Feeling A Little Depressed

[Acting Like Godot]

Sigh.

Two months ago, I started thinking about what my dream job would look like, in terms of salary; type of work; level of responsibility; new work experiences; the kind of colleagues I would have.

And I started manifesting.

The problem was - I couldn't really decide what my dream job should be. In fact, I had quite a few different ideas of what my dream job should be. So I kept manifesting different things.

Without responding to a single job ad or actually hunting for a new job opportunity, I ended up manifesting job interviews at four different places (all came as a result of headhunters coldcalling me).

And in each case, the job turned out to be an interesting & different combination of the different ideas I had manifested, about what my dream job should be.

I eventually rejected one place; another place eventually rejected me; the last two places were both keen to hire me. Today I accepted one and rejected the other.

I feel a bit depressed. Because the job I rejected is also, in a sense, my dream job. Or one version of it.

I guess you can't have it all, huh. Even with the Law of Attraction.

Biggest problem with LOA is that you really have to know what you want. And that is so not, not, not easy, as I am discovering.

[JOE]

I think most people on here would think WHAT ARE YOU MOANING ABOUT?

You have adequately proven to yourself BEYOND a measure of a doubt that this stuff works for you

WOW!

Think of the implications......and now that you have done it once, DO IT AGAIN

But with new focus and a moer definitive idea of what you want. You have achieved a great thing here ..... truly fantastic. Rather than worry, rejoice in your wonderful success rate.....and maybe the universe knows better and these jobs might NOT have been as suitable as you suspect

Great and inspiring post

[skydust]

i have a similar problem, not knowing what i want. there are so many things id want, so choosing becomes like a nightmare. so i end up not choosing anything. i guess one way is to just ask yourself what you want to experience right now. and know that you have lots of time to experience the other things too afterwards. but when you dont know what you want to experience its not easy like we have both discovered. its a luxurious 'problem' indeed.

[Frans]

Acting Like Godot, I know you don't share my point of view with regards to I-M, but I give you my opinion that is based on common sense:

The older you get, the more you'll realize that you cannot have it all.

When I was in my thirties, I thought that I could get what I wanted, and yes, I applied positive thinking (the term I-M was not invented then, I believe).

Now, more than 2 decades later, I know that there are limits:

When you are alone, you have full control over your intentions.
When you are married, have children and grandchildren, it's becoming too complex (conflicting intentions?) and you might concentrate hours per day on your intentions, nothing will prevent that you, your wife, your children or grandchildren will become sick now and then, that accidents happen, that friends/relatives die, etc.

The older you get, the more physical limits you will encounter that make it impossible to do/get what you want:
I do 4 workouts per week and 5-6 times cardio/week, but nevertheless, my body is not as strong and flexible as twenty years ago.

So, the older you get, the more you must adapt your expectations in life.
Therefore, I can give you only one advice: accept that you cannot have it all.

[JHL]

Hey Acting, first of all congrats for landing a job - it certainly seems like you're in demand which reflects very well on your value in the market-place.

A quick true story - many years ago I used to regularly go to a spiritual counselor. One day I came to her with her with a dilemma much like yours. I had 2 job offers and was agonnising over which I should accept.

In response to my dilemma, she simply said "Whichever one you choose will be the right one for you." I was not amused, to say the least. But much later I realised the wisdom in her words - life always brings you exactly what you need, and I have always found this to be true.

If its any consolation, for reasons that may only become clear to you later - its exactly the right job for you. So well done again on securing it.

[infinitethoughts]

Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot

Biggest problem with LOA is that you really have to know what you want. And that is so not, not, not easy, as I am discovering.

I just had an aha moment, Godot as I was reading your post.

Remember, it's just a belief that it's not that easy to know what you want.
Change that belief !

Originally Posted by Frans

accept that you cannot have it all.

Frans, I don't mean to be argumentative, but I don't think thats good advice....stifles the creative spirit. (But we are talking from different viewpoints. Yours is more materialistic, and mine is more......don't really know the words for mine. Realistic Optimist maybe.)

Striving to have it all, even tho a person may not get everything, or they may, is what progesses our society.

Example:
Bill Gates pushed the envelope in personal wealth, which in turn sets examples to everyone else about abundance.
Human speed gets faster and faster in running the mile, human engineers keep pushing how fast and powerful computers can go, etc, etc, etc.

I actually have no problems with humans possibly flying without aided devices thousands of years from now.
The bumble bee did it.

As to the arguments about greed and power hungry individuals going amok, the collective consciousness catches it in time, before they can do too much damage.

Look at the 50's. Electro shock therapy was the be-all answer. Then they found out, it was actually the reverse and did massive damage to the brain. Same thing will happen with the Pharmaceudicals. Collective consciousness is waking up to the fact you cannot put Chemicals into an organic system, without massive detrimental effects.

[danas]

Acting Like Godot, I agree with you. Ive had smilar results in LOA, and yes, from my experience you have to know what you want, but the thing is that its an ongoing process, you can keep adjusting your intention, lets say your new job isnt creative enough for you even though the salary is great, so youll know that now you want a creaive AND well paid job. You can have it all indeed, just listen to your hearts true desire. When something is missing, you can intend for it to be yours.

[alexb5784]

I read a book called Wishcraft by Barbara Sher in 2005 and it helped me a lot. I highly recommended it. The great thing about this book is that it helps you figure out the What do I want? when it comes to a creating a career. Here is the Amazon.com link:

Wishcraft on Amazon.com

And please check out this article by Steve: What is your career? (It's a long post!)

Good luck!

[Eli]

Acting like:
The one you ultimately choose will turn out to be the very best one, you'll see. Enjoy the new job. Peace

[infinitethoughts]

Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot

The problem was - I couldn't really decide what my dream job should be.

Maybe that's the problem. Change the parameters. Jobs are not all they're cracked up to be.

[Acting Like Godot]

These IM exercises were a bit peculiar.

At one stage, I felt that I wanted Job A and I manifested heavily for it. Among other things, I visualised working in that office, having meetings with people, enjoying the work etc. And during that exercise, I somehow visualised having a meeting with a plump, balding, bespectacled white man with a name that started with the letter J.

Then I went for the Job A interviews. I didn't meet any such person.

Later Job B showed up. I went for the Job B interviews. At the 2nd interview, I was interviewed by a plump, balding, bespectacled white man named Justin. The large balding patch was unmistakeable.

I wonder if I can inflict hair loss on people, with IM.

Anyway, the job I accepted was another job, Job C.

Originally Posted by infinitethoughts

Remember, it's just a belief that it's not that easy to know what you want.
Change that belief !

That is a ... most intriguing idea.

And thanks, everyone, for the advice & thoughts.

[Alvin]

Greedy! :P

But seriously, I believe you had what's called a quality problem. Like how I can't choose between vanilla or chocloate ice-cream sometimes, but in either case - they're both damn good Congratulations on manifesting and landing that job ALG!

[Ati]

Yes, congratulations ALG! Now the question might be what can you do with this job? From your posts since this started here, it seems that you are a positive thinking, creative and compassionate person. (or at least you've got me thinking so )

So, if the job is up to what you can do with it, the job itself may turn into a different sort of job than when you first walk in that door!

After all your work getting that job together, is it possible you have a touch of that sort of let down after hard work? I think that's usually temporary if that's the case.

Good luck and keep us posted!

[themaster]

I thought you were supposed to test use the "Contrast" to find what you want.. isn't that what you did when analyzing these jobs?

[Acting Like Godot]

Alvin: Yeah, greedy.

Ati: Oh I already started manifesting about that.

themaster: Well, the problem is that sometimes a person can want mutually exclusive things. Like, do you wanna be a movie star or do you want to be a singer? Either way, you can only have one full-time job!

(Oh btw I am neither a movie star nor a singer. Those were just examples).

[Dating Specialist]

Now tell me how do you generate such power to make all your manifestations turn into reality so fast? I've got some of my own too... can do with some help heh heh

[Acting Like Godot]

Just wanted to share a little synchronicity.

Yesterday I was still thinking about whether I made the right choice in rejecting that particular job. BTW, the job is all about trading in oil, fuel, gas etc.

The radio was on; a song was playing. Just as it was ending, I noticed the lyrics of the song. The last part goes like this:

"I'm not commodity, I'm not commodity, I'm not commodity, I'm not commodity, I'm not commodity ....."

I took it as a sign that the commodities job is not meant for me.