Can you really manifest your dream relationship? Please share some stories!!

[bananya]

Hey,

I really need to hear some inspiring stories on this!
I totally believe in LOA and sometimes it's amazing how it works!

But why it doesn't work for something I REALLY wish the most in life - a loving, trustful relationship with a man who'd be like me - not willing to live an ordinary life.. I have to admit I'm getting desperate, I'm 25 and in my country you are considered an "old maid" if you are not married at this age. My friends are getting married and I'm still alone.. I have this ideal picture in my head of the relationship I want, but sometimes I feel so sad and desperate that I start thinking "please can I have at least someone, not to be alone".. I know, you will say - focus on other things, but I guess I've come to a point when struggling for something just for myself (like career, more education, etc.) doesn't make any sense anymore if you have noone to share it with..ahhhh I'm too desperate I know, but it's also the social pressure of people around me..
I don't want to give up on "my dream relationship", but waiiting is impossible sometimes, what if it will never happen?... I know I know I should kill these thoughts, but it's soooo freaking hard when you REALLY long for this..

this is why I need some inspiration, please share ur stories, thoughts, advices..

thanks!!!!!

[Angela]

Hi, bananya... welcome to the forums!

I know that feeling of yearning for a relationship, and I think you already *know* this, but it's the desperation and sadness itself that keeps your dream men out of your orbit. Good-feeling people are attracted to feel good, and if you're feeling bad, you'll tend to attract people with complementary bad feelings. So, a desperate woman will tend to find herself attracted to guys who, for instance, are unavailable because their old fear of abandonment scripts are running them, and they'll be attracted to you because the desperation helps them both hide and feed their own limiting decisions and negative emotions.

If you'd like to boldly make yourself available for the kind of relationship that would light you up, I'd start by taking on releasing that old gunk, and building a life that you are so in love with that not only will fascinating, loving men be drawn into your orbit, but you'll also care less whether they are or not! You'll be so caught up in being the person you dream of being with that you won't notice you're the one being your dream relationship, regardless of what other people do or say.

Boy, I sure would like to design a seminar in this process --- so many people are in the same boat, men and women. Thanks for the inspiration.

[annie]

Funny how things work out....(I'm guess I just manifested something!) Not 30 seconds ago I just hung up with a client that manifested his DREAM GIRL...in fact his fiancee. I had already heard about how he had done it over the course of 4-5 months, but our phone conversation today was about me getting his manifestation on VIDEO. We have an appointment in 2 hours and I will post it immediately so you can see that this is absolutely possible! In January he had NO ONE in his life and today he is engaged to an amazing beautiful woman. Can't wait to share this with you! (He'll supply the details!)

[Pia]

I will be waiting to hear othis one very much

[bananya]

[QUOTE You'll be so caught up in being the person you dream of being with that you won't notice you're the one being your dream relationship, regardless of what other people do or say.

[/QUOTE]

Angela, thanks! But the thing is that I WANT TO HAVE A PERSON TO SHARE MY LIFE WITH, I don't want want to be "my dream relationship" myself


Annie,

can't wait to hear that!!!!


Any more successful stories??

[TonyToneTone]

To get love you have to setup a polarity to attract it. When you're sitting there thinking about how much you want it but don't have it, or focusing on sadness, you're not in harmonic alignment with what you want.

So how does one setup a polarity to attract love? You have to give it! By giving you receive it. Start by thinking loving thoughts towards others and loving thoughts towards yourself. You can then act lovingly towards them and you. For instance, every time you meet someone you can think "I love you" or "I appreciate you" and every time you pass a mirror you can look yourself in the eyes and say "I love you".

EXERCISE:

So you want the man of your dreams? Do this. Grab a pen and paper and write out:
My Ideal Man (or boyfriend or husband or whatever you want)

And list all his qualities:
Tall
Dark
Handsome

But don't stop at just the physical, keep going!

Kind
Loving
Affectionate
Respectful
Warm when with me
Touchy/feel
Trustworthy

be as specific as you like. You can even include a picture of your ideal person.

Now, every day for a 1-2 a day I want you sit down and view your list and feel the feelings as if you had this person now. You'll be putting yourself into the right vibration to attract this person and relationship into your life.

I have a friend who is a well-known teacher who does this with his clients. He says that many of his women clients who do this say that they not only met their ideal man but actually met the person on their list! I actually had a friend of mine do this exercise some time back. The guy she is with now is right in line with the guy she put on her list. He even came at the same time that she wrote down that she wanted him in her life.

Remember, everyone in your life is simply a reflection of the energy you are giving out. When you give out love, kindness, generosity, you can expect that in turn!

[alexb5784]

It's interesting to see how all of this is going to play out. It's true that desperation only leads to more desperation.

Bananya, I wish you the best of luck. Maybe after learning to become a vibrational match to the type of relationship that you want, you'll meet someone sooner than you think.

[bananya]

TonyToneTone!!

Thanks a lot!! Of course I've read all these advices many times in atricles on LOA, but it's always helpful to hear it again! and hear about people who actually achieved this. Because I see how you can achieve a financial goal, or internship or car, you set a goal and you know the steps you need to take to make it happen, but with love...

I have a question. I know many very love-giving women, kind and beautiful but single... how come the love they give doesn't come back to them?? I'm sure they want it...

anyways, I'll try the exercise, will take all my concentration and make myself do it, I actually already done part of it couple days ago..

oh, and what do I do with all the "what if" questions CONSTANTLY popping up in my head?

thanks everyone for ur advices!!

[ElleJaye]

Hello, everyone.
All very good advice and thoughts here. I like Angela's notion about focusing on becoming the best you and building a life you love. Your energy and vibration will undoubtedly soar and you'll feel wonderful as a result. And that's key to manifesting what you desire. I also like TonyToneTone's list idea since you have to be clear on what you desire. This exercise will also allow you to "be" what you are seeking (like attracts like). So, why not work on both....

[TonyToneTone]

Originally Posted by bananya

I have a question. I know many very love-giving women, kind and beautiful but single... how come the love they give doesn't come back to them?? I'm sure they want it...

anyways, I'll try the exercise, will take all my concentration and make myself do it, I actually already done part of it couple days ago..

oh, and what do I do with all the "what if" questions CONSTANTLY popping up in my head?

thanks everyone for ur advices!!

You're welcome bananya!

There could be a bunch of different answers to your question; 1) They have bad concepts about men or relationship 2) Don't believe it's possible 3) Putting out wanting instead of having 4) No clear idea as to what they want

As for you doing the exercise "will take all my concentration and make myself do it" just put it in your head that it will flow smoothly and naturally. That Go will bless you with this perfect person for you.

As for the "what if" questions, just focus on what you want. Feel the relationship as if you had it now. It's that simple.

[Princess4ever]

Originally Posted by TonyToneTone

To get love you have to setup a polarity to attract it. When you're sitting there thinking about how much you want it but don't have it, or focusing on sadness, you're not in harmonic alignment with what you want.

So how does one setup a polarity to attract love? You have to give it! By giving you receive it. Start by thinking loving thoughts towards others and loving thoughts towards yourself. You can then act lovingly towards them and you. For instance, every time you meet someone you can think "I love you" or "I appreciate you" and every time you pass a mirror you can look yourself in the eyes and say "I love you".

EXERCISE:

So you want the man of your dreams? Do this. Grab a pen and paper and write out:
My Ideal Man (or boyfriend or husband or whatever you want)

And list all his qualities:
Tall
Dark
Handsome

But don't stop at just the physical, keep going!

Kind
Loving
Affectionate
Respectful
Warm when with me
Touchy/feel
Trustworthy

be as specific as you like. You can even include a picture of your ideal person.

Now, every day for a 1-2 a day I want you sit down and view your list and feel the feelings as if you had this person now. You'll be putting yourself into the right vibration to attract this person and relationship into your life.

I have a friend who is a well-known teacher who does this with his clients. He says that many of his women clients who do this say that they not only met their ideal man but actually met the person on their list! I actually had a friend of mine do this exercise some time back. The guy she is with now is right in line with the guy she put on her list. He even came at the same time that she wrote down that she wanted him in her life.

Remember, everyone in your life is simply a reflection of the energy you are giving out. When you give out love, kindness, generosity, you can expect that in turn!

[Princess4ever]

Hi everyone!
I need your help. i completly believe in LOA, although i am not always sure how i have done "it". i have manifested a lot of things, but what i most want is a soulmate. I have manifested my soulmate, but when i get him i get scared and lose him. I have manifested him 4 times (the same man) but for some reason when i get him i get really scared and end up losing him because of my insecurities. How can i manifest him this time and keep him? Any suggestions/advice would greatly be appreciated.

[bananya]

Princess4ever:

wow!! this is soo much like my story! I have beeing dreaming about one guy for like 3 years and I did manifest him finally (although I didn't really know about LOA then, I just kept dreaming about having him, and believe me it was smth not easy as he lives on the opposite side of the world), but it worked and it was great... only just like you I did become scared as we live on opposite sides of the planet and I knew it wasn't going to be easy, but I was happy.. until he really disappointed me, REALLY...
so now I want to manifest my real soulmate and I did make a list of characteristics, I just want to stop feeling desperate about not having him YET

[aggie]

oh, how familiar this all sounds....

i took loa (which ended up not being a good one) and turned it into a manifestation (with help)...

i wanted it so bad and once i let go and let it happen, it did...but once i had it...well, you know the old saying be careful what you wish for....

it ended up it was literally too energy depleting emotionally, psychologically, and physically to keep it going and once i let down on the energy...it collapsed and when on my own with it...after much time and pain...finally let it die a natural death.


i hope this doesn't sound so discouraging...just i believe only so much can controlled by us sometimes....any advice or opinions welcome.

[Angela]

Originally Posted by bananya

But the thing is that I WANT TO HAVE A PERSON TO SHARE MY LIFE WITH, I don't want want to be "my dream relationship" myself

I just want to stop feeling desperate about not having him YET

You are thinking upstream thoughts about your dream relationship -- thoughts that are aligning you vibrationally with exactly what you've got, rather than what you consciously want.

Are you ready to change your thoughts?

[Betrade]

Originally Posted by bananya

Princess4ever:

wow!! this is soo much like my story! I have beeing dreaming about one guy for like 3 years and I did manifest him finally (although I didn't really know about LOA then, I just kept dreaming about having him, and believe me it was smth not easy as he lives on the opposite side of the world), but it worked and it was great... only just like you I did become scared as we live on opposite sides of the planet and I knew it wasn't going to be easy, but I was happy.. until he really disappointed me, REALLY...
so now I want to manifest my real soulmate and I did make a list of characteristics, I just want to stop feeling desperate about not having him YET

Reading your post reminded me of a time earlier on in my life.

I had lost the woman who I believed to be the love of my life, the future mother of my kids and the one I would grow old with.

Well, after a wild and wonderful romance and living together and getting engaged, she dumped me, but not in a mean way. She had just changed her mind. She had been in a bad marriage before and I think she was very afraid to get married again. As it turned out, she never married and never had any kids. Had I married her, then maybe I never would have had my kids, who are the greatest blessings I have ever received.

But at the time, I was truly heartbroken beyond anything I could even comprehend. I BECAME that heartbreak. I felt so bad, and I didn't even know that I was even capable of feeling that bad. I had never been that sad in my life and it messed me up for a long time. I got sick physically, and was just basically miserable and unable to function in any way even remotely close to what I was used to.

It was the worst experience of my life.



Well, after our break up, I HAD to find someone else. I guess I was desperate. I was lonely and sad because I had lost someone that I loved more than anyone in this world. I also couldn't BELIEVE it, and she never even told me WHY. I thought my life was over and that I would never even smile again. I didn't know what to do or where to go. I was a mess.

I don't know how LOA played out in this, because I was definitely NOT sending out any positive waves to anybody, but over the next year, I got involved with 4 different women, one ex who was married; and we had a two year affair. I won't ever do that again; but at the time, I didn't care; well, at least not enough to stop seeing her. I did really care about her but as long as she was married, there was no real future for us.



I was attracting lots of girls into my life, but none of them "clicked" and no one could fill that void. No matter what I did or who I hooked up with, I was still in love with my ex and no matter how hard I tried, those feelings would not go away. But we live and learn, and sometimes what we learn the hard way are the lessons we need to learn the most. The pain you're feeling now is something you will NEVER forget; but you can turn it around and use your experience to your benefit.

One day some friends dragged me to a party I didn't want to go to. A young girl walked up who wanted to meet me. I said only 4 words; "Nice to meet you". That was the end of that. I had no interest in her and I wasn't looking to involve another woman in my life of what I can only describe as madness.

About a month later, this same girl showed up where I was working and applied for a job. She got hired. Over the next few weeks we started talking and she told me that she was in love with me; and that's why she had come to work there. Imagine that.

My feelings for her weren't that strong, but I went out with her, she moved in; along with her two young kids, and we eventually got married. We had two kids together. We had about 7-8 good years and then she decided to cheat on me, so I eventually left her. I didn't WANT to, but once trust is gone, the relationship is over. That was my second real heartbreak in my life; the loss of my family as a unit. For a long time I believed that this was Karma coming back and biting me for having that affair with a married woman. Maybe it was; maybe not, but either way, it was not pleasant.

I have asked myself if I have any regrets in all of this. The answer is NO. I LOVE my kids SO much, and without her, I wouldn't have had them and they wouldn't be who they are.



I have reached a point where I'm never lonely, even though I'm single, but here's the funny part. Now that I'm not actively looking, I know numerous women who care about me and would love to hook up with me; and they're just a phone call away. I have two ex girlfriends who love me dearly and we're in constant contact. One is married and has been trying to have an affair with me for the last year or so, but, I won't do that again.

I guess what I'm getting at is this; stop LOOKING. That doesn't mean close yourself off to the possibility at all. Go out and do whatever it is you do. Be sociable, be available; but don't wear your loneliness on your sleeve and don't worry about your friends being married before you. You don't know if they're really happy anyway. Many married people are very unhappy but they're stuck in situations that they have no good way of ending. Many people like to GET married but don't really enjoy BEING married.


Your situation is similar to what mine once was. You've been hurt by someone you loved and trusted your dreams have been shattered. That doesn't mean that anything is wrong with you or that you've done anything wrong. The choice wasn't yours; so don't beat yourself up about it. DO be AWARE of what you're feeling, why you're feeling that way and what you need to do (or NOT do) to get through it. Talk to some people who have been there. Get some feedback and deal with it as best you can; but don't make your sadness into a lifestyle.

Don't be so focused on what WAS, that you completely miss what IS and don't forget that every moment is filled with potential and possibilities to live your wildest dreams.

This may have happened for reasons you'll never know. You have to deal with that pain; heal, and move on. That type of betrayal runs VERY DEEP, and it takes time to get through. If you jump into a relationship before you're healed, you're going to bring that baggage into it, and it WILL come out; one way or another.




People can intuitively sense desperation and you may attract people you don't really want; just like I did. I mean, I was sleeping with numerous women and I didn't really care very much about any of them. It's not like I didn't like them or anything, but something just wasn't right, and that something was ME and the pain that I had not properly dealt with. I didn't KNOW HOW to deal with it because I had never experienced anything like it.

In hindsight; I was partially trying to prove to myself that I could still get girls to satisfy my own ego and insecurities (like; what's wrong with ME that caused the love of my life to reject ME??). But, I never really attracted "the one". Even though I got married, I was never madly in love with my wife like I had been with the ex.

I liked being married. I was happy and content even when things were tough. I only wanted to be able to trust my wife. I would have done anything for her (and I did). If she wanted a chocolate ice cream cone at 3 AM, I would go out and get it in snowstorm if necessary. That's just the way I am. When I love someone, I love them with everything I have. I think love is the greatest thing in the universe, and it amazes me that so many people seem to take it for granted, or don't realize how important it is until it's too late.



Sorry this is so long, but I have one more point to make and I'll shut up already.

You're in a position of great OPPORTUNITY, whether you realize it or not. Trust me on this. You're ONLY 25 (hell; I would LOVE to be 35 again), and despite the fact that that's considered old in your country, you're very young and you have the whole world just waiting for you. You have billions of potential future husbands to choose from, so choose wisely, be patient and don't settle for anyone who is less than who you want. If you jump into the wrong marriage, you will be very unhappy and wish you had been more selective.

Don't look for perfection because it doesn't exist; at least, not where humans are concerned. You need someone who loves you unconditionally; and when he shows up, you will be the happiest girl on Earth, you'll have beautiful babies that you'll love more than you ever even knew you could love; and your life will be more rich than you can even imagine.

Your time will come, but in the meantime, enjoy yourself and enjoy the journey. Don't forget that getting there is half the fun. Don't EVER focus on being alone. Focus on the fact that you're wide open to receive whatever your little heart desires and GET READY and willing to receive it. Create a happy loving space in your heart; and in your home that any man would do anything to be a part of. Realize that whoever you choose is a very lucky man to have won your heart.

Be happy, let not your heart be troubled, thank God for the billions and billions of blessings you have at every moment and just watch it all unfold and manifest in front of your eyes. Think about it. Do you ever stop and wonder just how many things have to GO RIGHT in order for any of us to even exist?? We're SO blessed but we usually take so many things for granted because we EXPECT these things to go right; and they DO.

Ask, seek, knock, and you'll get your answers, you'll find what you're looking for and the doors will be opened. Just you wait and see. You'll look back on this time and wonder why you made such a fuss about it; which is perfectly normal, but you'll still wonder about it anyway.

[bananya]

Originally Posted by Angela

You are thinking upstream thoughts about your dream relationship -- thoughts that are aligning you vibrationally with exactly what you've got, rather than what you consciously want.

Are you ready to change your thoughts?

Angela, yes, I DO want to change my thoughts, really, as I understand this where I need to start, do you have any simple methods to do this? Or just by controlling them all the time?

thankss

[bananya]

BETRADE:

wow... thanks a lot! for sharing your story and for the last part especially
well, I think I'm over that guy anyways, we do keep in touch because I still care about him, but I realized that he's either too young yet, or he'll never be able to realize what's really important..
all I wish for now is a guy who I'd give all my love to, but I expect to be given smth in return I know I have to wait, I'll try to shift my thoughts from thinking about "being lonely" to thinking about "being open to so many opportunities"

THANK YOU!

[ellie]

Originally Posted by Angela

I'd start by taking on releasing that old gunk, and building a life that you are so in love with that not only will fascinating, loving men be drawn into your orbit, but you'll also care less whether they are or not! You'll be so caught up in being the person you dream of being with that you won't notice you're the one being your dream relationship, regardless of what other people do or say.

I wholeheartedly agree with this advice.

[alexb5784]

Originally Posted by Betrade

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Ask, seek, knock, and you'll get your answers, you'll find what you're looking for and the doors will be opened. Just you wait and see. You'll look back on this time and wonder why you made such a fuss about it; which is perfectly normal, but you'll still wonder about it anyway.

I'm glad your post was long. I found it to be extremely genuine. Thanks for sharing your story

[jasonwisdom]

Originally Posted by bananya

I have a question. I know many very love-giving women, kind and beautiful but single... how come the love they give doesn't come back to them?? I'm sure they want it...

Unfortunately, most men don't know how to appreciate a good woman until after she's gone and not coming back.

Also, a lot of "huge-heart" women don't know how to be assertive. To use steve's triangle, they live with love and they live in truth, but they don't develop the power that's needed.

I had same story. I had a good heart, and I lived an honest life. I had lots of potential, and I did favors for people left and right. Then I met a soulmate connection and just could not do what needed to be done. Had I been stronger (internally)...but I wasn't. And all I could do was watch helplessly and feel heartbroken.

After working on my finances, emotions, energy and confidence for many years, I have become a pretty strong person. I am at a point where I have many women around me - friends and if I want, dates. And... I haven't recognized any kind of "the one".

Every once in a while I walk through Central Park on a weekend, and I can see it in some peoples' faces, mostly women, the longing for a deep and real partnership. I recognize it because I feel the same way.

I'm not a slave to that feeling, which is important.
Still, I feel it.
I also know EXACTLY what I want, pray every day for her to arrive, and will not commit to a partnership until I know I am with "the right person", or at least "a right person".

[jasonwisdom]

Originally Posted by bananya

where I need to start, do you have any simple methods to do this? Or just by controlling them all the time?

I don't think anyone can control their thoughts all the time; it gets exhausting.
What you can do is allow them to be present, acknowledge them, stop feeding the fire, and then from that space of clarity choose what you will experience.

[bananya]

Originally Posted by jasonwisdom

I also know EXACTLY what I want, pray every day for her to arrive, and will not commit to a partnership until I know I am with "the right person", or at least "a right person".

Hey, thanks for sharing also, I really love how people share their stories here
Well if it wasn't for that situation in my life, I think I might have not come across this website, personal development or movie "The Secret" at all, and I'm defenately stronger now and I grew a lot, so this is def a plus, but sometimes I just want to let myself feel small and weak and just be in someone's strong arms to protect me and care about me (oh here we go - tears in my eyes right now)..I'm strong and I KNOW he'll come, I just want to learn to focus on other things and enjoy life now the way it is..

and one more thing jasonwisdom - what if she never comes?... (I'm just curious to hear your answer to this question)

[Angela]

Originally Posted by bananya

Angela, yes, I DO want to change my thoughts, really, as I understand this where I need to start, do you have any simple methods to do this? Or just by controlling them all the time?

thankss

Begin to deliberately think thoughts that feel good when you think them. Practice thinking thoughts that feel a little better, and then a little better than that, and move up the emotional scale.

For instance, if you find yourself thinking some lack-based thought about relationship, like, ""please can I have at least someone, not to be alone," notice the sadness and desperation, acknowledge it, and shift your thought just a bit to something that feels a bit better; maybe: "Why do other people get to have someone and I don't?" (Jealousy is up the scale from sadness and desperation.) "I'm pissed off that I haven't found my mate yet." (Anger is up the scale from jealously.) Keep thinking thoughts that move you up the scale, asking yourself at each stage whether you feel a little better or not. If not, look for another thought, and keep going:

It's my parents' fault. (Blame)
How long do I have to wait? (Frustration/Impatience)
Ugh! I'm so bored with all this thinking about finding a mate. (Boredom)
I think I'll just enjoy this nice meal I've prepared and the latest episode of Mad Men. (Contentment)
Well, it looks from watching Mad Men that EVERYONE seems to have some sort of unfulfilled relationship desire; if they have to go through this to find someone, I guess I will, too. (Positive expectation)
Hmmm, I feel pretty good when I'm not thinking about what I don't have, ad it's a beautiful evening... I think I'll go out for a walk! (Happiness)

Pick up one of the Abraham/Hicks books, like "Ask and It Is Given" for more on this process.

[annie]

I haven't spent the time reading through this entire thread, but I have read the first few posts.

Anyways...as promised, here is just an example of someone that actually has manifested their Ideal Relationship. So it can be done. Normally I blog about these videos and tomorrow morning I will be creating a blog around this. But in the meantime I'll fill you in on a few of the details of this particular manifestation.

1) In January of 2009 he moved to a new town and knew NO ONE!!!
2) In February of this year, he came to my LifeVision workshop and wrote a script & made an audio of what his ideal relationship was like. (the details of not only what "she" was like, but what kind of a person he needed to be in order to attract her & things he could "do".).
3) He listened to his LifeVision recording daily (it included all areas of his life...not just this "relationship" section.
4) He acted on his verbal commands of socializing and putting himself out there socially. (networking events, talking to girls on Facebook and discussion boards, asking business associates to introduce him to women etc)
5) Two months later (end of March) he met this woman. They began dating.
6) In May they moved in together.
7) Early Sept (1 month ago) they got engaged and are getting married in June 2010.

YouTube - Ideal LifeVision

I have 2 other clients that have used the exact same method and one attracted her ideal man and has been married to him for 2.5 years now and the other one is living with her man.

Bottomline. Yes...you can manifest your dream relationship. I'm sure the advice on this thread was wonderful (I should probably go back and read it....). I have my own ideas about what it takes and I spend an hour in my workshop just talking about the scripting involved if you want to do this.

Good luck and keep the HOPE!
My blog about this will be posted tomorrow at this site: Ideal Life Vision

[Angela]

I have a girlfriend who just DECIDED to get married. She looked at it as a job -- very systematically and full-time, she went about tasks that would logically find her that husband. She signed up for a bunch of adult education classes that men would flock to, she asked all her friends to introduce her to men who wanted to get married, she took it very seriously (but still had fun with it - she did not stress out).

It worked. She found a wonderful, yummy man, got married and got pregnant, all within one year. That was about 15 years ago, and last time I saw them, they still looked pretty loving and happy with their family.

[bananya]

Angela and Annie!

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR STORIES AND ADVICES!!
YOU DON"T KNOW HOW MUCH BETTER I FEEL NOW!!
I guess I'm on the right way!

[Angela]

There's a very fun book you might enjoy called "Make Every Man Want You" by Marie Forleo.

[jasonwisdom]

Annie & Angela - thank you for sharing those stories. They are very helpful to me.
As for the question, "What if you never meet her?", I was really touched by Annie & Angela's posts so my planned reply got scrapped.

I have been asked that a lot. And my answer was going to be something along the lines of, "If I don't meet her, I'll never get married. I have learned to be happy satisfied and content as a single person, to not 'need' a relationship to feel fulfilled in my life, and besides my primary commitment has long been to completely free myself from the chains of the maya."
Which is all TRUE. I AM content as a single person, I have a wonderful life blessed with great friendships/financial stability/health/conscious awareness, and my life is getting better in each of these 4 areas every year. Every month in fact. I feel extremely blessed and privileged, and yet...

The coming together with my "her" has yet to happen. To me, it feels like it is meant to happen, that there is somebody specific & we are supposed to be together and I don't know if I can explain it any further.

Where my confusion is, around this subject, is the whole "making it happen" vs. "surrendering and allowing it to happen" polarity. For many years I have erred on the side of "surrender" and I do not regret this. I do have my mini-retirement planned for the end of this year, and while on it I'll choose my approach for 2010.