help please!

[good]

I have using the LOA during these last two years.
MY dream was to be good at something in the university, i selected
a hard university with good level .
I studied very hard and tried to pass my exams, seeing myself getting
good marks, i was sure for me it was a fact i will pass the subjects.
I failed all and get down, although i believed i had to do
something bad with the LOA.
MY family , my mother told me i wasn't enough smart and i should quit! i know
i could achieve that in spite of all the criticism of my family,
nobody believed i would pass any of these exams.
I passed few exams, and failed most. My family told me that
:"you excepted too much on yourself"
"you must to accept yourself"
"you have limitations"
"you are not smart enough"
I want to progress i want to be good and i want to achieve that, no matter
what people around me think.
The problem is that they don't want to give me another oportunity because they think i will fail again.

please help, what i am not doing well? i think i deserve pass it and achieve it.

Thank you very very much!!!
Best regards!!

[Dot]

Hi good,

In your wanting-exploration-discovery-building try and get some ideas about what that "something" is that you want to be.

Why's the university have to be "hard?" How about just calling it the "right" university for want you want.

The problem is that they don't want to give me another oportunity because they think i will fail again.

Ah, well, that's because you're giving power to other people. You're choosing to put them in a position of people who "don't want to give me another oportunity because they think i will fail again."

Come to realize that there is no opportunity that is outside yourself - then, you can realize that it is you who creates your opportunities.

By realizing that, you take your own power back. And through that, you begin to create and manifest the opportunities that you want. And you want these opportunities so that you can realize that "something" you want to be good at - which is why you're in university.

Which still bring you back to ...... figuring out what that "something" is that you want. : )

When you do that, you'll experience very fast changes - all leading, assisting, and helping you in the direction to manifest what you want.

Cheers --

[good]

Originally Posted by Dot

Hi good,

In your wanting-exploration-discovery-building try and get some ideas about what that "something" is that you want to be.

Why's the university have to be "hard?" How about just calling it the "right" university for want you want.

The problem is that they don't want to give me another oportunity because they think i will fail again.

Ah, well, that's because you're giving power to other people. You're choosing to put them in a position of people who "don't want to give me another oportunity because they think i will fail again."

Come to realize that there is no opportunity that is outside yourself - then, you can realize that it is you who creates your opportunities.

By realizing that, you take your own power back. And through that, you begin to create and manifest the opportunities that you want. And you want these opportunities so that you can realize that "something" you want to be good at - which is why you're in university.

Which still bring you back to ...... figuring out what that "something" is that you want. : )

When you do that, you'll experience very fast changes - all leading, assisting, and helping you in the direction to manifest what you want.

Cheers --

Thank you very much i promise I will come here and told you how well i did!!
I didn't understand what was wrong with me you are absolutly right!

Thank you again you seem a great person!!!
Best wishes for you!

[TonyToneTone]

Maybe it's your study methods? Have you thought about getting a tutor or asking the teachers why you failed? You can also ask one of the other students for some help. I don't think it's because you are not intelligent enough.

There are resources out there for you good!

[Acting Like Godot]

Originally Posted by good

My family told me that
:"you excepted too much on yourself"
"you must to accept yourself"
"you have limitations"
"you are not smart enough"

You have a crappy family.

Ok they might be nice in other ways, but understand this - people who have a habit of telling you that you are not good enough; you mustn't strive to be better; you can't succeed anyway blah blah blah ....

are BAD for you.

You must find your own strategies to deal with them. What those strategies may be depend on your own circumstances. Eg you may move out; or refrain from talking about your goals to them; or mentally tune out their negative messages; and find other more positive friends or supporters.

[good]

Thank you very much to all!
Tony i wish i could take some tutors for help, but the main problem i have to work helping my mother and i can't go to the most of class, and it gave me no time to do a lot of things, so i study but i have no enough time to do all. If i could go to the classes, and integrate in the university i would get good mark, i am sure!
I studied hard but without the possibility to go the classes, and without a good environment, that was the problem, i wanted the LOA solved that but i have to be in the right environment in order to suceed.

Acting Like Godot Acting Like Godot thank you very much, i have very good friends that support me and help me a lot, people that are not my family treat me much better. My family tell me "you can't" because they can't and they have no dream while i am willing to do everything to be better. I know my infancy was very hard and perhaps is my thinking about it what makes me arrive to this point. Anyway again thank you for your clear answer you are right and you are helping me a lot, thank you and i wish the best for you!

I try to do my best to everyone around me, i dont make exceptions, no matter what they think or how they are. sometimes i ask myself if i should change and be a bit more cold, but it makes me feel so bad, so i can't.

I know I can change this situation, i dont know how, i will do! Thank you people !!

[smartile]

Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot

You have a crappy family.

I couldn't help but laugh at that one because you are absolutely right; but then again, how many people are NOT in this situation?

I remember when I first started to venture out of the mainstream. This first thing I wanted to do was start my own business - and since most of my friends and family were all in jobs, I got resistance. People were resisting my desire and temptation to start my own business, to take more courses, to study and challenge myself and become more.

At first I was really let down - these people were supposed to be my family and supporters you know? Why the heck would they want to keep me small?

Then I realized that was all they knew. I couldn't blame them for being the way they were. Besides it wasn't about them, it was about me.

If I wanna be me I've got to be me, not the me you think I should be.

[Lil Chris]

Originally Posted by smartile

If I wanna be me I've got to be me, not the me you think I should be.

Amen to that brother...

P.S. I chuckled to ALG's post too...