"the how" just won't do

[bananya]

I know this probably has been discussed a lot on this forum, but I need some ideas/advices on how to stop concentrating on "the how" when manifesting.

I've learnt that intentions do manifest better when you kinda forget about them (again, here is a controversy - it says everywhere that you need to "hold the intention" in your mind every day for some time and still many agree that it's only manifested when we let go and even better "forget" - how is explained?)..

sometimes when I have a quick thought in my head "oh it'd be nice to have that" (without really knowing how it's possible and without really "wanting"/"intending" it and it'd happen sometimes the next day (happened a lot recently) which really amazes me, it's like a game with small manifestations..

nevertheless, when it comes to bigger things, ones that I REALLY WANT TO HAVE IN MY LIFE I'm constantly trying to find ways of making this happen, thinking over and over again about "THE HOW", coz I can't have this kind of attitude "oh it'd be nice to have" about things most important in my life and then let go immediatly..

oh and one more thing I have a problem with..
say, you want a black Ferrari and you want it as soon as possible because your life without Ferrari at the moment is just not satisfactory (I'm using Ferrari just as an example, I don't need a Ferrari particularly )
ok, and here you go The Universe gives you a Ferrari, but a white one... and you wanted black.. so what do you do? get a white one (thinking that it's still a Ferrari and you may waste another ... years waiting for a black one)? or keep waiting?
I have problems deciding on whether to take the opportunity that may seem ver close to what you asked for but now perfect, coz I don't want to waste time waiting for another chance and again you never know where "the black Ferrari" might take you

confused a little

[MacFly]

The hardest part about LoA / IM is the belief part. Nothing will happen if you don't believe it can happen, don't believe you deserve it, etc..

The "how" is about the beliefs you have. Maybe you believe you can get that something, but your beliefs block every way around you. You want a car, but you look around yourself and say : "well, my earnings aren't enough to buy a car, nobody around me will buy that car for me, and I see no future income which'd be enough to buy that car, ....". So, where could that car come from, when your beliefs block every way around?

Just sit down, and create the strongest belief in the Universe (or Source, God, LoA, Higher Self,...). Believe that it'll bring it for you. Doubts will come, and a lot of them'll seem real strong, but don't buy those doubts, see and know that they are false and just believe.

The more you want to "know" about it, the less space you give it to operate. Don't want to be an "LoA master", because you can't understand it. Let it be enough that it'll give you anything you want.

[themaster]

Originally Posted by bananya

I know this probably has been discussed a lot on this forum, but I need some ideas/advices on how to stop concentrating on "the how" when manifesting.

Stop concentrating on the how.. by relaxing a little.. relax your ego, relax your mind.. just relax

Originally Posted by bananya

I've learnt that intentions do manifest better when you kinda forget about them (again, here is a controversy - it says everywhere that you need to "hold the intention" in your mind every day for some time and still many agree that it's only manifested when we let go and even better "forget" - how is explained?)..

A lot of people learn this.. that's because you're so busy trying to figure out how the universe can manifest through a keyhole instead going right THROUGH the door.. that you can get stuck on it..

Originally Posted by bananya

oh and one more thing I have a problem with..
say, you want a black Ferrari and you want it as soon as possible because your life without Ferrari at the moment is just not satisfactory (I'm using Ferrari just as an example, I don't need a Ferrari particularly )
ok, and here you go The Universe gives you a Ferrari, but a white one... and you wanted black.. so what do you do? get a white one (thinking that it's still a Ferrari and you may waste another ... years waiting for a black one)? or keep waiting?

I have problems deciding on whether to take the opportunity that may seem ver close to what you asked for but now perfect, coz I don't want to waste time waiting for another chance and again you never know where "the black Ferrari" might take you

confused a little

Take the fricking white ferrari.. why?

Because that is a result of your manifestation.. manifesting with specifics isn't easy UNLESS you think it's EASY.. maybe what you should do when manifesting is examine how much doubt you have about it.. I think abraham has a exercise but I'll try and err guess it or recreate it

When your thinking about something ask yourself how much doubt you have about what your manifesting.. listen carefully and you'll know how easy it's gonna be.. if you say ohh that's going to be so easy.. I'd say it's coming right away without much problem if you go.. wow that does seem hard.. I'd say it's going to be a while..

[Buttercup McToots]

Mr. Master
I love reading your replies...Your so bloody down to earth and REAL!

[themaster]

Well, thank you!

[WillieLongIII]

For me, the easiest way to "manifest and forget" is to remember that everything is relative. There are people in this world that can simply write a check for much of the material things I want in this lifetime and not worry about the expense at all. Many of the things that we want have already been done by others with ease.

In my opinion, if you worry about the how you are holding yourself back. You really have to keep your mind alert to notice the opportunities that are constantly thrown at you if you are ready to receive them.

Start shifting focus on the "why" and you will be able to increase your intensity. If you have a strong mission statement, you will be able to overcome those how questions.

[jacare]

A duffel bag of money is not going to fall out of the sky, and you probably won't win the lottery (one of my best friends is a doctorate statistician, and we've had conversations about the lottery).

If you want a lot of money, you need to own assets (inherited, bought, whatever), to start a business, or sell something. If you want to meet a girl, go out and start talking to girls. It is much quicker than sitting in your apartment and visualizing, waiting for one to knock on your door (although it has happened). If you want a Ferrari, the quickest way is to go to a Ferrari dealership and buy one, whatever color you want, white, black, or red. Now, you will have to first work out the money problem, see above. I have done exactly that. I used to drive only Fords. The my friend mentioned I should upgrade my game and get a luxury car. Honestly, I hadn't even considered it, and within a week, I had a BMW. Since then I've owned Mercedes, 2 other BMW's, and a Land Rover. I'm working on the Lamborghini Gallardo (It's way out of my league right now, have to work on all of the above(money, limiting beliefs, etc.), plus people kinda think you're a jackass in a car like that - ha-).

I think a misnomer in the IM conversation is that if you think it up, it "magically" appears. But I think it is much quicker to think it up, and then *do* something about it. In the doing the magic will begin to happen, the coincidences, the synchs, all of that. Jack Canfield has a good analogy that I like. He says think of a car driving in the night, all you can see is 100 meters ahead of you, but with only that 100 meter vision, you can drive from Los Angeles to New York, just by taking the next step.

[bananya]

Originally Posted by jacare

I think a misnomer in the IM conversation is that if you think it up, it "magically" appears. But I think it is much quicker to think it up, and then *do* something about it. In the doing the magic will begin to happen, the coincidences, the synchs, all of that. Jack Canfield has a good analogy that I like. He says think of a car driving in the night, all you can see is 100 meters ahead of you, but with only that 100 meter vision, you can drive from Los Angeles to New York, just by taking the next step.

I TOTALLY AGREE.
What I'm saying is that if you want to get from LA to NYC you know what you have to do - get a car, get some gas and start driving!
I want something now, but I'm not sure HOW to start and where to look for it.. so I constantly run through many possible options in my head and trying in different directions (I do take actions), but when some opportunities show up I get confused if to take it or wait for another one (because when you haven't made a decision you still have a freedom of choice).. and I think what's holding me back is that I'm looking into many directions ..it's like staying at the crossroad and not being sure which turn to take which will get you to NYC faster you know what I mean?

I'm WILLING to take actions but I just wish for a "wink" from the Universe to show me the right direction

any suggestions or do I just need to learn to make decisions? hehe

[themaster]

Originally Posted by bananya

I'm WILLING to take actions but I just wish for a "wink" from the Universe to show me the right direction

any suggestions or do I just need to learn to make decisions? hehe

All you have to do is feel which is the right direction.. that which leads to your excitement is the right direction..

But let's say you have 2 choices they both feel the same.. "then either choice is correct"

[bananya]

Originally Posted by themaster

All you have to do is feel which is the right direction.. that which leads to your excitement is the right direction..

But let's say you have 2 choices they both feel the same.. "then either choice is correct"

Thanks, Themaster

I have learnt that I have pretty good intuition it's about learning to ALWAYS trust it

[Daffy Duck]

A part of me hates this answer because I was there was something more clear, but: sometimes you just gotta trust the universe.

When I was younger, I found I really enjoyed computers and wanted to make a living from them. I had no idea "HOW" I was going to do this. But I kept playing with computers and kept learning about them. And many opportunities opened up in the future. They kind of just fell into my lap, as many things often do.

I'm reminded of something I read long ago and I believe in:

Most people believe if they "have" a thing (more time, money, love -- whatever), then they can finally "do" a thing (write a book, take up a hobby, go on vacation, buy a home, undertake a relationship), which will allow them to "be" a thing (happy, peaceful, content, or in love). In actuality, they are reversing the Be-Do-Have paradigm. In the universe as it really is (as opposed to how you think it is), "havingness" does not produce "beingness," but the other way around.

First you "be" the thing called "happy" (or "knowing," or "wise," or "compassionate," or whatever), then you start "doing" things from this place of beingness -- and soon you discover that what you are doing winds up bringing you the things you've always wanted to "have."

The way to set this creative process (and that's what this is...the process of creation) into motion is to look at what it is you want to "have," ask yourself what you think you would "be" if you "had" that, then go right straight to being.

In this way you reverse the way you've been using the Be-Do-Have paradigm -- in actuality, set it right -- and work with, rather than against, the creative power of the universe.

[gigij]

Daffy:

So simple and so true - sometimes we get so caught up in things we forget how simply and easily it all works.

[Silenced140]

The Universal laws are very precise. When you intend something and get in vibrational harmony with it, something must manifest. 100% of the time, IT MUST.

You need set your intention, get into vibrational harmony with it by feeling good about it. And then just let go, and let the universe take over.

Because honestly, you don't have to do **** except know what you want and feel good about it coming to you.

[Anagogy]

Originally Posted by bananya

I know this probably has been discussed a lot on this forum, but I need some ideas/advices on how to stop concentrating on "the how" when manifesting.

I've learnt that intentions do manifest better when you kinda forget about them (again, here is a controversy - it says everywhere that you need to "hold the intention" in your mind every day for some time and still many agree that it's only manifested when we let go and even better "forget" - how is explained?)..

The explanation is this: the universe already knows what you want, and is only waiting for you to achieve alignment with your desires. A big part of achieving that alignment is achieving a state of nonresistance, which, practically speaking, is a kind of positive detachment to the outcome of your manifestation. Attachment to the outcome of your manifestation can only mean one thing -- you are still vibrating from a place of lack. When you truly believe you have something, you don't concern yourself with it. You let it go. It no longer makes a difference to you whether you get it or not, because, in your mind, you ALREADY have it. Do you feel the difference in emotion there? It is a HUGE vibrational difference.

You only "want" what you don't have, and the universe "hears" this vibration of want and gives you more lack. What you need to generate is APPRECIATION. The vibrational offering of want is kinda like saying "I don't have it yet", and appreciation is more like saying "I have it and I love it".

It is not necessary to "hold" an intention for a great period of time. The moment you experience contrast which causes a preference to develop within your being, BAM, it's there baby. It is in your vibrational escrow. In fact, the only way for you to feel good now is to expand into that improved version of being that is sitting there in vibration for you. You have to expand into what life has caused you to desire to become, or you will not feel good emotionally.

Have you noticed how we are often encouraged by LoA gurus to visualize as if we already have the object of our desire? I'm going to be completely straight with you -- the visualization is just a trick, a tool, to get us to mind the vibrational gap between where we are, and where we want to be. In and of itself, the visualization does very little. It is intended that if you visualize HAVING what you want already, you will feel GOOD. It is the feeling good that attracts what you have been asking for, day after day, every day of your life both consciously and unconsciously.

Everything you want is downstream. Downstream consciousness is positive consciousness. Upstream is negative consciousness. The glass is not half empty, it is half full. Remember that. Optimism is important.

Change the way you feel about circumstances, and circumstances will change.

Originally Posted by bananya

sometimes when I have a quick thought in my head "oh it'd be nice to have that" (without really knowing how it's possible and without really "wanting"/"intending" it and it'd happen sometimes the next day (happened a lot recently) which really amazes me, it's like a game with small manifestations..

You see, this is a perfect example of what I was saying before. You saw something, and wanted it, and then detached (in effect, you, in that instant, became a vibrational match to having rather than wanting. There was no resistance in your thought, and it was delivered to you, effortlessly.

Originally Posted by bananya

nevertheless, when it comes to bigger things, ones that I REALLY WANT TO HAVE IN MY LIFE I'm constantly trying to find ways of making this happen, thinking over and over again about "THE HOW", coz I can't have this kind of attitude "oh it'd be nice to have" about things most important in my life and then let go immediatly..

This is natural. These desires REALLY mean something to you. You WANT them really bad. But it's like you are in this place, and you are pointing over to another different place and saying, "I want to be over there". And what you need to realize is, you can't be over there till you figure out what it FEELS like to BE over there.

You cannot emit a vibration of lack, and have abundance. You have to mind the vibratory gap.

Realize that well being is the NATURAL state of the universe, and anything else is RESISTANCE to that well being.

Originally Posted by bananya

oh and one more thing I have a problem with..
say, you want a black Ferrari and you want it as soon as possible because your life without Ferrari at the moment is just not satisfactory (I'm using Ferrari just as an example, I don't need a Ferrari particularly )
ok, and here you go The Universe gives you a Ferrari, but a white one... and you wanted black.. so what do you do? get a white one (thinking that it's still a Ferrari and you may waste another ... years waiting for a black one)? or keep waiting?
I have problems deciding on whether to take the opportunity that may seem ver close to what you asked for but now perfect, coz I don't want to waste time waiting for another chance and again you never know where "the black Ferrari" might take you

confused a little

First of all, realize every point in your experience is a stepping off point to yet another experience. That means that you can go anywhere from where you are, right now. Feel the power in that. Feel the freedom in that.

Things will only be hard if you make them hard. If you believe the universe will deliver half-assed results, it will. If you believe it will deliver very precise results, it will. You can't begin to imagine the resources available to intelligent infinity. Seriously. This energy creates worlds. Manifesting what you want out of life would not be a big deal for such an energy.

Action is a part of the manifestation process, but you have to understand the role it plays. There is no work, that cannot become effortless. Also, we are ALWAYS in a state of action. Just existing is a state of action. You cannot escape action. Don't even try. But when you realize all actions can become effortless if you are in alignment with what you want, there is NO work.

That is very important to understand, because when you are doing this thing right, everything flows together effortlessly. Just by "doing" what it is you naturally want to do, you will be guided to all necessary actions for the unfolding of that which you desire, provided you are always choosing the thoughts that make you feel the best in every given moment. You see, that is downstream thinking. And that will take you where you want to go.

[cylon]

Originally Posted by Anagogy

I'm going to be completely straight with you -- the visualization is just a trick, a tool, to get us to mind the vibrational gap between where we are, and where we want to be. In and of itself, the visualization does very little. It is intended that if you visualize HAVING what you want already, you will feel GOOD. It is the feeling good that attracts what you have been asking for, day after day, every day of your life both consciously and unconsciously.

Great point. I thought I knew this but I wasn't quite sure. Not worrying if your visualization is "perfect" is actually a great way to manifest even quicker. I don't think movies like the Secret make that too clear.... they put the focus on specific, visual clarity in your mind's eye (plus emotion of course). I thought I was doing something wrong because I had difficulty holding an image in my mind's eye for long periods of time.

I tell you, perfectionism doesn't go good with LOA.

[bananya]

Anagogy, THANKS a lot fot all your comments!
I'll take them into consideration, we are all here to learn and share, right? so definately, thanks.

I think I'm getting there...where I want to be After all "it's a jorney, not the destination..", right?
but a lot of good things have been happening recently, some really amazing ones, some are confusing and I still have to figure out what they meant, but so far I enjoy the process even though it takes longer that I'd want.

[TheColonel]

Anagogy, that may be the best summary of IM I've ever read.

[Anagogy]

Originally Posted by cylon

I tell you, perfectionism doesn't go good with LOA.

Well said.

Originally Posted by bananya

Anagogy, THANKS a lot fot all your comments!
I'll take them into consideration, we are all here to learn and share, right? so definately, thanks.

I think I'm getting there...where I want to be After all "it's a jorney, not the destination..", right?
but a lot of good things have been happening recently, some really amazing ones, some are confusing and I still have to figure out what they meant, but so far I enjoy the process even though it takes longer that I'd want.

That is the best attitude you could have toward learning a new skill.

Enjoying the process is what it is all about.

Originally Posted by TheColonel

Anagogy, that may be the best summary of IM I've ever read.

Thank you, I appreciate the compliment deeply.

[IFeelGood]

It is not necessary to "hold" an intention for a great period of time.

Have you noticed how we are often encouraged by LoA gurus to visualize as if we already have the object of our desire? I'm going to be completely straight with you -- the visualization is just a trick, a tool, to get us to mind the vibrational gap between where we are, and where we want to be. In and of itself, the visualization does very little. It is intended that if you visualize HAVING what you want already, you will feel GOOD. It is the feeling good that attracts what you have been asking for, day after day, every day of your life both consciously and unconsciously.

So Anagogy, I would liek to know how you do it. How much time do you recommend on an intention? Let's say I want to manifest a horse. I put my intention out in the universe. Now after that one time of putting out the intention and trusting the universe do I forget about it and never think about it again? Or, do I think about it while visualizing periodically? If so, how often should I be visualizing it?
That is where I get confused...

[Daffy Duck]

Originally Posted by Anagogy

It is the feeling good that attracts what you have been asking for, day after day, every day of your life both consciously and unconsciously.

This is very interesting. When I was younger, I thought about all the things I could want in life. Sometimes it seemed like it would be a lot of work. I remember reading some sort of Zen quote that said to the effect of, "It is easier to change your internal circumstances than your external." So I thought to myself, "Ya know, I'll work hard for what I want in life if I need to, but I'm really just going to focus on being happy wherever I'm at, because truly I'm already blessed."

I've never had much trouble getting what I wanted in life. I have a career I enjoy, a great girlfriend, health, peace of mind (most of the time!), more than enough money, some good friends, etc. Ya know, the general good stuff we humans desire.

Your comment has reminded me how well "feeling good" has worked for me. When I was 14 or 15, I wrote an article in my journal about what I saw as the two keys to a successful life: Overcoming laziness (self-discipline) and gratefulness. Self-discipline guarantees we do what we want to do, what we should do, when we want to and should do it. Gratefulness guarantees we appreciate and enjoy it. Your statement of feeling good goes along well with this.

I need to dig up my old journal. Thanks for your post. A nice trip down memory lane.

[Anagogy]

Originally Posted by IFeelGood

So Anagogy, I would liek to know how you do it. How much time do you recommend on an intention? Let's say I want to manifest a horse. I put my intention out in the universe. Now after that one time of putting out the intention and trusting the universe do I forget about it and never think about it again? Or, do I think about it while visualizing periodically? If so, how often should I be visualizing it?
That is where I get confused...

Think about it as often (or as little) as you like. The more attention you give something the more it will expand in your experience, but you don't have to drown your consciousness with it for to come into your life. Your "vibrational escrow" as Abraham calls it, is filled with your preferences, whether you are thinking about them or not. When you feel good, things come into your experience that symbolize and reflect "feeling good".

Guess what determines what those symbols for well being are? Yep, your consciously and unconsciously developed preferences. Every time you experienced something you didn't want, it simultaneously highlighted what you DID want. This goes into your bag of "abundance to be", as it were. Then it is merely a matter of you letting go of your resistance to allow that into your life.

If it is something you want, you are naturally going to think about it a lot. Which is fine, by the way. But try to soften your thoughts away from anxiety about its "not-here-yet-ness", and more towards appreciation and admiration of what it is you are trying to attract. You see, the great thing about your emotions is they tell you if you are headed in the right direction. If you are feeling appreciation, love, and joy at the exciting thought of experiencing your desired reality, you are visualizing/thinking/intending correctly, because otherwise you would not feel those emotions.

When you get caught up in the details of how often you should think about something, or in other words, trying to quantify the process, you are restricting the channels of creativity and your power is strange and far away. It's like you are looking for the perfect formula for manifestation. But there is no formula -- the process is less like math and more like art. You have to "feel" your way there.

Think about the way you think about objects you already have. Do you think about them a lot? The answer is usually: sometimes. When you have something, and you are interested in it, it occupies quite a bit of your attention, and consequently occupies more of your experience than it would if you were not interested in it at the time. You want to mimic that feeling, but with your imagination. Think about something you presently own, and love, and you will have an idea of what vibration to shoot for.

Originally Posted by Daffy Duck

Thanks for your post. A nice trip down memory lane.

I'm always happy to dredge up lost or forgotten memories. I'm like the ghost of Daffy past.