Help! Having difficulties making my dreams come true!

[Sean Chappell]

Hi all,

I'm new to the forum but my wife and I have been following Steve and his teachings for a long time now. We're really interested in the things he has to say especially about intention manifestation.

Over the past few months I've been very cogent regarding Steve's teachings about intention manifestation and I've been bringing myself into alignment with the goals I want to acheive. I want to see my personal businesses succeed. I want to enjoy a higher standard of living with a greater income and in the end greater happiness.

Even though I've been positive and have been focused on acheiving my goals rather than what I don't wish to acheive I still seem to be attracting negative elements into my life that are detracting from my progress of acheiving my goals.

For instance. I'm an artist. My goals are to make being an artist my sole source of income. I don't believe it's an unacheivable goal. Others have done it so so can I.

Recently I had the opportunity to do a portrait for a family of their one year old boy who they thought they'd never be able to have. He was a miracle baby and I was happy to help. Although the money wasn't great I enjoyed doing the painting and decided to solicit for more work that was similar. I posted some ads across the net. The very first person to reply to me was someone who thought my painting was 'ugly' and that I needed to be a better painter. He also went on to say that I could take some lessons from him at $50 a pop. Turns out his derision was a misguided attempt to sell me painting lessons!

As it goes I did a whole back and forth with him through e-mail. I wrote a post about it on my own blog. If you'd like to see how the conversation went please visit » The Rudeness Army Marches OnSean Chappell. Please note, this was not an isolated incedent.

Read it if you're interested but please know this is not the reason why I'm writing this.

I've been trying to bring nothing but positive things into my life. I've been envisioning positive things, I've been happy and outgoing, I help my neighbours and even strangers whenever I can. Even when I'm feeling down or angry I still try to do the right thing and continue to be a positive influence in the world, so why do I keep attracting negative people?

I'm at a loss to explain it. Am I approaching the intention manifestation idea from the wrong point of view? How can I change my intentions to block these people out? or am I fooling myself? Will negative people continue to hound me regardless of my intentions? Are they going to be pestering me anyway and should I just ignore them?

I need some guidance here folks on whether or not I'm going about this the right way and how to deal with the negative influences that continue to bombard me. Any advice you could give me would be really helpful.

Thanks very much,

Sean

[Lamusa]

Give all of your energy into focusing on the life you want to live, no matter what anyone says. They are only aspects of you, anyway, showing you where you may not feel wholly confident in yourself on a more unconscious level. Write out a picture of your ideal life situation and read it everyday, feel good about it. Water this seed. People are going to hold many different opinions of you and what you do. The one that matters the most is the one you have of yourself. I learn the most from people who have strong negative reactions to my work and lifestyle. If I feel bothered by their opinions, I ask myself if there is anyway I may be colluding with what they are saying to me and if this is so I do all that I can to cultivate a much better portrait of myself. You can choose to see the guy who made the comment to you as your teacher in the sense that he is encouraging you to generate more confidence in yourself.

From the perspective of a fellow artist, your work, which I believe is very strong and full of lots of emotion and passion, is very expressionistic and surreal (I am typically drawn to work like this) Since a lot of surrealism comes out of under-investigated areas of our unconscious it can bring up images and expressions that people aren't used to seeing and that might make them uncomfortable, which could make them use a word like, "ugly," to describe it. Poor word choice, I agree. Sometimes people label things that they don't understand. Clarify for yourself what you want people to get out of your art work. Why do you share it with them? In any case, stay true to what you enjoy doing.

P.S. I am curious who the other artist was. You could PM me his link if you'd like.

Hope this helps,

Lamusa

[Bella75]

Hi Sean

I am not an expert on this subject but can only draw on life experience.
I would say that you can always control how you feel and what you think but you cannot control other people or the way they think towards you or anything else.

And so I think you will always experience a mixture of positive and negative people through your life. I don't necessarily believe that being positive and happy yourself will only attract those people to you. I have tried that and some people get irritated with it or try and push their negative views onto you.

I hope this helps but I also hope you achieve the life you want.

Bella

[Sean Chappell]

Lamusa -- Bella75

Thank you for the kind advice. You're both right. There will always be detractors in my life and I won't be able to make up their minds or opinions for them. Strength and confidence in myself seems to be the best armour against such individuals.

I guess I was just hoping that changing my outlook and my intentions would help eliminate the negative elements that have dogged me most of my life. It seems that regardless of what I do or how I do it, someone will always suffer some personal offence and will be vocal about it. I'd love to be able to manifest these people right out of my sphere but that seems to not be a possibility. Hopefully through intention manifestation I'll be able to make better decisions when faced with my next negative influence.

Thank you both for the clarity. You've given me a lot to think about.

[themaster]

Originally Posted by Sean Chappell

Even though I've been positive and have been focused on achieving my goals rather than what I don't wish to achieve I still seem to be attracting negative elements into my life that are detracting from my progress of achieving my goals.

I'm going to put this bluntly.. the only person detracting yourself is you!!

If you really get LOA.. and I mean get it.. you'll understand that there are no *coincidences* everything is created.. everything..

Now albeit.. we are in a SHARED reality.. interacting with our different perspectives.. but when they come to you and they sling some mud.. the idea is to not take that mud into your space.. when you have a reaction to "detractors" when you "engage" them your taking that mud into your space.. you’re taking someone else problem and making it YOUR PROBLEM!

Now again I say that things aren't happening to you on coincidence either.. you may have some past beliefs that are re-surfacing in these incidents.. I ask you when these things happen to you.. don't go negative.. and or observe the situation.. don't react at all.. if you wonder why you attracted this?? then ask yourself..

"what do I have to believe is true.. to have attracted this situation?"
"what is this person trying to show me?"
"how can I use this experience/interaction in a positive way?"

Originally Posted by Sean Chappell

For instance. I'm an artist. My goals are to make being an artist my sole source of income. I don't believe it's an unachievable goal. Others have done it so so can I.

The word "unachievable" hints here that you have issues with this.. obviously if you can turn this word around.. how you feel about into it.. with full belief you can make money as a artist.. it has to come to you..

One of the first things you can do as a artist.. is realize your making your ART for you not for someone else I suggest you not think highly on the marketability of your art (it's not bad too) but in fact just do the art for you.. that is of your highest excitement.. most fun.. most inspiring

Originally Posted by Sean Chappell

Recently I had the opportunity to do a portrait for a family of their one year old boy who they thought they'd never be able to have. He was a miracle baby and I was happy to help. Although the money wasn't great I enjoyed doing the painting and decided to solicit for more work that was similar. I posted some ads across the net. The very first person to reply to me was someone who thought my painting was 'ugly' and that I needed to be a better painter. He also went on to say that I could take some lessons from him at $50 a pop. Turns out his derision was a misguided attempt to sell me painting lessons!

As I said you have a re-occurring belief possibly.. re-surfacing.. in this reflection you had with this man.. you may also question your own value as a artist.. don't!!

Art is in the 'eye of the beholder'.. what "others" think is not important..

I suggest again you act like a observer.. don't react to things negatively.. and look for the positive in all situations if you can..

Beliefs our.. are LOA blame cards.. they create fundamental rules for this reality by DEFAULT or by us creating them.. there are many ways to get around your BELIEFS.. some requiring examining them via the "EGO" others require bypassing them with.. meditation and other spiritual tools

Originally Posted by Sean Chappell

I help my neighbors and even strangers whenever I can.

This is nice.. but not necessary.. but good for you!

When I say necessary.. this does not affect your powers of LOA in the slightest.. unless you believe in karma.. the opt-in, opt-out system as I call/see it

[themaster]

Originally Posted by Sean Chappell

Even when I'm feeling down or angry I still try to do the right thing and continue to be a positive influence in the world, so why do I keep attracting negative people?

Because you cannot force the world into a pigeon hole

Over and over again I talk about this idea/lesson..

It seems so simple to me.. but I will explain it again..

You cannot force the universe to do your absolute highest good/bidding.. without acknowledging the other choice.. the other choice is limitation.. it's being struck by lightning.. it's murdering that guy on the street.. you have to acknowledge your NEGATIVE CHOICES.. you cannot INVALIDATE THEM..

What do I mean by this?

Oh.. alright I'll translate..

If you understand the world like I do.. then you realize that were all the same person.. might seem weird, might sound complicated.. but even our scientists have theories for us being all the same energy.. and they'd be right!

Anyway.. where was I

Law of attraction states = You get what you think about..

Doesn't matter if that label is good or bad.. to law of attraction.. it gives you what you think about.. if you fear earthquakes.. guess what will happen in your lifetime?? How many times do you got to shake San Francisco.. so we can relieve your fear???

So what I'm saying is.. in being who we are we cannot invalidate our FEARS.. we cannot say today "I invalidate you earthquake" cause in doing so.. you create more.. if you say "I invalidate you SERIAL KILLER" you create more.. if you say "I invalidate you AIDS!" you create more..

It doesn't matter what you invalidate.. but whatever you put your attention upon and say "NO!!! too" you draw more to you..

Now let's say today.. is the day you've had it with these critics who want to sell you painting lessons.. (no more.. you chauvinist jerks!! )

Your day may go something like this..

You’re doing your thing.. you get a sudden art call.. street art.. doesn't pay well (belief is this? ) but you say okay.. you love art!

You do your street art.. people watch as you paint a lovely painting.. some people come along and love it.. one person comes along and says

"you’re doing it all wrong.. the strokes.. the strokes are wrong.. here's my card I teach at the art academy.. come to my school I'll teach you for free"

If you were to react the way I'd assume you'd react..

You be upset about his criticism.. and you shouldn't be.. what "others" say doesn't matter!!!

A line from my teacher (one of my teachers ) "Circumstances don't matter, only state of being matters"

Special hint: Matters = manifestation

So if this circumstances happened to me.. I would be pleased at the positiveness of the "free" lesson..

[themaster]

I would also know again that art was in the 'eye of the beholder' a person can throw a chair onto a sidewalk and call that "art" and that is art.. look around you are entire planet is "art" it's in the eye of the beholder.. get out your water paints and paint with a child.. now they make true art

Alright back to the lesson.. I know I got off track

The idea is you cannot force the universe into a pigeon hole.. you cannot force it to not have a manifestation.. if you’re driving in a car.. you have to say..

"I know I could get into a car accident at anytime.. but that is not my preference.. I think I could get in a car accident.. (car synchronicity more like it ) but I prefer.. I have a preference not too.. thanks for listening "

If you need more methods on this.. try this thread..

Whats going on here?!

Am I approaching the intention manifestation idea from the wrong point of view?

Yes.. in part you’re also claiming the moral high ground.. no such thing.. all people are equal..

How can I change my intentions to block these people out?

You can't!.. see above for HOW

Will negative people continue to hound me regardless of my intentions?

Though you'll find this answer in the other thread.. I'll repeat..
We are in a limitation reality.. it is becoming less limited every day.. (it's a thing we call "the shift" though you can just see it as change happening )

While we are becoming less rigid/limited.. you are going to be in this reality a while longer.. accept that you chose to be here.. accept that you may still run into these people for a while longer.. just be yourself and stop getting involved in other peoples mess's.. work on your own messes and by changing yourself.. you change the reality.. that is the truth! there is no other.. LOA is a internal journey.. and from the inside out.. the flower grows!

Are they going to be pestering me anyway and should I just ignore them?

Basically, yes.. or you could try and use them to see positive things in the world and in yourself.. Every experience according to my teacher can be seen from a positive perspective

Originally Posted by Sean Chappell

I need some guidance here folks on whether or not I'm going about this the right way and how to deal with the negative influences that continue to bombard me. Any advice you could give me would be really helpful.

My guidance is simple..

In every moment do the best to be yourself.. in Every moment follow your highest excitement to the best of your ability.. it will only lead you to more

When in doubt with LOA.. fall back to rule #1.. become a optimist.. insist the world is getting better.. and it will.. when you become a optimist.. you refuse to see darkness, bad things in the world.. because you realize those are illusions.. (however again.. don't invalidate negative choices )

My name is themaster.. (obviously) and you are a bad artisist.. for 8 easy payments of $19.95 you can have my advice for free all day long!

[Silenced140]

I would bet money on it that its your old, subconscious blocks.

People can be set on a life course just by what they experience in their first years of birth. Those thoughts get lodged into their subconscious mind, and in some cases, those beliefs create a child prodigy, or a shy,unattractive kid with no confidence like the old me.

My rational parents were well meaning when they taught me rational lifelessons about how things happen by chance, and you have to work hard to make money or even as far as , " Success happens by chance"

I'm at the ripe old age of 15. I am intelligent enough to argue my parents to a standstill about life. Recently, i was debating to my father that successful people know something that others do not or have acquired it naturally.

I was talked about how J.K. Rowling started out almost at the poverty level and now a few years later, she is the richest woman in the UK. She's a billionaire, by writing a genius series of books. And my father called it an accident.

The subconscious mind is all knowing, and extremely powerful, it controls all aspects of your life, even parts you are consciously, unaware of.

I would really recommend researching the subconscious mind. Read the book called, The Power of Your Subconscious Mind. It is full of very helpful information.

Either by habbitual visualization or affirmations, you can consciously control what goes into your subconscious mind, at it makes the lOA work 100 times better.

[escapeplan]

Sean,

I've read through your post a couple of times and basically it seems like you're after is a solution to the problem of how to manifest your goals.

Effectively what you would like to create is your ideal lifestyle and obviously for you, the art side of things is vital as far as money goes.

I don't dismiss the LOA at all but sometimes it's not always the best vehicle to use.

One of the things I see a lot is people really strugling to make real changes. The theory is fully understood (like you say, you've been reading Steve's articles for a while)- It's putting it into practice that can seem difficult. For what it's worth I'm offering free life coaching to anyone who is struggling to overcome this hurdle of theory to real-world.

Whether you believe in the LOA or not, there are always reasons why we are where we are, or why we are not making progress. From your post alone it is evident this is about more than just whether you are using the LOA correctly or not.

If I can be of any further help, please get in touch.