Will people hate you because of success?

[sv800]

I'm a web designer / hosting owner / programmer member of several techs forums. It came to my attention a post from shoemoney of shoemoney.com, where he claims that people will hate soon as you success.

Shoemoney was a Sears appliances seller, who had make a lot of money with Internet Marketing, later on, he posted a picture of one single payment of $120,000.

I still do not get it. What's behind the idea of making public your earnings. Why people hate entrepreneurs like Bill Gates, who gives billions to charity.

[ticktockclok]

Not if you manifest their love.

[MGJ]

As simple as it sounds... people who do not like or appreciate the success of others are internalizing the very same traits that keep them from becoming successful.

I don't think you can be jealous of someone else's success and create the same level of success for yourself. Success has nothing to do with the other individual, but instead is about the belief you have in your ability to become successful as you define it.

In short, if people don't like me because of my success... that's they're issue... not mine.

[oriental_express]

those that doubt never achieve big things.

[Steve Pavlina]

I can't say why others do it, but I post occasional updates on my blogging earnings because it's part of my own growth experience. I also want to help demonstrate that if you follow your passion and focus on helping people, the universe will back you up.

In the blogosphere there's also this collective consciousness of wanting to see how various bloggers are doing financially. Professional blogging is still very new, and I think it's fun to share figures publicly and see how well others are doing. It's an opportunity for us to learn from each other and grow the entire field. Blogging is so young that rather than competing against each other, bloggers are mostly in a collective competition against other forms of media. As the acceptance of blogging increases, all bloggers benefit.

I saw this same effect first hand while working in the shareware industry. At one time try-before-you-buy software was considered foolish. Now free software demos are everywhere.

Some people do react negatively when I post income or traffic results, so I allow them to retain ownership of their reactions. The vast majority of feedback I get in these situations is positive.

Bloggers are especially hungry for data. Knowing that it's possible to earn a certain level of income from blogging because someone else has already done it can be very inspiring to those who are just starting out. I was certainly inspired to see bloggers earning over $10K a month back when I was only earning a few hundred.

If you set yourself up such that succeeding means you've helped a lot of people along the way, you'll likely receive far more support and encouragement than criticism. For every piece of negative feedback you receive, you'll get dozens of positive ones. Knowing you're making a difference is more important than money anyway. The money is just an additional channel of positive feedback.

[MindReality]

People who hate you because of your success, do so because they do not accept the failure in themselves.

Every success that they see out there is like a message to them about how they are wasting their own potential away, and that they should stop living in the comfort of laziness now and get their act together to make a real contribution to humanity.

When you rejoice in the prosperity of others, you are allowing yourself to reach the same heights of attainment. You are giving yourself the right to have it for yourself when you acknowledge the right for others to have it.

The best kind of success worth acknowledging is the succes of those who chose to make money consciously by giving their true gifts and making their best contribution, rather then by "Mooching" the value of others like what Steve said.

[searstower]

Originally Posted by sv800

It came to my attention a post from shoemoney of shoemoney.com, where he claims that people will hate soon as you success.

Will more people hate you as you become more successful?

If you believe they will, then as you become successful, you will see more and more hate around you as you start to grow and move up in the world.

Of course, just because you see it, doesn't mean it is real. We humans are infamous for reading between the lines and coming up with 'facts' that weren't there to begin with.

"I've had thousands of problems, most of which never even happened." - Mark Twain

Occasionally though, it will be real. Someone else with have a big problem with the fact that you've been successful. But so what?

The thing you have to remember is that other people's reactions are based in their own history and their own programming. They were taught to react in a certain way, and that's how they are reacting. How they feel about you and your success is a product of the rest of their life.

It's about them, not about you.

Rebecca

[C33]

Be hated for your success or loved and appreciated for you non threatening failure!

The people who hate successful people are usually, unsuccessful.

It is good to have people voice out their negative opinions, this way, you know to avoid them.

Laugh all the way to the bank!

[Dani]

C33 pretty much got it spot on.

Some people will dislike successful people, simply because it threatens them. They will feel intimidated by you, instead of realising this intimidation is their own issue they will blame you for it.

Some will hate you from jealousy. They will create in their mind that you got all the lucky breaks not them and that you don't deserve success but they do etc. etc.

When we here all know that succes is not luck at all but about focus, action and intention.

Almost every great person from human history has been hated, feared, humiliated along their path. Jesus was hated, Ghandi was hated, Even Mother Theresa had her own haters. If the most benevolent and kind people to have ever lived could be hated I wouldn't get too stressed about your inlaws and neighbors getting grumpy because you retired 20 years before they did.

Because while they were watching TV, you were working towards that goal. Worrying about what other people will think/say/do is one of the number 1 things that stops people becoming successful.

For your own sake live YOUR life, not theirs. If you become successful and any people decide to hate you, it's because of their own fears, not because you have suddenly become a 'bad person'.

Do not let others hold you back because they are too afraid to try.

[Colm OReilly]

Sterling advice so far.

I wrote a post on this a while back. Even though it's about confidence, I think the same beliefs that I had could be similar to what you're experiencing with financial success.

And here's a humourous quote from "The Libertine":

In my experience, those who do not like you fall into two categories: The stupid and the envious. The stupid will like you in five years time. The envious, never.

Lots of love,
Colm

[Sadhana]

Jealousy is the first thing that comes to mind. I also think social conditioning might play a part in it, insofar as attitudes against the rich go...

[searstower]

Originally Posted by Dani

f the most benevolent and kind people to have ever lived could be hated I wouldn't get too stressed about your inlaws and neighbors getting grumpy because you retired 20 years before they did.

Because while they were watching TV, you were working towards that goal. Worrying about what other people will think/say/do is one of the number 1 things that stops people becoming successful.

I love this! Can I quote you?

Rebecca

[Dani]

Go for it. Just remember to put the 'I' on the If at the start.

If you put it on a site, pm me with the link.

On a serious note though. Tall poppy syndrome is such a sad, sad thing.

Everyone of us has the potential the be another Einstein, Beetoven, Socrates, Da Vinci, Henry Ford, etc. etc. if we just let ourselves follow our passions to their full potential. But it is the judgement from others, and the fear of rejection that holds us back.

Can you imagine what humanity could achieve if if we could actualise even half of the potential that every person has? Right now, 99% of the population is lucky to use 1% of their potential.

[Acting Like Godot]

If you meet people who are jealous of your success, just remember this - you manifested them.

Change your thoughts, and those people should disappear shortly thereafter. Or turn into non-jealous people.

[Isis Kali]

They jus' jellus!

No, seriously...a lot of those people are remnants of your old life, and they find that they no longer fit into your new ways of living and thinking. You need to draw in people who do, and then the hatred problem will disappear very quickly.

[sv800]

Some few years ago, my project was canceled since did not meet the deadlines leaving me unemployed for several months.

I received a phone call from "supposed friends" not to help but to confirm rumors.

That had bothered me for several years, then after reading this post....I just let them go. Why should I care about other people say?

Thanks to all

[PMcDonald]

Boy there are a great deal of excellent posts on this topic and just to reiterate what was said:

1. Ultimately, we should try to get to a point where we can live life fully expressed, without fear of rejection or worrying about what others think. This comes from being fully confident in our own ability to succeed at whatever we choose and to also know that we are all unique, wonderful, masterful beings.

2. Unfortunately, we have been conditioned from birth to believe certain things i.e. rich people are evil and greedy and mean and therefore we continue to harbor those beliefs until such time as we are woken up and realize that those beliefs are not our own and are, in fact working against us. This was undoubtedly the most profound peice of personal development that I have experienced. That realization is harsh and cold, but refreshing and uplifiting at the same time.

Collectively, if we live life worrying about what others think and putting down wealthy people, you are absolutely blocking your own path to success.

[Liara Covert]

I love these posts!
They remind us that;

a) how our lives unfold has a stronger connection to our own feelings than we realize
b) gaining a clearer, personal vision of success is an offshoot of inner growth
c) expanding personal development opens unexpected doors of opportunity
d) talking about grace makes us more open to its power and positive influence
e) being unprepared to cope with negative feelings (i.e., jealousy/doubt) holds us back from our dreams
f) denying influence of our own negative thoughts undermines achievement
g) recognizing and building on what you think you do right is preferable to focusing on what other people think you do wrong
h) being willing to leave your comfort zone requires courage yet it is key to realizing dreams

[Dani]

i) If you want to live YOUR dream don't listen to others, because they can only tell you you how to live THEIR dream.

j) The exception to i) is people who have already done, or are honestly trying to do, what you are. Do not necessarily follow their words, but you can use them for reference.

k) You will very likely experience negative reactions, because to become something new, you will have to leave behind your old life, and many of the people in it. Often those people resent you leaving because it intimidates THEM. Do not take this personally. In fact, see it as a compliment when someone tells you 'You've changed'.