How to rid of negative thoughts

[sarahme]

Hello,

I want to ask you manifestation experts a question.

How do you convince yourself that something positive will happen when you're pretty positive it won't? I.e. I interviewed at a firm yesterday, which I think went relatively ok, but I ended up going home crying cause I was convinced that I won't get the job. I am so convinced I won't get it because I showed a piece of my work that wasn't that amazing and I ALWAYS underestimate myself although people always tell me how they look up to me. I underestimate myself so much that I often think people are lying when they compliment me.

How can I psyche myself out of that mentality and into thinking that I will get the job and sort of work towards that? This is somewhere I think is ideal for me at this point in my career.

[flutterby]

ummmm... For a start you can think on lines that will make you feel less negative. For example... say "although the chances are less likelely BUT STILL if it's meant to be it will be." or "If it still happens there will be a reason for it" or "God might just surprise me with a miracle"

Three years ago i sat for an entry test for an MBA program. I was convinced afterend wards that i wont make it. Surprsinlgy i did! Then came the interview and the requirement for that program was that you have to be working ( It was an executive program) whereas i had just resigned. I dont know what happened or how it slipped out during my interview to which even the Dean said that you do realize it's a requirement for the MBA Executive program that you have to be working. I was convinced afterwards that i WILL NOT get in. guess what! I did ! and i thought there had to be a reason for this.
However I do remember that while i was in that waiting period i would occasionally say to myself or more like IM that if i do get in i will put this knowledge to a bigger purpose.

Relax ... there is no end to the positive aspects... just look beyond whats visible to the naked eye

[nightdiamond]

Hi sarahme, I'm not a manifesting expert, but maybe this advice will help;

In psychology, there is a concept called ' internalization', when a person's own mind is generating the negative thoughts without any real evidence, or an exact reason why.

Like for example,let's imagine I am talking to someone and they crinkle their brow for a minute... I see that and automaticly think, 'that person doesn't like me', or 'I'm not interesting', though I have no real evidence...

The person didn't say 'I don't think you're interesting' but my own thoughts came up with that conclusion... the real reason that the person crinkled his or her brow was because their nose itched!

Does this sound similar to what you describing, sarahme? Where you say you think your friends are lying to you when they compliment you.. you generate the idea they must be lying to you when they compliment you, without any direct evidence from them or the outside... it all came from within your own mind....

And most likely it is negative beliefs that you already have that are causing you to generate those negative internal conclusions....

So one of the remedies psychologists have come up to deal with this is to

-watch your thoughts
- recognize when you may be coming to a conclusion based on 'internalizing'
- stop that thought or confront it
- then counter it with a real, positive fact about yourself...

For example, each time you think your work isn't good, then remember you may be generating an internal unrealistic negative thought, confront it, then think of a real positive fact about yourself, your work;

For example having people say they look up to you is a rare feat if you ask me...not many people get that type of compliment.... and it is a great compliment...

And if you have people say they look up to you, why should it be hard to believe you can pass an interview? If for example, you admit you are always underestimating yourself, then how can you believe yourself when you say a piece of your work wasn't that amazing? Use that type of correction to change your view.....


I hope this helps, sarahme, please take care of yourself....

[Lauxa]

Hmmm, from what I understand, you don't get to pick HOW things happen. Just say to yourself "I intend to find the perfect job for me at this point in my life" and imagine the wonderful feeling of being offered the perfect job and then trust that it will come. If you catch yourself worrying about NOT getting the perfect job, then you mentally change the subject... either back to imagining getting the perfect job (and the good feelings this generates) or to something else, generating the most positive emotion you are capable of in that particular moment.

[Mindful]

Start with baby steps. Okay, ____ probably won't happen, but there is always a chance that it will. Even if it's a 1% chance, it's still a chance. After that, playfully contemplate on that tiny possibility and imagine that it will come true. It might or it might not, but eventually there will be enough times that it does come true and thus your confidence will grow.

[Arboretor]

You could try using self-hypnosis to get rid of limiting beliefs about yourself, e.g. with hypnosis texts from this site (which had been posted here previously by ALG):

Hypnosis Downloads.com | Online Self Hypnosis MP3 & Hypnotherapy Scripts Center

God luck to you!

[meghufree]

I too had terrible situations recently and although I too knew that all I had to do was think nice thoughts, how on this freaking earth was I to think nice thoughts when life sucked?

One interesting thing that threw me out of my reverie and REALLY helped me was reading somewhere that intending and focusing on one thought for 17 seconds sends a strong message to the universe. For 17 seconds, imagine that YOU have got the job, that you have got whatever you wanted - FORCE yourself, but feel awesome and think nice thoughts. Generally we contradict ourselves before the 17 seconds are up. Try purely focusing on something nice for 17 seconds. Seriously, it worked for me. (I am feeling too lazy to write out the details of exact incidents when it worked for me, but trust me it did ) Find out more about this 17 second thingy by googling "17 seconds law of attraction".

Can you fill your day, with a LOT of such conscious thought focusing 17 second period - things can really change.

All the very best.

[Nobody80]

Get rid of negative beliefs.

[marinik]

Any situation is neutral until you give it context and emotion. So I try and see the same situation from as many angles I can (step into other peoples shoes if you wish) and it all becomes irrelevant. At the end of this kind of exercise I usually have a good laugh on my account being so silly in the beguining and thinking negatively about that particular subject or taking myself so seriously or making it all about "me". I can sometimes find even 20 viable ways/perspectives/aspects in which to see a situation. It really makes everything relative....

[JagJ]

It's a funny thing, but you sound like an artist, so artists thrive in an environment of insecurity and not thinking that their work is ever good enough so that they can always strive to the next level in thier art. It makes them better artists. When you feel complacency, in my experience, often leads to uninspired art. I think that as long as you are creative and happy while you are creating, this act of being happy and channeling creative energy of the Universe in creating inspired work, will reverberate and send positive manifesting and good experiences your way. Keep up the good work!

[newkaren]

Originally Posted by sarahme

Hello,

I want to ask you manifestation experts a question.

How do you convince yourself that something positive will happen when you're pretty positive it won't? I.e. I interviewed at a firm yesterday, which I think went relatively ok, but I ended up going home crying cause I was convinced that I won't get the job. I am so convinced I won't get it because I showed a piece of my work that wasn't that amazing and I ALWAYS underestimate myself although people always tell me how they look up to me. I underestimate myself so much that I often think people are lying when they compliment me.

How can I psyche myself out of that mentality and into thinking that I will get the job and sort of work towards that? This is somewhere I think is ideal for me at this point in my career.

One word. TRUST.

Ask for the perfect job for you. Trust that if you don't get THIS job, that it's not the job for you. This leaves you open for the perfect job.

Then think about something else. Something you have NOW, that you are grateful for.