general questions from a 1st timer

[emeraldbaby]

Hi all,

I was recently introduced to 'The Secret' by some friends, and found Steve's site via google. I have been following the forum for a couple of weeks, and still have many questions...

1. I've read that I-M works for everything, and you can be very specific in your intentions. I'm just wondering, would I-M still work if you want a specific person to fall in love with you? and how can I-M work if that person is married, and is intending to have a successful marriage? (this is a hypothetical situation).

2. I've been brought up to be grateful for what I already have. Therefore, I find it hard to ask for 'more' because I feel that if I can get what I want, I should be asking for things for people in 3rd world countries? (as an example) Has anyone else felt similar unease at the feeling of 'wanting too much?'

3. Any tips on how to 'trust' the universe and not to think/daydream about the outcome of my intentions too much? I try to just focus on my intentions first thing in the morning, or before I go to bed, but I still day dream alot throughout the day, which I find really unproductive ;-p.

your suggestion/advice would be greatly appreciated!

eb

[Colm OReilly]

I'm just wondering, would I-M still work if you want a specific person to fall in love with you?

The way I see it, you can intend the what, but not the how. The "what" in this case is the ultimate emotional payoff. Making that what entirely dependant on one situation, or one person, limits you so much.

Ultimately I'd say no, if that person isn't a vibrational match for you, it's just not going to happen.

I find it hard to ask for 'more'

You feel guilty over being selfish, right? Well, to an extent you need to be selfish in order to be selfless? If you don't look after yourself you're limiting how you can create value for the universe. So if you had more money and more free time, wouldn't you be able to help more people than if you have to work 70 hour weeks just to make ends meet (and be grateful you're not on the street)?

Trust is a tricky one, and I can't answer it right now in any sort of coherant way, but I'll get back to you.

Lots of love,
Colm

[Tabs]

Welcome to the forum, your questions are valid and definitely need answering, so I will help as much as I can.

With regards to I-M to make a specific person fall in love with you, I have read for years and lots of books on I-M that say you should not try to make a specific person fall in love with you but you make a list of things you want in a partner and ask for that person to come into your life. I should also add the part where you have to love yourself, first then you start to vibrate on that frequency love comes into your life.

With regards to the hypothetical situation, it kind of cancels itself out one person wants someone who is married to love him/her and the person who is married is setting intentions and working on manifesting a successful marriage (I assume the one he or she is in right now.) This simply means the two people want two completely different things and this case the law of attraction just will not work.

With regards to asking for more, please work on that, what is wrong with getting more out of life, you will not be able to help people in third world countries if you can't take care of yourself. You don't have to wait until you have more to help, clean out your closet today and call Salvation Army or your neighborhood charity organization. Donate your books to Books For Africa, they will send the books to African countries that really need them. You will have to pay for shipping but they usually ask to use the cheapest shipping charges the books will get there. Don't feel guilty for wanting more when there is a pool of endless supply in the Universe.

I would suggest that you watch The Secret again, try to understand exactly what they are talking about. Read Steve’s articles and listen to the podcasts, you are on the right path and they will help you without overwhelming you. It is a start, understanding the basics of personal development will really help you at this stage but you have to do the work.

Good luck.

[emeraldbaby]

Thanks for your replies!

With regards to the hypothetical situation, i asked it because i was confused about subject reality. Now i interpret it as: we can't control other people's intentions/outcomes; their intentions and actions are products of our interpretation. E.g. I find that if I treat mean and rude people as if they are really lovely, they often change their behaviour.

Really appreciate your posts on asking for money/material things, I just needed some reassurance! i think i also fear that I may become too attached to them, and lose myself. That's another thing i need to work through.

about day dreaming, i should clarify that it's not a matter of doubt. For example, i have the intention of getting a wonderful job, and i then day dream of being happy in my job. At first I thought it's not productive, because it means I'm not living in the moment (although i don't do it at work). However, if every thought is an intention, wouldn't positive mental images reinforce my intention?

eb

[Tabs]

EB,
Glad to help, I think I may have a little more for you, rude and mean people should not be tolerated. Must people deal with mean and rude people because they have to deal with them, like a mean boss or family member (and even that is not an excuse to have anyone be mean to anyone.) You need to protect yourself from these people, please, please, please. Don't try to treat them like they are lovely and nice when they are not, in most cases they will only continue to be rude and mean to you. A good percentage of people like this don't change because they don't they tend to only think about themselves.

With regards to the "daydreaming" think of it as visualization (nice technical term for creating visual images of what you really want in your life).
Make sure you focus on specific goals you want and not fantasy situation that seem impossible to you.

Take care of yourself.

[emeraldbaby]

Thank you for your kind words!

I still have a long way to go in understanding I-M or LoA, but at least I feel so much more positive and focused than I was before :-)

as for mean/rude people, i can talk to them with equanimity now (and tell them what their problem is) because i have stopped thinking that i'm partly responsible for their behaviour towards me. So the situation may be bad, but I don't feel bad.

[Tabs]

Originally Posted by emeraldbaby

Thank you for your kind words!

as for mean/rude people, i can talk to them with equanimity now (and tell them what their problem is) because i have stopped thinking that i'm partly responsible for their behaviour towards me. So the situation may be bad, but I don't feel bad.

These things happen to a lot of us, I wrote something about it check it out. You are truly not alone it is one of my highest viewed blogs from all over the world.

[asrai]

Originally Posted by Tabs

With regards to the "daydreaming" think of it as visualization (nice technical term for creating visual images of what you really want in your life).
Make sure you focus on specific goals you want and not fantasy situation that seem impossible to you.

I would add to this when you are daydreaming of what you want add your emotions. Don't just think about what you want, imagine that you are feeling how you would if you got that thing that you wanted. The feeling is more important than the thing. Because maybe you are being too specific and that thing (person, job, situation) you are trying to manifest wouldn' make you the happiest.

Check out Flowdreaming - A Radical New Technique for Manifesting Her radio show on Hay House Radio can give a better description than I can. But it has been extremely helpful in my life.