11weeks pregnant

[lori82]

So I'm 11wks pregnant and the father and I broke up over a week ago and I haven't heard from him once. I spent the majority of the past wk trying to create the reality of us being back together and happy again but the more time that goes by with no word from him the angrier I get that he hasn't even called. I don't even know what to try to create and manifest anymore because I'm so hurt. Any wisdom from the wiser on all this manifesting would be greatly appreciated! I thought I was doing everything correctly but no signs of anything happening.

[spirit4711]

I'm no expert on IM but how about calling him?

Much more important: what do you really want, with or without him?

[rei]

Actually, spirit's suggestion would be perfect for the action piece of I-M. If you're trying to manifest this situation it may not be enough to just visualize it, it may also take some action on your part. Calling this guy would be a simple way to take action. I wish you the best in working this out

[lori82]

I don't know. His family was so angered when they found out we were pregnant that his dad fired him from the family company and they own his house so they told him he had to move out...the last conversation was a bad one between me and his mom where she promise to leave me alone if I stayed away from her son and at that time I was so sick of dealing with it all I said ok he would never hear from me again. I was so angry that we are adults...28 yrs old and yet he let others have so much control. I just don't feel me calling him would do anything at this time but hurt me more.

[rei]

It sounds like you may not even be sure this is what you want. And that hesitation is also part of what you communicate to the universe.

You may need to figure out what it is that you really want. As it is now, it seems like the universe is getting some mixed messages about this.

[spirit4711]

Originally Posted by lori82

I was so angry that we are adults...28 yrs old and yet he let others have so much control.

By letting him decide when to call you, you let him have control over you.

I just don't feel me calling him would do anything at this time but hurt me more.

How much time needs to pass until the hurt of him not calling you is bigger than the hurt of you calling him?

[Nemosyne]

If you're going to keep this baby, then you have some tough realizations to make. I don't believe LOA works for the unwilling, and I don't believe that even if it does, that it's in the best interest of you (or anyone) to force LOA. Instead, manifest a stress-free, loving life, safe for you and your child, filled with a good man who adores you, money coming in to take care of you, and the help that you'll need to stay on your feet. Maybe he left you because there's a man better suited, and much more interested in being a loving dad to your child, and a loving mate to you. I would trust in God or the higher power you believe in - and let this drama go.

Good luck!

[rei]

If he doesn't call at all, will you be okay with that? Or will that bother you? And will that bother you more than being the one who calls him?

[lori82]

You are both very right. Maybe I will take time to decide if its what I even want for sure and if it is I will suck up the ego and call him! I guess I just wanted a quick fix to this before I had to tell my family and friends that I'm pregnant...bc I have told noone. Thanks for the advice! Its all greatly appreciated.

[lori82]

Nemosyne: I have realized that maybe all of this is for best. I know I love him but that family isn't ideal for me at all atleast with the stress. I have older children from my marriage that are in school at a private school and I come from a religious family and environment. I guess I mainly worry what everyone will say when I'm pregnant and there is no father I know I just have to let this go for my peace and whatever happens is for best its just hard to do feeling alone.

[Nemosyne]

You're not alone Lori. Angels watch over you.

[aggie]

i agree that you have to decide what you really want.

i once manifested someone to come back into my life and i was successful...but because i had mixed emotions on whether he was good for me or not....the mixed messages made it a real yo yo situation....brought him to me, pushed him away, back, away...

ultimately i realized you do have to be careful what you wish for. what i did to myself was devasting on a lot of levels.

i agree you are not alone....and manifesting the love and support of your family and friends for you and your child's well being, if you decide there is no future with you and the father, is the thing to concentrate on.

i would not ignore any legal/financial responsibilities, however, that may need to be addressed, and would concentrate on those things going well, also.

my very best to you.

[butterflyeffect]

It sounds like what you really need right now is a hug. Not a virtual hug but a real hug.

I sense that its really distressing situation, your probably feeling really alone and scared. The thing is it may be easier to tell a stranger, go get a massage and let the tension be worked out. Talk to a compassionate person and tell them whats happened. I have found secrets feel more managable and less scary when you share them.

This baby is coming and its going to be tricky for a while as you work out what path you want to take. Yes, some people may question why you are having a baby outside of marriage but there will also be people willing to support you if you let them. Focus on the people who are willing to help you and let the others go with love. Its not that they are horrible people they are just limited by their beliefs and perceptions. Don't let the limitations of a few people harm you and your baby.

You have all the tools inside of you that you need to succeed. Your ex-partner and his family are not needed. Within you have the strength and the courage and we are all here to help you. Besides, do you really want to deal with your partners controlling family and childish habbits for another 20 years? Maybe the universe is doing you a favour, its just testing your courage first. : )

Lots of Love

[jaideepv1234]

Hi lori82,

I would suggest that, killing child in the womb is very bad...so whatever u want to manifest is ok...but don't think to kill the baby...sorry ..I have interfering in ur personal matter but I just said what I felt.

Just try to manifest that u and him are again coming back together...think completely in ur head that why this thing happened, identify that and remove that in ur manifestation.....

Thanks...

[supertom]

I feel like you need to assert to his family that you ARE pregnant, and that his is the father and if he isn't there you will have to raise the baby by yourself. They can go into denial as much a they want but thats the truth. I'm not sure if anything is gonna come from that at least you'll will have asserted it.

If all else fails warn them that when ever he gets married you'll come forward(maybe a bit too far but i would).

Best of luck

[lori82]

I tried to make contact yesterday through a text and all I got in return from him was "I'm going to fight you for full custody". Why isn't my intentions and manifesting working?? I feel like everything is falling apart more no matter how hard I try to think positive.

[Weena]

Originally Posted by lori82

I tried to make contact yesterday through a text and all I got in return from him was "I'm going to fight you for full custody". Why isn't my intentions and manifesting working?? I feel like everything is falling apart more no matter how hard I try to think positive.

Are you serious? Can his breasts produce milk? Your baby needs you more than him I'm afraid, at this stage anyway. My prayers are with you for the baby custody. Also, I don't know which religion you are from or what are your beliefs, but i recommend you pray archangel Michael who is the angel of justice to be by your side to give you strength and protection.
If you are meant to be with this man, i also wish you all the best to get back together. The family doesn't sound great though... imagine what it'd be like to raise a child with him if he lets the control freaks get in the way 24/7... I hope you work this out in the most loving way possible.

[Jartis]

As long as you have this ego and pain body/negative emotions and great worry/anger feelings your manifestation abilities will be more weak, because you are judging and through it you dont give to your intentions space to manifest - its like blocking some possibilities. And when people are in ego/pain body/negative emotions mode - if they are not just in observer mode - their manifestations abilities reduce cause they are being identified with their body or situation or personality. And the further goes your point of identity like body/personality - spirit - world - noting, the more power you have - just because you are stop lying to yourself about who you really are, and what you are capable of.


If i were you i would take some reiki session or start meditating and doing detachment exercises to step the level above your situation and current identity.

Reiki are good in the way that they can clean up your emotions and then you will have power over situation. Meditation and detachment exercises will do even more.

If you want, i can pm you the best detachment exercise i know (i took in from my yoga practice)

Love, Jartis

[lori82]

Jartis thatd be great please do!

[Jartis]

Send PM to you.

[lori82]

Thank you

[kgiuliani]

I get the feeling that his answer was coming from his family - maybe not so much from him.

Can you text him and ask him to come over to talk about things?

Try doing the violet flame exercise before texting him

Improving Relationships violet flame exercise

I do this exercise everytime I have an issue with my boyfriend (and even with my ex when he was threatening to go for custody of our son) and it works.

Good luck!

[MacFly]

Originally Posted by lori82

So I'm 11wks pregnant and the father and I broke up over a week ago and I haven't heard from him once. I spent the majority of the past wk trying to create the reality of us being back together and happy again but the more time that goes by with no word from him the angrier I get that he hasn't even called. I don't even know what to try to create and manifest anymore because I'm so hurt. Any wisdom from the wiser on all this manifesting would be greatly appreciated! I thought I was doing everything correctly but no signs of anything happening.

you're about to live the most beautiful experience a human can ever have in his lifetime : to have a child. love that guy who is in you, and give her/him your fullest attention. it's the best thing on Earth.

forget about manifesting, and forget about the father. feel this great beauty fully and find the peace underlying the situation.

as far as the fact that you're hurt. hold the feeling, feel it fully, accept it. be present. give yourself a few minutes and stop your mind. forget about the "problem". you'll feel peace, and that peace will take care of you if you let it.

wish all the best!

[rawxstasy]

I really feel for what you are going through and I know that you are scared. Keep praying for your ex, even pray for his family. Try Hooponopono. I had to leave Indonesia and my four children behind. My husband at the time was going to have me put into prison over there. I escaped and I thought I'd never see my children again. But now two of my children are here with me in the U.S. and I am very close to all my children. My ex and I actually get along now.

I know everything will work out for you.

[lori82]

Thank you all for your words of encouragement and advice! I am taking them all and trying them bc this is well worth the fight for my happiness and my childs