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07-12-2009, 02:17 AM
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  |  Bouncing back in your belief after a "near miss"
Hey folks - I'm sure you've been following my train wreck... Basically, I manifested a nearly perfect mate that I did NOT think could exist in real life before he showed up. There was instant recognition (for me at least). He was 100% on my list and we had instant, crackling chemistry. He showed up the very day after I did my Ceiling Process (have already talked about this...) This person made me feel more quickly and intensely than anyone EVER has. Except that he just was not in the same place with readiness and I was further along in my emotion than he was. (Damn, I really THOUGHT I had this in my list. But I scared him off anyway - without even ACTING that intense. He just somehow picked up my intensity.) The trouble with this is, I really know that in order to manifest, I need to have absolute belief. This incident has set my belief back quite a ways. I'm very shaken and am now having trouble with the belief that "he is out there". How do you get your belief back after a near-miss? Thank you. |
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07-12-2009, 04:35 AM
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I highly suspect that you're much, much too involved now to manifest well - detachment is key, after all. Focus on placing some mental distance between any sense of lack, manifest some easier goals, relax and focus on yourself for a bit. If its a near miss, consider just how awesome you are. You were /that/ close to perfect success. You'll learn from this and succeed brilliantly soon enough. I believe Acting Like Godot, who is easily one of the master manifesters here, explained that you essentially need to "not suffer its lack, but be happy for its presence." Your language suggests that you are suffering its lack. This is working against you. |
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07-12-2009, 04:53 AM
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Just remember, real life rules still apply! Either you've been seeing his presence in your visualizations and developed feelings for this type of man (or in a non LOA way - happen to have love at first sight), you have to play it COOL. Dating 101 still applies. If you do your best at not rushing things and he still bolts, he's a warm up. forget it. The universe actually can figure it out without you worrying. It does that kind of thing. After a 14 month period of intense specific visualization my future wife met me in a store the day she had ended a LTR. She didn't know it yet. And if I told her she would have probably ran away. I just chilled out and realistically I still didn't know if something even better was meant with someone else. How can you know?? Stay detached, go with the flow, become friends, lovers, etc... Every moment new creations can happen including past manifestations change direction. Stay focused and don't worry about what this or that person is doing. Maybe the original guy will bump into you at a store and you'll have a different energy? Last edited by joelr; 07-12-2009 at 04:56 AM. | |
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07-12-2009, 07:23 AM
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You should be over the sky that you manifested exactly what you wanted minus one ingredient in the formula! Just ad it into the mixture, shake well, don't stir! Why would you loose faith in your abilities???? Just refine them.  |
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07-18-2009, 07:06 AM
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Beloved, Actually, I've reached a place with this where I realize that I needed to manifest this experience to get to the next place of growth, regardless of what comes of him. And he recently has popped back up. Except I'm in a much better place to deal with him now... ironic, huh? |
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07-18-2009, 11:35 PM
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again, another catch with this stuff...faith has to increase every time you do not get it....there also really arnt lessons with this stuff, except calm faith......so do not go into this lesson thing, because I promise you, once you do you will keep creating it...SO ARE YOU READY FOR HIM? I KNOW YOU ARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DO YOU DESERVE IT TODAY? THEN WHY ON EARTH WOULD THERE BE BLOCKS...infact, blocks arnt even real....so if you are going to do anything, work on pure one targeted intention and do not even look at what is showing up also that belief that he may not be out there is rubbish....its not even real, its your ego trying to save you more disappointment... we really are the boss with this stuff.....so give your mind a scrub out....and come back to your heart.... you want to get to this place... you know in heart.... you mind is clear....and nothing in life has the ability to knock you for six, especially what is showing up...IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE, it has NO WEIGHT WHATSOEVER, its just that your giving it weight/momentum by looking at it today is the first day of your creating and memory/past has no bearing on what you are choosing for tomorrow I promise this stuff is true, it really is, so know that Last edited by magic1; 07-19-2009 at 12:00 AM. |
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07-22-2009, 05:35 AM
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Thank you Magic1. I don't know what will come of this specific guy, but I am not attached anymore and it looks very different detached from my "crush"... I remember practically as a mantra "one door closes, another opens" and imagine myself on my path with my mate at my side, and anyone who is not that person being thanked, blessed and letting them walk on to their own path. [This is a gentle thing, not "kickin y'all to the curb."] |
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07-23-2009, 01:57 AM
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I am getting syncs beyond description...and the flavor of them at the moment, is FOCUS FOCUS FOCUS, but me and maybe like you have a very old tape running, which is always unconsciously trying to let me not do this... but it is just a tape and it is not real, and our dreams really are ours when we give them permission to be...focus, know flow.....get past that ego... | |
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07-25-2009, 01:27 AM
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I'm starting to understand more about what happened. I was successful at pulling this person into my life. EVERY detail was correct. Right down to the most miniscule of details, as if I had created a character for a story and the person had come to life. Even some details that I won't repeat on a public forum He even had cats (I wanted a partner with at least one cat, because I can't have them where I live), and was at a higher level in many respects than I'm used to dealing with. However, I still had patches of stuff I had to "work on" to make a relationship work with a relatively healthy person. I've had a friend point out just how self-centered I've been in this relationship (for lack of better term), with regard to my own expectations and treating the other person like a "thing". This actually is a psychology failing I'm spotting with my LOA relationships - I've LOAd MOST of them, but actually had stronger relationships with the ones who "just came along" (the chemistry and compatibility tended to lack, but we worked harder at the relationship and fewer of my "expectations" came up). I have to remember I'm attracting a human being with feelings, not creating a person in a laboratory, or having an order filled by the cosmos that will fit to all of my specifications. This may be a place where unconscious patches of darkwork play out in my "magic". I've used LOA longer than I've been an adult with any concept of this (I LOAd the family cat at age 5), so it's probably inevitable I'd have some bad habits. I've had the tools longer than I've had any concept of responsibility. So, I have to consider this a LOA success, and take responsibility for this, as much as it stings. I also have to take responsibility for the hurt and confusion I've likely caused by pulling this person into my life when I had no concept of how to manage the relationship with them. I would likewise consider it a LOA success if I managed to land a job I wasn't really qualified to do, but still got fired from the job because of the lack of qualifications. I've managed to pull in borderline stalker/obsessives, neurotics and "tumor boyfriends" in the past and hold onto these for a relatively long time, until the relationship "hit the wall", but I have to consider this reflective of my own relationship consciousness at the time. From a growth perspective, I spotted in my relatively brief time with him that I have had some of the same "crazy" patterns that my "crazy" exes had. My weird final letter to him was full of my own epiphanies, didn't honor in any respect where he was at or even address the letter it was responding to, and of course I thought it was SO profound and he would be SO thrilled for me. WTF? Same kind of thing I'd've thrown in the trash had I gotten it from someone else. Last edited by pyrogen; 07-25-2009 at 01:52 AM. |
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07-25-2009, 02:53 AM
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thats is true and kinda funny! you want a man not a lab rat! its cute, and I love your intent.... you gave me a synch, would you beleive I just had a thought, why do I keep seeing the word cat! and then I opened your post, my synchs always are tied to something I should pay attention to...so in terms of manifesting my own man, I may take your advise... dont you wsh you could wash away all past experinces that can tarnish fresh creating!!!!!!!!! ignore my spelling...its terrible! I do have two degrees! |
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07-25-2009, 04:53 AM
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I've used this one book, "Finding each other" by Don and Mary Kelly, to do my manifesting, but the deal is, there's always some bit of the prep I miss. They tell you that you need to pretty much wipe the slate clean as much as possible and get over your old hurts. As for the spelling - lol, I know so many people who are highly educated who either type or spell poorly.  | |
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07-25-2009, 05:24 AM
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Hmmm... I re-read Steve's article: How Intentions Manifest Thinking about how this applies. I've been treating the person showing up as the beta or final manifestation, when in reality it's just the alpha. Hm. |
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07-25-2009, 08:32 AM
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its very very accurate what he talks about, I must say, and you have read my frustration!! I loose focus after a few days, so I create massive synchs about wining lotto, but that state only lasts a few days, and then my mind and its old talk takes over...thats what I was saying when I talk about the ego butting in, From a spirtual perspective they are saying to me FOCUS! and remember the leprachauns??? you can not look away.....otherwise the gold disappears....you do not have the LUXURY of doubt.... Its gutting for me at times, because I know that I know, yet our minds are tricky and thoughts are slippery...its practice like he says, I was meant to re read that article....so thanx for that.... In terms of you my dear, do you really beleive??? I know I go on about faith, but its vital, so in your mind can you see clearly what is is and feel it, you do not have to hold it all day, just those intensive sessions, and then purposly think about something else for the rest of the day, any other thought in conflict does mess with process....... Hold hold and hold intention, like there is no other way...I have been told through synchs to do this, and I trust it.... |
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07-25-2009, 09:08 AM
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I will say the level this stuff asks for is of high standard....you know how we want to moan and groan about how its not working, well from a universe veiw-point WE CANT I really admire your determination, this stuff takes countless times to perfect..and its like what I said to you the other day, the less we succeed, the more we have to trust...because there are no free passes.... but so so worth it, there is no other road for me, that I know...this is it, lotto or nothing basically, man did I set myself a task! I desire the miracle, more than the cash.... hahahah theres a song playing on TV she got the money....she got the money....see! |
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07-30-2009, 07:27 AM
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Well, what I'm learning about what happened to this attempt at a relationship... I was acting kind of crazy while I was dating him. A few weeks out of it, I'm apalled at how I was. I have hyperthyroidism (been struggling with it for a few years) and what I did not realize at the time is that I was likely having a manic episode, which comes stock with hyperthyroidism. I hadn't had one before so I didn't realize this was going on. A couple of people close to me say that it looked like that. He wasn't relating to "me", he was relating to my health issues. So sad about this. So very, very, very sad and I'm having that kinda crushed feeling... ♥♥♥♥♥. Mortified at how I was. Am I gonna create this for myself again? Are there two of him? Maybe I need to program the situation s that the person has a chance to get to know me and love me while also knowing I come with these issues. And know that most of the time I really am a sane, functional person. Last edited by pyrogen; 07-30-2009 at 07:33 AM. |
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07-30-2009, 04:10 PM
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This is the downfall of most of us, and if someone is posting on this forum, I doubt they have the answer either... We can only make suggestions, I have problems with this myself, I try to watch some tai chi videos, or just saturate myself in positive activities, that might help get you back in line... All I can say is never give up... |
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07-30-2009, 06:33 PM
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It sounds llike you managed to manifest the person perfectly well, but the next stage is having relationship skills. You can manifest your dream partner for sure, but you still nd to know how to make a relationship work in order for it to be a success. Try googling 'catch him and keep him or 'keep your man' and 'Mimi Tamer.' These are all ebooks about how to deal with men and how to make relationships work. I hope I dont sound patronising. i just dont want you yo lose faith in your manifesting abilities because it sounds like you did just fine in that area and the problem wasnt with the manifesting but maybe with the relationship skills. You may have done something to scare him away without realising it.
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07-31-2009, 02:20 AM
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I have read some of Christian Carter. I totally spot now that I totally did a lot of serious red-flaggy stuff. If I'd been dating someone who acted like I acted in the beginning, crap. I'd be so out of there, too. I'm only spotting this stuff I did now that I have distance from the situation. He kind of got me at a low point. When my ex and I broke up (I didn't date this guy long enough to really call him an ex, I'm talking about the person I was with for two years previously), I had spent so much energy working on the relationship that I had stopped working on any other part of my life. The new guy kind of came along when I was at one of my lowest and most needy points. That said, because he's active in the field that is my main academic passion, that he inspired me to get back into, I'm probably going to run into him again at some point at a conference or something. LOL... this is kind of a small town. Better get used to running into people. I guess if I did run into him I'd be, "Hey, how's it going... ok talk to you later". |
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07-31-2009, 08:55 PM
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I'm almost wondering if I should ask that the person be a good fit, but *not* have those subconscious triggers that make me fall in insta-lurve, so that I can stay grounded and real? Maybe a slow grow attraction? This one had a number of subconscious triggers about him - I realized later that he wore the same aftershave that my dad wore when I was 4. Before you think this is sick, there's solid science behind it - I immediately became really, really limerent and off in fantasy la-la land. Like, maybe the person can be otherwise right for me but not be an immediate physical "type" that I will immediately swoon over. I know I'm capable of "slow-grow attraction" or "sneak-up love", because most of my actual RELATIONSHIPS have been this, it's just that these relationships also didn't have a whole lot of compatibility. Last edited by pyrogen; 07-31-2009 at 08:59 PM. |
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