REWRITING MEMORIES from the past! feeling hopeless

[bmlyeryk]

Ive come across methods where you can rewrite your subconscious memories to heal yourself. things like "magic eraser/timeline NLP" or "it never happened"----BUT, only if you pay lots of money or see a distant therapist or take expensive seminars

how do you do these things, ON YOUR OWN (no therapist)? what is the procedure to rewrite your past memories?

im in (complete) desperacy. i tried to release repressed emotions yesterday but only a brief flood of sadness came out, and i couldnt release anymore.

affirmations, hypnosis (i really am seeing a hypnotherapist) and other stuff like this arent working for me. i *honestly* feel hopeless in emotional recovery. only neurotic emotions like fear, self hate and storngly believing i deserve a bad life (b/c of past & current experiences)

these mainstream therapies, as like to put it, are like putting roses on a pile of garbage (affirmations/hypnosis) or fresh apples on top of many rotten ones. the negative is still there!
even if they are helpful for most people, THEY DONT WORK FOR ME. i seem to have really solid, concrete beliefs of deserving the worst & that my subconscious deliberatly punishes me & does not take requests (i request to myself sincerely, crying & feeling suicidal, pleading for healing ..even preprogramming dreams, & nothing happens). im unable to argue or challenge these beliefs


WHAT CAN I DO, FOR FREE, TO RELEASE & HEAL NEUROTICISM & FEAR FOR GOOD, without affirmations & such? for me, it does no good to hammer in positive words to overwrite hardcore emotional baggage. it may work for many people, but im not one of those "mildly damaged" victims.
i truly believe & feel theres an unresolved trauma in me & conscious affirmations are too weak for this (b/c words are verbal & emotions/feelings are not).

i can tell by my dreams they are often more pleasant & fun than in real life (or sometimes agonizing, like experiencing things from the past that ive lost) which depresses me & i feel often empty. i know for certainty that its a psychogic/unconscious emotional hell, not mild negativity

[Anagogy]

First off, realize your emotional state won't change over night. Your vibrational state of being has to be done gradually, you can't jump vibrational thresholds.

You don't have to rewrite your memories, just reinterpret them. In everything we see, there is good and bad. If you focus on the good, you will start to vacillate in the direction of positivity rather than completely in the negative. You will experience this as some sort of visceral feeling of relief. Any feeling of "letting go" and relief means you are ceasing the resistance. You won't feel amazing instantly, like a light switch getting turned on, but if you keep this "cup is half full" (rather than empty) mentality you will start to pull more of that into your experience.

A belief is just a thought you keep thinking. If you believe you are unworthy it is because you are continuing to look at evidence that makes that seem apparent to you. Of course you are going to find evidence for whatever you believe. Imagine what it would feel like to have accomplished something that made you feel worthy. Even if it is imaginary, it won't matter. Hold onto that daydream for a while. Get a grasp on that feeling. It is your life preserver in the ocean of your depression.

Look for memories where you felt good. Whether you contemplate memories of the past, present, or contemplate what the future will be like, you are offering those thoughts in the NOW. And THAT equals your vibrational offering. Focus on the positive wherever you can see it. Once you get in the habit of directing your thoughts in directions that make you feel even just a little better it will begin a vibrational pull that will eventually be thought enough times to become a consistent vibrational offering, or in other words: what most call a belief.

[themaster]

I know of this quickfix..
Jim Self - Spiritual Teacher review

As I've already mentioned and am going to keep on mentioning.. cause I think it works.. I would certainly say it worked for me..

My other teacher Bashar talks about the idea of continuity.. it's a idea of carrying the past with us.. which continues to create in the present.. (because the past is a illusion ) anyway my new teacher "Jim Self" mentioned that his "quick fix" would take away some of that.. I generally agree while I can generally remember the past STILL.. it feels disconnected/not me anymore

Anyway.. I am still offering and will offer to replicate jim's course for those that wish to experiment you may be able to (if you can't afford his dvd's) find them out there somewhere.. my basic quick looking found nothing (this is fringe stuff were talking about in new age.. however I did find something similar just not his method)

Anyway.. besides for the quick fix this is the only other method I know off.. from my teacher Bashar

FUTURE MEMORY
7-5-88
Encino, CA


All right, I say many of you have heard of the idea of a tool called future memory, in order to create the reality that you want. We will be discussing this idea this night of your time. You may use that as your entitlement, if you wish, "Future Memory." But before we begin, I will say, "How are you all this evening of your time"?

We thank you for your participation, your participation in the understanding, the comprehension and the experience of the growth of your own beingness; and the changes and the impact that has upon your world. We thank you for the momentum and your energy.

Let us begin the idea of creating the future memory. It goes hand in hand with the notion of creating the reality you want in very specific terms. During the idea that you have called a workshop that we have recently conducted with you we discussed some very specific tools with regard for creating the specific kind of reality that you want to attract to your life. The creation of future memory is another such tool, one that can be used with quite a bit of precision, for, once again, it involves the imagination and the picture making capacity that your imagination has, but in a very different way: approaching it, as you say, through another doorway where you may have not yet placed too many guards, too many ideas of analysis that would prevent you from being able to use it in a very fluid manner.

Always, always when we approach these tools and these ideas with each and every one of you, we always do it from a different direction so that we can touch on as many possible ways as there are possible people, possible personas within your society; so that the same idea, the same energy, can be approached from all the different ways that there are to approach it from, from as many different ways as there are people in your world. So that each and every one of you will find the exact and most appropriate way that works best for you. Of course it is up to you to do this specifically within in your own meditations, within your own discoveries. But we are more than willing to experience with you the joy of discovering all the ways that you can look at the same one thing, the same one energy out of which all dimensions of reality are created.

Now, the idea of future memory basically is analogous to the idea of creating a scenario in your imagination that is in every way, shape and form, in every possible specific detail, the scenario that you wish to have in your life. We discussed this in the workshop as the idea of identifying strongly with your imagination scenario: creating the scenario, locking into the scenario with your emotions, identifying strongly with it, and then acting, physically acting, that scenario through to, in a sense, train your physical cellular structure to develop the habits that go along with the person who lives in the scenario you say you want to live in.

[themaster]

These are the ideas that we touched upon in the workshop, steps one, two and three: naming the scenario, locking into the scenario emotionally and physically acting the scenario through. But here this idea of creating Future Memory is yet another way to approach the idea of creating the specific scenario in your imagination that is representative of the life you want to live.We call it future memory because we use the concept that you have called memory to activate it. It is something that all of you are very familiar with; you all know how to basically remember something.

Now, very often you say, "Well yes, it is very easy to remember in general terms but memory is always of something that is past, something in the past, something I've already done." That is not always so; sometimes what you call precognition can, in another way, be called future memory. But the idea, the way we are going to discuss it this night of your time, is in using the mechanism that you already call past memory, with which you are all relatively familiar; and bringing that mechanism, associating that mechanism to the idea of projecting ahead in the following way.

Pick right now an idea, any idea whatsoever, of something you know that you have already done. It would be a good suggestion, shall we say, to pick something that you found enjoyable, so that you will be excited about it instead of lamenting it and bringing up the idea of guilt. We would suggest you find something in your past that represents a very enjoyable experience; remember it now, in the way that you simply, typically remember anything. Take a moment to do so.

As you are remembering this scenario, roll it around in your mind. You find yourself probably very easily identifying with it emotionally. It is a very simple thing to plug your emotions into it because, as you say in your physical linear reality, "Well yes, of course, I already experienced it that way; so all I'm actually doing is remembering the experience as fully as I can; "No big trick," as you say.

But remember, remember, remember, we have discussed with you many times the idea that memory is actually being created right now in the present. You don't actually remember the past, per se; you create an idea, you create a perception in the present, that you call a memory of the past. It is a memory, so to speak; it is a recognition; it is a cognition in the present, so to speak, of another probable you, another aspect of the total being that you are. Because you are beings that have created familiarity with linear time, some of those aspects of yourself are more easily relegated to a past. Some of those aspects of your present self are more easily relegated to a future or an alternate dimension, anywhere, but here and now.

In order for you to focus in this particular reality, you have as a society created, as you know, a great deal of separation; to isolate certain aspects of the total being so that that aspect, this persona in this life, in what you call your present scenario, only has a focus of its limited self and no other. So that it can get on about the business of being that specific isolated local person, so that it doesn't get confused, as you say, by bleed through from all the other realities that you are living simultaneously.

This is all well and good, and is a very valid experience, of course. But now, as your society is expanding its consciousness, a lot of this bleed through is happening automatically because you can absorb more and more. You can have more cognition of all the other ideas that are going on simultaneously. And that is the point we wish to underline, that this so called reality of the future that you desire so strongly is going on right now, simultaneously with the reality you say is usually the only one you actually think is going on right now; just as the past is still happening right now. It isn't so much that they are truly stretched out in linear fashion; before, now, later; but they are all simultaneously co-existent. And your focus, and only your definitional focus, determines that you experience them in a segregated, linear fashion.

So just as it is very easy for you to recall something that you have already done, and is very simple to remember and conjure up all the emotions that you felt then. Sometimes, by the way, you will notice when we talk about acting these scenarios out, that if you are actually recalling a past memory strongly enough, you will actually find your body going through the motions that you did then as an automatic response to what you have already done; if you identify strongly enough with it. This habit, this strength of conviction, this strength of identification is what we are after with regard to making that association to the future memory, the scenario you create in your imagination that you say you would love to have in your life.

Learn to identify with the ideas in a very strong, emotional and physiological way, to things you have already done. Get into the habit, in your meditations, of recalling joyful events, many, many different joyful events; things that you really like about your life.
List them out, if you want to. Label them down; write them out so they are clear to you. Pick many, many events that were very enjoyable for you and go through them one at a time.

Take your time; enjoy them, do not hurry through them out of anxiety and desperation to apply the tool to the future memory. Take your time and really reminisce, as you say. Walk slowly and joyfully down memory lane with all those things, so that you are able to extend your full sensibilities and really smell and really taste and really hear and really see and really feel. Truly relive those experiences so that your physical body begins to react to them.

Then pick the scenario, after you have done that, pick the scenario that you say represents the very specific reality you would desire to have, and then put it somewhere in that list. You can even play a game with yourself. You can write all these different ideas on separate cards, and you can mix them all up, so that you do not necessarily know what order the future memory will fall in with all the past ones. Then start at the top and go down the list again. Do it over and over until the future memory is as strongly recalled as the past memories, until there is no difference in your reaction between the two.Then you will learn that there really is no difference. Then you will understand that is a very simple thing to manifest that future reality as your present reality. Because it will literally become something you have already done; and it will be a given. You will take it for granted that it is already something within you, not something that you have to reach for that is beyond you. Not something that is outside of you, that you have to travel towards; not something that you have to attain, someday, somewhere in that dim dark future out there.

You will be retraining your body, your consciousness to accept it as if it is already a given, already done, already seen; what you say in your French language, deja vu. You will create that effect for something in your typical reality that has not happened yet, linearly speaking. But if your body resonance, if your consciousness resonance, begins to vibrate at a frequency that says, "This has already happened," then your reality cannot let such a vacuum stand in your physical manifestation. If you are saying this is something that already exists for you, it must be automatically supplied.

You will create that space; you will create that vacuum into which that reality must come. And only that reality will come, because that reality, as you know, is a specific frequency. And you are giving off, at that moment, that specific frequency as you recall the future memory. As you reminisce this idea you want, you will give off that frequency; you will take it for granted that it is already within you. And as such all you have to do from that point forward is begin to look around and you will see that the manifestations of that reality are already springing up all around you, because they must be there, since you have already, vibrationally speaking, done this thing.

So give yourselves this opportunity. Do this, as you say, homework or home fun, this meditation. And enjoy it fully, savoir it. Do it in whatever way, shape or form your imagination says would be the most fun; that will be the key. And then you can incorporate anything you want to into that particular type, into that particular list, into that particular approach. So that you can allow yourselves to lose your definition, to blend your definitions of past and future into one all encompassing present in which you already contain everything that you need to contain to be who you desire to be.

You all follow along? Do you think you'll all remember what I said?

Audience: Yes!

Bashar: Oh, all right, that will be up to you. We thank you at this time for allowing us to share with you that particular reflection. We bid that you have an exciting time with that meditation, in your own time and on your own timing.

At this timing we extend to each and everyone of you, once again, our deepest gratitude at being allowed to experience your consciousness, at being allowed to remember you in our present, and in being remembered by you in your present.

We thank you for this interaction, we thank you for this sharing. In return I ask you now in what way, at this timing, may I be of service to you? Do remember to speak up boldly so that all may share who you are..

[Bruce Achterberg]

bmlyeryk,

I'd like to describe what works for me.

I'd like to make you aware that what works for me isn't a quick fix--it will require some deliberate focus and effort and learning--but, in my experience, it's well worth it. Also, it goes beyond the scope of this post to fully describe what works for me--I'd need a few hundred posts, or many hours of speaking with you. So instead of seeing this post as a solution that will fix all of your problems, see it as an introduction to something that you might find helpful.

* * *

I'll begin by explaining how I interpret emotions. Keep in mind that this is one way of interpreting them, but in my experience, it's the most empowering, resonant one.

I like to see my emotions as feedback, rather as things that need to be removed or released. If I am to remove or release anything, it's my focus on something that is causing me to experience negative emotion and instead put my focus on something that feels a little better to me consistently enough that I begin to feel better sometimes, then often, then almost always, then always (at least regarding that subject; I don't believe any human will ever feel good always, in every moment, but I do believe you can feel pretty darn good--even really great--most of the time).

When I am looking at something in a certain way--whether an experience from the present, a memory from the past, or a vision or dream or aspiration of the "future"--how I feel, right in this moment, is about what I am focusing on, and how much it resonates with the desires I have as well as what I know to be true at the core of my being--which you could say is my "heart," or my "soul," or even my "gut." (And you could call those deep desires "subconscious" desires if you like, since you might not--probably don't--have full, detailed conscious awareness of all of your desires. What you definitely have, though, is an awareness on them at some level. E.g. You could definitely tell if you were doing something you wanted--desired--to do vs doing something you didn't want to do.)

So, to sort of ground this theory in some experience, if you like, try this exercise--which statement feels better to focus on:

I have so many problems; I feel overwhelmed; nothing is working

OR

I feel hopeful that, in time, I can make improvements

Did you feel the difference between those two statements?

If you didn't, try reading the first one 3 times, and then read the second one 3 times, and see if you notice the difference then (if you don't notice a difference, that's okay).

I bet, the first one felt not-so-good--you probably felt negative emotion when you focused on it--and the second one probably felt a little better. I'm not saying it had to make you feel like you were bouncing off the walls with joy, just that it felt better than the previous statement. (And if both statements didn't feel good, that's okay. Nothing wrong with that. It just means the particular statements I chose weren't very relevant to where you currently stand.)

So, with this basic premise, you can probably understand that if you focus on something that causes you to feel negative emotion, if you keep doing it (maybe because it's sort of hard not to focus on it, or because), you sort of form a pattern of focus--a habitual way of focusing; of thinking (which some call a belief)--and eventually you begin to focus on it so often that you don't feel as good as what you might if you weren't focusing on it.

So, so far, I've established--tried to show you--a way of looking at emotions that is probably different from what you've seen before. Learning to understand what your emotions and why you feel the way you do is at the basis of all I'm sharing with you here--I feel it's perhaps the most, or one of the most important things you can learn in your life--so that's why I wanted to begin with that.

You said in your post that you've tried so many systems and therapies, but they don't seem to work for you, and while I can't be sure, I believe your awareness of why they aren't working may be more accurate than you realise. Again, I can't be sure--I don't know enough about you or your situation--but it seems that you are using and seeking help from methods that, relative to how you feel right now--to the dominant patterns of focus and thought you have--probably aren't that helpful. And that's okay--nothing wrong with that--but it's not so helpful if you want to feel better, which I can definitely see that you do want to feel better.

There are many, many reasons why something might not work for you apart from them not being helpful to you relative to where you are right now, but that is a fairly big factor. E.g. If you feel angry or frustrated, if someone tried to make jokes to cheer you up, you'd probably get more frustrated. If you keep trying to do something and it's not working, I would suggest that either the method is not a good match for you, or the method isn't holistic enough, or general enough to apply to a broader range of people. Maybe it requires you to believe something that you do not, and so, without that belief, you find it hard to make progress.

Ultimately, all "healing" is self-healing. People can fascilitate your own self-healing by inspiring you to your own wellbeing, and they can also provide you with an environment that nurtures and makes re-aligning with your wellbeing much easier, but ultimately, you are the one who will heal you.

But I would like to take the focus off healing a bit, since with healing, there's always a focus on what is wrong, what isn't working, and what you don't want. And there's nothing wrong with acknowledging those things, but the more you focus on them, the more you will feel the negative emotion which is your indicator that, in this moment, you are focusing on something that does not align with--does not resonate with--your core desires and your natural state of being, and it would be greatly advantageous to you to shift your focus to something that feels a little better. Not something hugely positive (so much so that it doesn't make you feel better, but might actually make you feel worse--might actually highlight your lack of progress), but just something that makes you feel a little bit better--something that gives you a sensation--a feeling--of relief.

At the core, it is as simple as that: little by little, we focus on things that don't feel so good--come to look at things in a way that, while it seems logical, leaves us feeling not-so-good; leaves us feeling disempowered--and because we don't really understand why we feel that way, or what to do about it--how to feel better, and the importance of feeling good--life can begin to feel not-so-good, and when that happens, we know something is wrong. I believe, at our core, we know so intuitively, so instrinctively, that life is supposed to be good--is supposed to feel good--that when it doesn't we know that something is seriously off, and that is why we begin to focus so much on feeling better: because we know that is our natural state.

With that said, now were starting to get to the core of this, and while I would like to continue to explain this to you, I feel I know someone who can do it better, and so, if what I have said so far resonates with you so far, I would like to introduce you to them and let you explore past this point on your own if you want to.

All of what I described above I learned from my own life experience as well as the work of Abraham-Hicks. What Abraham expresses has helped me put words to, and to better understand and navigate, my life experience, and while I am far from perfect at applying what I learn from them--I do indeed still seek help from others when faced with something that is challenging, whether they be friends who will listen, or psychics, intuitives, coaches, or healers--I feel a certain comfort knowing that I know--I remember--what my emotions are, and what they are telling me. I feel like, in my emotions, intuition, and impulses, I have found something that will help guide me, reliably, for the rest of my life.

Abraham-Hicks have many products available (from books, to DVDs, to audio CDs--they even have workshops you can go to), but probably the best (or at least my favorite) place to start and get introduced to them would be the videos on YouTube.

They have their own YouTube channel, and if you do a search on "Abraham Hicks", you'll find many videos that have been uploaded by YouTube users. They also have an introductory series of MP3s that you can listen to on their website.

[smartile]

Originally Posted by bmlyeryk

Ive come across methods where you can rewrite your subconscious memories to heal yourself. things like "magic eraser/timeline NLP" or "it never happened"----BUT, only if you pay lots of money or see a distant therapist or take expensive seminars

how do you do these things, ON YOUR OWN (no therapist)? what is the procedure to rewrite your past memories?

Hi bmlyeryk,

I know someone who teaches how to re-write past memories through a process called the Past Perception Revision Process. He teaches it in his book How to Get Lots of Money for Anything Fast.

Stuart Lichtman is the author. The problem is that not everyone can learn from a book. His processes are solid and do work. They use some elements of NLP, but the problem with is that with any process it takes practice and consistency just to learn the clearing process. If you manage to get through the initial details and master the process then you can easily and effectively change limiting memories.

But if you want skip the learning curve and get the quick fix - then you'll want to find a coach or practitioner (who knows what they're doing) to work with you one-on-one.

Either way you'll have to pay for the results you want; either upfront with a practitioner/coach OR with sweat equity to learn the clearing processes and get results.

If you're still interested in Stuarts book, here's my review of the book: How to Get Lots of Money for Anything, Fast! | Mind Power for Your Personal Growth - Freedom Education

Steve

[bmlyeryk]

well....almost miraculously the day i fell apart, i came across a therapist's site where they do various techniques that are fast & can work for any emotional issue. they incorporate various well known techniques & healing approaches too. surprising its in my area (local)! so i told my mom & she agreed to make an appointment


i hope my mind (which probably delivered this as a solution despite the fact that i wanted a healing dream instead) will not disappoint me again. i will approach this skeptically but with a open mind

[themaster]

Awesome, remember you are the one who allows said method to work.. if this feels like it resonates it will work for you

[TonyToneTone]

Try this. Lay down in a comfortable position and take a few slow deep breaths to enter a deeper state. Now tell yourself that you are going to go through your past and see each negative event as it's positive opposite. So for instance, if someone yelled at you in the past, this time you'll visualize them saying something nice.

You could use this script on yourself if you like: "I want you to imagine whatever I tell you. For instance if I say you are six years old with bleach blond hair, then you are six years old with bleach blond hair. Don't think or reason on what I'm saying, just imagine it." Then allow your past images to come up but this time replace them with their positive opposite one, one at a time.

Your subconscious cannot tell the difference between what's real and what's false. Start feeding it these new images and it'll believe them just as it would whatever was in there before.

You can also get yourself into a relaxed state and see each person who hurt you and tell them, "I love you. I forgive you."

[Acting Like Godot]

Some of you might know that I am an award-winning poet.

I recently attended a writing retreat for advanced writers (everyone there has published at least one book). Among other things, there was a workshop discussing how to tap your memories, so as to get ideas for short stories, novels, plays etc.

The instructor began by discussing how to fictionalise and dramatise your memory (for the sake of writing fiction). You start off with an actual, authentic memory, of an incident, place or person, as the basic template for the story.

But as you proceed, you add in the fictional twists and turns; you weave in bits of other unrelated memories; you exaggerate the personality traits of the main character to make him more interesting, etc etc.

Then someone pointed out the "actual, authentic" memory isn't very actual or authentic anyway. For example, try to think back to the year when you were, say, 12 years old. You will remember some things that happened then, but the simple fact is that there are numerous other events in that year, which you have forgotten about.

For example, suppose you're 30 years old now, and suppose that when you were 12, you were in a class of 30 students. Unless you've kept in touch with them all these years, then in all likelihood, now you probably cannot remember the names and faces of most of them. Let alone what games you played with them; what fights you had with them; what you talked to them about, etc etc.

What you do remember are just the incidents and people who somehow struck you as significant or noteworthy in some way. They endure in your memory, because you found them significant or noteworthy in some way.

Eg suppose you remember Billy Clarkson, the big, brown-haired bully who pushed you down in the playground and stepped on your hand. Or perhaps you remember Emily Jefferson, the fat girl who drew beautiful pictures and always scored the top marks for Art.

Those memories stays with you up to today, because you accorded special significance to those particular incidents and those particular persons.

Yet this is a very subjective process. You probably can see that you could easily have forgotten this incident too. In other words, one day in your life when you were 12 years old, you could indeed have bullied in the playground, yet 5, 10 or 15 years later, you might well have forgotten completely about the incident. Similarly, you might very well have forgotten completely about who was best in Art (or for that matter, in Math, or History or Science).

Billy Clarkson and Emily Jefferson might easily, completely and soundlessly faded away from your reality.

Each of our realities are like that. The past is an illusion. Sometimes you can't even remember what you did last Wednesday. If you can remember, it's simply because you're doing it to yourself. You created the memory for yourself, and held on to it.

Meanwhile, there were numerous other persons, incidents, places, that you saw, heard, touched, experienced, but you decided to allow them to slip away into nothingness. They're all gone now, and you don't even know what they are.