|03-19-2009, 07:05 AM||#1 (permalink)|
Join Date: Aug 2008
How to deal with failure?
OK, so I wanted to do well on an exam and I didn't. I had visualized getting a good score, felt it, even felt excited about giving the exam. Basically, had good feelings through out.
It didn't work out.
Now, do I blame myself?
Do I just accept it? Why should I?
Or do I expect one of my spirit guides to move my professor's hand to write an A on my paper?
|03-19-2009, 07:29 AM||#2 (permalink)|
Join Date: Nov 2006
1. You will sit still and breathe deeply and slowly to clear your mind.
2. Then you will consider this event that has occurred in this life.
3. As a thought arises in your mind about this event, you will observe it from a distance.
4. Then you will transform this thought, into another thought which is believable and realistic to you, but which is more constructive and beneficial for yourself.
5. Then you will transform it to an even more constructive, beneficial thought (that is still believable and realistic to you).
6. Repeat Step 5.
7. Repeat Step 5
8. Repeat Step 5
9. Repeat Step 5.
10. Repeat Step 5
11. Repeat Step 5.
12. Repeat Step 5.
13. Repeat Step 5.
14. Repeat Step 5.
And by this time, you will know exactly what needs to be done.
|03-19-2009, 01:59 PM||#4 (permalink)|
Join Date: May 2007
Location: The Netherlands
Well, there's probably a part of your belief system that's in the way. There's probably a belief that you must study very very well in order to do the test. It's probably also more dominant than the belief that you can ace an exam by visualizing.
Also... How much did you want it? How attached were you to the outcome? As long as you are attached to the outcome, no matter how good you feel, there will always be a seed of fear.
To answer your question on why you should accept it... Because there is simply no other way. If you don't accept it, you will remain stuck and you will dwell on that situation. This is also where ego comes in.
You can only change after you have accepted the current situation.
I've been at the stage where I found it hard to accept things. I still sometimes have that, for example, when injustice is great and when people are suffering.
Overal though, I've learned to accept things as they are, and in the process I've learned to be more forgiving. And what can I say? When you accept and forgive, it's easier to feel good and not be affected by relatively negative things
And you are not to blame yourself. You are to take responsibility
Last edited by JMononoetoe; 03-19-2009 at 02:11 PM.
|03-19-2009, 02:13 PM||#5 (permalink)|
Join Date: Feb 2009
The most reliable and best results way to take anything on is to properly prepare for it. For example I have been out of high school for over 10 years. I never took the ACT ever till December of last year. I had like 9 months to prepare for it. So I bought ACT guides and pretests like crazy. Took the sections that were especially difficult and focused on them till I felt good with it. When it came time to take the test I scored a 29. I was very happy with that score. I was very nervous and had drymouth all the while I was taking the test. It's all preparation
|03-19-2009, 10:29 PM||#6 (permalink)|
Join Date: Nov 2008
|03-21-2009, 01:32 AM||#8 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Manchester, England
When you learn to lose,you know what it takes to win (MonkeyFace)
I like that,as a football fan I hate draws they are boring and you learn nothing,just negativity,stalemate.
Ask your spirit guide to write you an A.Good idea.Maybe though your success at exams or whatever will come at a later date if you lose faith in it then it stops comming,it's not an exact science,it's trying to do it's best for you that's all
Wealthnuggets4u-Get Rich!-In All Areas Of Your Life.
|03-21-2009, 02:05 AM||#9 (permalink)|
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: with the others in my head
One year, I put out the intention to do well on a university history exam. I was quite worried about the exam because this particular history prof loved essay questions. I am not very good at essay questions because I don't write quickly and I tend to panic and freeze and end up writing nothing! Needless to say, the exam was made up of essay questions and I did badly.
After the exam, I was quite upset. I had studied very hard and I knew the material. I went to the professor and he kindly let me do a rewrite for which I received a good grade.
My intention did manifest. Just not the way I anticipated!
Is there any chance you could get a rewrite?
|03-23-2009, 02:48 PM||#10 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jan 2007
|03-23-2009, 06:40 PM||#11 (permalink)|
Join Date: Oct 2008
Location: Eastern Long Island, USA
Last week I was helping a friend with a court case. We did the research, and got legal advice, and then, before we were finished, the bad thing she was trying to avoid happened. She didn't get her paycheck.
She was at another choice point. Should she continue, and spend the money at court to fight to undo what had happened, or.... She decided to let it go. She decided to choose love rather than fear.
And then, her personnel department rep called her to say that there had been a mistake. They had changed payroll companies.... Long story short, she was one of 400 who were not paid by direct deposit, and a full paycheck would be mailed to her. ...
Do I think that her change in attitude brought about the happy ending? Absolutely. But, this is not something the skeptics would understand.
forynav, there are no failures unless we give up. And even then there are no failures. There are only outcomes. Tony Robbins says "Action + response = outcome" Make an adjustment and try again. Listen to ALG.
|04-15-2009, 10:13 PM||#12 (permalink)|
Join Date: Aug 2008
I got my results back. I thought I may get a C. I have a B+, and the professor allows us an option to get A- by doing extra work.
I, obviously could not act as if I had an A, but I refrained from deliberating that I'll be getting a C.
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