Manifestation as a mirror of the mind

[rbwrb]

I've been having an interesting experience with intention/manifestation for some time. Part of me would like very much to have an emotional/romantic relationship - I WANT to wholeheartedly want a relationship, but part of me is entirely resistant to the whole idea.

I've been trying to figure out how I really feel about that for many months and I'm still not certain. I've been consciously intending to manifest a relationship anyway, kind of working on the basis that if I actually met someone I cared for that would settle the matter, but I'm finding out it doesn't work that way. What I keep manifesting are circumstances that are a perfect reflection my feelings: I keep finding myself in situations where there's lots of mutual attraction but for one reason or another any real relationship would be impossible. It's kind of amazing how perfectly it mirrors what's really going on in my mind.

I suppose what I need to do is get really clear on what I do want. Maybe I need to try intending to be clear about what I'm intending. :-) Actually I just wish one attitude or the other would "win", so I'd either actually unreservedly want a relationship or be perfectly happy remaining solo. Does all that ring a bell with anyone here? Has anyone had that experience, and if so, have you found a way to get some clarity on what you really do want?

[Richful]

My friend I know how you feel...
I guess I'd say I'm in a similar situation. I want to be in a loving relationship but have low self-esteem and find it hard to make friends with new ppl. That really knocks around my intentional focus.

I've not had much success with manifesting, not enough self-belief yet. However, as I see it ur desire needs to be strong and focused. I've spent a lot of time trying to decide what I really want too, it's not easy.

In some of the occult study I've done it's said that all anyone really wants is to truly be themselves, all the time. Have you considered intending purely for your highest good? It sounds a bit cheesy sure... But it may work at a higher level, covering all areas of your life, maybe bringing some clarity

Thanks for the question mate, you've brought me a bit of clarity thru the process.

Connect with the Most High and let the blessings fly!

[nafai]

This weekend marks the one year anniversary of my first date with my wife...we have been married for almost 5 1/2 months now as well!

Just weeks before my wife and I started dating, I was very discouraged about my prospects for a romantic relationship. I am physically different than most (I'm have some form of dwarfism, I'm only 4'6") and found that not too many women were interested in dating someone shorter than them. Needless to say, I had nearly gave up on the hopes of finding a relationship.

During this same time, however, I was tired of some other things in my life. I wanted to get rid of the excess in my life. I spent several weeks of working in the evenings to clean my apartment out. I got rid of clothes that were worn out or I never wore. I sold books that I would never read again at a used book store. I organized. I was making room in my life for something good. I remember very distinctly sitting in the middle of my closet in the middle of October, praying, saying that I was making this room in my life for the right relationship. I was asking God and the universe...even though I was discouraged, I was making room for it.

Long story short -- I had met my wife several months before but had never thought of her as a potential for a relationship. She had found me (after knowing me in person) on a social networking site and requested to be my friend. We exchanged instant messenger account information and one day, when I was bored, I started talking to her. I was so not thinking of a relationship happening in my life that I wasn't getting the hints she was giving for me to ask her out. Finally, she gave up and asked me out.

By the end of the second date, I knew I was in a special relationship. It didn't take long for us to realize this was the relationship we both wanted.

I tell this long story to say that one form of the intention-manifestation is actually making room for what you want. I was doing so in a very literal way, as I reduced what I had physically. But in an emotional way, I was making room in my heart for it to happen, and asking the universe to provide. Little did I know it would only take a few weeks.

[Ati]

I tell this long story to say that one form of the intention-manifestation is actually making room for what you want. I was doing so in a very literal way, as I reduced what I had physically. But in an emotional way, I was making room in my heart for it to happen, and asking the universe to provide. Little did I know it would only take a few weeks.
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Hi, what a great story nafai! many congratulations and thanks for sharing it. (I have to figure out how to get a proper quote into a reply, just copied and pasted from yours above!)

I agree that making room for what you want is a big thing and the way you did it, in real obvious and concrete terms sounds just courageously wonderful!

Sometimes I do find myself formulating an intention for something and then I realize it's really something preliminary or even more general that I'd be better off putting to intention. For example, if there is a "trouble maker" around in working situation and I intend for that person to settle down, I might come to realize that what will fit better is if I intend that "there is balance and cooperation in the workplace and I contribute continually to that balance and cooperation" Know what I mean?

Also, related to some of the other posts, figuring out just what words to use for a post might possibly be the trick.

So something like "I intend high self esteem which translates into loving, positive interactions with people every day" --in one's own words of course (!!)--might that be a starting point?

Ati

[Leandro Leme]

Originally Posted by rbwrb

I suppose what I need to do is get really clear on what I do want. Maybe I need to try intending to be clear about what I'm intending. :-)

Yes!

Intentions are imbued by feelings and mental pictures. Try not to think about the problem while you are intending. Live the change you want to experience first in your mind, feel the joy, stick to it, and be patient

[Vivacious Woman]

Maybe you can do everything on a minimal focus so you can have both worlds.