Manifesting short moments, but not a long term reality

[danas]

I have become quite a pro at conciously manifesting bits of reality.
I find that I am very good at creating unconnected moments
Such as a song on the radio (even if its from the 50s- they suddenly play it after I focus on it the night before), a kiss (even with a specific person), great sex, a date, a trip. to the extent which I even amaze myself.
But I find it hard to manifest something which requires a process, not just a moment. like a relationship, or a family, which is what I really want to create
I can focus on seeing myself in someone specfics arms, and I will find myself in that situation very soon after, but it doesnt continue (he leaves the country or something). Or I decide I want sex with a beautiful man, and so it is the next day...
I have visioned myself geeting married, and giving birth, but when I try to imagine a man there with me, I get confused b/c I dont know who it could be or how it can happen.
Any tips?

[Zas]

I'm not a master of things like this at all . . . But something I feel is that a good relationship, good connection, things like that . . . They're defined by mutual loving right? Wanting the best for each other, etc. If your focus is on creating the best superficial experience for yourself, that's much different than creating a great and lasting and loving relationship.

For me, it feels like the best way to maintain my "relationship" is to let go. To accept the fact that I can be happy without this person and I'm grateful for what we've had. When I focus on how complete I feel in myself, suddenly he responds to that and tells me much sweeter and loving things than I've ever heard him say before.

Plus it's just nice because I used to cling to this person because I felt like he was completing me, and that if I lost him, I'd lose part of myself. But now I realize I'm complete in myself, and he's just some delicious icing on the cake. It makes me truly happy to know that I'm in a position to SINCERELY and COMPLETELY appreciate him for what he is independently of me. That's a much deeper connection than what we've had these years we've known each other previously.

I'm a little confused though as well because I think I'm pretty young in my life, and I'm not quite sure what I want. So I'm not speaking as someone who has happily discovered the man of her dreams- I just know I'm involved with the right man for now who can maintain a fluid relationship with me to match my currently very fluid life, heh.

Also, it's kind of a balancing act to manage selflessness with self-respect (particulary since I've historically had quite a bit of insecurity, I think.)

I don't know if any of this is helpful directly, but maybe there's something useful for you in there, heh.

[Angela]

I used to find it difficult to deliberately manifest my conscious desires, and now it feels really good to recognize that all I have to do is relax and Allow the universe to support me in feeling all of the wonderful, delightful feelings of desire ..... the delicious feelings of being loved and of generously loving, the warmth of being in the arms of the man I love and finding out how generous I can be with everything I've got -- all of my bountiful inner resources. And the part that feels best is the lovely, feminine feeling I have being in the warm, supportive arms of my perfect mate is reflected in the larger sense that I am basking in the trust I feel that all of this, ALL of this, is mine in the perfect way and in the perfect time. I enjoy the transitory nature of the human game, and I trust that as things flow out, they also flow in, and it feels so nice as I learn to trust that Who I Am is infinite abundance and recognize that as people move through my life, and some stay for awhile and some move on more quickly, everyone is exactly where they should be, and I am exactly where I should be.

I am relaxing into the trust that I don't need to know how or why. It is fun and exciting to allow everything to unfold in surprising, delightful ways that I can't even consciously imagine.

I am preparing myself for the perfect romantic long term mutually beneficial loving relationship, and I feel like a treasured queen as I pamper, nourish, exercise, learn, and grow in preparation for that relationship, as I know that my king is doing the same thing -- preparing himself in every way for ME. We will be together at exactly the right time, not a moment before or after. I notice that sometimes I feel impatient, and it feels so good as I consciously transform my impatience into enthusiasm, and I channel that enthusiasm into my current moment and everything that I am focusing on: gratefully accepting and allowing ALL of the joy, power and abundance in all of its forms to show up -- I don't want to miss a thing!

[oberlee]

I came to this forum knowing that I'd find insight, compassion, and something new and relevant for me today. So, thank you, danas, for asking a question in a productive way. I realized that I, too, need help with the "life-long" manifestations, mainly, in my career.

I think the quote Angela posted (from who?) hits the nail on the head as for a way to think about it. I LOVED the part about being happy about impatience because you can then turn it into enthusiasm. Brilliant.

As far as feeling your way into it, I know it can be difficult to visualize something or someone when there isn't one. And of course, worrying "how" something will happen is a killer, but it's completely a natural response. Maybe instead of visualizing an event--having a baby, a wedding--you should imagine what it would be like as you, but in love and loved. Maybe you're sitting by yourself, in front of the computer, but there's that one major difference. That way, you don't have to bring other people into it. Also, visualizations are tricky; you can't get too detailed or you start to flow upstream. I know my one defining moment when I went downstream with love; it was when I saw my 2 friends, a couple, and how much they were in love, and I appreciated it and realized that yes, being in love might be a nice thing after all (I came from a place of "I don't want a relationship" so it's a different situation, but you get my point).

Best of luck to you. If you haven't met a special person yet, it's not any fault of yours. You haven't met that person yet, and when you do, you'll know.

[Pequod]

danas, I'm no master in manifestation in this area, but it seems that my manifestations are much better when I want it without reservation. Maybe there is something unconsciously holding you back? You can ask the universe to show you what is holding you back or what would be the disadvantage of an solid intimate relationship. When you know, you can anticipate or renegotiate your wish.

P.S. How did you manifest great sex? In the past I have thought about employing the LOA for this, but couldn't really figure out how to do it. I'd like to hear your experience/ method.

[danas]

Originally Posted by Pequod

P.S. How did you manifest great sex? In the past I have thought about employing the LOA for this, but couldn't really figure out how to do it. I'd like to hear your experience/ method.

Thanks Pequod
Manifesting sex was very easy. I had'nt had sex for a long time...was waiting for something meaningful with someone I want to be with long term.
But time went by so one day I decided, thats it- I want something meaningless but fun. so I put some very sexy images on my vision board (Im very visual so things I look at manufest easily).
The next day I went to have a picnic with a girl friend and some sexy guy joined us, so I found myself in bed with this hot energetic stud that same night but I knew from the start hes not at all for long term...
After he left I looked at my vision board again and smiled to myself..
I guess, manifesting sex is very easy for me as I've always had certainty about that. I even used to say that any girl can get any guy for one night. A statement thats in my belief system. whereas a long term relationship is something I see as nearly impossible- because of past experience I guess...so I keep attracting impossible relationships!
After the last impossible one I keep saying I want something that simply works.

[danas]

Originally Posted by Zas

If your focus is on creating the best superficial experience for yourself, that's much different than creating a great and lasting and loving relationship.

Thank you Zas. You are right. Ive been focusing on what I want.
I should shift my focus on what I want to give.
In general Im a pretty giving person, but in terms of IM, everything I stated in the post, was about me getting something, and not about giving. Which is what I will focus on once I have a relationship. So, I mght as well start now.
Thanks for helping me see that!!

@Angela
Thank you. Thats a beautiful quote- whose is it?

[Angela]

Originally Posted by danas

...whose is it?

It's yours now.

I opened up a quote, asked my conscious mind to step aside, and invited my unconscious mind to speak directly to your unconscious mind and that's what came out.

I think you'll get better results if you focus on how you want to feel and be in relationship, rather on what you're going to *get.* If you start to think there's something in particular that you want in a relationship, just go ahead and be it now. Make it easy for your king to find you, by being a beacon of light, brightly shining with the brilliance of being what you desire.

[danas]

Originally Posted by Angela

It's yours now.

I opened up a quote, asked my conscious mind to step aside, and invited my unconscious mind to speak directly to your unconscious mind and that's what came out.

I think you'll get better results if you focus on how you want to feel and be in relationship, rather on what you're going to *get.* If you start to think there's something in particular that you want in a relationship, just go ahead and be it now. Make it easy for your king to find you, by being a beacon of light, brightly shining with the brilliance of being what you desire.

Its funny all the guys Ive dated lately keep telling me that I glow with light.
Its like a mantra. I know Im feeling good about myself, and having fun. but so far either it doesnt feel right with the guy, or its impossible (they leave the country).
Yes, its hard to let go of the impossible one....
Anyway this quote was for me. I can feel that. I'll copy it down.
Thank you messenger