Attracting Love & the Law of Attraction

[alexb5784]

Hi everyone,

I tried to find a direct link to this podcast, but it can only be listened to in iTunes. So if you don't have iTunes, sorry

Here is the Topic:

If you want to use the law of attraction to attract the person of your dreams, focus on the the feeling, not the person.

iTunes link: http://phobos.apple.com/WebObjects/M...441&i=13859610


The podcast author also has a great podcast on why worrying about stuff is a waste of time. I've listened to a few of the podcasts now. Some don't really interest me, but others are pretty good.

Cheers

[The Protagonist]

thanks mate, I've sorta come to the conclusion that I want love. Finding this thread is sort of an alpha reflection. For the longest time I thought I wanted money, but then I realised that I just wanted money to buy things for love. Nothing can substitute love in it self. (corny, no?) So I've decided to manifest love, and I have a lot of emotion behind it, so finding this thread is great.

[eastcoastgirl]

Yeah, thank you. I listened to the one on attracting love and another one. Both were good.

[alexb5784]

This morning while meditating, I created affrimations which express what I want to experience in an intimate relationship. For each affirmation, I listed my needs.

My needs are:

Peace - from treating others how I treat myself
Appreciation - from appreciating myself and other people
Passion - from doing work which pleases me
Security - not from money, but from knowing I can trust myself
Love - from loving myself unconditionally

Notice I didn't list my needs as material, but emotional. My needs weren't:

Money
Success
A fast car
A big house
Bring in a relationship with my dream person
Being sexy

I don't think another person or something material, will ultimately make me happy. Sure, a Porsche can make me happier, but it's not the source of my happiness. Anyway, here are my intentions (affirmations) and please use them if you feel they're helpful to you.

When in love, I feel peaceful. And this peace compliments the peace I already have in my life.

When in love, I feel appreciated. And this appreciation compliments the appreciation I already feel today.

When in love, I feel passionate. And this passion compliments the passion I have right now.

When in love, I feel secure. And this sense of security, compliments the amount of security I feel today.

When in love, I feel more love. And this love compliments the love I have for myself.


It's important to make intentions that clearly state you don't need another person make you happy. If I had instead said:

When in love, I feel secure- I can only feel secure if I'm in love
When in love, I feel peace- I can't feel peaceful on my own
When in love, I feel love- I can't love myself
When in love, I feel passion- I have to have another person to make me feel passionate about my life
When in love, I feel appreciation - I can't feel appreciated unless another person makes me feel like I am

I don't believe we can depend on other people to meet our emotional needs. We have to first feel the way we want, and then we'll attract more of what we feel. We'll attract relationships that add value. It's the Law of Attraction.

Cheers

[ElizaJ]

Alexia, you bring up a very good point about the way to write intentions (affirmations). Thank you for sharing!

[eastcoastgirl]

Yes, thanks, Alexia. I copied your affirmations. I'm working on loving myself unconditionally, and I think they will help me a lot.

[wolfgang]

I liked this write up on this topic:
The Law of Allowance in Relationships - The Universe of Power

Basically I get from that write up that you can't control someone else and vice versa. So trying to get someone to love you is not the approach - but rather to allow them to and the best way to allow is to be in the state you wish to be experiencing as if they love you. I guess.

Consequently, or in another application, I am trying to define or decide how I want my relationship to be with a partner in hopes of clarifying what the heck I'm doing with the one I'm with and not being able to completly leave her yet still on the fence about being with her.

In other words, while some are appliying IM/LoA to generate the feelings that will attract a mate - there are maybe some like me already in something that may not be working and want to apply IM/LoA to resolve the realtionship (stay or go).

I wonder how many or if anyone reading this have succesfully applied LoA to resolve a relationship. And if so, would love to hear about that.

[ElizaJ]

Wolfgang, I used to practice Wicca and there was a spell that I used once to end a relationship. It basically said that if this person was the one for me, then he should stay, if he was not, then he should go. And he was gone!

[wolfgang]

ElizaJ,
Don't know much about wicca but that part sounds kind of natural. I'll try not to hijack this thread too much. But while most are looking to LoA to attract a special partner, I'm looking for the same but am still "with" someone now.

I have thought looking for a special partner weather you are with someone or not is the same in terms of doing the IM work. Intending to have a relationship that I would perfer to have. The one I'm with may not be the one but if I can be clear, then this relationship will resolve (or dissolve).

But then again, doing IM work while with someone I kind of already know isn't working is difficult. I'm in a continual "this is kind of not what I want" mode - since I start to form my decision about the kind of realtionship I want and even though she and I are doing fine on the outside - there's just something missing.

But now maybe, after your post, I think it's different to be in a relatiinship and looking for a special partner. But not completly sure how to do the IM work to test what I already have, so if it's not it - I'll be breaking up and attracting what my IM work states. I supppose I could use the "if she's fitting what I want for a relationship, then stay - if not then go". I'll have to ponder how to IM that.

[ElizaJ]

Wolfgang,
Just wanted to remind you of a quote from a movie: Sometimes, when you lose, you win. My take on this is the obvious, when you lose something then you end up winning something else. If you lose your girlfriend, which sounds as if you are ready to end the relationship anyway, this will open up the opportunity for you to be free and meet someone else more easily. If you are with her then you are still bound to her, however loosely, and it will create barriers for you to attract someone new into your life. Once you are truly free from the relationship, this will help you focus all your energies in finding someone new. Right now you are scattering your energies by continuing your relationship with her and trying to find someone new at the same time.

Hope this helps!

ElizaJ

[Patricia Sanders]

I had been through 2 unsuccessful marriages- one of 9 years and one of 5 years previously. When I met my husband I had a job that kept me rather isolated and even when I had free time I could not think of anything to do but go on my computer. I always thought I would never want to meet someone on the computer for a mate or date.

But I did...

My intention was to be with my soulmate as I no longer wanted someone just to have someone.

I joined a place called powerful intentions and joined a soulmate forum there.
It is not a dating forum. It is a topic site like this one.
That is where my husband and I met. 6 days after meeting on there we were together. One month after meeting I moved in with him. After almost a year we got married.

He had an intention and even did ceremony that the perfect woman for him be brought to him.

Him and I have had many lives together as husband and wife and have good karmic love energy between us. It is the best marriage I have had and the first time I feel like I am really loved.