what to do if intentions bring negative emotions?

[Azura]

what to do if thinking about what you want to manifest actually brings forth negative emotion... ? =&

[Andrew Brunelle]

Then you probably don't really want it. Or you're not focusing enough on what you want and keep letting negative thoughts and feelings in.

[ar81]

Are you forcing yourself?
Are you happy with your life?

[Zas]

Is possibly means you're aiming for something that feels out of reach- It might be too big of an emotional leap for where you're at and you're not capable of believing in it . . . So when you try to think of it, the feeling of "lack" in you gets poked something fierce.

How does it feel if you aim a little lower first? Like, if you're aiming for a lot more money than you've ever had/experienced, then aim for something that would seem like less of a shock to your world. Or if you're aiming for the romantic relationship of your dreams while you've previously felt all your connections were abysmal, maybe focus on the smaller thought of just meeting amazing potentials . . .

I'm not saying give up high dreams, just warm yourself up to them. Also, I'm not saying how much time this takes to resolve (if this is indeed your particular block or that of any body who happens to be reading this.) I've had the resolution of these kinds of issues be matters of weeks, days, and simply seconds.

[ssandra]

Why would you want something that makes you feel bad???
Better go directly for what makes you feel good.

For example, if money makes you feel bad, but you want to own your own house, why not manifest a house, free of debt?

If that makes you feel bad, manifest a housing situation that makes you feel happy. etc.

Don´t try and want something that makes you feel bad. Just try and get stuff that makes you feel happy.

[TonyToneTone]

Originally Posted by Azura

what to do if thinking about what you want to manifest actually brings forth negative emotion... ? =&

Change your intention to one that feels better.

[marinik]

Or you want to manifest something you are supposed to and not really want. Like a marriage because you are supposed to get married and have children... and you truly do not feel ready or even never want to do it, good career as a lawyer, because your parents spent so much money on your legal studies... and what you really want is to be a painter...

You didn't give us the specifics so we are not sure what it is what you need to hear!

[blondandfun]

Negative emotions are a normal part of a scattered consciousness brought about my too much reflection/thought. Life is a game, the only way you'll find enjoyment is through self-imposed goals and working towards goals...not thinking all the time.

[gigij]

Some things that you want to manifest are bound to have some negative emotions associated with them as well as positive. This is especially true if you are making major changes in your life, relationships etc. In order to get where you want to be there may be some stress / anxiety involved in the process of letting go of the old. My advice would be to accept the negative as part of the whole package of your intention. Accept your intention and everything that comes with it.

[themaster]

Negative emotions.. means you have definitions or beliefs in place that are not in alignment with what you want.. the best thing is to find these definitions/beliefs and what they are.. are they "I can't have what I want" or "things never work out for me" these are some ideas for belief structures..

[Azura]

Yeah,.. it's that when I think of the things I really want I feel such emotional pain that I don't have it and I feel like it's not going to be easy for me to obtain or its not likely to come into my experience. =& .. And I've read books like "The Secret", "The Law Of Attraction", "As You Think", and am currently reading "The Art Of Deliberate Intent". The books have given me the perspective that thoughts entertaining the lack of a desire only bring forth more of the lack. So I am more aware of how I am thinking about what I want and not just what it is I'm thinking about.

It just doesn't work for me to think of the things I want and be able to have the right alligning thought vibrations while I'm thinking about it.... Or it hasn't yet worked =&.... When I think of something I want I just feel bad. And then I'm aware of my negative feelings, so I try to reach for "better feeling thoughts", but I just can't seem to convince myself.

In the "Art Of Deliberate Intent" book, it described a method of getting yourself to think more optimistically; "wouldn't it be nice if..." thinking. So instead of saying "I wish I had more money", and feeling the lack of it, you would think "wouldn't it be nice if... I could afford the things I want"; which will put you in a better emotional state. When I first started to try that way of thinking, it worked and I felt my emotional state improve. But now it doesnt make me feel as good, but I guess it makes me feel better than I otherwise would, so I try to continue with that.

But I just want to know how else I can feel good while in a bad situation so that I can change the things I'm attracting to myself.

[rei]

Originally Posted by Azura

Yeah,.. it's that when I think of the things I really want I feel such emotional pain that I don't have it and I feel like it's not going to be easy for me to obtain or its not likely to come into my experience. =& .. And I've read books like "The Secret", "The Law Of Attraction", "As You Think", and am currently reading "The Art Of Deliberate Intent". The books have given me the perspective that thoughts entertaining the lack of a desire only bring forth more of the lack. So I am more aware of how I am thinking about what I want and not just what it is I'm thinking about.

It just doesn't work for me to think of the things I want and be able to have the right alligning thought vibrations while I'm thinking about it.... Or it hasn't yet worked =&.... When I think of something I want I just feel bad. And then I'm aware of my negative feelings, so I try to reach for "better feeling thoughts", but I just can't seem to convince myself.

In the "Art Of Deliberate Intent" book, it described a method of getting yourself to think more optimistically; "wouldn't it be nice if..." thinking. So instead of saying "I wish I had more money", and feeling the lack of it, you would think "wouldn't it be nice if... I could afford the things I want"; which will put you in a better emotional state. When I first started to try that way of thinking, it worked and I felt my emotional state improve. But now it doesnt make me feel as good, but I guess it makes me feel better than I otherwise would, so I try to continue with that.

But I just want to know how else I can feel good while in a bad situation so that I can change the things I'm attracting to myself.

yes, the hypothetical approach is very useful (wouldn't it be great if...).

to feel good while in a situation you judge to be bad (yes, that is a judgment call)... here are some ideas.
take a step back. emotional, physical step, either way. this creates some energetic space and leaves enough time to pass so there is not a knee jerk reaction.

find the silver lining. no matter what the situation is, or how bad it seems to be, there are positive ways you can look at it. losing a job means you have more time to spend with your family. even having a negative emotional response to your intention - it is positive because it clues you in to one way you allow limitations to affect your reality.

practice gratitude. this relates to the silver lining thing. whatever you experience, even if you view it as negative, be grateful - not even really about the specifics as yes, the universe gives us more of what we feel grateful for. so be grateful for your life, for the moments you can spend each day, for the opportunities to learn and grow... allow the gratitude to be like a wave washing over you. gratitude has a very high/fast vibration.

also i suggest not trying to resist those negative emotions. they are there for a reason, they are telling you something. i get the sense that you want to resist them. that gives them more power. if you feel them, head-on, saying ok, i honor that i feel ____ in this moment. allow the feeling to wash over you. then, the message will finish being offered and it will lose most of its power. if it comes up again, pause from your intention work to honor the emotion and allow it expression. sit with it for a moment. honor your humanness in that moment. it is ok to feel frustrated about what we don't have if we really want it. feeling the emotion head-on, consciously, keeps it from festering. emotions will come out one way or another, the most skillful way is to allow them expression in a conscious way.

write about it in a notebook... write how p*ssed off you are that you don't have X and how that is unfair because Y and as you write, allow the emotions to come out of you and go onto/into the paper. keep writing until you feel emotionally tired, that is the signal that you have truly expressed as much as you needed to in that moment. if you feel you are truly finished feeling the emotions and want to truly let them go, you could bring those pieces of paper outside and burn them (in a safe setting, with water nearby in case it's needed). as you burn the paper, allow yourself to finish releasing any residue of the emotion.

this response is kind of nonlinear/winding/random, hope it makes sense and you can get something from it.

[Azura]

Yes, thank you for the insight Rei. ..... I am in a library right now and I don't feel very comfortable; I've always struggled with social anxiety issues... =& ... And I feel the nervousness not only in my emotions but in my body,..... and when I take a deep breath and try to calm my mind, the physical feeling exits other parts of my body only to move to the top of my stomach... (my solar plexus chakra... =&).....

Ok, I'm going to try to visualize a pleasant scenario and continue to take relaxed breaths...

[Strem2]

Whether you read or prefer movies, Esther and Abraham have some good material and they emphacise staying in a place that feels good. This, they say, is your inner guidance system. You follow your happiness to stay in the flow.

There's also another piece about Walter Russell, an artist, musician, author, architect from 1946 where he explains how to stay in the flow of energy. (Sounds like he knows, right?)

The secrets of Nature are being discovered by scientists, but the secrets of the Universe are only discovered by men or women who are willing to spend time alone quietly seeking to understand their own self, and intently observing the effects in their own life.

[joelr]

Originally Posted by Strem2

Whether you read or prefer movies, Esther and Abraham have some good material and they emphacise staying in a place that feels good. This, they say, is your inner guidance system. You follow your happiness to stay in the flow.

There's also another piece about Walter Russell, an artist, musician, author, architect from 1946 where he explains how to stay in the flow of energy. (Sounds like he knows, right?)

What are they talking about with the sun being an electric generator and an electron being kept in motion by electricity??

[Azura]

thank u for ur post Strem2

[Emanuel Kingson]

When trying to manifest things I think an important part is to let go of resistance and it sounds like that's what's bringing you the negative emotions. Resistance.

So you should find a way of releasing your resistance and you might want to try the method I wrote about in THIS POST HERE ON THE FORUM!

[MacFly]

Originally Posted by Azura

what to do if thinking about what you want to manifest actually brings forth negative emotion... ? =&

your beliefs.

you intend something, first you feel real good, but that feeling slows down, and you end up where you started, feeling bad.

it's all because your beliefs.

you believe that your intention won't manifest.

think about your beliefs, why you believe that what you want isn't possible for you. find out where those beliefs come from, and realize that they aren't neccessary true. you just heard one thing back then, believed it, and kept believing it without thinking again.

[Azura]

Emanuel, I read your explanation of the Kingson Method.. I guess I can see how this would benefit... analyzing the emotion and its root.. therefore being able to handle the emotion better.. But I'm just curious how that would be able to manifest good things.. =& .. I can only understand it as putting more attraction energy towards the bad scenarios that you're learning to accept.. =&

[Emanuel Kingson]

Hi Azura and thanks for reading!

When I use that technique and I find the right words(it can take a little while with each thing I want to accept) the negative energy around the subject feels like it's been resolved and therefor usually I experience no more negative emotions when thinking about that subject.

I see it as facing my biggest fears in my head and dealing with them fully once and for all(hopefully) so they won't come back every time something triggers those feelings in me.

And I also view it as going to the dentist where the pain might be increased for a short while but then it disappears.

Hope this helps

Emanuel