How to manifest this?

[Diandra25]

Hi

the more i come here,the more i am aware that i needed to know this forum.

Actually,i found this place by "coincidence" , maybe it was the LOA uncounsciously used,that i needed in order to help in this situation.

Here it goes:

i have been trying to resolve this situation but till now,seems that nothing comes out of it,at least in a good way for myself...

i have a huge debt - not mine but it is in my name.

when i was at college my Father convinced me to sign the papers of his firm,and then when he would have the possibility,would put it into his name.

after i graduated,still the firm was in my name.
now the firm is closed and the debts are all in my name,although in practise,i didnt contributed for that.

Unfortunately,they keep increasing by the taxes and i dont know what to do.

the dets are to Finances and Social Security.

Can i try resolve this using the LOA?

How do i do this?

Still not being my responsability,it is my life at stake...so in one way or another,i atractted this situation in order to "learn" sth?

No one in my family can pay it - still the agreement with finances to pay it by month is no worth - still a huge ammount to be taken.

Does anyone have any advice please?

I have been focusing on what i want;

On ways of this being resolved

Visualising some sudden gains that would cover this debt....

Magic.

Still i habe been having some synchs but i dont know if it has to do with this,or my Life in general.

Thank You

[rawxstasy]

This is unbelievable, your father put a debt in your name that you are now responsible for? What kind of parenting is that? I'm sorry - this is just disturbing. Can you file for bankruptcy?

I don't know if you attracted the situation to you, but it might be a lesson that you need to learn in order to grow spiritually.

Try visualizing for 20 minutes a day what it would feel like to be prosperous. Do your best to not think about this debt. Really allow yourself the feelings. You can also try afterwards writing down six things that you are grateful for. Also write an affirmation three times. An example, "I am properous in everything I do.'

Doing that helped me manifest a job in six weeks. I did the visualizing for almost six weeks, then added the gratefulness and writing the affirmation and three days later I got a higher paying job.

[SarahLuvzYu]

I would sue your dad and milk him for all he is worth

but...How do you except to fix this with LOA if you don't take responsibility for this? I don't know...seems you are trying to use LOA from a objective perspective, it isn't as effective. As Judge said... people want god powers but they don't want to be god. Doesn't work like that, and if it does...works very poorly.

[Diandra25]

tank you

yes i have been visualizing sth like that - but i must not think in these debts - i keep worrying about that!i guess that is why things havent been worked out.

but i started to watch the secret movie and i am in firm believeing that i can pull this off.

my family has some lands who dont worth much but if there are sellers coming by,the selling can pay the debts in total - that is why i have been having Faith.

Sarah

i didnt understood what you said- i say that was not my responsability cause it wasnt me who contributed to the debts - but...overall if i DID SIGNED the papers,,,well....in a way i was committing to have my name there.

this has made me pass through a lot - and i know that it has made me a more stronger person. and to learn not to do this again,even it it is family.

Still i love my DAD - although of all his mistakes - i am aware now that in tehse last 2 years my Life didnt went ahead,was stagnated cause of all the frustration,the anger and the feeling of hopeless that i was having.

this forum is helping me a lot to see that each one of us have the Power to resolve anything that appears in our Life - my mistake was to feel sorry for myslef and blame my family,when in fact,i am the one responsible for having put my name there.

things will be on the right track again . i just need to focus myself on my objectives without fear.

[Strem2]

Originally Posted by Diandra25

Still i love my DAD -

this forum is helping me a lot to see that each one of us have the Power to resolve anything that appears in our Life .... in fact,i am the one responsible for having put my name there.

things will be on the right track again . i just need to focus myself on my objectives without fear.

Hi,

I think you're doing great. Love will always push away fear. Stay in the present. The ego (who brings up the worry and fear) must always live in the past or future. Focus on the love. Stay in the present.

It will work out.

[Diandra25]

Thank You!

it has not been an easy task though...some days i feel torned apart by these awful feelings again.

like yesterday when one of them told me i was not helping as a daugther should.. well...i know that when people only see the lack of money in front of them,they really say very mean things,and i know they didnt wanted to say that in fact...

but i have been improving. I keep feeling gratefullness for the luck i have regardless of this hmmm "issue" and keeping visualise the selling of the landings soon.

i also believe that this whole story will strengten us as a family.

[torilink]

Originally Posted by Diandra25

tank you

yes i have been visualizing sth like that - but i must not think in these debts - i keep worrying about that!i guess that is why things havent been worked out.

but i started to watch the secret movie and i am in firm believeing that i can pull this off.

my family has some lands who dont worth much but if there are sellers coming by,the selling can pay the debts in total - that is why i have been having Faith.

Sarah

i didnt understood what you said- i say that was not my responsability cause it wasnt me who contributed to the debts - but...overall if i DID SIGNED the papers,,,well....in a way i was committing to have my name there.

this has made me pass through a lot - and i know that it has made me a more stronger person. and to learn not to do this again,even it it is family.

Still i love my DAD - although of all his mistakes - i am aware now that in tehse last 2 years my Life didnt went ahead,was stagnated cause of all the frustration,the anger and the feeling of hopeless that i was having.

this forum is helping me a lot to see that each one of us have the Power to resolve anything that appears in our Life - my mistake was to feel sorry for myslef and blame my family,when in fact,i am the one responsible for having put my name there.

things will be on the right track again . i just need to focus myself on my objectives without fear.

how old were you when you signed these papers? are you living in the USA?

[Diandra25]

i was old enough 22

no,im portuguese.

dont worry - everything will work fine!

[WordKeeper]

"like yesterday when one of them told me i was not helping as a daugther should.. well...i know that when people only see the lack of money in front of them,they really say very mean things,and i know they didnt wanted to say that in fact..."

This makes me very sad. That is just wrong! Your father used your credit because he was desparate and then you are left with the consequences. That is bad enough but now you are told that you are not helping as a daughter. WRONG As a parent they should be helping to clear YOUR name and your credit. They have it backwards and that is WRONG.

Your kind spirit will triumph but not if you are a doormat. There is a difference. If you are a doormat you will continue to put yourself in the position of being walked on. Being loving and forgiving is not the same as putting yourself in a position to be walked on again.

Be honest with yourself about the situation and about your parents' actions that have not been in your best interest. Be clear that in this case they do not have YOUR best interest in mind and they OWE that to you.

Meanwhile, I encourage you to visualize this debt as a plate or a box or an account and you see money flowing in to that plate or box or account and filling the hole created by your father. Keep up the visualization until it is done. You will right this wrong and you will be stronger for it but you do not deserve what has happened to you.

[Diandra25]

Hi Wordkeeper

thank you for the exercise-im already doing it!

About my parents-it is a very complex issue - in the moment i was very sad and in shock but then i knew i was letting myself be acught up again in a circle.

I dont wanna be caught on other´s issues again - that is for sure-i know it is unfair and i didnt in fact realised in the moment of signing that this situation could happen really...i never thought he would be in debt again ( yes he did this mistake in his company before that was why he coulndt put his name cause of the other bankrucpy).


the biggest problem is that he is not a good manager - he doesnt know how to deal with money - he jsut kept paying the employes,mantaining them in the factory,even not having any incoming ( when there werent any clients). It was a spiral and he always wanted to keep the factory workking beliveing things would improve..meanwhile our family´s income started to be less and less cause of all this crisis,and the money he used to pay some basic needs,where coming from the fabric ( of course he started not to pay taxes and stuff). it was a cyrcle and then when he took counscious it was too late - he ows to one here,one there...still everyday people come here at the store where i work,asking for my father...

but he has no vicious neither used money to other things then the basic expenses of the family.not spent in game,cars,lands,or any other things...just a bad use of the lesser and lesser incoming of the business..

that is why i still feel frustration but i am aware that it wasnt to put me in bad situation.

[SarahLuvzYu]

Originally Posted by Diandra25

Sarah

i didnt understood what you said- i say that was not my responsibility cause it wasnt me who contributed to the debts - but...overall if i DID SIGNED the papers,,,well....in a way i was committing to have my name there.

this has made me pass through a lot - and i know that it has made me a more stronger person. and to learn not to do this again,even it it is family.

Sorry, I wrote it in a rush

let me try again, you see even though you didn't contribute to the debts you are still responsible. You are responsible for every single thing that happens in reality, everything that is in your awareness. You create everything, therefore you are responsible if you choose to take this responsibility. This is also what I meant by people want god powers but they don't want to be god. They want to use LOA but they won't take the responsibility for their reality.

But yes, your subconsciousness would have manifested this for a reason, making you a stronger person, making you discover something new about your true self

[Wax Frog]

Originally Posted by SarahLuvzYu

they won't take the responsibility for their reality.

How does one get to a place of willingly embracing a (perception of) reality that... well... sucks? Yet another blockage to be rid of, I suppose, but on what basis? How much lipstick will I need for that pig?

[SarahLuvzYu]

Originally Posted by Wax Frog

Why would anyone in their right mind want to take responsibility for a (perception of) reality that sucks? Yet another blockage to be rid of, I suppose, but on what basis? How much lipstick will I need for that pig?

Well that is your reality not mine

and in any case everything is made out of the same stuff, no matter if it is good or bad, it makes no difference.

[Wax Frog]

Originally Posted by SarahLuvzYu

Well that is your reality not mine

Ack, you caught me in mid-edit!

and in any case everything is made out of the same stuff, no matter if it is good or bad, it makes no difference.

But how to bring myself to embrace it?

[SarahLuvzYu]

Originally Posted by Wax Frog

But how to bring myself to embrace it?

I always find these sort of questions hard to answer...For me it just sort of happened, one day it just clicked. It's hard to explain things that technically can't be explained, you just *know*, or for you, you will know.

I mean a lot of people don't want to take responsibility because it seem so depressing, if you reality sucks. Just that word responsibility carries negative connotations. It's the word your parents always used, etc. But because I am just observing reality instead of reacting and looking on the positive side, or just neutral it's better. The reason for taking responsibility is this, if you believe in SR then it makes sense to. If you want to manifest what you desire then you need to. You can't have god powers and just forget responsibility. If you believe you create this, everything that you are aware of, then it only makes sense to take responsibility. You have to experience it for yourself though.

[Wax Frog]

Originally Posted by SarahLuvzYu

you just *know*, or for you, you will know.

A variant on the whole "When the student is ready..." thing, no doubt...

The reason for taking responsibility is this, if you believe in SR then it makes sense to.

It's not so much the "I created this" part that stops me cold; it's the bit about "you have to embrace what you've already made in order to make something new". Why should that be? Why can't I just get right to the making-new-stuff part? What is it about calm acceptance of 'I've screwed up' that unlocks the non-screwed up phase of my life?

[SarahLuvzYu]

Originally Posted by Wax Frog

It's not so much the "I created this" part that stops me cold; it's the bit about "you have to embrace what you've already made in order to make something new", assuming I'm getting that right. Why should that be?

Hehe well if everything is a reflection of you...wouldn't it make sense to embrace it? Maybe you should love yourself first if you don't already.

[SarahLuvzYu]

Originally Posted by Wax Frog

A variant on the whole "When the student is ready..." thing, no doubt...

Lol I was just thinking about Jedi's and padawans...

[Wax Frog]

Originally Posted by SarahLuvzYu

Maybe you should love yourself first if you don't already.

The best way I can answer that, taken as a question, is - I would love myself if I could get at the really cool essence I'm told lies beyond this feeble, goofy body. Sounds harsh, but that is an aspect of my belief set, and it will do me no good not to 'air it out'. Aside from the fact that I occupy one, I have long generally thought human bodies looked rather goofy. All the same, I'm equally terrified at the thought of what it would be like to "leave" it. I'm literally comfortable in my own skin.

This is kind of complicated.

[SarahLuvzYu]

^^Hey maybe you should look on threads about core beliefs?? One just came up on the first page, 'Core Beliefs and Ego', maybe of some interest to you, especially ALG's newest post on there.

[Wax Frog]

Originally Posted by SarahLuvzYu

^^Hey maybe you should look on threads about core beliefs?? One just came up on the first page, 'Core Beliefs and Ego', maybe of some interest to you, especially ALG's newest post on there.

I'm always game for an ALG post!

[joelr]

Have you worked on getting past the negative emotions yet? I imagine there is some amount of anger, frustration, dissapointment? It's important to feel and express that stuff first or it will cause problems with manifestations. Have you told you Dad you feelings? I think it's important to talk about those things, feel them then try to let some of it go so you can get into a place of forgiveness. Then focusing on a positive solution through LOA or whatever would be easier.

I agree with Deepak Chopra when he criticized The Secret for skipping over the part about validating bad feelings.

[Diandra25]

Hi Joelr

yes i have already said many things both my parents - but i must say that the most part i said it in an angry way.then i would go to them and say i shouldnt have showed my feelings that way,but nevertheless they are true.

but you know sth? this has been an issue for the past 2 years - and only some months ago was when i was able to express my deepest feelings.And it was in the last couple of weeks that I completely put all cards in the table,as before i didnt wanted to hurt them with all i was feeling,but then i realized i not only HAD to show all this stuff,as it is one of my most important things to do ,in order that i can truly live my life the way i want it.and feel the way i want to feel - happy and happier.

And as more as I,in the Past,tried to pressure specially my Dad to make things right,it was when all fell apart again and things always got worse.this was a pattern i didnt saw then,but now it is so clear that it makes me kind of...laugh...the more i worried,more i had more reasons in reality to worry! and i would look at the Finances site and whenever i saw the ammount increasing , i had crazy attacks like thinking my life will be doomed forever and nothing good would come out of it etc etc.

painful times really...but since i began my spiritual journey i know that im on the right track now.

i already forgave them.im working on atract money by someone that would buy the lands