Needing help with my attitude towards money

[ciarac]

Hello to you all,

So, i've been reading and learning about the law of attraction for about three months now. I full believe in it and am a very interested student, I mean, I love the whole thing.
Although I believe in it, and have manifested a few things, I really am quite stuck when it comes to my money situation.
Let me set the scene; I'm a website content writer, so I am fully dependent solely on myself for my salary. I love this and I love having my own freedom. However, for the past seven years, in fact, my entire adult life, I've been broke. I get new clients, I get great leads, things look like they'll improve, but I always, ALWAYS come to the end of the month, or the start, without enough money. And it's amazing, I am a living example of the law of attraction in action.

In the past I've really pushed against this, every time I get broke I get angry and say "this is it! I'm not letting this happen again" but it does, of course.
So now, although I really am working on my attitude (if you look at my blog you'll see that I make efforts, and try to improve this part of my life) but I just can't seem to fix it, or as yet, I have not been able to.

SO, I'm asking for help. Anything will do, please criticize me, suggest things to me, whatever, I don't mind, I just really need help. I just have this attitude towards money, this knowing that I will always come to a stage where my cash will run out and I won't be able to pay my rent and will have to borrow cash, I have this attitude SO ingrained within me, I find it so hard to shake.
I'm not in debt now, thank god, because I DO have money coming in, but it's just never enough. I pay my rent finally, then my computer breaks and I have to borrow money to pay that, and then I'm out of cash again, and so on and so forth.

I really need help so any suggestion would do. And I would LOVE to hear from anybody who has had similar money attitudes and has changed them, that would be super. For me, the attitude I have, which I really have tried to get rid of, is that there is never enough. I actually find it really hard to imagine myself having enough. Like, having enough so that I'll always be able to pay my rent, go out with friends, go on holiday, simple things, all that seems outta reach.

So, hhheeeellllppppp!!!!

Thanks in advance!

[ciarac]

And PS, my website for my copywriting business is offline because I couldn't afford the hosting this month, how lame! That's how lame my situation is!

[Angela]

You need a new story!

As long as you keep telling this story about what you DON'T want, you'll keep creating it. You're a writer -- how could you deliberately tell your story in a way that has you feeling good, and thus creating more and more good feeling, and getting more of what you want? How can you go about turning towards what you want (and letting go of RESISTING what you don't want)?

There are the seeds a new, feeling good story in your old, feeling bad story. Like:

I love my life, I love to write, and I love that plenty of money comes with that. It feels good that I am continually getting new clients and new leads, and that I can choose to welcome more and more opportunity and income. I am free, I am fine, and the universe is supporting me. I have enough to eat, I feel vital and healthy, and I enjoy sharing my experiences with others. Who I am is a person who makes a positive difference in the world, and I am grateful that I am in a position to do that. I get to creatively express myself, and people pay me for that. I love my life, and the better it gets, the better it gets.

[ciarac]

Thank you Angela.
To clarify; are you suggesting I reword my situation, focusing solely on the good? And in doing so, will get more of the good?
Or are you suggesting I try visualization? I have tried visualization, and continue to try it, but I'm just asking you what your particular suggestion was?
I really liked your new positive story, sounds far better than mine.

I know that this circle will end, it has to. Oh, there I go again, speaking of the circle...
I know that my post was very negative but it's just something that I, currently, don't feel able to get over, so I felt it best just to address it head on, get my feelings out there, and hopefully get the answers I'm looking for.

Thanks for your input,

Ciara

[Angela]

Ciarac, it's fine to acknowledge the circumstances you're in that have you feeling a way you don't want to feel. And if you keep thinking thoughts that have you feeling bad, you'll keep thinking thoughts that have you feeling bad. The worse it gets, the worse it gets. As long as you focus on what you don't want, that's what you'll keep getting -- even though you're focusing on your not wanting it!

So now that you've acknowledged these bad feeling thoughts, you can let them go. Thank them, and say goodbye. Now it's time to turn towards what you want: abundance, freedom, joy, passion, love, connection. Start telling yourself and others the story of thoughts that feel good. Deliberately think thoughts have have you feeling good when you think them, because that's how you will attract more good feeling into your life. The better it gets, the better it gets!

For instance, you said:

I know that my post was very negative but it's just something that I, currently, don't feel able to get over, so I felt it best just to address it head on, get my feelings out there, and hopefully get the answers I'm looking for.

What if you were to transform that to:

I know that I have the power to think thoughts about what I want and what feels good, and it feels good knowing I have that power. As I choose thoughts that feel a little better, more good feeling is flowing into my life now. I am letting go of thoughts that no longer serve me, and I am consciously and deliberately choosing thoughts of all the delightful conditions in my life that are here now, and that are coming towards me. I am choosing to recognize and appreciate the bountiful abundance, freedom, and joy I have in my life now, and I welcome more and more of it all the time.

What would be possible in your life if you were to acknowledge and let go of thoughts that don't feel good when you think them, and to consciously and deliberately choose thoughts that feel good when you think them?

[wellbeing]

I know Angela has already responded in her comprehensive way but I feel I have to respond as well.

Please, Ciarac, reread your 2 starting posts to this thread. This is what you're requesting from the Universe--in "black and white." Is this what you want? And is this how you want to be requesting it? If your answer is "Yes," then read no further.

I know you're stating your current situation, but part of these conditions you created before or as you are learning to work with the LoA. And Angela's recommendation to change your story I think is spot on.

I know, from your previous posts, that you've been studying the Abraham materials. In our first post, you ask explicitly for "criticism." How does this contribute to your Feel-good? You came back to refer to yourself as "lame." What happened to your Emotional Guidance System as you posted?

I'm not writing this to criticize or chastise you, Ciarac, in any way but to help you connect what you're studying with what you're requesting.

Hope this helps.

[themaster]

You could always cash in on "LOA" create a sect.. but I guess if you’re going to really sell it you might have to become that kind of person first..

The only thing you should really be doing is following your passion every time and joyfully be living your life.. only in that way can you manifest strongly.. a key factor comes in too not to force the universe to deliver it "the way you you want or in a scenario you want" better to leave that all open so that you’re not blocking what could just be a better and easier way..

Your post really says.. "I have a fear of no abundance" the attitudes or teachings of loa/new age say "believe in abundance" and more then that believe you’re worthy

If I were Abraham I might say..

Do you believe there is lack in your society or do you see plenty of food, water, wealth, abundance?

There are basically 2 ways for you to fix the problems you have either..
1. Examine the beliefs that hold you back
2. Or make systematic program changes to your ego every time your hit with a negative thought..

Thought examples
How will I live, there's no money (negative)
The money will come I can find a way (positive)
No one likes my stories and or I never get paid (negative)
I sell my stories easily, money just flows so easily (positive)

I am not without the same negative thoughts you have had.. about money but unlike you I have a belief system in place about how I earn money.. I'll tell you the truth here.. I've been on vacation since 06-26-2008 came back to my home town after making $0 dollars (and passing up business) up (homeless might I add) until 08-16-2008 and came back to town and went right back to making money (in a way..) I made maybe say $500 prior to today total (maybe less then that) and today I made my highest grossing number.. $560

What did I ask the universe for in terms of money?
$2500-5000 a week

Am I there yet?
No

Does that bother me?
Nope, plenty of time.. and I like my life comfortable/pleasurable

Why did I have fear?
My bank accounts lowering.. which bugs me.. (or annoys)
Turned down 1 to 1 1/2 months worth of business to be on vacation..
Hate throwing money away on rent..

How did I overcome my fears or with beliefs?
By having years of money making practice.. that = belief too
Also just having a positive attitude..
Re-doubling my efforts..
I actually turned down business before I started dealing with people on supposed cheaper rates..

Do you have these?
Nope.. time to start building.. build hard if it bugs you that much.. keep your eyes and ears open and only pursue those things that you feel positive about.. if you have doubts/fears beat them down by ACKNOWLEDGING them and countering with.. well this could work.. how about this? or.. I PREFER THIS..

[marinik]

Find what works for you. Read the thread Noise on Intentional Manifestation Forum. I tried the IGS and it does not work for me. I have a wish black board where I write my “mantra” for the month, and reread it every time I come into my bedroom. I have tried letting go of my biggest wish. See what happens…. Experiment... but just be positive... it always comes out just fine.

[ciarac]

Thank you to all of you. I feel better already.
A lot of what you guys said has resonated with me. One of those is telling a different story. I can talk about my finances in a very negative way, but I can equally talk about my work and money in a very positive way. True, I am my own boss, I have built my own business, I work creatively, I create my own work schedule and I have the means to earn great money.
So, doing this is something I will add to my daily routine, which goes hand in hand with being grateful. I am a grateful person, but not about my finances, and not surprisingly, everything else in my is going great right now, except my finances.

Also, I found this post: Best way to manifesting money
which has a post by someone about self esteem. Where money is concerned, I have very low self esteem and don't love myself. And so, it's no wonder I don't experience financial abundance.

So, I'm not going to say that i'm going to stop this cycle, because there is no cycle that is worth talking about. Today and everyday is a new day, and I will report back with good news shortly. Thank you all again,

Ciara.

[moonrambler]

Originally Posted by ciarac

And PS, my website for my copywriting business is offline because I couldn't afford the hosting this month, how lame! That's how lame my situation is!

Quick suggestion -- take that copywriting website out of your signature until you get that bill paid.

[mercuryrising]

I manifested a million dollar bill this weekend. What's interesting is that when I open up my wallet, I might be near broke, but then I see this million dollar bill. And this thought arises, "I have a million dollars, I don't have to worry about it." Then I get on with what I'm doing knowing that the money will be there when I need it.

That's the affirmation I have been playing with: you always get exactly what you need when you need it.

Consider that for a moment: for the rest of your life, whenever you need something to eat, clothes to wear, a place to sleep, a friend or money for whatever, you will have it right when you need it. If you don't have it you don't need it. There is nothing lacking at any time.

Life moves in a cycle between filling and emptying. We like to turn filling into "good" and emptying into "bad". The truth is that we can enjoy both sides if we don't get too attached to either one. And just in case you don't believe some guy that is about as (technically) broke as yourself, here's something from the book "Rich Dad, Poor Dad":

On the side of emptying:

"So their emotions do their thinking," Mike said.

"That's correct," said rich dad, "Instead of telling the truth about how they feel, they react to their feeling, fail to think. They feel the fear, they go to work, hoping that money will soothe the fear, but it doesn't. That old fear haunts them, and they go back to work, hoping again that money will calm their fears, and again it doesn't....For millions of people, that old fear keeps them awake all night, causing a night of turmoil and worry. So they get up and go to work, hoping that a paycheck will kill that fear gnawing at their soul. Money is running their lives, and they refuse to tell the truth about that. Money is in control of their emotions and hence their souls."

On the side of filling:

"The reason many rich people are rich is not because of desire but because of fear. They actually think that money can eliminate that fear of not having money, of being poor, so they amass tons of it only to find out the fear gets worse. They now fear losing it.... The fears that drove them to get rich got worse. That weak and needy part of their soul is actually screaming louder... Many are emotionally desperate and neurotic, although they look rich and have more money."

Rich Dad's answer to this issue:

"...Just be an observer, not a reactor, to your emotions. Most people do not know it is their emotions doing the thinking. Your emotions are your emotions, but you have got to learn to do your own thinking."

[moonrambler]

Originally Posted by mercuryrising

I manifested a million dollar bill this weekend. What's interesting is that when I open up my wallet, I might be near broke, but then I see this million dollar bill. And this thought arises, "I have a million dollars, I don't have to worry about it." Then I get on with what I'm doing knowing that the money will be there when I need it.

I was thinking about this after you mentioned it in the Noise thread, about how sometimes people will say they keep a million dollar bill or something like that in their wallet. I tried that once with four (fake) $500 bills when I was trying to manifest $2,000, and everytime I looked in my wallet, unfortunately, the $500 just looked silly to me, because they didn't look like real money. Eventually one day when I was real mad about finances, I took the (symbolic) money out.

I have begun to think more about carrying around more (actual) money. Originally when I saw this advised on the board here, I immediately said, well, I can't do that, because I'll just spend it. I've started keeping a spending journal though, and writing down absolutely everything I spend, so that is keeping me in line. That journal has turned out to be a great idea for shining a light on the reasons I spend money spontaneously when I shouldn't be doing that.

[fellowtraveler]

Originally Posted by mercuryrising

I manifested a million dollar bill this weekend. What's interesting is that when I open up my wallet, I might be near broke, but then I see this million dollar bill. And this thought arises, "I have a million dollars, I don't have to worry about it." Then I get on with what I'm doing knowing that the money will be there when I need it.

That's the affirmation I have been playing with: you always get exactly what you need when you need it

It's been that way all my life, but I rarely was thankful or even aware of it. Some of us are dense and it takes more time. Took me almost a lifetime.

I don't think all these grand affirmations/intentions that people make would work for me because I don't think I'm meant to have a million dollars - but on the other hand I'll always have what I need. (I make what is considered a lower middle income in the U.S.)

One good specific example:

A number of years ago we needed a vehicle for my wife to go to work. Didn't have the money, but my wife's father happened to sell a small family beach house and distributed the money to the kids - we got just enough to get her a good car. Her Dad died a few months ago. Last month, we found out her car (same one) now needed a new engine, and the engine in my motorcycle needed to be rebuilt.. A week earlier, we'd gotten a check from a life insurance policy from her dad - it was enough to fix both vehicles plus enough to pay our taxes this year. Seems her Dad was watching out for her the whole time, in a way.

We had finally got a small wad of cash to invest for retirement but had to spend it. But I don't care in the least - I know now that we'll probably never be wealthy, but we'll not starve either.

[marinik]

I used to worry about money all the time before I met my husband. His philosophy was “Don’t worry it will be fine, there is always enough money at the right time, when you need it.” And after 20 years I must say he was right. We always have enough at the right time, when we need it. So I eased up, I let go of my worries, and the money came poring in when ever we needed it. We still have times when it seems there is going to be a draught but the rain of abundance always falls at the right moment. So let go, be cool and stop worrying. Think of what you dream of and feel it coming!

[moonrambler]

I think it is all well and good to think positively . . . but what about all the people who don't get the money they need when they need it?

Isn't there a way of looking at this subject without denying that often it doesn't work out the way it is being professed here?

It's like we come to a point where it's said: don't worry, there'll always be food/shelter/clothing right at the moment we need it -- even if this means we're living on the street and totally destitute. Even then, we still have soup kitchens, a bed in a shelter (or at least a tent on a heat grate), and free clothing from the Salvation Army.

Marinik mentioned the thread Noise, and this is part of what I mean by Noise. Some of us absolutely without a single doubt need to get out of this mindset of "Oh, something will happen to get us out of this mess." Some of us have lived like this for a long time and have just made a bigger and bigger mess. Some of us truly need to learn how to get ourselves out of a mess we created, without always being confident that money will "appear" out of the blue. What about all the people for whom this money doesn't just "appear"?

[cylon]

You're not responsible for their situation, and they aren't responsible for yours. If what you receive in life is a balance of your own thought, then what others receive is a balance of theirs. And, we draw evidence to us, of what our primary thoughts are. So if we are not feeling abundant, and we think money is scarce, we will be more drawn to notice that all over the world, and more examples of scarcity will be drawn to us.

[Angela]

Originally Posted by moonrambler

I think it is all well and good to think positively . . . but what about all the people who don't get the money they need when they need it?

Isn't there a way of looking at this subject without denying that often it doesn't work out the way it is being professed here?

It's like we come to a point where it's said: don't worry, there'll always be food/shelter/clothing right at the moment we need it -- even if this means we're living on the street and totally destitute. Even then, we still have soup kitchens, a bed in a shelter (or at least a tent on a heat grate), and free clothing from the Salvation Army.

Marinik mentioned the thread Noise, and this is part of what I mean by Noise. Some of us absolutely without a single doubt need to get out of this mindset of "Oh, something will happen to get us out of this mess." Some of us have lived like this for a long time and have just made a bigger and bigger mess. Some of us truly need to learn how to get ourselves out of a mess we created, without always being confident that money will "appear" out of the blue. What about all the people for whom this money doesn't just "appear"?

Moonrambler, it works 100% of the time -- if you are focusing on abundance, abundance flows. And if you're focusing on the lack of abundance, you're tying a knot in the hose.

Hey, that's a poem! Some people THINK they're focusing on abundance, when what they're really focusing on is the lack of abundance, and that's what they continue to get. How you can tell is: they feel bad. Attractive desire feels good!

When you focus on: "I've lived like this for a long time and have created a bigger and bigger mess. I need to get out of this mess I've created," what do you think you are creating right now? Right! More mess. The story you tell is one of stress and irritation. What do you think you are creating by telling that story?

Maybe you don't have much money right now. Do you have enough to buy the book, "Money and Law of Attraction" -- the new Abraham-Hicks?

[cylon]

Originally Posted by Angela

Maybe you don't have much money right now. Do you have enough to buy the book, "Money and Law of Attraction" -- the new Abraham-Hicks?

I second that. I'm in the middle of it now, it's extremely easy reading for an Abraham book. Further explains why it's so important to feel good FIRST, then create from that.... and how to get your thoughts from lack back up to abundance. And the cd it comes with (lecture) is almost as good as the book itself. In my opinion. I just started the section on physical well-being.

edit--another good visual. Tying knots in a hose.

[moonrambler]

I felt GREAT for years. From 2003 through 2007 in particular, I felt GREAT. I mean, in-love great. Giddy, happy, positive, fabuloso wonderful. In the meantime, I created a big mess.

That's a fact.

What ciarac wrote there could've been me last year. I don't want ciarac to be sitting there a year from now unable to afford web-hosting.

I started in the wrong forum. I thought I needed IM and LoA. I already had IM and LoA. What I needed was Biz & Financial. I needed someone to explain to me some ways I could make some real money. Not how I could feel great and visualize abundance and do what I love and focus on what I think I want from money when really what I want is the feeling that I think will come from acquiring money.

No. What I needed was money. And I needed to learn how to earn a lot more money than I was earning. What I needed was to learn how to create further streams of income because I didn't make enough on eBay. If I had learned that last fall, I wouldn't be facing this extreme uphill climb right now. That's all.

Paul (iampaul99), who has become very financially successful especially as compared to where he was some years back, and is doing very well with his blog (How to Make Money Doing What You Love) has stated flat-out that it isn't all about feeling good. It is about being able to believe it and visualize it and know that it will happen. He didn't get much of a response when stating that it isn't all about feeling good. Sometimes it's actually about feeling disgusted.

Cylon, it's interesting that we disagree on this point, because that book that you recommended 18 times has given me more focus on what I am saying here. It's about facing reality and knowing that you can change it. His emphasis is on health -- mine at this moment is on financial abundance. It's not about feeling great and wonderful and abundant, and running up your credit cards to $12,000 because you know that something will happen and you'll always be provided for. Dr. Dispenza states full-on that we need to face what has brought ourselves to this point, to be fully conscious, consciously unskilled, before we can become consciously skilled. That book has really hit home for me. I always remember Wayne Dyer's comment, "In order to do something you've never done before, you have to become someone you've never been before."

[fellowtraveler]

Originally Posted by moonrambler

I think it is all well and good to think positively . . . but what about all the people who don't get the money they need when they need it?

Maybe they don't get to decide what they need. Maybe they're here to learn (self-assigned) lessons that involve being poor or humble. Maybe they're at their best when poor. I know of a psychic who has MS. She says it's because in a previous life she was a doctor with a terrible bedside manner.

Deepak Chopra has said that perhaps the reason for massses of suffering humanity is that if there were only a few suffering, no one would pay attention. I'd bet all those souls volunteered for that. What's a few years of suffering compared to an eternity of peace?

Originally Posted by moonrambler

Isn't there a way of looking at this subject without denying that often it doesn't work out the way it is being professed here?

Not sure how it's being professed here, since there are so many nuances proposed, postulated and asserted in the posts. It's probably not possible to literally teach it to someone. But one thing I am as sure of as I can be - stressing over it is counterproductive. Actually I personally may need to stop posting and reading about it for that very reason.

[marinik]

Originally Posted by moonrambler

I think it is all well and good to think positively . . . but what about all the people who don't get the money they need when they need it?

Isn't there a way of looking at this subject without denying that often it doesn't work out the way it is being professed here?

It's like we come to a point where it's said: don't worry, there'll always be food/shelter/clothing right at the moment we need it -- even if this means we're living on the street and totally destitute. Even then, we still have soup kitchens, a bed in a shelter (or at least a tent on a heat grate), and free clothing from the Salvation Army.

Marinik mentioned the thread Noise, and this is part of what I mean by Noise. Some of us absolutely without a single doubt need to get out of this mindset of "Oh, something will happen to get us out of this mess." Some of us have lived like this for a long time and have just made a bigger and bigger mess. Some of us truly need to learn how to get ourselves out of a mess we created, without always being confident that money will "appear" out of the blue. What about all the people for whom this money doesn't just "appear"?

Well at one point I was there where you are saying most of the people are, I made a mess out of my finances and then I met my husband and he helped me get out of that hole. Saying it is sitting and waiting to clear (the mess) by it self is not what I meant. I have done the best in everything I did not worrying about money. It -the money- came as the consequence of my giving the most I could to everybody and into everything I did. But if you are paralyzed by the fear and repeat the same old habits and actions you are going to be in the same mess all the time.

[cylon]

Clearly we got different things from the book. If it's making you happier and you feel you're seeing more clearly how our minds are our own worst enemy, then I'm glad you read it.

[Angela]

Originally Posted by moonrambler

That's a fact.

Heres what Abraham says about this.

There is a tendency... to feel a need to state the factual truth about the subject ("tell it like it is") rather than make the statement of what you desire. That tendency alone is responsible for more miscreating and more personal disallowing of wanted things than all other things put together.

(emphasis mine.)

I think you're right to acknowledge and learn from what you've done in the past. And I think you would have the power to make a difference (that you don't currently have, because you are operating with your hose in a knot) if you were to focus on what you want, rather than focusing on what you don't want. You don't have to, of course, and I don't even think you should. And if you really want to take a bold look at What Is (the reality), you'll see that you are continuously creating an uphill climb right now. That's fine! But it's not necessary. You could be sailing downhill and getting what you want. I am! I suspect Paul is, too.

His emphasis is on health -- mine at this moment is on financial abundance.

I think you think you are focused on financial abundance, but what you are really focused on is not having enough.

[moonrambler]

Originally Posted by marinik

Well at one point I was there where you are saying most of the people are, I made a mess out of my finances and then I met my husband and he helped me get out of that hole. Saying it is sitting and waiting to clear (the mess) by it self is not what I meant. I have done the best in everything I did not worrying about money. It -the money- came as the consequence of my giving the most I could to everybody and into everything I did. But if you are paralyzed by the fear and repeat the same old habits and actions you are going to be in the same mess all the time.

I didn't mean to be targeting what you said about LoA & money -- I was just reminded of the thread Noise when you mentioned it. I really enjoy reading varying opinions and seeing what works for different people. Where it starts to get me is when some information is presented as The One True Fact Which Works For All, No Matter The Situation, And Nothing Else Is Necessary.

I don't know if "most" people are in a financial mess, although certainly many are. There is a lot of emphasis around here though on how if you feel great and positive and abundant all/most of the time, then financial problems will clear up as if by magic. What I want to address is the True Fact that I created the mess I'm in during the years when I felt totally great, absolutely wonderful, very happy. And obviously, irresponsible and for some reason, a compulsive under-earner. I was absolutely not paralyzed by fear. I boldly went where I knew I would succeed. It is this, as you said: repeat the same old habits and actions you are going to be in the same mess all the time which is a main point I get from Dr. Dispenza's book. I can be joyful about life, and still repeat the same old habits and actions that keep the same mess going on and on. At some point, the habits and actions must be acknowledged and re-written.

It's like this, simply: A person creates a certain amount of debt, and now, along with the most basic of living expenses, needs to have $1,000 clear income a month to clear up the responsibilities incurred as well as survive without going on the dole. What she's been doing is writing content articles for websites, 60 or 70 hours a week, and that pays her $800 clear income a month. She loves doing this writing and she loves her friends and her family and where she lives and she has lots of books to read and woods to hike in and a couple of dogs and she is the happiest she's ever been.

But she's still making $800 a month.

What I often see around here when we get to this point in a discussion, is how a person can cut their expenses in order to live on $800 a month. Where I'm always wanting the discussion to go, is how to increase income to $1600 a month. Then we get lots of stuff about feeling abundant and not focusing on lack. But if this person doesn't do something else, change the old habits and actions, or unless some money falls out of the sky, she's going to continue creating $200 debt each and every month.

[cylon]

It's a pain sometimes when you can't get everyone to agree with you.

[moonrambler]

Originally Posted by Angela

Heres what Abraham says about this.

I think you're right to acknowledge and learn from what you've done in the past. And I think you would have the power to make a difference (that you don't currently have, because you are operating with your hose in a knot) if you were to focus on what you want, rather than focusing on what you don't want.

Some of the difficulties with these discussions is that you can't get into my head, and you can't know what I've been doing and thinking the past year, and no matter what I say, you don't have to believe it.

For nearly a year now I have been making the statement of what I desire, rather than looking at the factual truth about the subject. Today I'm looking at the factual truth. Let's see what happens next.

"I make a motion we face reality." -Bob Newhart

(And by the way. I'm well aware that factual truth and reality are illusions.)

[moonrambler]

Originally Posted by cylon

It's a pain sometimes when you can't get everyone to agree with you.

Yes, but it's hugely clarifying!

[cylon]

Originally Posted by moonrambler

Some of the difficulties with these discussions is that you can't get into my head, and you can't know what I've been doing and thinking the past year, and no matter what I say, you don't have to believe it.

Hmm.....

[Angela]

Originally Posted by moonrambler

Today I'm looking at the factual truth. Let's see what happens next.

Okay, moonrambler. Good luck.

[cylon]

Originally Posted by Angela

Okay, moonrambler. Good luck.

Word. Hope you feel better moonrambler.