HELP! LOA sending me what I don't want 2 B!

[cbreeze]

Almost two years since I experienced major losses (mom's death/divorce/financial loss) which left me sad/mad.

It's time to move on, however, EVVVRRRRYY time I think I made a positive connection w/someone, they are sad/mad. I need/want to heal by hanging out with positive, happy ppl but keep attracting sad/mad. I thought I was no longer sad/mad, but apparently, the universe is telling me that I am. So then, how can I stop!

Is it a fake it till you feel it kinda thing?

[Acting Like Godot]

I would recommend that you try the Abraham-Hicks method of reaching out for the next-better thought. And then the next, and the next, and the next.

Eg when you catch yourself thinking:

"I am sad and mad"

replace it with:

"Well at least I am not as sad and mad as I was two years ago"

then reach for the next better thought:

"Things do get better, after all. It just takes time."

Then:

"Things ARE getting better for me. I just need to be patient."

Perhaps next:

- "Today I am sad, but at least I'm not mad."
- "I've got a sad friend, but at least he's not mad."
- "Maybe my friend will be better tomorrow."
- "I will be less sad tomorrow."
- "I could even be a little happy tomorrow."
- "What shall I do, to make myself a little happy tomorrow."
- "Yeah, that's a good idea. Why don't I do it now."

Etc etc.

[JHL]

It can sometimes be surprising how long it can take us to get over something. Of course you want to shake it off and move on, but it sounds like it was a painful time in your life that had a profound impact on you, and that there is still some healing work for you to do.

Its useful to try surround yourself with positive, happy people, to be sure - but nobody can do your healing for you.

Feelings are your body/soul trying to get your attention. They are alerting you to something. They want expression. And the best thing you can do is to pay attention. I know you want to move on, but I think in order to do so you first need to acknowledge that you are still in pain. To do this, you need to go within yourself and expore that pain. Ultimately it needs to be expressed - it needs to be heard, understood and then let go. Only when you've gone through this process, will you be healed.

If you deny your own feelings and try to push past them, or try to convince yourself you're happy again - you're simply repressing them, pushing them back inside yourself, leaving them to fester. Its a bit like getting a splinter and pushing it back inside your skin every time it tries to surface.

How to do this process? I recommend a "Journey" type meditation. You can research this on google (Brandon Bays commercialised the process) and do it yourself, or with the help of a therapist. Its essentially an inner journey/meditation that facilitates you going within yourself, getting in touch with the feelings underlying your pain, and allowing you to acknowledge and express them. If you undertake this process and connect with your pain, I guarantee you that afterwards you will experience a profound liberation.

"Guarantee" is not a word that should be used lightly when dealing with the foibles of human emotion, but I've done it myself, so I feel reasonably confident to speak passionately about this process. I also believe that honouring ones feelings is ultimately the best thing any person can do.