Rockchick thread and.. "nothing works for me"!

[Acting Like Godot]

Now here is a second example.

Rockchick is very interested in being a writer (or so she says). In this thread, she has mentioned poetry; music blogs; short stories; how-to articles; and if you check her posts from July 2009, she expressed the goal of writing a novel.

However, she has also made repeated remarks about how she lost motivation to write; it just didn't feel good any more. So she followed her feelings and she quit.

Again, if she, being an unwise person, applies Abraham's advice, then this would supposedly be the right thing to do.

But if she were a wiser person, she would know that very often, this is how it works -

the starting phase is difficult. Once you get past that, it will become very enjoyable. In the writing context, facing the blank page and trying to get the first one, two or three hundred words out is painful, but once you get past that, the tendency is just to flow and flow.

Same principle applies to many other activities. Such as exercise; or practising your piano; giving a public speech; or even tidying up your house. The initial thought may not bring positive feelings; it may even bring negative feelings; and the initial act may be difficult. But the wise person knows that the activity is worthwhile, and he also knows that once you push past that initial difficult stage, things start to flow and flow.

[Tanja]

I've come across this quote today and it made me think of this thread:

''At one point in your life you either have the things you want or the reasons why you don’t'' A.R.

Sums things up pretty well. So, Rockchick, what's it gonna be?

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by Indiana

He brought up those things because he knew you would be able to see they are foolish behaviours. It's obvious to you.

But to some people, they're not obviously foolish behaviours. They seem fine. Even good. If you told them they had to change their beliefs and behaviours, they might be quite resistant to that idea.

Yes I get all that but I was just confused because everything else in his post WAS true for me and to throw those things in there, well that threw me off because it didn't fit with the rest of the stuff. I get it now.

In the same way, you're so entrenched in a lot of negative ideas, that you simply can't see that they're behaviours that are hurting you. You say, "Not going out of my way to talk to someone is a personality flaw, not a behaviour I can change!" in the same way an alcoholic might say, "My need for alcohol is a disease of my body chemistry, not a behaviour I can change!"

What I said was, it's a personality flaw not a lack of wisdom, I didn't say it was a behavior I can't change. I understand now that I CAN change, it's just going to be a ♥♥♥♥♥ to do and if I can find a way around it, I will.

But I don't think anything I do is so negative it is hurting me, except maybe how often I sit on the internet, but it doesn't interfere with any other parts of my life so I'm still on the "safe" side. Even reading books is helpful, and I said I would quit reading after I get all these ones read, because I paid for them and I'm not going to just leave them sit when they have information that can help me get through the next phase of changing my life.

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot

Now here is a second example.

Rockchick is very interested in being a writer (or so she says). In this thread, she has mentioned poetry; music blogs; short stories; how-to articles; and if you check her posts from July 2009, she expressed the goal of writing a novel.

However, she has also made repeated remarks about how she lost motivation to write; it just didn't feel good any more. So she followed her feelings and she quit.

Again, if she, being an unwise person, applies Abraham's advice, then this would supposedly be the right thing to do.

But if she were a wiser person, she would know that very often, this is how it works -

the starting phase is difficult. Once you get past that, it will become very enjoyable. In the writing context, facing the blank page and trying to get the first one, two or three hundred words out is painful, but once you get past that, the tendency is just to flow and flow.

Same principle applies to many other activities. Such as exercise; or practising your piano; giving a public speech; or even tidying up your house. The initial thought may not bring positive feelings; it may even bring negative feelings; and the initial act may be difficult. But the wise person knows that the activity is worthwhile, and he also knows that once you push past that initial difficult stage, things start to flow and flow.

Yeah, I get that. But when I said I quit writing, that doesn't mean I quit ALL writing forever, I just quit my music blog and my website. I still write poetry. I still write in my diary. I still write fanfics. I even write my spells for Wicca (which are basically poems set to an intention). I've also been doing my "morning pages" for the last 4 days, and I really enjoy that and want to keep doing it. I know now that the reason my sites felt wrong was because I am not into writing informatively. I like writing creatively. I'm kinda glad I didn't start my food website because I'm sure that would have ended the same way. Unless I can figure out a way to write with a twist and make it interesting rather than just stating facts. I really have this need to stand out, it'll increase my chances of getting a following and earning money, and it just makes sense that someone would want to do the same thing everyone else is doing but to do it differently.

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by Tanja

I've come across this quote today and it made me think of this thread:

''At one point in your life you either have the things you want or the reasons why you don’t'' A.R.

Sums things up pretty well. So, Rockchick, what's it gonna be?

Wow, that's pretty cool, i'm gonna save that in my Inspirational Sayings folder!

Well I'm going to TRY to have the things I want, of course. Oh I know, there is no try, only do, so, I'm going to do (my best) to have the things I want.

It's kinda cool that Wayne Dyer's The Power of Intention was on earlier, I spent about 3 hours watching that, and kinda listening as I was sorting through my cd's and movies for the garage sale (I'm all done with that ALG, you can change my daily progress report now! )

Anyway, Wayne is awesome, and everything he said was like he was talking to me. I wonder if I should chalk that up as a syncronicity?

I am really going to start trying to think more positively, because I want to bring what I want to me, not keep repelling it away.

Thanks EVERYONE for doing your best to help me!

[Tasha]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

That's why I'm trying to figure out why I barely have enough money because back when I had my job, I had the mindset that I would always have enough.

And you do have enough. Barely, as you said, but it's enough. That’s okay though. I wouldn’t ruminate about the past from here on out. Just look forward now.

Well it isn't something I can control, when I am stressed out, I feel like it's happening TO me, not that I'm making it happen.

Yes, I know you feel this way. But you can control it. I know you don’t feel that you can, but you can. If you suspend disbelief and just embrace that possibility, does that feel a little bit better, even if you don’t know how to do it? (I hope?) You’re not an alien, Rockchick! If some of us can do it, it’s possible for you, too.

Well what if it was a situation where it wasn't clear you were going to die, like where there was a chance you could survive...would you worry then?

I don't know...worry about what, exactly? My adrenaline would probably kick in and I’d be too focused on surviving to really “worry”.

I suppose you wouldn't, I should just give up this because nobody understands the meaning of worrying in here, apparently!

I think the difference is that we recognize that worrying is wasted energy. There is a difference between recognizing a problem and trying to solve it versus worrying about it. Worry overwhelms you with fear; most of your energy is directed toward what you don’t want to happen when you worry. But it is possible to solve a problem while directing minimal energy toward the undesired possibility. And, yes I do still worry, but much less than I used to, and I often notice when I am doing it and I change my thoughts, even if I don’t see a solution yet. Often I’ll take several deep breaths, and start telling myself that everything is ok, that I am safe and protected and supported by the universe, and usually within a day or two a possible solution presents itself.

[Tanja]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

Well I'm going to TRY to have the things I want, of course. Oh I know, there is no try, only do, so, I'm going to do (my best) to have the things I want.

I am really going to start trying to think more positively, because I want to bring what I want to me

Heh, it's funny how I keep coming across things that remind me of this thread.

''What you want is irrelevant, what you have chosen is at hand.''

And this one speaks to me too. it's all about the choice. What you choose to do in every moment, today. As ALG has laready said the starting phase is difficult.....
And don't try to think positively...choose to do it! It may not happen automatically right away, but when you catch yourself thinking 'old'' thoughts, interrupt them and focus on something else, more positive no matter how small it may seem.

[Tasha]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

Anyway, Wayne is awesome, and everything he said was like he was talking to me. I wonder if I should chalk that up as a syncronicity?

Yes yes yes definitely! Doesn't that feel good? Revel in it! You're on the right track.

I am really going to start trying to think more positively, because I want to bring what I want to me, not keep repelling it away.

I'm so happy to hear this! Soon you'll be noticing all kinds of reasons to feel good, which will lead to positive changes for you. I think you're really making progress. Somehow I don't think you're going back to the "old" you, ever, not that she was bad; you've just outgrown being that person.

[wolfgang]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

Yes I can see the slight vibe change in those statements but the result remains the same; I still couldn't pay all my bills and I'm still broke now!

This is a perfect example of why I don't see how it matters how I say things because it doesn't change facts.

Facts are not negative in themselves. Facts are relative.

To rise above life situations does require seeing exactly what the facts are but also to not complain about it to no end.

Reminds me of p.o.w. stories where they are in a really sucky place, duh - but then somehow they are able to not complain and to not add to their misery while being tortured.

They find inner peace and don't even feel like a victim anymore. It's fascinating. Some will even totally forgive the captors because to not forgive them would be to stay at war with them and still be influenced by them.

I think that's what the vibe is - to be able to not add to what is in such a way to make matters worse. Then you are free and if new things are possible it's easier to get there.

[wolfgang]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

Well not exactly, I know my thoughts are powerful, I am not denying that. I just said that whenever I make something negative sound positive, I feel like I'm candy coating it to avoid dealing with it. Like, "Oh, I don't have enough money but who cares, i'm just going to focus on the positive, I am alive!" and then because of that you miss the rent and you get kicked out of your apartment.

THAT'S what it feels like will happen if I change everything to positive. Like I'm just turning a blind eye to my problems. Or like "Oh, so what if my left arm just went numb, at least my other one didn't!" then 2 days later you die of a stroke.

That's why I look at negative facts as what they are, because they are something that needs your attention or it will get worse.

You are right - you must listen to what doesn't feel right, but also you must do something about the reactions to something appearing as negative.

If not having money is a total freak out - that is a reaction that adds stress and keeps one less able to do something about it.

If not having money is seen just as a realistic fact - without attaching emotional meaning, then there will be less stress and more ability to cope and see ways that it changes. This still involves caring about it, btw.

But if one sees something as negative and just goes totally with reactions, making it catastrophic, the logical brain shuts down and they loose ability to choose, or it even makes it so they won't even see choices.

[wolfgang]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

Well I would prefer to use my thoughts rather than action, as I've said a few times here, because it requires less struggle, less effort. It's still hard though, I feel like my mind is hindering me in many ways so it's hard to USE my mind to fix my mind! The but mind is also necessary to create action, so I guess either way I have to figure out how to fix my mind!

thought or action is not too much something to have to decide what to pick, imo.

It's about where one focuses their "energy" or attention.

Like if you want to be a writer - how much energy is put in that direction throughout a regular day? If there's a 10 minute period of imaging such a thing, but the rest of the day there's no energy put into that goal, that will probably not manifest a writer.

It would be thought and/or action as needed for the goal. There's no way one could become a writer just thinking. Nor by just writing (taking action). It would have to be a blend.

Thought or action are just forms of "energy".

imo.

[wolfgang]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

So I don't believe that everything is based on our perception, some things are just plain facts.

Facts are just facts. But there are reactions to the facts as well (perception).

[wolfgang]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

Well that's why I'm here trying to learn because so far I haven't found an acceptable answer. If I always thought, "I have plenty of money, I'm gonna splurge on something fun" well then what ends up happening is since I didn't focus on the money issue, I couldn't make rent and then I'd get kicked out. Worrying about money is a survival tool for people who live check to check. It's necessary to catch yourself from getting too far beyond help.

Worrying about money is a reaction to a fact. The fact does need to be addressed but maybe not with worry. And I would say using "I have plenty of money and can splurge", to try to be positive about money is not how it would work. I would imagine it's more about not money itself. It's about feeling like there is always something inside that is fulfilling. regardless of having money or not. If one can focus on inner fulfillment, the outside world of needing money is not an issue. All that one needs is given. Still it doesn't mean, if you have no money that you would let it continue that way. You would still be involved with things that would help increase abundance (which would include money as a side effect).

[wolfgang]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

It is clear, yes, just slant everything towards the positive. It sounds so simple, really. What happens though if I keep thinking "I've paid some of my bills, yay! Now i'm gonna go out and buy a cd to treat myself for thinking positively, since I DO have enough money!" but in reality I don't have enough money and then I bounce a check and can't pay rent, etc. etc.

do you really think like this? do you actually think that being positive about money means you can over spend?

Where do you draw the line? I mean, I don't want to go through life dancing around the bad things then having them bite me in the ass because I didn't take care of them.

being positive doesn't mean ignoring and being over extended in some way. that would be irresponsibility.

[wolfgang]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

But how is it my thoughts causing it, when I don't have the thoughts UNTIL I'm in that stressful situation?

that's called being reactive.

I don't sit around in my apartment stressing myself out over something that isn't happening. I'm always relaxed until I'm in a situation that causes stress. Would you be stressed out if you found yourself falling out of an airplane into shark-infested waters?

if I was continuely doing something like this, having reactions to life's situations - then I would be more set up to have the situations of that nature in my life.

Or would you say that your worrying caused you to fall out of the plane into the mouth of a shark? If you say the 2nd one, that is just too wacked out for me to beleive!

The previous countless times of adding stress to life can cause more situations to show up that temp one into continuing to react in stressful ways.

[moonrambler]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

Well I have self esteem NOW, I don't think I am ugly, in fact I think I'm pretty cute most of the time...I also think I have a lot to offer a guy, and I think better of myself than to get drunk and hang on drunk guys.

Excellent to hear. I bet you are pretty cute Really, what difference does it make what was going on back in high school. That was 20 years ago!

[wolfgang]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

Wow, I wish I was like you, no matter what happens in your life, you will make yourself enjoy it!

Even if you were kidnapped and tortured? I find it hard to believe you couldn't feel bad during THAT experience.

On memorial day, I heard a Bod Edwards(?) npr interview of Porter Halyburton - a POW in Vietnam. It was amazing how he described getting to the point of peace in the midst of being tortured. And how he totally forgave them when he was released saying that was the only way to get out of the prison mentally.

[wolfgang]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

I still write poetry. I still write in my diary. I still write fanfics. I even write my spells for Wicca (which are basically poems set to an intention). I've also been doing my "morning pages" for the last 4 days, and I really enjoy that and want to keep doing it.

cool!

[Indiana]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

Yeah, I get that. But when I said I quit writing, that doesn't mean I quit ALL writing forever, I just quit my music blog and my website. I still write poetry. I still write in my diary. I still write fanfics. I even write my spells for Wicca (which are basically poems set to an intention). I've also been doing my "morning pages" for the last 4 days, and I really enjoy that and want to keep doing it. I know now that the reason my sites felt wrong was because I am not into writing informatively. I like writing creatively. I'm kinda glad I didn't start my food website because I'm sure that would have ended the same way. Unless I can figure out a way to write with a twist and make it interesting rather than just stating facts. I really have this need to stand out, it'll increase my chances of getting a following and earning money, and it just makes sense that someone would want to do the same thing everyone else is doing but to do it differently.

Leaving aside the fact that there is a massive world of possibility for creativity in writing when you blog or even write for magazines/newspapers etc – it's not 'just stating facts' (as in straight news reporting), all the best journalists/bloggers have a recognisably unique voice – why don't you work on getting your poems published or compiling your fanfics or short stories into a publishable compendium?

I seem to recall I offered you a lot of direct advice for helping make your fiction work publishable, and even offered to help you work a story up to publishable standard, but you couldn't be bothered. Why not?

[ssandra]

Originally Posted by ssandra

You choose to actively create your life!
You choose to use your thoughts to create your life!
What you think becomes reality
You have mainly negative (although realistic) thoughts at the moment
The reality at the moment is negative, which reflects in your thoughts.
Your thoughts at the moment are negative, which reflects in your reality

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

I would say this is pretty accurate, yeah.

Ok.

The above still is true today? (sometimes we change our minds over night. That happens. Let me know if any of the above doesn't ring true anymore for you).

Now... one of the key questions. What do you want your reality to be?
I am going to write down some words, you can choose from those words or add some of your own. Pick as many or as little as you want.

Worrying, positive, happy, negative, suffering, difficult, easy, effortless, normal, special, entertaining, average, fascinating, sensual, boring, mediocre, odd, interesting, dull, stimulating, dreary, tiresome, uninteresting, tedious, destructive, bad

Don't worry about what the words mean, just list those that you WANT your reality to be.

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by Tasha

I don't know...worry about what, exactly? My adrenaline would probably kick in and I’d be too focused on surviving to really “worry”.

Well in the case of a situation where you are in danger, I'd worry about if I was going to die, if it was going to hurt, if I'd ever see my family and friends again, etc. I can't believe nobody else would freak out if they were in danger! Isn't it a natural response, you're in danger so you freak out?

I think the difference is that we recognize that worrying is wasted energy. There is a difference between recognizing a problem and trying to solve it versus worrying about it. Worry overwhelms you with fear; most of your energy is directed toward what you don’t want to happen when you worry. But it is possible to solve a problem while directing minimal energy toward the undesired possibility. And, yes I do still worry, but much less than I used to, and I often notice when I am doing it and I change my thoughts, even if I don’t see a solution yet. Often I’ll take several deep breaths, and start telling myself that everything is ok, that I am safe and protected and supported by the universe, and usually within a day or two a possible solution presents itself.

Oh, see to me they're the same thing, worrying and trying to fix a problem. The worry shows you that there is a problem, so you can become aware of how to fix it.

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by wolfgang

Facts are not negative in themselves. Facts are relative.

I try to believe this, but then when I think, ok, how can I see my empty bank account as a positive thing...and I really can't think of anything good about it. Unless I totally bypass that entirely and just say stuff like "I'm healthy, I'm alive, my family is alive and healthy" but then I feel like I still haven't solved my problem!

To rise above life situations does require seeing exactly what the facts are but also to not complain about it to no end.

To me, "complaining" isn't just incessant whining, it's venting about what is bothering you, so that you can find a way to fix it.

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by wolfgang

thought or action is not too much something to have to decide what to pick, imo.

It's about where one focuses their "energy" or attention.

Like if you want to be a writer - how much energy is put in that direction throughout a regular day? If there's a 10 minute period of imaging such a thing, but the rest of the day there's no energy put into that goal, that will probably not manifest a writer.

It would be thought and/or action as needed for the goal. There's no way one could become a writer just thinking. Nor by just writing (taking action). It would have to be a blend.

Thought or action are just forms of "energy".

imo.

Yeah, I understand that. Who, though, really, has enough time in their day to devote most of their attention to anything other than surviving? Meaning, whatever job you currently have, taking care of the kids, preparing dinner, cleaning the house, and sleeping. There really isn't a whole lot of room left for anything else. It seems to me, in order to make anything happen, you have to be able to devote at least 51% of your day to it.

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by wolfgang

Worrying about money is a reaction to a fact. The fact does need to be addressed but maybe not with worry.

Well I wasn't even aware that there was a way you could think about a problem without worrying about it. To me, thinking about how to fix a problem IS worrying. Maybe I just need to stop using that word?

It's about feeling like there is always something inside that is fulfilling. regardless of having money or not. If one can focus on inner fulfillment, the outside world of needing money is not an issue. All that one needs is given.

I gotta disagree about this. For one, how is inner fullfillment going to pay the bills? No matter how spiritually evolved you are, you still have house payments or rent and have to eat.

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by wolfgang

do you really think like this? do you actually think that being positive about money means you can over spend?

No I don't think like this, this is the opposite of how I think...but if you guys are all saying i'm thinking about it the wrong way, that's the only other way I know how to think about it!

being positive doesn't mean ignoring and being over extended in some way. that would be irresponsibility.

Well they say to act like you already have what you want. So, in order to act like you already have money, you would spend it. But if you really don't have any, and you spend what you don't have, you're in debt!

I am failing to see where the middle ground is here.

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by wolfgang

that's called being reactive.
if I was continuely doing something like this, having reactions to life's situations - then I would be more set up to have the situations of that nature in my life.

The previous countless times of adding stress to life can cause more situations to show up that temp one into continuing to react in stressful ways.

Wait, are you saying that the more stressful situations you are in, the more stressed out you get each time? So a person who has never been stressed would be faced with a huge danger and not worry, but someone who is used to worrying will worry then?

This sounds so backwards to me! I can't see how anyone wouldn't worry in any situation that is dangerous or scary.

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by moonrambler

Excellent to hear. I bet you are pretty cute Really, what difference does it make what was going on back in high school. That was 20 years ago!

It doesn't make a difference now, no. I was just explaining why I've only had one real boyfriend, because

-in high school, guys thought I was ugly
-I waited around for 15 years for my best friend to ask me out
-For the last 3 or 4 years I haven't gone out much because of lack of money (I was low on money towards the end of my job too because we were getting sent home a lot because work was slow).

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by Indiana

Leaving aside the fact that there is a massive world of possibility for creativity in writing when you blog or even write for magazines/newspapers etc – it's not 'just stating facts' (as in straight news reporting), all the best journalists/bloggers have a recognisably unique voice – why don't you work on getting your poems published or compiling your fanfics or short stories into a publishable compendium?

This kind of work seems like it would take a lot of time, and yes I know I have a lot of time now, but I feel like I have to focus on getting a job first, and planning my future. I don't want to stop and do some side project that won't even earn me money NOW, until I can relax and focus on it better.

I seem to recall I offered you a lot of direct advice for helping make your fiction work publishable, and even offered to help you work a story up to publishable standard, but you couldn't be bothered. Why not?

I don't exactly remember, I remember a few people helping me but now I'm getting that confused with this writing course I took online. Either way, I got sidetracked with my problems and I can't relax and focus on writing when I have bigger things to deal with.

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by ssandra

Ok.

The above still is true today? (sometimes we change our minds over night. That happens. Let me know if any of the above doesn't ring true anymore for you).

Yep, all still true! I even woke up in a good mood today, of course it helps that I don't have to work tonight, but I have been in a good mood overall lately!

Now... one of the key questions. What do you want your reality to be?
I am going to write down some words, you can choose from those words or add some of your own. Pick as many or as little as you want.

Worrying, positive, happy, negative, suffering, difficult, easy, effortless, normal, special, entertaining, average, fascinating, sensual, boring, mediocre, odd, interesting, dull, stimulating, dreary, tiresome, uninteresting, tedious, destructive, bad

Don't worry about what the words mean, just list those that you WANT your reality to be.

Out of those, I like positive, happy, easy, effortless, special, entertaining, fascinating, sensual, interesting, stimulating...and to add some of my own, I gotta add these because they're what is most important to me:

privacy
independence
freedom
adventure
security
spontanaity (I can't spell that right)
flexibility (meaning I want a job that lets me work flexible hours)
relaxation
lots of free time

I feel like I could go on for a while here so I'll just stop now!

[Acting Like Godot]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

This kind of work seems like it would take a lot of time, and yes I know I have a lot of time now, but I feel like I have to focus on getting a job first, and planning my future.

You don't understand. You already planned your future. Here it is again:

Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot

The Plan:

(1) Get an RV;
(2) Volunteer at organic farm, in exchange for food and accommodation.
(3) Sell photos for money.
(4) Write for money.
(5) In between farm-stays, go for concerts.
(6) Learn video-making/editing.

Benefits Currently Identified:

Will be able to:

(1) travel,
(2) learn about organic farming,
(3) Meet new people
(4) Come home anytime.
(5) Take pictures
(6) Write.

Obstacles Currently Identified:

(1) How to pay for gas and RV maintenance.
(2) How to find a person to go with.

Plan Status: Version 1, Still Evolving.

Although you think you worked out this plan just some 40 pages ago, the truth is that you already had the plan back in July 2009. I saw it in one of your old posts.

It wasn't exactly the same. It was 70% the same. Which is to be expected. Because as time passes, people tweak their plans, make revisions, add some new features, remove some aspects.

And along the way, they also do things, achieve their goals, and build a more satisfying, fulfilling life for themselves.

That's the part where you fumbled. You have hardly done a thing since July 2009.

In fact you've done little towards your plan, over the last 2 weeks since it was stated here again in this thread:

Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot

Days Elapsed: 14 Days

Action Steps Taken:

(1) Signed up online to join WWOOF.
(2) Shortlisted some farms.
(3) Went through apartment to find items for garage sale.

Next Steps:

Nothing.

You keep thinking that there is some huge, monumental task that you need to tackle ....

Either way, I got sidetracked with my problems and I can't relax and focus on writing when I have bigger things to deal with.

... but there isn't. The days will always pass the way that they have always passed - one at a time.

If you can't live each day constructively, one at a time, well, eventually that just becomes the story of your entire lifetime.