I will be updating my 30 day challenge here

[kellzbellz111]

So for those who don't know, I started a 30 day challenge for myself about 13 days ago. The challenge was to stop all contact with my ex boyfriend [who was the source of many problems for me] and just focus on improving myself and finding happiness again. A lot has happened since and here is what has happened so far:

1- I haven't tried to contact him and it hasn't bothered me! This is big because usually by the second or third day I would've given in. I DON'T EVEN MISS HIM
2- My mind is at peace. I don't know how to describe it but I feel peaceful and my mind is not cluttered with thoughts and daydreams about how my ex is when he treats me good. As a result, i believe, my visualizations are manifesting more quickly and I am stress free
3- My self esteem has shot through the ROOF as I expected. I even got a comment about my weight improving from 2 people so far!! It's exciting . I haven't weighed myself yet, but i'll be doing that on day 15
4- For the first time in a long time I truly love myself. Today I walked past the mirror and for the first time in maybe a year I liked what I saw.
5- MOST IMPORTANTLY AND THIS MAKES ME SOOO HAPPY a few days before the challenge me and a couple of friends went out, one of my friends brought along her EXTREMELY EXTREMELY attractive co-worker. Today she came over and we were talking and she said he asked about me and has a little crush on me!! , so the love life is not dead anymore.

SO, overall this is probably the best thing that's ever happened to me. If anyone is in a horrible relationship or is still not over someone and is reading this, just know that there IS a light at the end of the tunnel. I thought I could never feel this way again, I thought I could never be this happy without him and now I AM. So just be patient and you will get there

[Dedekind]

Congratulations! Imho though 30 days are not enough. Try 60 days to be more safe. Plus, the real trick comes when the next setback occurs. Can you make it through that? I believe you can! Good luck!

[kellzbellz111]

Originally Posted by Dedekind

Congratulations! Imho though 30 days are not enough. Try 60 days to be more safe. Plus, the real trick comes when the next setback occurs. Can you make it through that? I believe you can! Good luck!

Ahhh, I knoww, lol. I'm just happy because so far so good. And I can extend it to 60 days, I initially chose 30 days because I have a holiday and thought I could just free myself completely to do this. Thanks for the input

[FrancesL]

That's awesome, Kellz. And I am right there in that boat with you - 2 months, 9 days, and not even counting anymore (I had to really think about that!) All I feel for him now are positive warm thoughts about how I hope he is as happy as me these days. Enjoy your increasing peace and freedom - it is real.

[Jeni]

Have you heard of the 45 day Challenge? Its done by Bob Doyle who was on the secret and it's free. it's full of all kinds of resources to help you succeed at whatever your challenge is and it starts today. I just joined and I really like it. I have already started making progress on my own challenge. If you want to check it out visit my website and it's on the main page.

Jeni
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[petipogled]

I m glad you are excited about your success but to remind you what you know already never get so carried with love life to forget to love yourself and gain independence when problems arise.

[kellzbellz111]

Just another update. First of all, I have to say my laptop has stopped working and that's why it took me so long to update, lol. A lot has happened since the last time:
1- Unfortunately I started talking to him again, but as soon as I did I realized why I had stopped in the first place and now we don't talk. But I still have negative feelings about him which I need to deal with but don't know how.
2-I went on a trip to europe and it was so and so. Initially I was pretty excited and happy about it, but then when I went it turned out to be a bit of a mistake. My self esteem went down a couple notches and I discovered that my friend that I stayed with has become a bit of a pothead and went off to smoke pot with her friends leaving me alone most of the time. I tried to go out on my own but my mood was gloomy most of the time and I just wanted to go home. I thought I had done a lot of great shopping but upon returning realized that I had bought a lot of great individual peices of clothing but there were no great complete outfits and that bummed me out.
3- Upon returning from the trip I recovered. Went back to having high self esteem and being happy, people were mostly supporting me and I didn't worry much. However I still have my days, and I have this friend that is always bringing me down whenever I see her. The problem is I KNOW it's not because she's jealous or anything because she's completely gorgeous and men run after her all the time and she loves her life. Her problem is she doesn't really think about how her words might affect other people, she doesn't know the extent to which what she says hurts me because she thinks I don't care what people say. So this is my current issue which I am working on, I'm currently just avoiding her but I want to find a deeper solution to the problem. I might actually tell her how I feel the next time she says something and I'm 100% sure if she knew how much what she says hurts she'd stop, but I'm a little embarassed that it affects me so much.

So I guess the conclusion is that now it's so and so. My love life is not that great, I keep hearing that this person thinks I'm pretty which is a HUMONGOUS improvement, but the problem is no one ever makes a move or tells me to my face. No one asks me out on a date or tries to get to know me. I just hear from friends that they said this and that. So I'm trying to get past that at the moment.