when two radically different subjective realities collide?

[escapelina]

I was wondering , is a child's early experiences,health and emotions totally defined by his/her parent's or close people's intentions? And let's say that s kid that lives in a home where the parents extremely negative ,angry,sad people (and simply this is how they are) and still somehow manages to turn his/her thoughts and emotions in a positive direction at some point of life. What happens then - the parents cannot change, they are too deep into the habit of negative emotions...But still they are in the kid's life ,they live in the same home. So , ok we create our own reality and our thoughts and feelings are all that matters - let's say someone manages somehow to change radically and be filled with only good positive intentions that should manifest only in a good positive and happy life and people. And we have the opposite situation when someone is extremely sad depressed and their life sucks.. And what happens when an individual of positive emotions and one of negative and destructive emotions are in the same family for example? You can't be indifferent to your miserable hateful parents?? You are the most positive person in the world ,but your subjective reality can't change the subjective reality of the ones that you come from .. So it is your subjective reality against their subjective reality. How does the law of attraction explain that?

If somewhere here someone already answered that , please tell me where i can find it. If not, it will be nice to see what you guys think of that..

[jeff3]

My thoughts on this are that if you are within their sphere or they are within yours it is because of "some" shared belief, programming, whatever you wish to call it. If you are truly that different from someone else and have no commonalities, you will cease to be in each others presence. In the case of family, that is your shared or common thread and if the only thing you share is a past then that will be your focal point while in their presence. That's why holidays and family gatherings can be so difficult for some people, they have nothing in common, yet they insist on traveling great distances to sit in a house full of others who have done the same for the sake of a bunch of people they wouldn't even talk to if they weren't related.

This also explains how someone can just disappear out of your life, even when you just "knew" you would be friends forever , your beliefs and thought patterns simply cause a physical change in peoples locations, they don't call or stay in touch because you have nothing in common, you no longer share a common reality.

ETA in the case like you mentioned where they do live in the same place and occupy the same sphere of existence they will simply experience it differently, we can "make hell of heaven or heaven of hell". When one begins to interfere with the other someone will move or a physical fight will occur that represents the mental conflict. This happens on a national level too, we call them WARS.

[Anagogy]

That was a very good explanation Jeff.

[peroquantosnombres]

This is very interesting. I have a tendency to do this a lot, meaning I spend time with people and then they disappear from sight for a long time and then pop back in. How do I get them to pop back into my life sooner? How do I know what thoughts to think? What thoughts should I think to make them pop back so that we share a common reality again?

thanks! just what I was pondering opon, an extremely important issue in my life.