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Silenced140 · 10-25-2009, 06:37 PM

I always thought people who had what they wanted must have had the genes for it until i started reading stuff about intention manifestation and mentalist beliefs.

If we are all creating our realities then why do people that know nothing about intention manifestation or reality creation and law of attraction seem to still be able to live great lives ??

Do their parents do a better job of instilling positive beliefs in the subconscious minds of their children ?

Why do some people grow up confident, believing they are attractive, believing everyone loves them ? Believing they can pick up any guy or girl they want ?

They don't have any idea what power they have and they still have great lives ?

Why is this so ?

ttt · 10-25-2009, 06:42 PM

Maybe they have learned to be such in a previous life

rei · 10-25-2009, 06:49 PM

in my understanding, the law of attraction works whether we know it or believe it or not. it's a cosmic law that doesn't need our conscious acceptance or permission to exist and affect our experience.

seems to me you may have some resentment or jealousy about these individuals who seem to be so natural at acting the way you would probably like to act yourself. you don't know the context though - they may have worked for months to develop that demeanor before you observed them. or they may be totally phony about it, hiding a very low sense of self. in my experience, there are far more people who can work with self-improvement than the number of people who are just totally perfect and naturally, completely satisfied with every single area of their lives.

maybe, instead of trying to figure out the secret to their success, you could work on yourself and on developing those same traits. it is totally possible for you to seem the same way, for an observer to end up wondering 'what does that person have that i don't? what is their secret?'

rawxstasy · 10-25-2009, 08:11 PM

Why do some people grow up confident, believing they are attractive, believing everyone loves them ? Believing they can pick up any guy or girl they want ?

I think some of it does come from good parenting. I have seen parents who are there for their children, and show that they are loved and the children seem to do well in life. This does not mean that's true in every case.

For myself, I am very attractive and growing up alot of people told me that but I never heard it from my own parents. I think this was their own warped view that I would get a "big head". I even heard my mother asking people not make comments about my looks. My parents also never praised me about anything positive ( did hear alot of criticism though) and they never told me they loved me or showed physical affection towards me. Their view was - "well we're feeding you - so that shows we love you." I grew up very insecure and believing I was unloveable. Fortunately I have been able to turn this around but it took many years.

mikethedrummer44 · 10-25-2009, 10:02 PM

I think it's actually a vibration thing. I don't know if you've read many of Erin's posts, but they talk about vibrations. You basically are what you want to be, period.

I remember a couple years ago I wondered why I didn't get any respect. I was just starting high school, and was lacking some confidence. I tried to be part of the "in crowd" to gain confidence, but I was never really one of them. Then I switched schools, and had to change completely. If I wanted to make any friends, I needed to forget everything I knew, and do my own thing. I would tell myself before I went to school "I have many friends, I am a leader, I get respect." At first it was hard, but over time, those thoughts became my reality. It's because I was able to raise my vibration.

So it's possible that the naturally "cool" people were raised in a home that naturally raised there vibration to that level. But it IS possible to do it yourself, at any time of your life. Hope this helps!

Silenced140 · 10-28-2009, 03:46 AM

Alright thanks a lot guys, i think the vibration theory makes a lot of sense.

Im midway through highschool, ive grown up with very well intended parents, but mabye lacked the passion in teaching my things.

I used to be lacking self confidence and thinking i was supposed to be a certain way because of genetics but i know i can do anything now.

mikethedrummer44 · 10-28-2009, 05:51 PM

Yup, blaming genetics isn't going to change anything. Positive thinking and believing will! Good luck!

10-25-2009, 06:37 PM	#1 (permalink)
Silenced140 Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Los Angeles, California Posts: 443	Why are some people naturally cool, confident , attractive ? I always thought people who had what they wanted must have had the genes for it until i started reading stuff about intention manifestation and mentalist beliefs. If we are all creating our realities then why do people that know nothing about intention manifestation or reality creation and law of attraction seem to still be able to live great lives ?? Do their parents do a better job of instilling positive beliefs in the subconscious minds of their children ? Why do some people grow up confident, believing they are attractive, believing everyone loves them ? Believing they can pick up any guy or girl they want ? They don't have any idea what power they have and they still have great lives ? Why is this so ?

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10-25-2009, 06:42 PM	#2 (permalink)
ttt Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 169	Maybe they have learned to be such in a previous life

10-25-2009, 06:49 PM	#3 (permalink)
rei Family Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: earth, everywhere and nowhere Posts: 9,713	in my understanding, the law of attraction works whether we know it or believe it or not. it's a cosmic law that doesn't need our conscious acceptance or permission to exist and affect our experience. seems to me you may have some resentment or jealousy about these individuals who seem to be so natural at acting the way you would probably like to act yourself. you don't know the context though - they may have worked for months to develop that demeanor before you observed them. or they may be totally phony about it, hiding a very low sense of self. in my experience, there are far more people who can work with self-improvement than the number of people who are just totally perfect and naturally, completely satisfied with every single area of their lives. maybe, instead of trying to figure out the secret to their success, you could work on yourself and on developing those same traits. it is totally possible for you to seem the same way, for an observer to end up wondering 'what does that person have that i don't? what is their secret?'

10-25-2009, 08:11 PM	#4 (permalink)
rawxstasy Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Madison, WI Posts: 961	Why do some people grow up confident, believing they are attractive, believing everyone loves them ? Believing they can pick up any guy or girl they want ? I think some of it does come from good parenting. I have seen parents who are there for their children, and show that they are loved and the children seem to do well in life. This does not mean that's true in every case. For myself, I am very attractive and growing up alot of people told me that but I never heard it from my own parents. I think this was their own warped view that I would get a "big head". I even heard my mother asking people not make comments about my looks. My parents also never praised me about anything positive ( did hear alot of criticism though) and they never told me they loved me or showed physical affection towards me. Their view was - "well we're feeding you - so that shows we love you." I grew up very insecure and believing I was unloveable. Fortunately I have been able to turn this around but it took many years.

10-25-2009, 10:02 PM	#5 (permalink)
mikethedrummer44 Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 658	I think it's actually a vibration thing. I don't know if you've read many of Erin's posts, but they talk about vibrations. You basically are what you want to be, period. I remember a couple years ago I wondered why I didn't get any respect. I was just starting high school, and was lacking some confidence. I tried to be part of the "in crowd" to gain confidence, but I was never really one of them. Then I switched schools, and had to change completely. If I wanted to make any friends, I needed to forget everything I knew, and do my own thing. I would tell myself before I went to school "I have many friends, I am a leader, I get respect." At first it was hard, but over time, those thoughts became my reality. It's because I was able to raise my vibration. So it's possible that the naturally "cool" people were raised in a home that naturally raised there vibration to that level. But it IS possible to do it yourself, at any time of your life. Hope this helps!

10-28-2009, 03:46 AM	#6 (permalink)
Silenced140 Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Los Angeles, California Posts: 443	Alright thanks a lot guys, i think the vibration theory makes a lot of sense. Im midway through highschool, ive grown up with very well intended parents, but mabye lacked the passion in teaching my things. I used to be lacking self confidence and thinking i was supposed to be a certain way because of genetics but i know i can do anything now.

10-28-2009, 05:51 PM	#7 (permalink)
mikethedrummer44 Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 658	Yup, blaming genetics isn't going to change anything. Positive thinking and believing will! Good luck!

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