Manifesting hair on husband's head?

[Ilikedeadpeople]

Is it possible? Hes a great guy but vain and now that his hairline is receding, his ego is taking some kicks. I don't mind it at all but he's threatening to have some crazy surgery out of desperation that I'm afraid will leave him deformed. I'm a new manifester but have had great success so far. Is this something reasonable to try to manifest?

[ssandra]

I don' t have a lot of experience manifesting, but would you not do a greater service to your husband if you would manifest his exceptance to becoming bald?

[Ilikedeadpeople]

Yes, I agree that I would- I have tried this approach with him, reassuring him that it doesn't bother me at all, that its natural, and that hes still attractive, but his ego is impermeable sometimes. Im beginning to think its part of his bigger crisis about getting older in general.

[Self Help Junkie]

His ego is impermeable? Why cant balding men react whitout having this nonsense thrown at them? Let me tell you something, my hair is thinning also and I hate it. Not because of my ego or self-image or whatever. I hate it because im being forced to have a look that I dont like. It's rational to hate something like this and to seek solutions.

Ty to wear an ugly dress and put your hair that suit you the worst possible. Then pretend you don't have a choice, this is what u have to wear for the rest of your life. Then you can pretend that if this feels somewhat frustrating, a person who dont have the same problem telling you that you have problems with your ego.

[Zas]

How would he look with a shaved head?

[jacare]

Originally Posted by Ilikedeadpeople

Is it possible? Hes a great guy but vain and now that his hairline is receding, his ego is taking some kicks. I don't mind it at all but he's threatening to have some crazy surgery out of desperation that I'm afraid will leave him deformed. I'm a new manifester but have had great success so far. Is this something reasonable to try to manifest?

There are a lot of options for men out there now. It might not be his own natural hair, but if your husband has a strong enough intent, and is congruent, he will find a way.

[Ilikedeadpeople]

Zas- Yes, Ive thought of the bald route but he'd never go for it.

Self Help guy- Millions of women every day all over the world are living in bodies that society tells them arent attractive- anything over a size 7 gets instant scrutiny for further defects which are usually found. So understand, women are capable of feeling the same way balding men feel, in fact, we feel it more often and MORE OF IT from the time puberty starts. And yes, our ego is wrapped up in that too.

Not because of my ego or self-image or whatever.

This quote makes it clear to me that you dont understand that I'm not referring to "ego" with the negative pop-culture connotation as in "He has such a big ego". I'm talking about the bigger picture and the way the ego relates to your higher self.

[rawxstasy]

You might try raw food diet. Worked for me. I have heard of men completely growing back their hair and even their hair color coming back after it had gone gray. MSM is a supplement that is also supposed to help with hair growth.

Here's some good info:

Hair Growth Advice - Increase Consumption of Fruits and Vegetables

[Self Help Junkie]

Originally Posted by Ilikedeadpeople

Self Help guy- Millions of women every day all over the world are living in bodies that society tells them arent attractive- anything over a size 7 gets instant scrutiny for further defects which are usually found. So understand, women are capable of feeling the same way balding men feel, in fact, we feel it more often and MORE OF IT from the time puberty starts. And yes, our ego is wrapped up in that too.



This quote makes it clear to me that you dont understand that I'm not referring to "ego" with the negative pop-culture connotation as in "He has such a big ego". I'm talking about the bigger picture and the way the ego relates to your higher self.

Overweight women can at least do something about the extra pounds, like excersizing and eating right.
Balding is just something stupid that happens out of bad luck. As men, we like to fix problems so its natural to feel a bit frustrated about this.

So, instead of reading some Tolle and meditate all day long I rather seek actual solutions to this. And you should support your man if he feels the same. All that ego and higher self talk just feels patronizing. Eventhough, all things considered, it's not a big deal its still annoying.

[Ilikedeadpeople]

Im not talking about just overweight women, I mean women with hair too this, nose too that, legs too this, shoulders too that- there is no part of our bodies that goes unjudged by men, parts we could never change without plastic torture surgery, and we cope just fine.

The point about the higher self is that there is more to life than the hair on your head. After an extremely stressful episode in life a few years back I started to get thinning hair, and losing it in the front. It sucked but it was just a symptom of a bigger problem.

I had a Dad who used the comb-over technique from ages 45- 75. It looked god awful but it was a symptom of his larger struggle with getting old- he was so physically strong and powerful and when arthritis, balding and all their friends set in, I watched his ego suffer the most. He based his self-worth on how much he could do physically and it was sad because he had such a great personality.

I dont know who Tolle is and I never meditate. I'm just the next dummy who sees people for their character, not for how much fuzz they have coming out of their skull.

[Self Help Junkie]

Originally Posted by Ilikedeadpeople

Im not talking about just overweight women, I mean women with hair too this, nose too that, legs too this, shoulders too that- there is no part of our bodies that goes unjudged by men, parts we could never change without plastic torture surgery, and we cope just fine. .

I agreed with you until the last sentence. Women complain too and I dont see anything wrong with that.

The point about the higher self is that there is more to life than the hair on your head. After an extremely stressful episode in life a few years back I started to get thinning hair, and losing it in the front. It sucked but it was just a symptom of a bigger problem.

Thats YOUR story and thats fine. For me, and many others, hair just start to fall out and being a symptom of nothing but bad luck with genes. It feels so unessecary, there's no lesson being learned.

I had a Dad who used the comb-over technique from ages 45- 75. It looked god awful but it was a symptom of his larger struggle with getting old- he was so physically strong and powerful and when arthritis, balding and all their friends set in, I watched his ego suffer the most. He based his self-worth on how much he could do physically and it was sad because he had such a great personality.

I see your point here, and that's sad. However im talking about balding at a younger age, wich feel very unnatural.
Thats why I dont want to "accept" it, cos I think it doesnt make any sense at all. Balding and weakening from age 45 may suck too, but at least its natural.

I dont know who Tolle is and I never meditate. I'm just the next dummy who sees people for their character, not for how much fuzz they have coming out of their skull.

Well, youre a good person no doubt. However, even if you jugde me only by my character I still dont want to look silly.

[spirit4711]

Originally Posted by Self Help Junkie

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Thats YOUR story and thats fine. For me, and many others, hair just start to fall out and being a symptom of nothing but bad luck with genes. It feels so unessecary, there's no lesson being learned.

How about self acceptance, despite the way you look?

Well, youre a good person no doubt. However, even if you jugde me only by my character I still dont want to look silly.

Silliness, like beauty is in the eye of the beholder. In other words, you probably more than people around you think you look silly.

That goes for most people with hangups over their physical appearances. In their minds those appearances weigh much heavier than to people around them.

[Ilikedeadpeople]

Yup I imagine early balding can suck. My husband started losing his hair (very slightly) at about 28. But this is a guy who is obsessed with personal appearance- he gets manicures, drops huge sums of money on designer clothes, visits the barber shop twice a week, etc. Were he a little less peacock-like this balding thing wouldnt have hit him as hard.

I honestly dont care if he loses his hair, hes a great guy, but through our (brief) conversations about it, Ive gleaned that it has NOTHING to do with me or attracting the opposite sex, and EVERYTHING to with his own reflection in the mirror. Combine this with 30 approaching and a general feeling of no personal accomplishments, and suddenly the hair loss becomes the physical/tangible sign that he can latch on to and try to remedy. The rest of the issues are harder to deal with and remedy of course.

Anyway, are you more upset because of how it makes you feel when youre alone looking in the mirror, or are you worried the opposite sex wont find you attractive?
As a woman I can say balding is really not a factor in attractiveness and Ive never heard women complain about it. Instead they complain if a guy is inattentive, insensitive or brutish.

[Self Help Junkie]

@ spirit4711

Here we go again with the self-image projection..

Eventhough I love and accept myself to death I can still dislike hairloss. Like i said, its a small shallow thing but still its annoying.

[Self Help Junkie]

@ Ilikedeadpeople

I have not noticed any difference in attention from the ladies, i have not lost that much hair so its hard to compair that.


I like to have my hair in a certain style, and soon that wont work. I think what bothers me is the frustration over the fact that this being forced upon me. I dont like loosing control over my own body.

[Ilikedeadpeople]

I guess your reaction to my original post can make a person think its not such a small thing in your life.

[Ilikedeadpeople]

No one likes losing control over their bodies. Your fun growing-up processes have ceased and now your preparing-for-old-age-and-death processes have begun. Humans hate that s**t.

[Self Help Junkie]

Originally Posted by Ilikedeadpeople

I guess your reaction to my original post can make a person think its not such a small thing in your life.

Haha, yeah, I guess im more upset with certain answers and advice people give than the actual balding itself.

[Self Help Junkie]

Originally Posted by Ilikedeadpeople

No one likes losing control over their bodies. Your fun growing-up processes have ceased and now your preparing-for-old-age-and-death processes have begun. Humans hate that s**t.

Im complaining bout getting old-age symptoms at a young age. I aint preparing to be old.

[Ilikedeadpeople]

I wonder if theres some evolutionary purpose for men to lose their hair, what survival function could it possible serve?

Heres my husband's solution- baseball hats of all colors and varieties, haha.

[Ilikedeadpeople]

YOU might not be preparing to get old/die but as long as youre older than a pubescent, your body has begun its long decline. The gracefulness in managing that decline is the secret.

[Self Help Junkie]

There nothing gracefull about hairloss. At my age I dont even see it as a sign of age, but rather a defect in my dna. That's why I think we should seek solutions for it rather than accepting it.

Gray hair - gracefull.
Bald head - defect.