Manifesting love
 

I am noticing this issue with my love LOA. I mostly seem to manifest just sex, or temporary liasons. With highly compatible and delightful people, with whom I have a great deal of chemistry, whom I otherwise would not get to meet via conventional means. I'm very dissappointed with the people I've met who I HAVEN'T LOA'd, but these relationships seem to be longer term.

Now, I have done love LOA nearly my entire dating life (since my teen years). It's my main dating service :) I have entered about 60% of my relationships using various forms of LOA. The more specific my requirements were, the better the relationship actually was - no matter how temporary it was.

The two horrendous long term relationships I've had, were NOT LOA, but the person actually wanted to stick around and I was the one that ended up leaving.

So, here is what I do. I make a list. I follow a method that involves making a huge extensive list and paring it down to 5 qualities, but I seem to nearly always get every list item.

I set an intention of when I will meet the person - say, by the new moon, or by next month, or in six months - they always show up. Someone always comes into my orbit. This works when conventional dating doesn't. It happens via very mystical means - an old friend calls me and invites me to a party where I meet that person. I usually know immediately that I have met the one I LOAd.

Frequently I notice that my love LOA relationships have a very, very different character than other relationships. There is more immediate click, more honesty.

Now here is the issue. They often seem to move really fast - and I seem to have a knack for manifesting perfect people who just want sex or who scare themselves! They may even be people who are not otherwise players - but I'll be the one exception to the rule.

I find the LOA relationships much harder to pace (as in, take more slowly) than conventional relationships, because the attraction is usually much greater. I also stupidly find myself trusting LOA boyfriends/girlfriends much sooner than I would trust a conventional boyfriend/girlfriend. I have some kind of fallacious reasoning that I don't need to apply conventional caution to someone I LOA.

I almost feel like, sometimes, I am just setting a trap for myself to break my own heart!

I think it's possible this may have happened again. I spent months working on my list, and then did a powerful process that I've used in the past (I call it the ceiling process). The next day, the very person - 100% match - showed up in my inbox and started pursuing me. But now I'm having to accept that I should have used common sense while dating him. I find the LOA relationship partners much harder to use common sense with because it's like I trust them as soon as I meet them because they match my "list".

What is anyone else's experience?

I am wondering if somehow my targeting is off. I also wonder if the problem is with mixing the Tactical and Zen polarities. I'm very programmed with tactics. My LOA relationships tend to be Zen. The non-LOA relationships were entirely Tactical but when I find myself Zenning into a relationship I am still trying to use a Tactical mindset. "Wow, we clicked and you were in the moment - now I get your big bag of expectations!"

I'm completely ready for an LTR. I've been for a long time, actually.

I am wondering if my knack for attracting perfect people who don't actually want an LTR with me, and tendency to settle for completely incompatible people who DO want one, is because of some kind of inner belief that I don't "deserve" what I am LOAing?

My requirements are high. I really require high conversational compatibility, a click - as in, we are on the same wavelength and vibe off one another, we communicate well.

I don't really have anything to offer. I have never been able to manifest any sort of romantic relationship, casual sex, not even a date. I really don't understand why either. I can manifest other things fairly easily. I am quite happy on my own, so I'm not needy or overly attached to the outcome, but I am rather curious at to why romantic intentions always to seem to fizzle and go nowhere.

I think you are doing pretty good if you are able to manifest anything in the romance department. It seems to me to be very difficult. Maybe you just need a bit more practice and some fine tuning.

When you manage to nail it, please post what you did. I would be quite interested to try it for myself. :)

Is one of the 5 Qualities "Ready for and interested in a serious long-term relationship"?

If the other qualities seem to fit, why not this one?

JSB, that quality is *always* there. It'll be the one thing that turns out not to fit.

I also am wondering if I am mistaking my "alpha reflections" for the actual manifestation. It is possible that the first person to go out with me after I make the "call", with whom I feel a connection and who is a match, is only the alpha reflection.

Okay.
 

I have to accept that even if this last LOA relationship ends up blowing goats...

He still is a much more on-target LOA attempt than I've ever gotten in the past, and I have to accept kudos for that.

He's pretty much 100% on all the bullet points except for 1) not liking hot sauce, lol and 2) not liking roller coasters, lol. He's so much a list match that it's spooky.

When I had "locked on" in my visualization, I saw someone with that kind of smile, who was about that height - so I was pretty accurate. I also was spot-on about the kind of chemistry (kind where we can make each other laugh for hours).

So, okay. Charge ahead to the future. This one was the closest targeting I've ever done. If I got this target even halfway then my weapons were more calibrated to the target than they've ever been - I have to think of it this way.

What is this "Ceiling process" you speak of?

Also.. manifesting love/relationships? HAH Doesn't seem possible :(
Been trying for months with not even as much as a hint of women.

I havent made that list though..
I'm very easy going and not very picky..
If they are honest, have character and Talk a lot, I'm good :P

I'll post again about the ceiling process at some point, but it's under the thread in Intention/Manifestation about "techniques" that I started.

I've been very successful at manifesting romantic partners, just not at keeping them - but I've spotted the error, as of my most recent thread. I still take myself with me wherever I go... the common denominator is me.

I blogged my most recent reflections on this:

Alice in Blunderland: Love at first sight doesn't work if one of you needs glasses

Alice in Blunderland: Full Reliance

Wow! Daniel Jackson. I want a John Sheppard. :D
Sorry it didn't work out. I think I can relate.

He was a real archaeologist too.

Now I want to find another one. But give him a big mole or something on his chin so that I won't immediately be so "into" him and freak him out.

:D Somehow I doubt it would work. The mole, I mean. But good luck! :)