Using IM to attract intimate relationships

[alexb5784]

I'm sure this has already been discussed, but I wanted to create a fresh thread to get the opinions of new forum members as well as old.

When I meditate in the morning (30-45 mins), one of my intentions is to concentrate on attracting my dream mate. Notice I said attracting and not finding. I really believe that if I work on becoming the person that I really want to be (a life long process), I will eventually find someone who will be right for me. And of course since personal develpment is a life long process, I will find someone as I grow.

I spent a lot of time going after the wrong people, without working first on liking who I was or treating myself right. I wanted to be in love for all wrong reasons and I always met people who weren't meant for me. The reason why I met all these mismatched loves in the past, was because I was sending out energy that was searching for mismatches! I really wanted drama without consciously knowing it.

Now that I'm learning to value personal growth, I'm beginning to send out energy that shows I value living my life purpose, prosperity and love.

Anyone care to share their opinions on Law of Attraction and IM when dealing with attracting intimate relationships?

I really believe that personal growth makes you raise your standards for ALL relationships

- Alexia

[Angela]

Alexia, I think you've got a great attitude and will surely and cleanly attract a wonderful partner for your life.

I think you're right to be your life purpose, prosperity and love, with everyone you come across, because anyone you meet might be the surprising person who leads you to your sweetheart.

I also recommend going on the eharmony website and completing the questionnaire, get your personality profile, and determine your "must haves" and "can't stands" -- you don't have to join or pay or even get matched with anyone to do that, and it's a really nice way to organize your thoughts about what a "good match" for you will consist of. (It's also fun to see who you get matched with. You don't have to pay or join unless you want to communicate with one of your matches.) They also provide you with a "Perfect Match" profile -- a several page long description of your perfect lover. Although I ended up meeting Danger Man after I stopped doing eharmony, and though I NEVER would have thought he was my type, he is an uncanny fit for my Perfect Match!

[alexb5784]

Angela, congradualtions on finding love and I will definitely check out eHarmony.

Happy New Year

[Dating Specialist]

So do you know what type of person you want to attract to your life now, Alexia?

[magickmystik]

It would be good if you tell us what kind of visualisation and affirmation you use (if any), before we add something to it

[alexb5784]

Well I went to eHarmony and while it looks great, I don't think it will work for me because I'm gay. However, I do have a male friend who is looking for Ms.Right and for New Year's I was going to buy him a membership to Match.com, but eHarmony looks better. So, I'll help him with eHarmony and soon he will find someone.

As for me, I expect to be with someone who values themselves and knows what they want in life. She's financially responsible, is in tune with personal growth and success minded in the non-material, non Type-A person way. I'm very ambitious, but I'm learning I can make way more money by working focused on my passion and less on being a work-a-holic. And I expect her to be the same way. Plus she is intellectual and bright, like me

I will not be resecuing anyone from their problems and I'm not going to be their parent, but an equal. It's just going to be mutual respect, support and building up. No drama, no "I don't know what to do with my life" type stuff.

And that's what I'm attracting. Oh..and she will be posh and fashionable like me, because I read fashion magazines on a daily basis! I love clothes

[alexb5784]

It's funny, because I'm finding that I get clearer about what I want on a daily basis.

When I meditate in the morning, I sit on the floor for 30 minutes near my heater (it's cold in Boston!), close my eyes and just focus on my breathing. Then I open my eyes and look at my intentions, which I have written on 3x5 cards. At first I started out with just vague statements like "I'm wealthy" a few months ago, but I have graduated to more specific terms like "I'm making $85,000 this year" and then I write a few sentences on how I'm making more money (my actions). I use 10 cards every morning when doing my meditation.

Four of my cards are about advice from Steve's website and on the law of attraction from Erin's podcast (podcast #17). The rest of the cards are about my physical health, spiritual/mental health, love, my self image, career, and wealth. I just read each card twice, and then visualize what I want.

Every week or so, I re-write the cards to be more in tune with what is currently happening in my life, so that I move closer to what I intend. It's very helpful to become clearer about my intentions as much as possible. At first making all thses changes scared me, but then I realized that as I grow, there will be some things that I think I want today, but may not be right for me tomorrow. So I look forward to "bumps in the road" because I know it will lead me to a positive shift in my life.

[Eric Cimrhanzel]

On my MySpace page, I specifically have listed the type of girl I want:

"Someone who is/Someone who can: Cute, intelligent, funny, eclectic, physically fit (preferably CrossFit), flexible, ticklish, philosophical, kind, dancer, imperfect, rock climber, poet, writer, spiritual, creative, smart, smartass, passionate, trustworthy, innovative, laugh at herself, friendly, appreciate good art, laugh at really bad art, comfortable with who she is, quick-witted, club-friendly, open-minded, book reader, Texan, fun-lover, goal-oriented, thankful to be alive each and every day, and not afraid to try new things."

This was completely random, and when I was making my MySpace page just decided to write it all out. I put this intention out, not intending for it to actually be an intention (I had no idea what the power of LoA was at this point), over a year before I even met Jessica. When I did first met her, she had gone through a myriad of incredible circumstances that brought her to Texas that I considered unbelievable. We also had an instant attraction that was more than physical.

Long story short: Four weeks later we said "I Love You" and meant it. Shortly after that we had our first kiss. Over a year after that we're still happy and strong together. Let me tell you: Life rocks.

You know what was really funny? At first, she wasn't a Texan. She fit every single one of those traits I listed, but she was from New York City. Two months after moving here, so a month after we started dating, she has to get her license plates changed, and the lady working at the DMV screws up and makes her pay an extra $100 to get it done. Because of that, Jessica is now an official Texan with a driver's license to prove it. When I heard her story, she was furious at having to pay the extra money. I, on the other hand, was laughing so hard I couldn't see straight.

That's when I came to believe.

Anyone who tells me now that Intention Manifestion and Law of Attraction don't work get laughed at. I don't have "proof", but I sure believe. It is a powerful force in our lives that, combined with consistent intelligent action, allows us to have what we truly ask for.

[alexb5784]

IM and LoA works in very weird ways, but it does work. Eric, I think it's great that you have an awesome girlfriend. I wish you the best of luck and loads of fun

I'm sure that by even creating this thread, I'm using LoA to attract the right person. Of course I don't expect anything to happen overnight, but by taking some type of action, I'm creating momentum. I think it's amazing that you wrote out what you wanted in mate on MySpace and you attracted it.

[Isis Kali]

I already wrote this in one of the stickies, but it fits...

I was talking to a friend about how I would loooove to get with George Clooney. Well, right after I got off the phone with her, a George Clooney impersonator wrote me a message on my MySpace and tried to chat me up!

I had actually been doing the exercises in this wonderful book called, "Calling In The One". Fantastic! She talks about I-M in it, and a lot of the exercises are creative visualizations involving your and your ideal mate. Well, for me, it's someone tall, foreign (I love German guys the most), and creative, a little older or the same age as me, with a great bod and lots of passion. I keep this picture in my mind.

A little bit later, I go to see a band at my favorite club. The lead singer fits this description, but is married (boooo). Ah, well, innocent flirtation never killed anyone. He actually kissed my hand. Cute. But I couldn't, and wouldn't, ever take him home with me, lol!

I had listed myself on some dating sites that were recommended by a friend that had some success with them. I put up terrific pics, and wrote a great blurb. No replies. Nothing. Maybe four or five in almost a month, but nothing close. I knew, deep down, that I was barking up the wrong tree, and that I needed to keep my eyes straight, because I'd been getting what I wanted when I asked for it. Perhaps I was close...

The same day that I killed my dating membership, I got a letter in my MySpace (yeah, yeah...hush) from a man in Germany. He was 28, tall, in great shape, and blonde. And, strangely enough, he was coming to the States in about a week to stay for a bit Hahaha! He decided to write to me because of my blog. Funny that...I was always told in tarot readings and such that once I figure out what my calling is, my perfect match would pop up. We hit it off instantly.

Now, remember that I-M brings you not only what you want, but what you need. That's what's happening to me right now. He's going back to Europe. He's not staying permanently. Also, he's very much a loner, just like me, and doesn't want an normal "boyfriend/girlfriend" thing. The big lesson that he's come to teach me is 1) I have to become more open, which is super hard for me because I've been hurt and abandoned many times, and 2) that I actually need someone who will give me space to just be alone, and won't be up under me. In other words, a LDR may be perfect. But, I would never have even been faced with solving those problems, if not for I-M.

I don't know what's gonna happen. Now I'm facing my ego impulses to cling and worry that I'm getting left behind somehow. But the moral of the story is this: if you put it out there, and you're making yourself the best possible person you can be, and you're open to the possibility of love, it'll come to you. Just watch what comes with it!

[alexb5784]

Isis, what a great story. I wish you the best of luck with your German guy. For me, I would prefer a long distance relationship, because I'm preparing to permenantly live in two cities (Paris, France and Boston, MA). Hopefully I'll meet someone who dreams of having fun and shopping for chic clothes in Paris

It's so weird how I-M works because you never know how your intention is going to manifest. But it happens and that's all that matters.

Thanks for your advice and and encouragement. Happy New Year! Or should I say in German Alles Gute
im neuen Jahr! (best of luck for the new year).

[Future's Origin]

My husband and I were just speaking about how we think we unknowingly used the LoA to attract each other as children. We both desired to be in a loving committed long term relationship early in life. We would both visualize this very frequently. It had nothing to do with the person, we both just desired to be in such a relationship. This started early in childhood for both of us, well before puberty. We got together when we were 16 and will celebrate 8 very happy years this summer. At that time, I was really disillusioned with everything, particularly men, but when I saw him there was that immediate pull and "knowing." I was definitely sending off negative energy and he said although he was attracted to me, he put me out of his mind because I was unapproachable and uninterested in men. We were friends for a year, but we eventually got together when I changed my outlook. We said our "I love you's" at week 2 when it just slipped out, we both felt communicating the feeling so soon would be considered inappropriate and juvenile, but it was real and has never wavered. When we compare our earlier desires, both for relationships and for life in general, it is uncanny how similar they are. Although I believe we may be "soul mates" or kindred spirits who knew one another before this life, I am absolutely convinced that our intentions brought us together so young.

I suggest you focus your intentions more on being in your ideal relationship than finding your ideal mate. It worked for me and I wasn't even conciously trying. I never thought about specific qualities or the other person at all, just the relationship. When visualizing/meditating, try to hold that satisfied, whole feeling you get from a healthy relationship, instead of thinking about an ideal person. Your ideal mate may not have all of these qualities, at least not yet, and remember no one is perfect. There will always be flaws and times when someone needs a little rescuing. Perfection can get dull, but I understand your desire to do the best for yourself and keep your life moving forward and not attract baggage. Focusing on the happiness inside the relationship will draw this person to you. Good luck to you, HTH.

[alexb5784]

Future's Origin, that was a great post and I appreciate your advice. And congrats on 8 years of being with your husband.

[Dating Specialist]

Originally Posted by Isis Kali

The big lesson that he's come to teach me is 1) I have to become more open, which is super hard for me because I've been hurt and abandoned many times, and 2) that I actually need someone who will give me space to just be alone, and won't be up under me. In other words, a LDR may be perfect. But, I would never have even been faced with solving those problems, if not for I-M.

I can relate to this totally Isis. Thanks for sharing your story.

I believe that people in our lives are our teachers (Barbara de Angelis is the teacher in my life who first taught me this concept, and it has stuck with me since). He's there too teach you how to love again, and to show you that you are still capable of loving.

How nice, isn't it? I'm so happy for you

Originally Posted by Future's Origin

Focusing on the happiness inside the relationship will draw this person to you. Good luck to you, HTH.

Future's origin, you've hit the nail on the head!!! Focus on the happiness inside the relationship! You know, so many people focus on making their partner love them more, instead of the happiness in the relationship, and usually they end up feeling miserable when their efforts turned futile.

Such wisdom... this forum is simply great!