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[WordKeeper]

My life is quite isolated. When my phone rings it is either a creditor or my mother. To say I am lonely is an utter understatement.

I want to change my expectations. I want to go out into the world expecting to be accepted and included but left uneffected when I am not. I want to live day to day on a higher energy vibration.

Much of my life has been lived on a very, very low vibrational level. It started with my family of origin. I do believe that I can change my energy level using visualization and meditation. But it is surprisingly difficult.

There is an aspect of the I/M concept that is troubling to me. As a child, when something hurtful happened to me, either physically or emotionally my father's response was that I got what I deserved. This paternal attitude established a cycle in which my siblings who were older were permitted to poke, belittle, make fun of, etc. with no reproach, because - - - I deserved it. If I reacted with hurt or anger the torment escalated and my father's punishment was added on. Often the punishment was banishment.

I recognize that this emotional cycle has played itself out over and over in my life. I also realize that I have life long "looked" for signs of being excluded or belittled or other's receiving preferential treatment and of course I have found them in abundance. Much of this "looking" actually takes place on an unconscious level.

My problem is this - how can I change state of mind. It is exhausting. I am not seeing progress. I wonder how a person sustains this work and what it takes to move from the effortless level of resentment and darkness to one of comfort, joy and light.

Has anyone here made this transition or known anyone who has?

[Angela]

Looks like you've got some old stored up negative emotions and limiting decisions that could stand to be cleared out!

I help people release that old gunk every day, using TIME Techniques, NLP patterns, and intuitive coaching. Everything looks different -- the FUTURE looks different! -- when you have let go of those old decisions and emotions that once served a positive purpose, but are not working well in supporting you to live a life you're in love with. TIME Techniques, especially, is a wonderful process for getting the learnings at an unconscious level so that you can let go of those old emotions now, easily and effortlessly. It's fun, and it takes around two hours. Most people laugh (and some cry a little!) as they see life from a perspective that is free of the gunk they've been carrying around for 20, 30, 40 years, and a free future unfolds in front of them.

[marinik]

Hi WK, yes I have! I have seen a young girl pull herself out of a very similar situation. She spent her childhood and youth taking care of her mother dying from colon cancer, while her father gave in to the bottle, and brother continued on with his life not even turning back. They were war refugees left with nothing so she had to do everything around her mother and the house.

When her mother died, she locked herself in her tiny rundown room for 2 years. Nobody even noticed she wasn't around.

Finally when her father would drink all the money she would get as her mothers pension she had to start to work, for mere existence, food. She took all the beatings life would give her and just endured until one day we met and we started talking. I am a life coach now, at the time I was working in a huge corporation in HR. I gave her books, tapes, CD's and talked to her when ever she needed it. She started writing a gratitude journal although the first time she sat to do it it seemed to her there was nothing to be grateful about. But she found the strength and continued.

Today she has almost everything sorted out, the relationship with her father (a very complex one) her brother... and the most important herself. She has graduated, works in a bank. Has plans, lots of friends, goes out, loves dancing and travel. She works as the top logistics person on the best rock festival in this part of the world during the summer (takes time of for work) to make an extra buck for her MBA. It has been 5 years since we met. It wasn't easy. But she did it!!!

Hope this helps.

Love m

[WordKeeper]

Marinik - what an increible story. I marvel over the intersection that brought you to her and her to you.

Angela -

Looks like you've got some old stored up negative emotions and limiting decisions that could stand to be cleared out!

No question.

let go of those old emotions now, easily and effortlessly.

Really! Wow. I want that.

[Angela]

Originally Posted by WordKeeper

Really! Wow. I want that.

If you would like to do a free 15 minute phone consultation about it, just let me know. Learn more at Feel Good on Purpose -TIME Techniques. (check out the testimonials page, too, to see what people have to say about it.)

[WordKeeper]

I would definitely like to have a consultation. I'm ready for a change, the work has been so slow and tiring. I am feeling beaten down a bit and need a boost to sustain my drive. I really want to experience a significant shift.

[Angela]

I can do a call anytime tomorrow (Wednesday). Go ahead and send me times that will work for you and the phone number at which I can call you to: angela@feelgoodonpurpose.com and we'll schedule a talk to see if it's right for you.

[Diandra25]

You will suceed!

[WordKeeper]

Thank you Diandre! thank you very much!!

[magic1]

yes you will miss...I know it can be a difficult road, most of us on here are seekers of better things, inner happiness, you are on the path, never forget that, and the universe will help you. Hey they have sent you this forum, as a way to express yourself and connect to others. Keep believing! because its true and all you want is already been granted, you are just in its way, so the journey is about taking yourself out of the picture so it can all flow to you!

[Zerox]

We can only say so much, the transition can only come from you.
We can tell you things now that doesnt seem to work, but when you come to realization, you'll remember those words and everything will make sense.

What did it for me, even though I have heard the song so many times before is the lyrics to -Bobby mcferring - don't worry be happy-
It seems simple and it is.

Ofcourse I got a lot of help from steves articles and also the people here on the forum.

But what still sticks with me like my spine are those words. "don't worry, be happy"

Just let go of all that is dragging you down. The more you think about it, the more you worry about it, the more of it you'll get! It takes practice, nothing happens over night, took me a good 3-4months to get out of my old rut.

What you describe would be an extreme understatement. And I'm not exaggerating.

[macabhay]

Dear WordKeeper,

It sounds like you negative impressions are very engrained in your consciousness and it is difficult for you to root out or change them.

I think that the fact that you have very little association may be adding to the problem. My experience is that people generally underestimate the power of influence that our association has on us.

If it is difficult for you to transform your consciousness yourself, I would suggest actively desiring and trying to attract association that will provide you support to do that. If you have support in good association I could see you making much more rapid progress.

[torilink]

Originally Posted by WordKeeper

My life is quite isolated. When my phone rings it is either a creditor or my mother. To say I am lonely is an utter understatement.

I want to change my expectations. I want to go out into the world expecting to be accepted and included but left uneffected when I am not. I want to live day to day on a higher energy vibration.

Much of my life has been lived on a very, very low vibrational level. It started with my family of origin. I do believe that I can change my energy level using visualization and meditation. But it is surprisingly difficult.

There is an aspect of the I/M concept that is troubling to me. As a child, when something hurtful happened to me, either physically or emotionally my father's response was that I got what I deserved. This paternal attitude established a cycle in which my siblings who were older were permitted to poke, belittle, make fun of, etc. with no reproach, because - - - I deserved it. If I reacted with hurt or anger the torment escalated and my father's punishment was added on. Often the punishment was banishment.

I recognize that this emotional cycle has played itself out over and over in my life. I also realize that I have life long "looked" for signs of being excluded or belittled or other's receiving preferential treatment and of course I have found them in abundance. Much of this "looking" actually takes place on an unconscious level.

My problem is this - how can I change state of mind. It is exhausting. I am not seeing progress. I wonder how a person sustains this work and what it takes to move from the effortless level of resentment and darkness to one of comfort, joy and light.

Has anyone here made this transition or known anyone who has?

step one: release the past
step two: surrender to what is
step three: envision and become the you you desire to be

1.
I know your objective mind will want to deny this and will race to counter it, but everything that you believe has happened to you, your entire "Past" is a figment of your imagination. I know you'll be wanting to assure me of all the things that have befallen you and all you've been through and all that you've experienced, but try to see that the only proof you really have that it happened at all is in your mind (perception,memory) and all you really know that is real is NOW. To focus on what was is to miss what can be NOW. At some point you must MUST release the past and allow yourself to be NOW.

2. Surrender to what is NOW. Not because you are in love with it, but because you created it and it must be experienced to move on. Allow this moment to be without looking back, without resisting it, be at peace with it. I know this is a tough step, but it is the only way into the present moment and to your power to transform.

3. Each moment is new and is filled with infinite potential. You are the creative force which determines what is. Whatever you believe is true for and about yourself (state of being) will be true for you.

[WordKeeper]

magic - you are an inspiration for me. I cannot live a day without recognizing that I will find what I look for. I am shifting my search, thanks in part to your inspiration.

Zerox - be happy is a clear improvement over bitter resentment. I will chose happy and love.

Macabhay - Yes - intent the association that will help me loosen those ingrained patterns. Great point. Right on target.

torilink - I love your 3 steps. They are positive and seem necessary to me but my experience tells me they are not sufficient. What I mean is this - the past has me in a way that I do not have it. I find that my body actually physiologically reacts - well before thought reacts - and I know not what the source it - other than that irracible unconscious ogre. My step 1 must include a method for releasing that unconsious to the conscious where I could then apply your 3 steps.

[torilink]

releasing the past is difficult. I understand you as saying you've tried and haven't been able to let go of it??

[WordKeeper]

Not yet - but I have a new prospect on its way!

[Strem2]

Originally Posted by WordKeeper

As a child, when something hurtful happened to me, either physically or emotionally my father's response was that I got what I deserved. This paternal attitude established a cycle....

Has anyone here made this transition or known anyone who has?

Isn't it amazing that "I got what I deserved" almost always plays itself out on the negative side.... Perhaps there is a way to change the charge and attach it to all the good things that are in your life:

This forum and all the people who have taken an interest in you

That you are alive

That you have enough food and water each day

That your mother is still alive and in your life

That you learned about meditation

I can't do the whole gratitude list for you, but if you begin to focus on that rather than on the "bad" that is in your life or the "lack" or the "wanting" then things will turn around.

How attached are you to the victim personna? Some people don't really want to give it up....

[MonkeyFace]

Originally Posted by WordKeeper

My life is quite isolated. When my phone rings it is either a creditor or my mother. To say I am lonely is an utter understatement.

I want to change my expectations. I want to go out into the world expecting to be accepted and included but left uneffected when I am not. I want to live day to day on a higher energy vibration.

Much of my life has been lived on a very, very low vibrational level. It started with my family of origin. I do believe that I can change my energy level using visualization and meditation. But it is surprisingly difficult.

There is an aspect of the I/M concept that is troubling to me. As a child, when something hurtful happened to me, either physically or emotionally my father's response was that I got what I deserved. This paternal attitude established a cycle in which my siblings who were older were permitted to poke, belittle, make fun of, etc. with no reproach, because - - - I deserved it. If I reacted with hurt or anger the torment escalated and my father's punishment was added on. Often the punishment was banishment.

I recognize that this emotional cycle has played itself out over and over in my life. I also realize that I have life long "looked" for signs of being excluded or belittled or other's receiving preferential treatment and of course I have found them in abundance. Much of this "looking" actually takes place on an unconscious level.

My problem is this - how can I change state of mind. It is exhausting. I am not seeing progress. I wonder how a person sustains this work and what it takes to move from the effortless level of resentment and darkness to one of comfort, joy and light.

Has anyone here made this transition or known anyone who has?

I did this about a year ago.

For a few years I was depressed, lonely 14 year old kid. I had a few friends but not many, and I was very anti-social. So, I took some action and, every day and night, used these positive self-affirmations:

I love myself.
I am loved.
I am confident.
I am popular.

I just repeated them to myself when I got a chance. It was three days until I began to noticed a change in what was happening - just three days. Suddenly, people were talking to me, smiling at me, asking me for my opinion.

Now, I'm 15 years old. I have a great social life, including my many friends at school and my girlfriend. Anti-social? No, not any more - in 2 hours I'm going out to a little party with my mates.

I promise you, if you try this for a few days to a fortnight, you'll start seeing a change.

Good luck!

[Aleksander Krstic]

Originally Posted by WordKeeper

My problem is this - how can I change state of mind. It is exhausting. I am not seeing progress. I wonder how a person sustains this work and what it takes to move from the effortless level of resentment and darkness to one of comfort, joy and light.

Has anyone here made this transition or known anyone who has?

I have been in exactly the same position. I can't tell you how I've got out of it yet, however I can guarantee you it's possible even if you are not seeing any progress just as I didn't.

[Angela]

WordKeeper, doesn't it feel great to recognize that so many cool people are concerned about your happiness and well-being, and would dearly love to make a positive difference for you, even if it's just saying they're here with you and they can relate? All you did was share a bit of yourself, and folks are delighted to jump right in and engage with you in a way that feels really good. How's that for personal power? How good does that feel?

How about that old feeling isolated problem you used to have -- how is it different now?