You Want Nothing - Your Ego Wants It All (Law Of Attraction)

[Emanuel Kingson]

You probably think you want more money, a bigger house, a new car or a soul mate and so on?

Well, I’m here to tell you:

You don’t.

You actually don’t want anything else than what you have right now. You don’t want the present moment to be different from what it is.

What wants all the stuff is not you. It’s your ego.

So why does your ego want it?

Because your ego believes that happiness comes from outside of you. From things and from achievements.

”If I only had (insert stereotypical object of desire here) I’d be happy.”

But the truth is neither you nor your ego would. Not for long anyhow.

Your ego would probably gloat in the satisfaction of acquiring what it thought it wanted for little while in some sort of short lived rush but relatively quickly it would need another ego-fix to remain satisfied.

Didn’t you ever want something and then get it?

If so did your happiness and contentment last?

My answer to that last question has always been a definite no. I’ve gotten what ”I” really wanted countless times but still it didn’t take long until I was right back where I was before I got it. Wanting more of what I didn’t have.

(If you have a hard time understanding the difference between the ego and the real you I suggest you read ”A New Earth” by Eckhart Tolle where these things are explained further.)

Well then are things and experiences bad?

Not at all.

And it certainly doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy any of these things when you ”have” them or when they are present in your life. The important thing is to not confuse your happiness with getting certain things or on anything specific outside yourself happening in a certain way.

What happens when you think you need something outside yourself to be happy you see the distance between yourself and your goal and the further away from the goal you are and the more difficult it seems to reach that goal the more anxiety, stress and resistance you build up inside your body.

We all know that stress has a lot of different unwanted effects on our body and our mind so my advice to anyone who experiences this discomfort would be:

1. Realize it’s not you but your ego that wants things to be different because it believes it would be happy if they were.

2. Release the stress in your mind and body through meditation, EFT or why not try the technique I use called ”The Kingson Acceptance Method”.

Peace Everlasting

Emanuel

[David21]

I do very much agree with what you have said. Whether you are coming from a spiritual perspective or not, I believe that what you are saying is fundamentally right.

However, knowing this doesn't make the situation any easier.

For example, I have never been in an intimate relationship - my life hasn't yet gone that way - and what I believe I want now is exactly that.

So I ask every day that this come into my life. So far I haven't yet got what I want, but in some ways I know that if it was truly necessary, truly right for me, it would happen.

The wisdom in me says it doesn't need to happen, that all these outside things aren't as glorious as people make out or as is advertised on T.V or in movies. But this knowledge doesn't make me want it less - that's my issue.

[Andrew Brunelle]

If you want for nothing, your life becomes completely different. Of course your ego wants what it is you think you want. All we really want is to be happy, fulfilled, and to be loved. And there are so many different paths to get to those points, but they are only experienced in the present. There is no reason why you can't feel that way now. It is a choice. You don't need anything to feel wonderful.

[Emanuel Kingson]

Thank you for your comments. Much appreciated.

David21:

I am coming from both a psychological and spiritual perspective in this post because I believe acceptance is important in both.

"However, knowing this doesn't make the situation any easier. "

I actually do believe knowing this can make the situation easier in time and personally I'm not enlightened so I fall into "wanting" at times also but having this mindset I can often dig myself out of the idea of needing something from the outside to make me happy.

"For example, I have never been in an intimate relationship - my life hasn't yet gone that way - and what I believe I want now is exactly that.

So I ask every day that this come into my life. So far I haven't yet got what I want, but in some ways I know that if it was truly necessary, truly right for me, it would happen.

The wisdom in me says it doesn't need to happen, that all these outside things aren't as glorious as people make out or as is advertised on T.V or in movies. But this knowledge doesn't make me want it less - that's my issue."

Yes, there are so many misconceptions about "love" and what it really is fed to us by the media but nonetheless that wanting is usually a very strong one in people.

There are also different views on whether we can actually affect anything in our lives or if we are simply spectators of a movie being played in front of us and instead of sitting in a movie theatre we have the seat from the back of our eyes and all we can affect is how we choose to perceive the movie that is played.

It would only make a man frustrated shouting at the screen watching a movie trying to make the characters behave in a different way and especially the "main character" that one would be identifying with as oneself.

I don't have a fixed position in that matter but I do believe that action is far more powerful when it comes from a place of acceptance and peace rather than frustration.

Hopefully you'll find both peace and an intimate relationship.

Andrew Brunelle:

I agree with you completely.


Peace

Emanuel