Five Day Experiment: What do I want Instead?

[jawillie]

So, I am noticing that I focus on what I have, and what I don't like, to the point that it clouds my desires and dreams.

So, during this work week when I start to complain I am going to try to catch myself and then ask myself, "What do you want instead?"

I did that this morning already.

"The art room is messy!!!" (pout, pout, pout)

Okay, What do you want instead??

"I want a clean art room."

Okay.

I cleaned the art room.

Is it this hard to be positive for anyone else??? I feel great now that the art room is clean and we can go on to our day.

I will check in as the week goes on. This will take a ton of conscious effort on my part as I am quick to think the worse usually.

Oh... I am also going to watch my "Feel Good" video I made every morning... it depicts the life I want/have to a song that inspires me and words and phrases that pump me up. My goal is at least once in the morning, but if I start getting gloomy, I will watch it again.

[Angela]

Thanks for the reminder, jawillie. This was the perfect message for me today.

Lots of love,
A

[jawillie]

I am glad it helped you, Angela.

I let a client go. I am so freakin' proud of myself I could do a back flip!!! I took this client on even though my gut said NO, NO, NO. Well, the last three months have been proof my gut was right.

Today I started to complain in my head about this client again but I stopped myself. I asked what I wanted instead. "To not work with this lady." Okay. Done.



A part of me is telling myself to be "cautious" that I can't always have "my way" but I have spent my whole life putting my needs last or acting like they don't matter that I am pretty much done with that now. So, I just have to say, "Watch out world!!!"

[Angela]

Originally Posted by jawillie

Today I started to complain in my head about this client again but I stopped myself. I asked what I wanted instead. "To not work with this lady." Okay. Done.

I would invite you to go one step further, as "to not work with this lady" is still a negative occurrence. What do you have, or better yet, BE, as a positive statement, because you are not working with this lady?

What is your real heart's desire around this, that your negative occurrence is just a signpost for?

[jawillie]

Originally Posted by Angela

I would invite you to go one step further, as "to not work with this lady" is still a negative occurrence. What do you have, or better yet, BE, as a positive statement, because you are not working with this lady?

What is your real heart's desire around this, that your negative occurrence is just a signpost for?

I get what you are saying. It does feel realllly good that I ended our working relationship, though. The reason is because I KNEW I didn't want to start it, back when she begged me to take her on. I KNEW it would be put me over my comfort level at work, and it did (PLUS our personalities clash).

So... I want to be true to myself.

I want to be honest with people. When they ask and I know the answer is no, I want to say NO right away. I want to make my own decisions, not have them made for me. I want to run my business the way I know I can run it, when I make the rules and stick to them.

[Angela]

What I hear in that is that your heart's desire is: Integrity. Does that sound like it?

Me, too: Integrity. Thanks for being my mirror buddy.

[jawillie]

Originally Posted by Angela

What I hear in that is that your heart's desire is: Integrity. Does that sound like it?

Me, too: Integrity. Thanks for being my mirror buddy.

Yes, that sounds right. Integrity on all levels in all relationships. (even with myself)

I feel so good right now, having made this important decision for the sake of my business and the clients I do have. They deserve more than I was giving them because I was spread too thin.

I am also doing well on the "eating front"... I want my thin, healthy body back again. So, that is determining what I eat all day long. When I am "tired" tonight and want to do "nothing" I will remember to exercise first because what I REALLY want is a thin, healthy body.

[lifetimelearner]

[Angela]

Originally Posted by jawillie

When I am "tired" tonight and want to do "nothing" I will remember to exercise first because what I REALLY want is a thin, healthy body.

Good idea -- and keep yourself in integrity about that commitment to yourself!

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I like your phrase and I shall put it in my bag of tricks (I also needed to hear this today, go figure).

Thanks, jawillie. And I'm with you encouraging with love and excitement all the way!

[Holistic Star]

What a great post. I will remember to take 'What do you want' with my tomorrow.

A couple of the people I work with can be quite negative, so I will be saying this a lot tomorrow I imagine.

Thanks

[jawillie]

Still going strong.

I am actually extending this for 14 days.. My vacation starts on Dec. 24th. I want to feel good on purpose each day until then, not "wait" for vacation to feel good.

Last night I walked outside in the brisk winter air for an hour... it felt wonderful!! TOnight I am not sure what I will do for exercise, I will see what mood I am in. I volunteer at the "senior home" (probably not the pc way to put it) for their bingo night, so I may just opt for a sauna at the gym after a 20 minute HIIT on the bike.

Watching my Feel good movie each morning really sets me in the positive direction.

So far so good!!!

[jawillie]

Oh, and during this time I do have "goals" (manifestations?) I am working on, too... so I will update when things happen.

[Angela]

Thanks for inspiring and reminding me again.

Would you please do this every day?

[jawillie]

It's been an amazing week.

The synchronicities and coincidences just astound me!!!! Everywhere I look I see reinforcement for "feeling good."

Even last night, when DH and I had a fight. It lead to hours of talking openly and honestly (truth and love). We came to the conclusion that people who have everything they dream of in life didn't get there by feeling "bad." The whole experience brought us closer together and reinforced our marriage.

I have come to the conclusion that when you are taking care of YourSelf and YourSoul you can't HELP but feel good. When you are operating under Truth and Love (oh... what's the other one?? lol)... you can't feel bad. You might not always be "happy" as you work through challenges, but you won't feel "bad."

It's been a great experience.

And, the video each day is truly a remarkable thing for me! It seems so simple, but it's like me reminding myself, "This is who you are.. now BE that." It's so easy to "forget" in a world of strife, sadness and chaos.

Have a great day!!!