A Request for Intention Wording

[Jesann]

From the Oh, Gaah, Eeeeew Department:

Does anyone have a good affirmation for getting people to stop coughing and sneezing on me? I've tried ones like "I am healthy," but that doesn't seem to be enough. And no, I don't dwell on the coughing, etc., all the time. But it's a pet peeve of mine that's just disgusting, and I want it to stop. Now. I deserve better treatment and common courtesy!

Anyone got a suggestion for wording?

[marinik]

What a bout this: " I am always surrounded by healthy and vibrant people."

[Jesann]

Originally Posted by marinik

What a bout this: " I am always surrounded by healthy and vibrant people."

Thank you.

That does get me surrounded by people who claim they're not sick after I tell them to stop coughing on me, which is a step up from someone who's actually sick. (Okay, not that specific wording, because obviously you just suggested it, but similar.) There's something deeper going on, a self-respect issue? A belief that other people will treat me like this no matter what? That no one else will believe me when I say I deserve better? Have you ever encountered something similar yourself?

[marinik]

Oh yeah! It is one of my main battles all my life. To feel good enough, to feel respected, visible if you wish. I was born into a genius family. All of them, my grandfather, grandmother, father, mother... were famous and the first in their fields... so I had to fight the feeling I was mediocre and just ordinary my whole life. So I did some truly fantastic things but still have this nagging little voice telling me I am not good enough. So on a daily basis I am doing my best to change this limiting belief. Earlier I would go out of my way to prove that I am not this average nobody and had my health sacrificed. Today I have almost won the battle with my ego and regained my health.

[Jesann]

Oh, incorrect wording on my part. I meant experience with the whole cough-in-face deal, and where people had to go internally/psychologically to get that to stop.

[cnwoods]

Originally Posted by marinik

Oh yeah! It is one of my main battles all my life. To feel good enough, to feel respected, visible if you wish. I was born into a genius family. All of them, my grandfather, grandmother, father, mother... were famous and the first in their fields... so I had to fight the feeling I was mediocre and just ordinary my whole life. So I did some truly fantastic things but still have this nagging little voice telling me I am not good enough. So on a daily basis I am doing my best to change this limiting belief. Earlier I would go out of my way to prove that I am not this average nobody and had my health sacrificed. Today I have almost won the battle with my ego and regained my health.

I wonder how many of your family also felt the same pressure - maybe that was why most of them achieved so much?

Jesann, why not try "the air I breathe is clean and vibrant with health. The environment around me resonates with pure energy and light, to support my body mind and spirit in physical form"

Of course, sometimes a little sickness is a good way to rapidly get rid of physical substance you don't need or want anymore...

[Jesann]

Originally Posted by cnwoods

Of course, sometimes a little sickness is a good way to rapidly get rid of physical substance you don't need or want anymore...

I have asthma that is usually mild/nonexistant except if I get sick. Then it becomes bad. Do not tell me a little sickness can be good until you've spent a winter unable to breathe with pleurisy to boot, from all your coughing in your attempts to breathe, after someone insisted they just had a "little cold."

[Jesann]

(Also to CNWoods) I know you're just saying that from your perspective. It just struck a nerve in mine!

[Jesann]

I guess I have to say this before anyone asks, because I know someone's gonna ask: Yes, I've managed to fend off sickness with Louise Hay's book. However, part of the problem is that even healthy people are being gross around me. There's really a courtesy and common-sense hygiene issue here, not just being around sick people. And now I'm stopping thinking about this, because that would attract more of it....

[cnwoods]

Jesann, while I've not had pleurisy, I have had asthma bad enough that I couldn't breathe night after night, so I gradually got more sleep deprived and more desperate. I do know it's very scary. I imagine with pleurisy it would be scarier still. I wasn't talking about that level of being sick, that's why I said "a LITTLE". Since you're aware of Louise Hay, I'll mention that my issues were with smother love and an abusive father, which I've worked on for many years since then: now I'm told I'm not asthmatic and must have been mis-diagnosed. Not that I'm implying this is your issue, or that this is how you'll deal with it, I'm just clarifying that for me it was about deeper issues.

From your response though, I got the sense that there's a lot of fear around getting sick. You may not be at the point to hear this, but it also seems like there's a barrier up in seeing those people around you as being the cause of your sickness, in which case, since you don't have any sense of responsibility or being at cause for the issue, affirmations aren't likely to work. (If you don't accept you have the power to cause it, how can you accept that you have the power to change it?)

I would suggest that as a first step you look at what kind of things can build your immunity. Having been a live-in carer for someone with AIDS I know there are a lot of natural things that will boost your t-cell count and help you fend off any bugs floating around. Lemon juice is one of the best - try drinking that in water every morning, unsweetened if you can, or with honey if you need it. (I do right through winter.) Cider vinegar is another. There's a drink I use to flush my system when I start coming down with a bug, of fresh garlic crushed into cider vinegar, topped up with hot water & sweetened with honey - but you need at least 12 hrs at home because your sweat will stink as it flushes through. Do some research and find a few things that you can use to feel healthier and stronger in yourself.
You might also try visualisation. Imagine a shield between yourself and these other discourteous people - a pure white light that burns out any germs they try to transmit.
Once you're feeling stronger and more powerful about your ability to control your circumstances, then you might look at affirmations again.

Best wishes

Crystal

[Jesann]

Originally Posted by cnwoods

Jesann, while I've not had pleurisy, I have had asthma bad enough that I couldn't breathe night after night, so I gradually got more sleep deprived and more desperate. I imagine with pleurisy it would be scarier still.

You have my complete sympathy. And pleurisy isn't so much scary as it is incredibly painful.

Originally Posted by cnwoods

I wasn't talking about that level of being sick, that's why I said "a LITTLE". Since you're aware of Louise Hay, I'll mention that my issues were with smother love and an abusive father, which I've worked on for many years since then: now I'm told I'm not asthmatic and must have been mis-diagnosed. Not that I'm implying this is your issue, or that this is how you'll deal with it, I'm just clarifying that for me it was about deeper issues.

From your response though, I got the sense that there's a lot of fear around getting sick. You may not be at the point to hear this, but it also seems like there's a barrier up in seeing those people around you as being the cause of your sickness, in which case, since you don't have any sense of responsibility or being at cause for the issue, affirmations aren't likely to work. (If you don't accept you have the power to cause it, how can you accept that you have the power to change it?)

I've worked with enough mind-health issues for myself that I have no doubt there are deeper issues. (I almost got diagnosed with interstitial cystitis until a doctor told me to work on my stressful job situation first-- I did, and the "IC" stopped. All symptoms went away completely when I made up my mind to turn in my two weeks' notice to quit!) In fact, the last time I got sick I started repeating a couple of the affirmations for respiratory illness in Hay's book, along with telling myself that this whole asthma thing was a nonsensical response to dealing with a particular situation in my life at that time, and stopped the cold and asthma completely after five days. It usually takes me an average of three weeks to get rid of it all.

I used to have a lot of fear of getting sick because of that winter I had pleurisy (seven colds that winter!), plus I'm self-employed, partly in a field that relies on my being able to speak and have breath control. That means if I get sick, no work. Now that I've managed to stay healthy for a while, the fear has become more rolled-eyes disgust at their lack of common courtesy. This is the pattern I usually follow now:

1) Person coughs, etc. I get disgusted and start to wonder how close I am to the "spray zone."
2) I start to wonder if they're sick and if I'll get sick.
3) I stop myself and remind myself that I'll only get sick if I allow it. Then I start concentrating on their lack of hygiene.
4) Then I stop myself and remind myself that somehow I'm drawing these people into my life.

Hence asking for intention wording. I do know that one deep-seated issue that's played a major role in my life has been a boundary issue, and I have wondered how much it plays into being around these people.

Originally Posted by cnwoods

There's a drink I use to flush my system when I start coming down with a bug, of fresh garlic crushed into cider vinegar, topped up with hot water & sweetened with honey

I like chopping up raw garlic and eating it on a piece of toast. Garlic is one of those foods that has a permanent place on my cosmic gratitude list.

Peace out, and thanks.

[themaster]

"I choose how I feel and knowing this I choose to feel safe, healthy and abundant in this universe"

What you should really do.. to get rid of this belief and or ego trip is probably explore it with questions like what's the worst that can happen? Or I prefer this environment not that one.. (preferences are a key word/idea/actual change word)

If you want my segment intending phrase it's..

"In this segment I choose fast, safe, un-interrupted travel, with a huge dose of guidance (I change the verb allot) I will reach for the best feeling thought, take the path of least resistance and do my best to reach the vibration of my true self and follow my excitement"

Originally started for cars now it's just my default intention for all segments..

[cnwoods]

Thanks for the follow up. Now I know where you're coming from, how about:

"I now draw to myself only people who value health and courtesy above the illusion of 'soldiering on'. Contagion avoids me (like the plague)"