Revenge...any thoughts?

[kellykellz123]

I know wanting revenge is considered negative but do you all think so? I have a co-worker [tina] that just annoys me endlessley. About a year ago our other co-worker fell in love with me and wanted to be with me but I didn't feel the same way and told him so. So now we are still friends and talk but not as much as before. So ever since then tina has been getting really close to him, and the thing that annoys me is she's doing it because she thinks it makes me jealous for some reason [she's even said that so i'm sure]. Whenever I even mention his name in a sentence she'll say something like "ooh you're just jealous. Shouldn't have said no to him then" with this evil smirk on her face.
The thing is, she's always felt like she has to compete with me so it's not that i'm jealous that she's so close to him and I'm not that close to him anymore, it's the way she acts about it and teases me about it when I don't even care what they say or do or how close they get. In a sense that she thinks she's winning the competition [stupid as that may sound]. I just hate that she enjoys this so much.
So anyway, I've tried to be positive about the situation, tried to visualize us all getting along and them being happy in their little corner with me happy in my little corner. But nothing worked, mostly because that's not what would really give me peace of mind. The only thing that makes me happy and excited about this situation is thinking about revenge. About having something that she ACTUALLY wants and not even shoving it in her face but having her go crazy over the fact that she doesn't have it. The perfect thing would be for me and him to become close again and that would just get her to shut up and back off.
So I guess my question is, if thoughts of me and him getting close again make me happy only because it would make her jealous, would it be bad to start going after it? And if this is negative and not the way to go about it can anyone give me any tips on a more peaceful/positive solution that I can visualize?

[cylon]

If you and this girl start competing for this guy his ego is going to go through the roof.

This guys was in 'love' with you so if he gets the notion that you are interested, he could end up being more hurt when he realizes you were just using him to get back at that girl.

[imajen]

Well Kelly,
I think you already know the answer to your question . This whole issue is taking up much too much time and energy from you. Everyone has their own path to walk and for whatever reason Tina may be involved with this man for has absoltuely nothing to do with you at the end of the day. I know it may be hard to see that now and each day that you are in the same space as them but truely you are being pulled into a neg energy field and letting it cloud your judgement.

Revenge on any level perpetuates and manifests more things for you to be vengeful about. There is absolutely nothing good that can come from it...ever. You are on the right path when you invision a happy, cohesive work place between all of you. Let Tina do as she pleases...her issues are not yours to fix or be bothered with. So go into work every day...send them both positive energy and get on with your day feeling joy for all that you have and all that you are wanting to manifest into your life.

Games like this only halt the manifesting of beautiful things into your life...I think you know that

All the best

[Red Wolf]

kellykellz123,

LET IT GO!!!! Revenge is not the answer!! LOA is simply the Law of Cause and Effect! The question is, if that was you, would you want someone to do you that way? I would think not. Plus, this is what you should do. Go 360 on them. You have to act like it doesn't bother you. If it disturbs you this bad, Get a hobby, go out on dates, hang out with friends, anything to keep you from being idle and thinking about it. But if you could occupy yourself for a couple of weeks, and ignore the situation, it will unfold on its own.

She's going to eventually figure out that she's not getting to you anymore, and when she does, she'll leave you alone. But right now, you are ALLOWING her to get to you!! Oh yeah, And if he really wants you, if you let the situation go, he'll start sweating you. (People ALWAYS WANT WHAT THEY CANT HAVE!!) So use this against them! They are using this on you!! Are there things in your life you are trying to accomplish and haven't? Be focused on that. Love your life, and if he is meant for you, he will come to you. If not, his loss! But revenge equates to negative thoughts, which brings about negative feelings, which causes negative actions, which equals to NEGATIVE RESULTS! And this my friend, is not worth any Man or Woman! Seek Happiness, Love, positive things, and you will get more of it. But most of all, have Peace Of Mind. If you didn't get that when you were close to him, you probably don't need him anyway!

[fellowtraveler]

Originally Posted by kellykellz123

I know wanting revenge is considered negative but do you all think so?

Nothing wrong with asking opinions, but of course it doesn't matter what we think in a case like this.

When I decided to try using intuition to answer questions, I began to look into specific means to access my intuition and gain information from my Higher Self, which I believe in turn has access to much knowledge.

What I swiftly came to realize was that when I would formulate questions to ask...I already knew the answers. No hocus-pocus needed.

If you are able to dig deep enough and able to be honest enough and brave enough to accept the truth, you already know the answers to such questions, including this one. Without judging you, I will say that often when we don't like the real answer, we go looking for reasons to do the opposite.

[Bradshaw]

Revenge is directed anger. It builds on itself. The more you get angry, the angrier you will get. By any measurement or scale, anger is considered destructive and negative. Directing hate and anger onto another is essentially doing the same thing to yourself. You will suffer the consequences of your thoughts and somewhere down the line downright nasty situations will come to if you keep thinking about revenge. This applies to any destructive thoughts.

I get the feeling from your post that your mind could be more organized and disciplined. I also sense some amount of frustration in your post. I think that all things considered, attempting to manifest might be pushing it a little too far. The mental state we are in when we manifest is of great importance.

As for solutions, you could try:

* Finding a way to feel superior to the situation. Then you can take pride in the fact that you are superior to the situation. You'll be in a higher level of consciousness, as per Hawkins book.

* If you really want a manifestation to work in this situation, first you would have to shed a bunch of limiting beliefs that i see all over your post. And then you should try to be a more positive and optimistic person, and, well, i guess that old cliché applies well here. Living well is the best revenge.

* Just manifest a state of being. Like being peaceful. Not just in this situation, but in your whole life.

[Chris Cade]

To me it doesn't matter if revenge is positive or negative... it just requires more energy and effort than its worth. Compassion, love, tolerance, acceptance.... all of those require MUCH less energy and effort, and they feel better to me on the inside. And when given a choice between feeling good or feeling not-so-good... I like feeling good

[cylon]

The trials and turbulations of office romances.

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Sounds to me like the situation is not worth the time and effort that revenge requires. I am next to positive that this woman needs none of your scorn. Rest assured she's her own worst enemy. She sounds pretty insecure (takes one to know one) and so anything you could do to her would pale in comparison to the pain she inflicts on herself.

[kellykellz123]

Thanks everyone for replying

Originally Posted by fellowtraveler

What I swiftly came to realize was that when I would formulate questions to ask...I already knew the answers. No hocus-pocus needed.

If you are able to dig deep enough and able to be honest enough and brave enough to accept the truth, you already know the answers to such questions, including this one. Without judging you, I will say that often when we don't like the real answer, we go looking for reasons to do the opposite.

You're right, I do know the answer but I guess I was just so upset because of an incident that happened the other day and I just felt like revenge was the only thing that would calm me down. Up until now this didn't bother me one bit, I didn't care about her attempts to tease me and so on at all. But the other day I guess she got me where it hurts. Some of our colleagues were participating in this run for charity and I decided to join them. So the next day when I came in the colleague I told you about [the guy] was saying congratulations to me and Tina was there. So then she says "you're so SKINNY and frail though, I'm surprised you didn't break" and she starts laughing and then he starts laughing too and says "true". My weight has been my issue all my life and so I'm really sensitive about this, she knows that and always tries to get to me through teasing me about my weight and is always getting other people to laugh at me. So I guess that just really hurt. That's the only thing in my life I haven't been able to use law of attraction to get past. Situations like these just get me back to square one and I feel like I'll always be too skinny and start hating myself. That's why revenge didn't seem so bad, because I just want her to feel the way I feel when she says things like that to me.

[cylon]

Don't they say revenge is like taking poison and hoping the other person dies from it?

[kellykellz123]

I've never heard that but makes sense, lol. I guess I should just channel all the energy I spend being angry and hurt and wanting her to get a taste of her own medicine on being happy and having a peaceful work environment

[Angela]

You know another thing you could channel your energy towards? Being what you want to be. This woman has pointed out a sore spot for you -- your hopelessness about your body and your self-hatred.

What if you were to silently thank her for that, and take on being and doing what would make a difference in the area of physical power and gratitude towards your body and mind? What if you were to build those things within yourself and if you're ever confronted by a "you're so skinny and frail" - type remark, you were able to say "You know, you're right, the old version of me was skinny and frail. And now I'm feeling really great about participating in a charity run, getting more and more fast and strong and vital. It feels wonderful! And I'm so pleased with this path I'm taking. Thanks for noticing!"

And maybe you could add something about the Tai Kwon Do class you're taking , and how it makes you could kick somebody's ass if you needed to.

[fellowtraveler]

Originally Posted by kellykellz123

My weight has been my issue all my life and so I'm really sensitive about this..I feel like I'll always be too skinny and start hating myself.

I'm sure you've heard this before, but...honeychile, give me that problem any time (and I'm a man's man, if I do say so myself)! When she's older and hauling her fat ass around you''ll still be goin' strong, long and lean.

That's why revenge didn't seem so bad, because I just want her to feel the way I feel when she says things like that to me.

She will. I believe that's how our famous friend kharma works. If not in this life...when she passes on and does her life review, she'll get to feel every bit of it - not as revenge for you, but for her to learn by seeing how it feels. You don't gotta do anything.