successfully manifesting an ex-love back

[t33ny]

i came across this forum today and have spent many hours reading thread after thread, and let me first say, what a fantastic group of supportive and enlightened people!

i too have used LOA for many years - well before the secret - but then, my mother just referred to it as the power of "positive thinking". i think we've all been aware of this awesome power for practically forever, but it's fantastic that the secret was put out into the world for everyone to share.

i manage to manifest little things constantly, but my main current intention is to rekindle the relationship with my ex, which i would say, i am doing successfully thus far. i am still in the early stages of success

this time last year, my ex - whom i will refer to as M, due to the fact i think "ex" is a negative turn - and i broke up. we never fought, we lived in a lovely apartment, always had fun and loved each other's company. i entered a period of my life suddenly and without warning where i stopped caring about myself. i'm still not really sure why - underlying issues from my past i expect - and i went into a spiral of doubt, depression and disinterest. i didn't care about looking nice, i felt fat and unattractive (definitely attracted THAT for myself - i felt that way, so i started to look that way) and did not want to have sex. i also didn't really appreciate what was happening to me so i didn't talk to M about it.

needless to say, the misery i was attracting started to turn towards fear of M becoming distant with me, and the fear of us breaking up. i spent all my time worrying about us breaking up, and my daily mantra became "we can't break up, we can't break up".

which of course, we did.

now, i'm not saying that i totally created the split - there were things he could have done to help me, i guess - but i definitely created the end result. however:

a year down the track (and believe me, it DOES take that long) i am a completely different person. i dress differently (for the first year in 27 years, i wear skirts almost every day: i was NEVER a skirt/dress person), i take care of myself, i take care of my surroundings. i feel grateful every day, for everything and most importantly, i LOVE myself. if the universe hadn't stepped in and put a halt on that relationship, i would probably still be in that depressed state: not caring, not loving, not living. i owe everything to the universe for seeing what i could not see. it gave me chances to do it myself - i see that now - but then it realised i just couldn't do it by myself, and the ONLY way to jumpstart me was to take away what i was fixated on.

i would never have discovered all the new spirtual things i've learned since the break if it hadn't happened. it was probably the greatest thing that happened to me, in a backwards way. of course, everything happens for a reason AND for the higher good, and i can see no better testimonial for that than my experience.

as soon as i finally and TRUTHFULLY came back to myself (a better, more learned, more secure, more beautiful me also) and forgave myself and M, suddenly i started to see very odd things.

i've always wanted us to get back together. however, the universe just would NOT help that on the way until i intending it for the right reasons. first i tried to do it because i missed him/needed him/missed our life. we ended up having a huge argument and not talking for a couple of months. the 2nd time was because i THOUGHT i'd gone through all the issues and resolved things. i hadn't. we ended up having another argument and not talking for a few more months.

last month i really realised what i needed to do and be for myself. i started swimming for fitness, eating well, cutting down on bad things. i loved myself, i loved my world, i would never let myself get down. i am radiant with positivity.

suddenly, he agreed to come to a party at our friends house with me. it was awkward for a while, but we soon had each other laughing again. it was great to reconnect and find that the initial reason we loved each other so much was still there: the mutual likes and the laughter.

next, i was approaching last month's full moon eclipse with trepidation. i was sure it was going to be the make or break test for us - full moons are about closure, something ending. eclipses more so. i was sure it was something to do with our relationship, but i intended that it would be more along the lines of our "old" way ending and a new start happening.

then the universe threw me some help. we were having a potluck dinner the weekend AFTER the eclipse but then my flatmate brought it forward to the night OF the eclipse. i was a bit nervous, but still didn't let it worry me.

that night, M and i sat up till 4am after everyone else had gone, watching tv shows we used to watch together and joking together. it was the first time in probably 6 or 7 months we'd done anything like that. it was my intended new start.

M says we're not ready for lunch dates etc yet, but i'm definitely intending to manifest that this week

i put out a strong intention yesterday that we would have lunch together this week and he would hold my hand. almost immediately i got an alpha moment where i went to pick up a pen and my hand started tingling like i'd gotten an electric shock. LOA in action!

anyway, i hope this has been helpful to some; i just wanted to share my joy and love to you all, and for those of you hoping to have a lover back - it IS possible; you just have to do A LOT of work on YOU first. it's common knowledge that if YOU don't love yourself, then how can anyone else?

much love!

[mahreenferdous]

let us know how you get on and what happens at lunch.

[JJwTheCrew]

That's wonderful, please keep us posted.

I agree with a lot what you said. I had to learn it the hard way that it has to start with me. I had to start loving myself before I could see the real truth of what was going on.

May you and M always be vibrationally matched...wishing the best for you

[lisalisa]

Although I haven't been manifesting the situation, I am trying to reconcile with my ex.

We separated 6 months ago. Since then, and shortly before he left, I had started making big changes in my life - to my health and my finances. When he left I was devastated, but I had an amazing friend, who helped me pick myself up and work through the panic and anxiety of my loss to focus on myself and getting through it and better.

I am on my way to great health and emotional stability. I am seeing a counsellor and making good progress. However, I still miss my ex every day and want a chance for us to be together again.

Small positive steps I am making every day are good, but I am not sure what else to do. I have kept my distance since the separation. I wanted to talk after it, but he wasn't interested. Now, 6 months later, he made contact and wants to talk about how we are both doing. He's heard I am doing well and said he isn't very happy, although he is dating.

This time has been a great time for personal growth, and I feel stronger every day, yet I miss him terribly.

What can I do? Initially, when talking to him all those months ago, I was in tears most of the time. Now I am stronger, but I wonder if talking to him on the phone or face to face will bring the same reaction.

I'm doing my best to work through unexpressed feelings and emotion.

While I'd love to be able to talk and laugh with him like we used to, I don't want to just be friends, I want more.

Any thoughts and advice?

[viking4525]

Originally Posted by lisalisa

Although I haven't been manifesting the situation, I am trying to reconcile with my ex.

We separated 6 months ago. Since then, and shortly before he left, I had started making big changes in my life - to my health and my finances. When he left I was devastated, but I had an amazing friend, who helped me pick myself up and work through the panic and anxiety of my loss to focus on myself and getting through it and better.

I am on my way to great health and emotional stability. I am seeing a counsellor and making good progress. However, I still miss my ex every day and want a chance for us to be together again.

Small positive steps I am making every day are good, but I am not sure what else to do. I have kept my distance since the separation. I wanted to talk after it, but he wasn't interested. Now, 6 months later, he made contact and wants to talk about how we are both doing. He's heard I am doing well and said he isn't very happy, although he is dating.

This time has been a great time for personal growth, and I feel stronger every day, yet I miss him terribly.

What can I do? Initially, when talking to him all those months ago, I was in tears most of the time. Now I am stronger, but I wonder if talking to him on the phone or face to face will bring the same reaction.

I'm doing my best to work through unexpressed feelings and emotion.

While I'd love to be able to talk and laugh with him like we used to, I don't want to just be friends, I want more.

Any thoughts and advice?

FANTASTIC ... you have manifested him back already!!

My first suggestion is search inside yourself DEEPLY ... do you REALLY want him back in your life. My experience is that we "create" situations in our lives and experience BOTH sides of an equation, so we can TRULY choose what we REALLY want.

If you HONESTLY answer yes then search inside as to WHY did you "intend" the time apart. You mentioned just before you started bringing changes ... it normally is because of a change of desires. Maybe (I am in a similar situation to you ... but not at the same stage as you) your soul/spirit created for you to see if you truly wanted him or not. Be aware that the "pain body" that exists in all of us will still be in him and you, and so IF you have completed all the work on YOURSELF, your limited beliefs, concepts of "failure", etc etc and are finding you are more "aligned" or "centered" WITHIN yourself (and as you have already created the contact from him it sounds like you are almost finished ) then continue creating him back.

The Process allows you to create ANYTHING you want ... so IF its him, keep doing what you are doing. The Process is all about the JOURNEY, not the end result of the manifestation. You never stop manifesting, because WHEN you get what you want, do you stop there? NOT A CHANCE, you keep going, you keep LEARNING and GROWING INSIDE.

My view is ensure its your TRUE desire, if not, then choose another man, BUT if it is keep going "baby steps" like t33ny was saying. There is NO TIME constraint to this, if its true UNconditional love then you still have the rest of your lives together, so you don't need to have him in your arms at this very second. Tomorrow is just as good

Well done!

[lisalisa]

What do you mean I am manifesting it?

What I have done is limited contact and focussed on my self.

I don't know how to manifest love. I can't make someone love me. I know he still has some feelings, perhaps of care and friendship only.

How can I expect more when I haven't seen him for quite a while and we don't talk as friends?

I do love him. Things weren't great in the end - distant, and had been for a while. At the time he said change had to happen and this was progress.

I really value this man. I don't know how to manifest him back.

I don't know where to go from here. Should I contact him, talk as friends, talk about us? How we are doing? Or wait for him to contact me.

[TerryHill695]

Best wishes t33ny, sounds like you are well on your way to rekindling your old relationship!

Keep us posted

[Elfwing]

Attracting an ex into your present is something I've always been a bit iffy about. What if there's someone better for you now?

I had a best friend a few years ago who I miss dearly whenever I think of her. I honestly don't think I'll ever have another friendship like the one we shared ever again (and.. I'm probably going to manifest as such. D'oh), but I'm leaving it be.

[Jeni]

I am celebrating my 5th anniversary today and I saw this post and wanted to offer my own insights. In my experience, love happens when it's meant to. I don't think that constantly visualizing yourself together with another is going to really help much because it puts you in a place of need, like many others have already mentioned. You have already let the universe know that you want a relationship with someone and now you need to let it go. If it's meant to be then it will be. If it's not, then it won't work out. Pushing it will just lead to heartache and unhappiness. Many of the great teachers of the law of attraction will tell you that once you've put the idea out into the universe, trust that it will happen and then let go. I hope this helps.

[bananya]

Hey. I'm new here and even though I have been applying LOA before I didn't know it was actually LOA, I just wanted something really bad and then it'd happen out of nowhere. anyways, I came across this topic about manifesting your love back and I have mixed feelings about that.
my story (briefly): I met this guy (and I'd say he was my first love) 4 years ago. The problem is that we live in different countries (but I know that there's nothing impossible). then I haven't seen him for 3,5 years, we were keeping in touch though, but the contact with time was disappearing, but even though I liked other guys he was always in my head. But eventually I started to forget him when all of a sudden we started talking again several times a week (his initiative) and he said he started learning russian (which I speak) and wants to come to my country. and about the same time I started to plan my vacation and I knew I always wanted to go back to his country to visit friends I have there and ..him. and let me tell you that the trip worked out almost perfect! everything just matched so well (my visa, money, everyone i wanted to see was free at the time of my visit). and I knew that when i see him the feelings would be right there again, I knew it and I was right. it was a great vacation and after I came back home we would talk every day and we both fell in love, although we knew that long distance relationships are not easy so we knew any of us could meet someone else. (and he could only come visit me in a year or so, but I was ready to wait as I had a lot of hope). but then couple months ago he told me he was seeing someone else (it took him about 3 weeks to tell me because he wasn't sure). And even though we didn't have any commitments to each other I was hurt as he really made me fall for him during these months. But it didn't take me long to forgive him, in fact I wasn't mad at him, but at the situation of long distance itself and I knew he is not ready for serious relationship. The girl said she wasn't sure after like 3 weeks so now he's single again and I dont know much what is going there between them now, but we talk "as friends" few times a week and he's planning to come to my country anyways. I was very upset, but like many already said here it made me start thinking about what I really want and who I really am first of all. And I think I'm making progress I don't want to be desperate, but I really want love, I want a happy family and children and house, I don't really care where as long as I'm with the person I love and who loves me. And this guy..I just can't get him out of my head and I want to try again. Am I sure he is the one I REALLY want? No, but I know why I like him. And I just have this feeling inside that it's not the end. I'm not sure if this is really my intuition or just me being stubborn as we always want something we can't have more.. I know also the more you try to stick to something the faster it'll slip away. So I let go the situation and I do truly believe that if something is meant to be it'll be when time comes. It just wasn't the right time for us yet. But how do I know if it's not the time YET or if it's not meant to be at all?..
But my main question is can you actually manifest LOVE? You can't make someone love you, so I don't really understand how this works if you are talking about a particular person? What if when you are manifesting his love he's manifesting someone else's love?? And if you know you "manifested" your ex come back to you, how can you know it's real?... sounds a little like love spell to me
can somebody share their thoughts about this?
and maybe some advice too