My 30 Day Trial

[MancsAdonis]

Right to start off ill tell you about my life up to now. I'm 21 and feel down and anxious every moment of every day. I have zero self-esteem as i have problems with my health and it shows...hair loss, dry skin, acne and many more. Because of my self-esteem i hardly go out clubbing, hardly go out to parties and i stay in the house until i have to go out (which is two days a week for uni). I am not rich and this notion is reinforced by the area i live in. Where i live everyone is better off, i.e good looks, rich, amazing social life, normal etc...and when i see these people it breaks my heart and makes me feel depressed. I have only had sex with one girl in my life and only had one gf who i didn't love (sooo not a good way to lose your virginity). My friends are totally the opposite to me, i chill with two guys;one is very very good looking, almost like a model and the other is moderately good looking and rich. Every time i go out with them, girls are always staring at them and not me and i die a little inside whenever that happens. I hate looking in the mirror, i almost cant look at anyone in the eye, i avoid people and they avoid me. I have been interested in intention manifestation for about 2 years now but have been highly unsuccessful with it, mainly having a 'give up' attitude with it and being really impatient. I think of my life as far from normal. My life is very dark and i need a change.

So...here's the plan.

In the morning i am going to visualise my ideal life. Being very wealthy, being very good looking, having loads of girls after me, having the best social life, having good health, having everyone love my company, be calm, be confident and be happy. Throughout the day i will stay positive, i will be grateful for everything i have, i will expect my visualisations to manifest within the next 30 days (why not?), i use manifestations and i will take action on the chances the universe brings me. In the night i will visualise again and state all the things that i am grateful for throughout the day (which also helps me fall asleep). Ultimately i will keep trying, be patient, stay happy and never give up.

So what do you think guys? any suggestions?

[smith1012]

Good for you! Do those things... intend them, stay positive. I suggest that if you see no change, I urge you not to give up because there is a hidden resistance that blocks manifestations. That being your ego - ask about it!

For motivation purposes, remember this, you are already happy. You have already manifested everything you should be grateful of. When you realize this, more will come When you realize life is already good, they'll be nothing to worry about and whatever you want will manifest.

[StarieEyed]

Can I suggest the book "It Works"? I got it for my ipod actually and it only cost a dollar, from Learnoutloud.com. Try clutter clearing in your space also, this is how I attracted a mate. I made sure to clear things out, took down a painting that had one single girl on it that looked lonely, brought in candles and I also got some love crystals off ebay and put them in a certian corner of my room. You would have to find out which corner is best for you b/c its different for everyone.

[Lilith785]

I know how you feel. I used to be in the same boat. There is a very simple but very effective formula that I have learned. You have to program yourself to believe. Belief breeds actions (everyone acts according to what they believe) Action breeds results, (this is to obvious to explain) Results in turn breed more belief.

[ciel]

How about starting small? Intending to change absolutely everything in one month might be too much. If you focus on one or two aspects of your life that you are dissatisfied with, the pressure will be less.

It's important to have fun with this, so checking in the mirror every morning to see if your skin has improved won't work. However, stopping by the mirror frequently and saying a few encouraging words to your reflection eg 'Looking good, mate' or 'Oh, you handsome devil, you!' and smiling will raise your vibration, which is the way to manifest your intention.

And when things are really getting you down, just reach for the next best thought. It's no use trying to feel euphoric when you're in the pits; what you want is to feel a little less bad by reaching for a thought that's within your range. The Abraham teachings in Ask and it is Given are good on this, and indeed on all aspects of IM.

Good luck!

Ciel

[Acting Like Godot]

You must try to understand that you create your entire reality with your own thoughts and beliefs.

To drastically change your reality in a short time, you have to drastically change your own thoughts and beliefs in a short time.

The larger & faster the desired change in reality, the larger and more drastic change you have to make in your own thoughts and beliefs.

I say this, because in these forums, I sometimes see people who go for a big change in a short time, and they fail, and then they wonder why.

It's not because their thoughts are weak. It's actually because their thoughts are very powerful. For years and years, they've held on to particular thoughts and beliefs, and those particular thoughts and beliefs have solidified into a particular kind of reality.

Now in the next 30 days, the person thinks he can unravel the effects of those past years of old thoughts, with his new thoughts over 30 days.

It's not impossible. It can happen. But be aware that it can be a big challenge. Especially if you are not already experienced and skilled in the generic arts of changing your thoughts and beliefs (eg through NLP, hypnosis or meditation etc).

If I were you (but this is only a suggestion), I would start off with a few smaller and more specific goals, and work on those first. By working on those, I mean visualisation etc + taking action. When you have succeeded with those, the confidence you gain from those successes will give you the confidence for your next few issues, and so on. And you can go for bigger and bigger goals.

You see, there's a compounding effect. The more you believe in the LOA, the more easily it works for you. And eventually you could reach the point where you are pulling small miracles out of thin air, on a fairly regular basis.

The flip side is that before you reach that stage, your confidence in the LOA is vulnerable, and each failure makes that confidence even more vulnerable.

Trying to rewrite your entire life in 30 days is highly ambitious. Failure could damage your current level of confidence in the LOA, making it harder for you to use it successfully.

[Judge]

1. Admit that everything in your awareness is created by you. Not just the good stuff, but all the bad stuff too and even the seemingly ordinary stuff.

2. Accept feeling bad. You can't deny bad thoughts or sad emotion, trying to cover it up is just going to fuel it. Just don't identify with it, be uncaring, don't suffer self concern. You can feel terrible and say "okay I feel terrible"

Observe it, allow it, then you're empowered to not be affected by it.

Many people in your life will try to make you beome your emotions, but they're just emotions, they're tools for you to use, they're not you in any way.

3. Don't set dates. Life is always now and when you plan for something and it happens, it is still now. Placing a date on manifestation places it in the future, the future doesn't exist, so niether does the required manifestation.
You have it right now, if you can't see it, it's because you're concerned having it now will change you in some way and you're really not ready to accept that right now.

Judge

[Lauxa]

1. I hear it helps to do your visualizations in "alpha state" so take some time to be still and focus on your breathing and slow down your thoughts before doing your visualizations.

2. Doing visualizations will not be enough if your thoughts throughout the day contradict the visualizations. Can you look in the mirror and say "I am so good looking and lovable"? Can you go to the clubs and think "I am comfortable and confident"? Can you ask for a girl's number and be rejected and think "oh well, guess she wasn't cool enough for me"? To make these types of changes you will have to watch your thoughts every minute and make sure they don't stray into the accustomed negative patterns. But if you do... well, you might not manifest everything you want in 30 days, but I bet you'll feel a lot better after 30 days of directing your thoughts towards your desires.

[MancsAdonis]

Wow thanx for the replies everyone, its great to know that there are helpful, selfless ppl out there

smith1012 - Thanx for the tip, i will try hard not to give up if i see no changes and believe i have my desires right now. This will hopefully bring my desires faster.

StarieEyed - It's hard for me to clutter clean as i sleep in the same room as my bro hehe, but you are totally right by a 'preparing for love' mindset. I have not heard of love crystals before but i will surely look into it.

Lilith785 - I am trying to believe right now and i feel really good every time i affirm and visualise. I know my desires will work this time. i just do. It is like a breath of fresh air.

ciel + Acting Like Godot - I think you are totally right with starting off small, if I visualise even one of my desires it will give me faith to visualise the others and i will manifest my ideal life step by step...one of my affirmation is to be patient. Thanx so much for this tip.

Judge - I've have never been really aware of my bad emotions, every time i feel bad i always feel sorry for myself and then start hating everyone and everything. Next time i will get a bad feeling i will say 'Oh I'm feeling bad right now. It's merely an emotion, lets do something do change it or take my mind off it' (hope that what you mean). Also you are right about waiting for the future. If i visualise these thing to happen in the future, i will always be in that 'waiting' vibration. If i think of having them now then it will make the universe work faster by giving them to me now.

Lauxa - The alpha state sounds really interesting to me, thanx! I have been in the alpha state before but never consciously went into it. I will look into techniques of getting into alpha state and tell you how it goes. As for watching my thoughts, i will start that right now, i know its very tough as i think a million thoughts a minute but i will try to only think and feel positive.

Hope the replies help ppl, please feel free to reply to them. I will also keep you updated on my progress.

[StarieEyed]

Yeah clutter clearing is never easy, but it has been said, if you start clearing YOUR clutter, your bro might too. Trust me, at the moment I am sharing a room with my daughter (3) and my baby boy. We have ALOT of stuff, but I just keep chucking away at it. The love crystals are rose quarts, I got a bunch of small ones for like 5 bucks, I think they are facited (sp?) which I think means grown artifically but they worked for me! The book I read on clutter clearing is Clutter Clearing with Feng Shui. Quick read and it changed my life, its how I stumbeled upon LOA! Please dont forget the book or audio of "It Works" I have heard good things about it and its what I am working with now.

Good Luck!

[Unrul3r]

Originally Posted by MancsAdonis

Judge - I've have never been really aware of my bad emotions, every time i feel bad i always feel sorry for myself and then start hating everyone and everything. Next time i will get a bad feeling i will say 'Oh I'm feeling bad right now. It's merely an emotion, lets do something do change it or take my mind off it' (hope that what you mean). Also you are right about waiting for the future. If i visualise these thing to happen in the future, i will always be in that 'waiting' vibration. If i think of having them now then it will make the universe work faster by giving them to me now.

I think Judge meant to accept the bad feeling, don't try to change it or run away from it by ignoring it. Just let it sit on your mind.

[Ralph]

That's such a fun trial! Keep it up.

It'll make your life more joyful even if nothing manifests. It's strange that sometimes we need trials, external reasons and additional motivation just to be happy.

[Beloved]

I like it. I think that this year will be the best ever for you.

I did a reading for my niece today and as I read your message a couple of the cards I pulled for her came to mind. I also think they are meant for you.

First one is 'Forgive yourself".

To often we blame a lot of what is going on on ourselves whether it be real or imagined. It borders on self abuse, by dwelling on your interpretation of your looks does nothing for your self esteem. Look for your attributes and concentrate on them, doing this will do wonders for your self esteem.

The other card is "Know you are worthy".

It's telling you that you deserve the best, that you do not need to apologise to anyone for receiving good things. Do you feel uncomfortable when someone gives you a compliment? In future accept that compliment, gift or whatever and know it's something you deserve.

[Lilith785]

Hey MancsAdonis, Its a beautiful day and a great day to be alive. Isn't it? MancsAdonis MancsAdonis is offline
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[MancsAdonis]

StarieEyed - wow i have looked into clutter cleaning and just seeing a cl;ean room changes my mood vastly, thanx for the tip, i will look more into it too

Unrul3r - yes its hard to be aware of emotion, i probably remember to do it like three times a day, but im getting there

Ralph - Thanx i will let you know-how i get on

Beloved - Thanx for the card reading thingy, youre right about forgiving myself and knowing im worthy. This is one of my main problems, i always think im not good enough for anything and anyone but i am changing that right now

Lilith785 - It is a great day...sometimes

30 DAY TRIAL UPDATE - been really hard to remember to be aware of my emotions I usually start the morning off with visualising and being thankful but i forget about it throughout the day when the daily challenges come. Another of my problems is i ALWAYS give up when i don't see a change or when i see other ppl having it, but im telling myself my ideal life will come regardless of how i feel. My belief is very fragile right now it seems like every little thing makes me give up hope.

[MancsAdonis]

30 DAY TRIAL UPDATE - Started the day feeling love for everyone and everything. Great things happened today, had an amazing day; teacher called off the presentation i had to do, bus driver had a conversation with me, thought i lost a fiver but i visualised finding it and i found in in the most awkward place straight away (first place i looked), the girl i fancy in class was really staring at me and trying to get my attention, listening to the prodigys new album (which is GREAT), had great conversations with loads of new ppl in class who i never really talk to, starting to feel love for myself and self confidence and the days not over yet!...these things might be a normal day for some ppl but not for me, this is why its a shock, the day i start feeling love, these things start to happen! weird!...in a good way

[StarieEyed]

Well looks like those things are normal for you now! CONGRATS

[Lilith785]

30 Days is almost over. Hows it going?

[MancsAdonis]

Hi im sorry to say ive been really bad. My ego and impatience got the better of me. I wanted to manifest a girlfriend but like i said my ego got in the way and i started focusing on lack (why doesn't anyone love me, why haven't i got a girlfriend and everyone else has etc...) until i got extremely depressed to the point where i felt i was about the cry constantly. This was about 2 days ago. HOWEVER i have noticed my bad feelings and have seen the negative effects the LOA has brought me which are not coincidental, so this law DOES in fact work but unfortunately negatively for me as i have not yet mastered the technique. Anyway I have realised my mistakes and i will try to suppress my ego and just feel unconditional love for myself and everyone around me. Ill tell you how it goes. If anyone has any pointers about the impatience and depression please state them

I thank everyone who reads this

[Lauxa]

You're just asking the wrong questions. Instead ask "what would my life look like if I did have a girlfriend?" and you'll be on track to positive visualizations and inspired action.

Also something that helps me when I am feeling lonely and it seems like everyone else has a better social life... I don't know where I read it but I think it was someone on this forum who posted that you not only manifest what you get in your own life but also in the lives of others around you. So you've already manifested girlfriends for all those people around you and now you just have to figure out how to manifest your own! And just try to take in the good vibes of these socially connected people.

[Trev]

Hi MancsAdonis,

I hope you are making progess.

It has taken me a long time to see some changes appear in my life and sometimes the change has just crept up on me; I didn't see it coming. What I mean to say is that it is sometimes to notice changes ourselves, so you may find it useful to keep a log or journal and note down anything that appears to be different from how it used to. Im my life I have sometimes found useful change to occur after making a huge all out effort, and at other times implementing new, good habit or stopping an old, bad one.

Hope that helps, keep going with the trial.

Cheers

[MancsAdonis]

Right to start off, i have been doing the visualisation exercises but either been seeing near misses or ruining the flow of positivity (i.e getting depressed) and getting bad manifestaion due to my negativity. SO this is the last straw, after reading up on things, here is my new trial but its not for any specific amount of days its going to be for as soon as possible. Each day i am going to meditate and visualise for 15 mins or so in the morning. Then i am going to act as if my visualisations have already come true, this will not only make my visualisation manifest faster but it will keep me motivated and positive throughout the day. Lastly i am going to simply... enjoy the ride. Basically be thankful and grateful of my visualisations and my ideal life. For the visualisations i am going to apply action. For example one of my intention is to be very good looking. So i am going to eat healthy, minimize on junk, do some sort of home workout, go to the doc and sort my health out etc..For my other intention which is to get a gf and have a good social life, i am going to take up every oppurtunity, i am going to say yes to all invites and i am not going to stay in unless i have to...stuff like that. I am going to keep a journal of my progress...i actualy bought a small journal for 50p hehe. If there is anything anyone like to add then pls feel free to do so...and thanx for all the replies that i have had, helped me sooo much.