I Can't Seem To Think of Having - Instead Lack Of - HELP!

[penciltrick]

I have, what I think, is a unique situation. I've read a number of books on the LAO and understand the premise and execution. I've used it a number of times with success.

But the thing I want most is out of my grasp because I can't focus on having it - only on not having it. Here's the deal: I have what is referred to as a jaw deviation. It goes over to the left and the right side is longer. This has become the bane of my existence. What I want most in the world right now is a "straight face". One that doesn't look as if I were smacked too hard from the side.

For over ten years, I've went to doctors who have said "get braces" or "have this surgery" or do this or that or the other. I'm 30 and I don't want to spend the next four years in braces (I know - see there's the negative talk). So, let me break it down into what the real problem is.

• When I DO look in the mirror, I see the deviation.
• But mainly, I avoid mirrors because of the deviation because it's the first thing I see.
• I can't seem to imagine what I'd look like without it.
• The only thing I can think of is "How can I fix it" instead of "This is me how I want to be"
• I can't even stand to look at a photo of me "head on" because it bothers me so much.

So, how do I?

• Focus on having it instead of not having it
• Focus on the positive when the negative literally stares me in the face everyday.
• Imagine having it when I don't know what having it would be like?

I've manifested money, pets, objects, trips and even huge contest wins. But this - I can't seem to figure out how to do it. Perhaps because I want it SO BAD or because I just don't know how. I've sat and thought about how I could do it, but I think I need outside help to figure out how to do this. Help?

Thanks

[nightdiamond]

Hi penciltrick..

I just arrived and just saw your question. If I may, maybe I can give some suggestions that may help...

First, I think what you are feeling is absolutely normal! Of course it may be hard for you to imagine a straight face, because for so long all you have seen is the deviated one. Be kind to yourself and understanding since having a deviated jaw is a pretty hard problem for you (and for many others too).

You actually want to get a straight face, rather than always just imagining having one, so we want to do something to get you that jaw.

Why not imagine yourself agreeing to accept the surgery option and how happy you'll feel when it's done and you have a straighter jaw?

How happy would you feel right now if you just decided right now, to do the surgery and knew that afterwards you would have the jaw you always wanted? Would it make you eager to go ahead, get the surgery done, feel glad when it's over and enjoy the results?

Can you try to imagine how happy you would feel after it's over and done and you now have the jaw you've always wanted?

Maybe the trick is to imagine accepting one of the options that will get you the jaw you've always wanted, rather than just trying to imagine it without having done anything first.....after that it might be easier to finally picture having the features you want....

What we want is for you to actually get that jaw, not just remain wondering how to imagine having one months afterwards.

Let me know what you think, good luck and take care, penciltrick....

[writerros]

Hi penciltrick

I think NightDiamond is absolutely right. Focusing on the actions you could take will be easier.

Also, I do think that we worry too much about getting the Law of Attraction right - so much so that we can actually produce the very negative thing we're trying not to think of!

It's like that old saying- If someone says "Don't think of an elephant" - what's the first thing that you think of?

When you try to stop yourself thinking something, it actually becomes the thing you're focusing on - resistance produces persistance. So, I find that if I just gently allow the negative thoughts without getting too upset about them, they actually weaken and fade away, giving you room to concentrate on the positive.

Just relax - allow your thoughts to happen, and then move on to what you want.

Hope this helps.

Ros

[jeff3]

I understand that you want to simply "manifest" the straight face, but I wouldn't rule out the possibility that an appointment with an oral surgeon may be the way it manifests. I have a friend who does this for a living and he explained the surgery to me just a week or so ago, no braces, no real lengthy recovery, the only inhibiting factor I got from our conversation was the cost, but considering the cost of any other surgery it wouldn't be impossible. Just for the fun of it make some phone calls and get some prices, manifesting the money will be a shorter leap for you than just waking up some morning with a miracle cure having occurred. I'm not saying it's not possible, just that sometimes we have to work within the framework of our own beliefs. If you want it bad enough, a way to do it will arrive.

Good luck

[jawillie]

I just learned something invaluable to me, so I will pass it on.

It comes from Sonia Miller's "The Attraction Distraction." I am recommending this book like crazy.

If you are having a hard time coming up with affirmations that actually work ~ in other words, affirmations that cause a super-charged, positive emotion in you (because ".. feelings create, not techiniques" or mere words)... then try one of the following:

1. Willingness.

"I am willing to discover ways that can bring me my straight face." Now, beyond just saying it, you are opening yourself to explore all possibilities. Perhaps new possibilities will be presented to you, if you are open to receiving them. Perhaps surgery won't be as bad as you were once thinking.. etc. Perhaps ways to raise money will be shown to you... etc.

2. If/Then

Find people who have had a similar disfigurement as you have and had it fixed. If they can get it fixed... then you can, too. Maybe talk to them... see what they did.

I don't know. Maybe that will bring some positive emotions to ya? I know those two techniques helped me tremendously on something I was stuck on!

My best to you!!

[penciltrick]

Originally Posted by jeff3

I understand that you want to simply "manifest" the straight face, but I wouldn't rule out the possibility that an appointment with an oral surgeon may be the way it manifests. I have a friend who does this for a living and he explained the surgery to me just a week or so ago, no braces, no real lengthy recovery, the only inhibiting factor I got from our conversation was the cost, but considering the cost of any other surgery it wouldn't be impossible. Just for the fun of it make some phone calls and get some prices, manifesting the money will be a shorter leap for you than just waking up some morning with a miracle cure having occurred. I'm not saying it's not possible, just that sometimes we have to work within the framework of our own beliefs. If you want it bad enough, a way to do it will arrive.

Good luck

First of all, thanks to everyone who has responded. I woke up this morning a bit more ready to take the step toward surgery. It really isn't so much the cost as the fear of pain and what they will do.

Jeff, can you tell me what sort of surgeon your friend is? I've been researching this on the web and perhaps I could broaden my search with different titles of surgeons. So far, I've found orthognathic and something called Neuromuscular Dentistry. The latter one sounds like something for people who don't have too much of a problem to begin with. My search terms are limiting me though and perhaps I'm not looking in the right direction.

Thanks!!

[jeff3]

Originally Posted by penciltrick

First of all, thanks to everyone who has responded. I woke up this morning a bit more ready to take the step toward surgery. It really isn't so much the cost as the fear of pain and what they will do.

Jeff, can you tell me what sort of surgeon your friend is? I've been researching this on the web and perhaps I could broaden my search with different titles of surgeons. So far, I've found orthognathic and something called Neuromuscular Dentistry. The latter one sounds like something for people who don't have too much of a problem to begin with. My search terms are limiting me though and perhaps I'm not looking in the right direction.

Thanks!!

He is an oral surgeon, some make all of their living extracting wisdom teeth but many, like my friend , are very skilled in maxillofacial surgery, mandibular surgery, cosmetic surgery, dental implants ect....

The surgery I was referring to is called a "mandibular osteotomy" and they are performed for a variety of reasons ranging from sleep apnea associated with jaw position to "jaw prognatism" to malformations similar to what you mentioned. The surgery is very tedious as they split a portion of the jaw, dissecting a nerve that runs the length of the mandible and then "slide" the jaw into the position that is desired, affix it with some plates and screws(these are small stainless or titanium things that are not visible after the surgery) , they may possibly need to use some type of bone graft depending upon your situation. The surgery can go 6 hours, because of the slow pace required to do the very tedious work through your mouth.

Find a reputable surgeon, ask how many cases like yours they have done and if they balk, you walk, then find someone else. This would even be a time to use IM and "intend to find the perfect Dr." Concentrate on the end result of having the smile you want and stay out of the fear and pain imagery.

If you decide to do this you could lets us know and we could "send you our encouragement".

[penciltrick]

Thanks so much for taking the time to reply. Your "search term" gave me more information on what exactly goes on. It's a bit scary (permanent numbness in the lip is scary at least), but I have made a consultation appointment and will continue to shop around.

Wish me luck!!

[jeff3]

Originally Posted by penciltrick

Thanks so much for taking the time to reply. Your "search term" gave me more information on what exactly goes on. It's a bit scary (permanent numbness in the lip is scary at least), but I have made a consultation appointment and will continue to shop around.

Wish me luck!!

Few people realize it, but extraction of any molar runs some risk of permanent numbness. Just remember to stay on the positive side of all this. That does not mean pretend you aren't afraid, talking about these things tends to lessen their grip on you if....that is your motivation for discussing them.

Good luck.

[Caleb]

Thanks to everyone who has responded to this thread. This has helped me immensely on a completely unrelated issue of mine!