc. and your relationship is doomed to failure.. but that's according to hollywood.. it doesn't make it so

I think the secret to getting someone to love you (and maybe she does already) is to love yourself and complete yourself..

One of the reasons why I us males etc. are drawn to females etc. is because they have a part of our energy.. this reality was designed in part to be a split of our selves between the feminine and the masculine.. turns out if you rise up to 4th dimension etc. you may bring this into balance.. and if you hit 5d we just don't adopt those roles anymore is my understanding

I think you should explore all options in your scenario.. what you are seeking is a "permission slip" to have her and be guilt free almost (guilt free part is easy if you can drop the judgment system.. which is a wrong and right way to be.. there is no such thing! )

The permission slip lecture below the first 3 minutes I translated.. if you like to listen to it.. it's over 30 minutes be glad to share it with yah

Here's what I know Jersey, okay?

According to bashar.. there's a reality right now where another you.. that is you! (in a way) has this girl.. and there's a fundamental way to shift reality to bring these things to you quite easily.. but how you do that..? I can't tell you.. I use the "permission slips" that work for me.. you'll have to find "permission slips" that work for you..

If you are dedicated to this task.. and you will try anything.. you will succeed I can guarantee you that!

But I want to remind you of something.. this girl is you! And you are her! You are not separate.. these rules/limitations that we make here in 3d.. "one guy to one girl" "I need her" "she completes me.. otherwise I'm in a sea of lost"

Don't exist and aren't necessary.. were all the same being.. and you are just seeking yourself.. when seekin her!

[Jersey]

Yesterday was a breaking point day for me...I spent the whole day just cruising around this site, the videos, a little reading, etc. And admitting to myself that I can't go on like this because who the heck would want to be with me....? I was so down, giving off such bad energy.
So the light bulb went on so to speak and the whole "change your reality" thing really clicked for me.

I changed my perception of the situation and that is what is giving me the detachment. In my reality...your right...we will be together when the time is right. I gave myself the permission slips I needed as to why being together right now wouldn't be the best idea. When she comes to me she needs to be 100% ready also. Then I was listening to Steves audio on reality and feeling better than I had in a long time and....she called me in the middle of it. It was like everything was saying...."yup you finally got it".

So I got up today with a great attitude and we talked today a little but I was different.....I wasn't so down about not being with her. I could just feel better energy coming from me. Its almost like I adopted a "whatever" attitude, because I know she will come to me when the time is right.

I mean yesterday afternoon it was like I discovered a million dollars, the feeling of freedom I got. Today I am not as high up as I was, but I'm still feeling good about it. And I know there will be times when I may fall a bit.
I just need to get some "quick hitters" in my arsenal. Something that I can think of when a thought pops in my head of her spending time with her current significant other. Because of course I dont want to perpetuate any of those thoughts! So sometimes when one of those thoughts pops up, I switch it to a visual image of her and I together instead!

[themaster]

Yah, know I had a really dumb thought the other day which is funny too but..

"Masterbation is just sex with the self, right"

"So is sex with other people?"

We are all made out of the same energy.. whether you're using your hand, a vibrator or another person.. it's still sex with self!

Ironic isn't it that we make such a big deal when it's not another person..

That's about the same big deal/difference we make when we have the universe manifest us up a "quarter" when we could have asked for a "steel building" or "million dollars" instead.. it's all the same energy..

Anyway.. have a read of this maybe it'll cheer you up.. and I'm going to PM you one of my teachers Bashar's "permission slips"

Twin Flames

[Jersey]

Yeah I hear you, but I have to admit...."its" more fun when you have company!

Thanks for the resources, I'm going to check them out right now!

[Jersey]

I forgot to ask you....

what is a holodeck?

[themaster]

I've been thinking of updating it (so I did)

Holodeck

But more to the point I should carry it in my profile.. but I prefer to help people.. I'm not sure such a crazy concept.. would necessarily help them.. newbie steps people please!

[sundance]

Thank you very much for the Turning In video link, the master! Beautiful thread and beautiful video!