Rockchick thread and.. "nothing works for me"!

[wolfgang]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

... like there is a holy grail out there and it would be the greatest ah-ha moment EVER.

Interesting metaphor choice: they never found the holy grail because they didn't really even know what they were looking for!

[wolfgang]

Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot

Then this is what you did today:

That's all.

I was going to congratulate rockchick on this one item!

[JSB]

Rockchick,

Many people here have offered good advice/ideas. To keep things simple, if I were you, I would folllow ALG's suggestions to the letter. Don't think too much about what might not work or overanalyze, just do it.

He is successful in his own life in many areas (career, family, finances, education, hobbies, self-improvement, helping others, etc.), and he is successful on multiple levels: first, in the "conventional" sense (goal-setting + talent + hard work), second, as an extremely proficient deliberate manifestor using LOA principles, and third, as an investigator into the possible "greater meaning" of it all.

This is someone who is highly successful in his own life, understands exactly how and why, and is (like others) offering you concrete and useful advice.

To put it bluntly, if you want to succeed, stop listening to yourself and start listening to him; listening to yourself (or rather the current programming imprinted in your head, not your true inner self) has gotten you nowhere.

Don't worship the man; just follow his advice until you can start learning on your own, that is, after you've recognized and deprogrammed the inaccurate and detrimental programming patterns currently running in your own mind.

[missbhaven]

Rockchick- you suck. Period point blank. AND YOU LIKE IT! You have no intention of changing. You say you want change but all you want is the attention your get as people trip over themselves offering you suggestions. You must get high off it or something. This isn't the first time I've seen a thread offering YOU help go like this.
"WAHHHHHHH my life sucks and I want to change! But I can't do any of the advice anyone offered becuase of x, y and z and you just don't understand. So I am just gonna come online and ♥♥♥♥♥♥ and complain how crappy things are and aren't working out for me."
If you can't even respect yourself to try out the things in all the books you paid for in your current FREE TIME, so I am not surprised then by the further disrespect to all the people here you've given excuse after excuse as to why you IGNORE their advice. Straight up, if you were my friend I would've cut you outta my life a long time ago if this the attitude you'd come to me with. It is disrespectful. What? You think just becuase people come on here for fun or their spare time, that their time taken to offer advice is not worthy of your precious time (that you waste simply reading watching whatever and and surfing the net). But somehow, you are sooo freaking special , that we should waste our precious time of relaxation on helping YOU.
You are soo freaking selfish it is unbelievable.
Heaven forbid you give up tv, internet and other things TEMPORARILY to get your life in order. Things that when people are really STRUGGLING, can't even consider an option, becuase there are more important things like food to spend it on.
You are exactly where you want to be. You are living the life you want to live. You just wish you didn't have to work to get money. That's why you keep looking for your magic pill. You can have the magic pill in your hand but you are too scared of all your fears to swallow the pill and let the magic unfold. You are too afraid to simply act when needed. So, you mind numbingly absorb all the chilling luxuries and wallow in your rut.

Since this is in the intention and manifestation section

I'd intend that you look back at all 14 freaking pages of help everyone offered you and you feel incredibly guilty and you wallow in it for a couple days and stay off the board. At least that way you will stop wasting everyone's time like you enjoy wasting your own.


p.s.
What you should do is set up a complainer's excuse blog/ messageboard. Where everone can post their excuses as why life sucks and why you can't get your damn self outta this rut. It seems to be one of the few items you don't mind filling your time doing, and there are TONNES of people out there just like you. All they need is an outlet and you can have an autobot to offer fake support to each post (since the intention to actually do something about it is just as fake). The only action you seem to know is how to make an excuse to procrastinate on all the things you want to or should be doing.

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot

It makes a difference, because most of your books are "how-to" books. The value you get from such a book is measured by the actual benefits you gained by applying the advice, methods, techniques or information in the book.

No, I would say only about 25% of the books I have are how-to books, and most of them I'm still in the process of reading.

For example, earlier you mentioned that you have some book about how to start a blog and make a 6-figure income from it, within one year. Well, you've finished reading the book.

But since then, you haven't made a 6-figure income from your blog. You haven't made a 5-figure income from your blog. You haven't made a 4, 3, 2 or even 1-figure income from your blog.

You haven't even got a blog.

I didn't read this one yet! I have only gotten through 13 pages.

Same thing for your "Refuse to Choose" book. The whole idea of the book is that if a person has 20 interests, the book will show him how to successfully pursue all those interests. If not all 20 interests, then 18 of them, or 17, or 15 of them.

You have 20 interests. You have read the book. You are still hardly pursuing any of your interests. Therefore so far the value you have gained from the book is approximately zero.

I told you, this is because I don't have the money yet to do these things! The only hobby I had that was free was writing and I was doing that but with the website I had you had to pay $30 a month and I couldn't afford to keep doing that! I still write on my own, just not where I'm getting paid for it (and I didn't earn anything from my site anyway).

Elsewhere, you have mentioned you are reading many, many books, to figure out what you want to do with your life. Well, you have read many, many books. And you still haven't figured out what you want to do with your life.

So up to today, the value you have gained from all those books is .... zero.

Most of my books were not about what I wanted to do with my life, they were SUBJECTS. They were things I was interested in. They were mostly spiritual books, not anything related to how to create your life or what career to choose. And also, new interests are popping up all the time so that makes the decision even more complicated. But I am unable to afford to explore all of these, just like I was after first reading Refuse To Choose.

[ssandra]

Originally Posted by missbhaven

I'd intend that you look back at all 14 freaking pages of help everyone offered you and you feel incredibly guilty and you wallow in it for a couple days and stay off the board. At least that way you will stop wasting everyone's time like you enjoy wasting your own.

I do believe it would be good for Rockchick to look back on these 14 pages and re-read everything in one go.. without interruption. Maybe something will click for her.

I disagree that she is wasting anybodies time.

Everybody knows what they get into when they try to help or advice Rockchick. If they are wasting time, they are doing it themselves.

I for one am going to have a long hard look at why I want to help her so much, even when it seems she doesn't want to be helped... a lesson to be learned...

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by ssandra

It is so that you don't waste your time online first thing in the day, but start by doing something productive (like writing, or job seeking)

Sometimes I do my job seeking right away, if those are the emails I get to first. And nothing I do online is wasting my time, to me.

You don't tell them "no". You tell them "sure, how about after 21.00? After 20.00?

Well there are time limits, one of my friends has to go to bed at a normal time, so I can't tell her "later". And my other friend always calls me sometime after 7 or 8pm, so any more later than that wouldn't even be worth it because sometimes he has to go to work at 10pm and sometimes he has to go to bed at 10pm.

I mean.. what do you tell them if a friends wants to go to the movies during lost? You tell them no at that moment as well right?

My friends know I'm watching that on Tuesday nights. My one friend never calls me on Tuesdays and the other would call me if he's going to be up late and then I'd go over after Lost. My mom is working then and my dad knows on Tuesdays I'm watching that. It's never been a problem.

You really truly mean to say that lost is more important then getting your life in order?

No, I never said that. I just said that on Tuesday nights I am always going to be doing that, for a few hours. That doesn't mean it's more important than anything else, it's just the time that I do that, just like I have times I do other things.

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by ssandra

I asked you to do a 7 day trial on this stuff...

No self help, improvement or spiritual stuff for 7 days. You said yes, I can do this. You did nothing...

Try it.

Try it to see what YOU really think. What you really want with your life, instead of what books tell you to need and want..

Just 7 days, not even 30 days, but just 7 days.

And start now.

Those books won't walk away. Nothing will happen to them if you don't read them for the next 7 days.
We will also survive it if you don't show up here for 7 days. Not even needed to warn us. Just go ahead and do it.

You can keep listing to your hypnoses thingy... but stop doing all the rest. Just LIVE for a bit...

Well I forget about all these things I'm supposed to do, everyone is telling me to do something different and before I know it there is more to do and by not doing anything I get too far behind! I really don't think i'd make it 7 days without reading something though because I feel even more overwhelmed then, and more stuff piles up.

I did get called in to work again tonight and I'll probably have to work the rest of the weekend, so I probably won't get to much anyway, now.

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by Lucidism

I understand that feeling from personal experience. When I was a teenager, I probably read at least 30 books on personal development. I was happy, but something was holding me back. That something was myself. I kept thinking there was something out there that someone wasn't saying, something that would "click" with me.

I woke up one day and realized that the secret to life is that there are no secrets. No magic pill. And then I went more from a mode of thinking into a mode of doing. The mode of doing is much better.

This is why they say, "Wisdom is knowledge applied." You only get so far with other people's knowledge. You get to the next level with your own experience.

How did you do it though? You simply woke up and realized you should do instead of think, and then as simple as that, you just did it? That is the part I have the problem with.

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by carenkh

I have a friend who moved from here to West Virginia. She wanted to make a difference in the town she moved to - she created a group to get folks together to help, which she called "Create Huntington". From that group, as she found out different needs the town had, she'd find whomever wanted to help with that need - who had the resources, desire (or at least willingness). This was all voluntary. She paid not a penny at any point; she didn't have much money. She worked - got on the phone, found free meeting space, connected folks, asked for donations - but she didn't get paid.

Out of all of this, she, together with other people, planned community gardens. It initially started as a way to brighten up the space around housing projects - get some flowers & seed & soil donated, and plant. The kids from the development would get involved, and they ended up with beautiful gardens instead of empty lots. Someone had an idea: why not food? Why not community vegetable gardens? Their town had many folks in poor health - how much help a food garden would be! So - more donations, more calls, more planning, and community food gardens are there, more and more each month.

Where did Jamie Oliver kick off his Food Revolution? Huntington, WV.

She did not have extra money, she barely had time - she's a mom, and is also earning her Masters, worked at the uni, and is a wife, as well.

This is what having an interest looks like. This is what getting involved looks like. I doubt she read many books. She didn't make excuses, she made plans.

Whoa, did she do that long before he went there? Why were they still considered the most unhealthy city in America, apparently what she did there wasn't enough. But either way, that is awesome. I wanted to do something like that, on Jamie's Facebook page and his website I started posts about getting groups together in each state. I haven't found anyone else in my state yet, but it shouldn't matter, your friend did it by herself. Well I think what was stopping me there is that if I got too involved with something, I wouldn't have enough time to look for a job and figure out what I want to do. Yes it would be experience and maybe that would lead to a job, but it isn't a guarantee. And right now I can't be up during the day because I get called in to work at the last minute and it changes all my plans, like what happened today.

I know this all sounds like a pile of excuses, I know it does. But somehow just knowing that can't make me change because I still have these thoughts! I know I'm supposed to just not listen to the thoughts, but it isn't that easy. What if I had been organizing some thing in my city and then I got called in to work 3 nights in a row, I wouldn't be able to do it. Getting paid has to come first.

[Angela]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

How did you do it though? You simply woke up and realized you should do instead of think, and then as simple as that, you just did it? That is the part I have the problem with.

What problem? You don't have a problem. You pretend like you do, but you don't. You pretend like you're willing to do something about what you say you want, but you're not. You're willing to want it, but you're not willing to do something to get it, and so you use these forums to write out all your justifications for not doing what you're not willing to do.

That's not a problem, except in the sense that you'll never, ever get the results you say you want, you'll only get the ones you are deeply committed to (which are the results you're getting.)

You want what you say you want, but you want sloth MORE.

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by rei

1. Instead of "Yes, butting" - simply say "Thank you." Read over the response before you submit it to see if you are agreeing but also disagreeing, and if you are, just change it to thank you.

Well I have said thank you, not in every single individual post but I have thanked everyone. I have told everyone how I appreciate the help. And I realized, when I come back with my "yeah but's", it's to explain why it hasn't worked for me but I am not saying they are bad ideas, theyre NOT, I've had them myself and I know they're good ideas and I have done some of them before (maybe most of them), and by saying what doesn't work, I need to find a way that does work. There has to be a way that works.

Quit reading the books now instead of saying you'll quit when you finish these.

Well some of them i've paid for, I don't want to waste that money. I paid $100 for the Realization System lessons and they send me an ebook every week. I am not going to get behind on those.

5. Listen to ALG and some of the other posters. ALG especially has offered you simply, step-by-step ideas that can help.

I am thankful and grateful that I have all this information to go back on when I need it. I just feel overwhelmed and don't even know where to start with all these suggestions (if I can get myself to afford them). I DO have time for them, it just might not be a whole bunch right now but eventually I won't always be able to use the time excuse.

6. Consider these things or admit you like the current patterns too much to change them... and then accept the consequences of doing so.

Hmmm. Something just hit me. I mentioned last night that I love my life the way it is right now, unstructured and free and spontaneous, and I'm getting free money, I have my own apartment, this is perfect. I just know that this won't last much longer. I guess what I've been doing all along is preparing myself for when I have to take action. Right now I feel like this is too perfect to change. Like I told my dad, I'll do something when I have to. I guess I've already decided I don't have to yet and that's why i've kept myself where I am because this is exactly what I want (minus the part about not having enough money to do more things).

Wow. That was an ah-ha moment.

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by missbhaven

Rockchick- you suck.

Well this was mature.

You say you want change but all you want is the attention your get as people trip over themselves offering you suggestions. You must get high off it or something. This isn't the first time I've seen a thread offering YOU help go like this.
"WAHHHHHHH my life sucks and I want to change! But I can't do any of the advice anyone offered becuase of x, y and z and you just don't understand. So I am just gonna come online and ♥♥♥♥♥♥ and complain how crappy things are and aren't working out for me."

Excuse me for trying. I don't go to people in my real life for advice, so I do it here where nobody knows me because they aren't biased.

If you can't even respect yourself to try out the things in all the books you paid for in your current FREE TIME, so I am not surprised then by the further disrespect to all the people here you've given excuse after excuse as to why you IGNORE their advice.

I don't see how I am disrespecting anyone in here. At least I don't tell people they suck. I have thanked people, I have tried things that I thought I could try and told them why the other things didn't work. I am doing the best I can. I am not disrespecting anyone and if anyone feels that way, I'm sorry.

Straight up, if you were my friend I would've cut you outta my life a long time ago if this the attitude you'd come to me with.

I don't have this "attitude" in real life, I don't show up at my friends houses unloading my problems onto them. They call ME. I come to places like this when I need help.

But somehow, you are sooo freaking special , that we should waste our precious time of relaxation on helping YOU.
You are soo freaking selfish it is unbelievable.

I never said I was special and I'm not making anyone "waste" their time, that's their choice if they want to reply to me.

You are exactly where you want to be. You are living the life you want to live. You just wish you didn't have to work to get money.

This is the first thing you've said that's made sense. Yes, I DO like where I am and I don't want to work (in the traditional sense) for money, I just realized this myself a few minutes ago.

You are too afraid to simply act when needed. So, you mind numbingly absorb all the chilling luxuries and wallow in your rut.

I DO act when it's necessary, it just hasn't been necessary yet.

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by Angela

What problem? You don't have a problem. You pretend like you do, but you don't. You pretend like you're willing to do something about what you say you want, but you're not. You're willing to want it, but you're not willing to do something to get it, and so you use these forums to write out all your justifications for not doing what you're not willing to do.

That's not a problem, except in the sense that you'll never, ever get the results you say you want, you'll only get the ones you are deeply committed to (which are the results you're getting.)

You want what you say you want, but you want sloth MORE.

I've always been like this where I won't do something unless I absolutely have to, where I am forced to. Unless it's something I really want to do (like go to a concert, go on a vacation, go to a friend's house, etc.). Alright so we've established that I really just want to live my days doing whatever I want. (Honestly, who wouldn't want that?). I feel like we're getting somewhere now.

[Indiana]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

I mentioned last night that I love my life the way it is right now, unstructured and free and spontaneous, and I'm getting free money, I have my own apartment, this is perfect.

I am SO interested to know how you are getting 'free' money. Where does it come from? Why is it 'free'? I have never heard of free money before. In my world, someone always has to earn money. Who is earning the 'free' money you're living on?

[carenkh]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

Whoa, did she do that long before he went there? Why were they still considered the most unhealthy city in America, apparently what she did there wasn't enough.

You mean because she didn't cure an entire state's health problems in a year and a half? I know you've noticed before that your perfectionism is a problem... but, wow. What she did there was (and is) *perfect* and is *just enough*. She did her part. She inspires others to do theirs. She did what she could, without letting the enormity of the problem keep her from acting.

[Angela]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

I guess I've already decided I don't have to yet and that's why i've kept myself where I am because this is exactly what I want

No kiddin'.

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

I really just want to live my days doing whatever I want. (Honestly, who wouldn't want that?).

Honestly, who wouldn't want that? Well, here in a personal development forum, one might think that someone who spends HOURS and HOURS talking about how she wants something other than what she's got, and repeatedly asking for ADVICE about how she might get it. Maybe that person, that person who has so generously offered up loads of intelligent and thoughtful suggestions on how she might get what she SAYS she wants to someone who turns out to have been pretending, someone might think.

[rei]

I don't have any interest in continuing to post in this thread, but I did want to clarify.

Rockchick, I did not mean to suggest that you thank those responding along with your response. I meant - if your response involves agreeing and disagreeing ("Yes, but"), replace it with a simple, "Thank you."

I thought I made that clear in the first place.

Instead of posting a response that amounts to "I agree but I don't," or, "I'm telling you that's a good idea but also sharing the reasons it won't work/I don't want to do it" - delete the response you were about to post and write a simple, "Thank you."

[James81]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

Alright so we've established that I really just want to live my days doing whatever I want.

What do you want to do?

Or rather, if you could do whatever you want, what would you being doing?

[Acting Like Godot]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

I've always been like this where I won't do something unless I absolutely have to, where I am forced to.

Pretty soon, you'll be forced to.

Use a little foresight. Look at your life now, and ask yourself - if you carry on the way you've been doing, how will things will turn out for you? Over the next one to six months, or the next 1 to 3 years.

Which of the following are very improbable? None, I think. Be honest.

1. You lose your unemployment benefits.

2. The bank terminates your credit cards.

3. Your father says, "Sorry, I'm not giving you any more money."

4. You are kicked out of your current home.

5. Your friends say "I'm not donating any more food to you. It's time you bought your own TV dinners."

6. You can't afford your broadband. Say bye bye to your Facebook & Twitter.

7. One day, your car breaks down and you can't afford to pay for repairs.

8. You end up in a homeless shelter.

9. Winter arrives in Minnesota. Turns out to be -25 degrees Celsius and you struggle to pay for your heating.

10. One day, due to the cold you suffer + your lousy diet + your mental stress, you fall quite ill and need to see the doctor. But you have no health insurance.

11. Whatever industry you were last working for, it fails to revive. Those jobs move, permanently, out of your country, to a lower-cost centre such as China or India.

12. Since almost all your previous working experience (18 years) were in the same one job, you have very little relevant job experience to get another kind of job. In the past year, you've been so busy surfing the Internet and listening to MP3 downloads that you completely failed to acquire any new skills or qualifications. So your job hunt becomes even more difficult.

13. As your period of unemployment grows longer, prospective employers frown more and more at your unemployment history. They wonder whether you've been diligent and sincere about looking for a job; they question your work attitude; they grow more certain that they do NOT want to offer you a job.

14. You end up working in a job that you REALLY, REALLY do not want to do. Not only does it not involve any of your interests at all, it is also entirely exhausting, dirty, menial, low-paying and/or unsavoury. But by then you have no choice.

15. All welfare benefits in the nation steadily dwindle, as the USA struggles with an ever-increasing budget deficit.

When any three or more of the above events actually occur in your life, you'll very much feel that you're finally being forced to do something. The question is - at that time, will you have the resources, the capability, the mental discipline, to do it?

Probably not. Those things don't come overnight. You have to practise, build and acquire them. If right now, you can't even act constructively for one day, what makes you think you can do it, under circumstances which are much, much more difficult?

You think it's funny. You think it's one big joke - coming to a forum, asking people for dozens or hundreds of suggestions, and then writing long, insensible replies to explain why none of them can work. But when your life really comes crumbling down in ruins around your ears, you won't think it's funny any more.

Wake up! The longer you stay asleep, the greater the danger you face.

[Indiana]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

I've always been like this where I won't do something unless I absolutely have to, where I am forced to.

This absolutely sounds like alcohol/drug addicts who won't give up their vice of choice when they start having a few problems... or after they've been having problems for a while.... or even when their problems are becoming glaringly obvious to those around them.

Instead they wait till they find themselves sitting in a police cell after a drunk driving crash or lying in a hospital bed with cirrhoris or emphesyma, or have lost their job/marriage/kids/friends/self-respect, and then they decide, "Okay, I've hit rock bottom, time I did something about my problem."

Is that what you want? Maybe you've always been 'like that', but you know you don't always HAVE to be, right?

[missbhaven]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

I DO act when it's necessary, it just hasn't been necessary yet.

and a couple posts later...

I've always been like this where I won't do something unless I absolutely have to, where I am forced to. Unless it's something I really want to do (like go to a concert, go on a vacation, go to a friend's house, etc.)

If you really wanted the things you said, you wouldn't be forced into action.
What do you have to say about that. Actually I don't want to hear it. There is no excuse. That's just the way it is ... simple.
All the things you say you wanted here yet you gave an excuse for justify for your own lack of effort. Why becuase you actually fell for all the hype and all the subliminal plays in life. You want what society, family, this that and the next tells you you want. You give everything under the sun your time but you can't even respect yourself to stop and truly define a simple BIG WANT that would drive you to change in ways you really want to be. I bet figgering out how to save that money for the vacation wasn't an easy task. Especially when it came to implementing and maintaining it soo you can actually go. But you still did it becuase it was something you really wanted. Soo you don't WANT anything you have told us you want.

Soo forget everything and go live in the bush survivor man styles.
Since you have ACCEPTED that you have ALWAYS been like this (and accepting that it'll be hard to change until you're ready to release severe limitation like that). The ONLY way to get change to come about for you will be to put yourself in a situation that will cause you to act out of necessity.
You can choose to do it now consciously or you can choose to do it subconsciously. And I have a feeling your conscious ego won't be happy with your subconscious changing your life like that.

I guess the rock in your name stands for rock bottom. You wont be the first soul that had to hit rock bottom becuase they don't want life enough to go out and act on their dreams. Maybe you don't feel you've been threw enough strife and struggle to want that desire you soo hope for. You don't have your life riding on NEEDING it to work soo you are FORCED to ACT out of NECESSITY.
Yeah I hope you enjoy that ride, becuase you have choosen for your life to be this way. Not everyone ends up like Ms. Rowling you know.

BTW, I can still be mature and tell you "You suck". Why? Becuase when you are lying to yourself and me and everyone here... YOU DO SUCK. When I went into the gym and tell my trainer I want something and I made excuses as to why I can't. He looks at me and says " You paid me... to get you to do this. Your excuses would suck if they weren't such pathetic lies. So instead you suck. And you know what's the only choice when you suck. TO SUCK IT UP or else you're gonna just F it up!"

[Lucidism]

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

How did you do it though? You simply woke up and realized you should do instead of think, and then as simple as that, you just did it? That is the part I have the problem with.

Pretty much. One day I just thought to myself (paraphrasing), "Ya know, I'm f*cking tired of reading all these books. They all say the same stuff! Blah blah blah! I could have spent this past hour jogging instead of reading the same stuff again."

So next I wrote my own book, which I shared with a couple people. Over a hundred full-on pages. It was mostly for me though. I think it was a good way to get all of the knowledge out of my head and into a personal format, a personal blueprint for my own success. I titled it, "I Am". Maybe you should do this... write your personal book... it would be at least more productive than reading more books!

I still read an occasional self-help type of book, but it's more for the enjoyment of it or to see what people are talking about nowadays. For example, it seems Veganism is becoming more commonly mentioned in these books. I read Steve's blog because I'm more interested in what is going on his life, with all of his experimenting, but not really interested in the advice he gives.

I don't read them anymore because I'm "looking for answers". I have the answers. I bet you do, too.

Most of my reading now is fun fiction or for a specific purpose, like I might read a computer book to learn about a new programming language.

[rawxstasy]

Rockchick,

I have followed your threads with interest and often wondered how you were doing. I'll throw in my two cents here although it probably won't make much difference in getting you to take action. I just want you to see what actions I took over the past three months to improve my life. I'm not trying to pat myself on the back or anything, just trying to be helpful.

After graduating from nursing school, in January I didn't get hired at the hospital were I had worked for two years in Montana.
1. Did a job search in Madison, WI where I was interested in living.
2. Got hired as a nurses assistant (not a nurse)
3. I discovered my license wouldn't transfer to Wisconsin. ( did I let this stop me? - no )
4. I borrowed $4,000 from my soon to be ex father-in-law to move and take an accelerated repeat nursing assistant course.
5. In taking the course, I got hired at a nursing home as a nurse.
6. Through the same course I also got a second job. I work as a live in nurse in exchange for free room and board.
7. I am exercising 4x a week and have now lost 7 pounds.
8. I improved my diet with increased amounts of fresh fruits and vegetables. ( I did this while on foodstamps ).

There are still fellow nursing students from my class who have not found work. I have two jobs now and a third one waiting for me once I get a year of nursing experience.

My point is, you have to take action. Yes, it needed money to make it happen - I didn't have the money so I asked for help. But if I hadn't been able to borrow the money I would have found a way to get the money on my own. When I moved here, I was on foodstamps and was able to still improve my diet.

There is nothing wrong with getting help from your family or govt. or who ever to help make things happen for you. If you are having such a tough time finding work- you need to do something different. Either change your job search or move somewhere that has jobs. You should be able to get assistance through the unemployment office about training for a new field or jobs that are available. I bet you could get free training as a nurses assistant, get a job, save some money, move to where you really want to be. Then get training to do what you really want to do with your life.

I had no way of knowing that taking a class on stuff I already knew would lead me to two jobs. But that is the way life often works, you volunteer ( at a library or something) make contacts, someone has a job lead or knows someone who has a job opening and one thing leads to another.

You still have to make that first step.

[themaster]

I'd really like to see people stop labeling "rockchick" she's not a procrastinator and not "recluse" (well she is.. but she isn't )

These are the positive attributes I see in rockchick.. she still hasn't given up, she's still posting positevely.. and she is being coddled/encouraged in her procrastations by all of you! (and that's not a bad thing.. but it might not be a helpful thing either)

Originally Posted by Rockchick26

I've always been like this where I won't do something unless I absolutely have to, where I am forced to.

This is a interesting statement.. it reminds me of how I am too.. I've used the universe/events before to force me to do things I didn't necessarily want to do..

The ♥♥♥♥♥ of it is.. you want to be careful about what you create cause you can really get yourself into some forceful pickles.. but if you just release and let go.. it will lead you to a better place..

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by Indiana

I am SO interested to know how you are getting 'free' money. Where does it come from? Why is it 'free'? I have never heard of free money before. In my world, someone always has to earn money. Who is earning the 'free' money you're living on?

I was laid off, so I'm getting unemployment money from the state.

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by Angela

No kiddin'.



Honestly, who wouldn't want that? Well, here in a personal development forum, one might think that someone who spends HOURS and HOURS talking about how she wants something other than what she's got, and repeatedly asking for ADVICE about how she might get it. Maybe that person, that person who has so generously offered up loads of intelligent and thoughtful suggestions on how she might get what she SAYS she wants to someone who turns out to have been pretending, someone might think.

I had to re-read this over a few times and it kinda loses me towards the end, are you saying I'M the one pretending that I want something? Just because I JUST YESTERDAY realized why I haven't been taking action doesn't mean i'm pretending to be interested in these things.

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by rei

I don't have any interest in continuing to post in this thread, but I did want to clarify.

Rockchick, I did not mean to suggest that you thank those responding along with your response. I meant - if your response involves agreeing and disagreeing ("Yes, but"), replace it with a simple, "Thank you."

I thought I made that clear in the first place.

Instead of posting a response that amounts to "I agree but I don't," or, "I'm telling you that's a good idea but also sharing the reasons it won't work/I don't want to do it" - delete the response you were about to post and write a simple, "Thank you."

But the purpose of all this is to fix the problem. How does it fix the problem if all I do is say "thank you" without trying to figure out a solution? It takes a lot of talking back and forth for me to get to the bottom of things, it isn't as simple as reading suggestions and then just saying "thank you" because then I'd be left sitting there going 'well that didn't help, i'm in the same position I was before because they don't understand why I can't do this'. To me that would be disrespectful, by not being honest and just passing everyone off with a "thank you".

[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by James81

What do you want to do?

Or rather, if you could do whatever you want, what would you being doing?

I'd want to live my days doing something related to my interests, provided I had the money for it. Right now if I had the money, I could hop in my RV and take a last minute road trip and grab my camera and go without having to worry about being back for work tomorrow. (That's just one example)

[themaster]

Also, I was looking at it the other day through manifestations..

And I realize that some of you offering to help or all of you.. are manifestations of rockchicks seeking various solutions getting the information.. but then not necessarily acting.. it's like her bonbardment of self help books

- I tried book a.
- and book b.
- and book c.

In this case... it's poster

- a.
- b.
- c.



So all I'm saying is posters are in a way replacing the many books that rockchick has tried