How to become aggressive?

[Destine4destiny]

I have been sitting back thinking about being aggressive but my heart is not letting me too. You should always treat people with respect regardless of what especially if you are aware that being negative keeps you stagnated and stops your blessings from coming your way. Maybe I am wrong for feeling like this but I am a truly believer that noone is going to force me to change who I am because they are acting out their internal issues.

[Zas]

Why are you trying to be aggressive?

[Destine4destiny]

I guess being aggressive is best because it is a don't mess with me sign.

[jeff3]

Do you mean assertive...or aggressive, there's a big difference. If you are a passive type who allows others to run over you then you could benefit from assertiveness training. If you wish to be the type of person who runs over others you need to become more aggressive.

It's one thing to look out for your own self interest and another thing to look out for your own self interest at the expense and detriment of others.

[Lionman]

The quality of aggression is heat and expansion, like a hot explosion. If you can imagine yourself to be fire and begin to feel the heat and expansiveness, you are then resonating with this primal force behind being aggressive. The key is to FEEL the heat in your body/soul and its desire to expand. This is the FEELING behind AGGRESSIVE EMOTIONAL FORCE.
An affirmation of 'i'm aggressive' will do nothing, as thats just a phrase which means nothing without the corresponding feeling. Instead feel how hot molten magma must be and the pressure building up inside a volcanoe. Feel its immensly hot desire to expand and explode outwards. Imagine this energy personified. What does he look/feel like? Feel what it must be like to be this person who embodies emotions of magma and fire. Hear him/yourself say 'I AM AGGRESSIVE!!!' in a thunderous voice. The hotter you can get yourself to feel, the more powerful this will be.
Be warned, this is not only powerful stuff, it is the principle of power itself. If you go to far with this, it can make you violent, power hungry and unstable.
This is the direct contrast to the cool/yielding/absorbing feeling behind empathetic emotions, which you may already have a lot of.

[Destine4destiny]

Originally Posted by Lionman

The quality of aggression is heat and expansion, like a hot explosion. If you can imagine yourself to be fire and begin to feel the heat and expansiveness, you are then resonating with this primal force behind being aggressive. The key is to FEEL the heat in your body/soul and its desire to expand. This is the FEELING behind AGGRESSIVE EMOTIONAL FORCE.
An affirmation of 'i'm aggressive' will do nothing, as thats just a phrase which means nothing without the corresponding feeling. Instead feel how hot molten magma must be and the pressure building up inside a volcanoe. Feel its immensly hot desire to expand and explode outwards. Imagine this energy personified. What does he look/feel like? Feel what it must be like to be this person who embodies emotions of magma and fire. Hear him/yourself say 'I AM AGGRESSIVE!!!' in a thunderous voice. The hotter you can get yourself to feel, the more powerful this will be.
Be warned, this is not only powerful stuff, it is the principle of power itself. If you go to far with this, it can make you violent, power hungry and unstable.
This is the direct contrast to the cool/yielding/absorbing feeling behind empathetic emotions, which you may already have a lot of.

This was exactly what I was thinking about simply saying I am aggressive to myself is not enough there has to be an intense feeling behind it for anyone to resonate with it. So thank so much for that descriptive, heart feeling comment it is greatly appreciated.

[Stevie B]

Originally Posted by Destine4destiny

I have been sitting back thinking about being aggressive but my heart is not letting me too. You should always treat people with respect regardless of what especially if you are aware that being negative keeps you stagnated and stops your blessings from coming your way. Maybe I am wrong for feeling like this but I am a truly believer that noone is going to force me to change who I am because they are acting out their internal issues.

It isn't the feeling that makes you aggressive, it is the reason that makes you aggressive. People try to focus on the emotion, but it is the reason that drives you.

You'll find that to make yourself more aggressive, you just need to understand why you act and why others act. Once you understand the why, focus on letting yourself be angry.

For instance, if someone just tripped you just to laugh at you and you were minding your own business, then you have every right to be mad. If someone tripped you after you hurt one of their family members, then you might want to hold back your anger, as your why for being angry doesn't out way their why for being angry.

Think about the reason from your perspective and compare it to their perspective and you'll begin to understand aggressiveness.

Stevie B.

[Destine4destiny]

I didn't look at it like that at all Stevie B. I guess I was too focus on the emotion and not the reason behind the emotion because it's the reason that drives a person to do what they do.