I'm understanding what acceptance means

[cylon]

When a situation is not to your liking and you intend for something else, it's easy to keep observing that it's not to your liking, over and over, and not surprisingly, the situation doesn't change. How can the situation change when you give it all your energy? Even when you are away from the situation, you're still thinking of it, it's on your mind before sleep and when waking up. You "live" in that situation.

If you want something else, you have to free up space. You have to devote the energy towards what you want. And in order to do that, you have to stop fighting what you don't want. You have to let go of ego, of who's right and who's wrong, victim mentality, anything that keeps your mind on suffering. So you accept, yes this is how it is. I prefer something else. Just know it's temporary, that you are creating something brand new.

If you REALLY KNEW that you'd get what you want in the end, would the current situation bother you all that much?

It doesn't mean you APPROVE of the current situation. It just means you ACCEPT that you DON'T APPROVE of the current situation. You have your preference, it's more enjoyable to focus on your preference and not remind yourself over and over how unsatisfied you are with your current reality.

This is not easy to do. But I think this is how you speed up manifestation. To be full, first you must be empty.

[Champ]

Wow! Great post! You made a lot of sense. This is something that I think a lot of us struggle with and your post just made it so simple.
Thank you.

[ARZ]

I am new here but I´ve been reading this forum since one month ago. I am having problems with LoA because I haven´t manifest what I want and I think it´s because I need to accept my current situation. How can I know that I am accepting? It sounds silly to ask that but human is so complex. I used believe that I was accepting my current situation but yesterday I realized that I haven´t really forgotten what happened to me six months ago.

I need to be empty so I can be full. Help?

[cylon]

I'm still getting a feel for it. I think you know you're accepting, when something happens that normally would set you off on a downward-ego spiral, but doesn't this time.

But if you start living in the moment, sure things will still bug you. But if you can say to yourSELF, "look. I get it. It sucks. It's not fair. It's not what I wanted to happen. If I could do it over again, then I would do it over again. Fair enough?"

Then you accept that you "stuck up for yourself" by acknowledging that you indeed prefer something better. Now relax, stop giving it more momentum, and put your thoughts on what you want. Soon you start to think more and more of what you want, it starts becoming your reality. Then the situation that used to bother you so much can't really get to you AS much, because it's already FADING from your reality.

So previously you'd do this:
then you learn to do this: , which is a step up.

[Lil Chris]

Then eventually you're doing this , this or this

[wolfgang]

Feeling Blessed

Initially I found it very difficult to get myself to imagine having what I wanted in the present moment. My logical mind rejected the notion because it was clear that I wasn’t anywhere close to having what I wanted. But I found a nice little trick that helped a lot. I imagined that I’d shifted to an alternate reality where there was another me who was experiencing exactly what I wanted right now. I just had to tune my thoughts to the right frequency to feel what he was feeling. My logical mind was okay with that; it’s funny that it could accept the idea of alternate dimensions, even though it couldn’t quite accept the idea of having what I wanted right this instant.

It seems to be a common issue - how to side step what is and get yourself to feel what you want as if it already is true so your intentions will manifest.

One way maybe to detach from beliefs that don't fit what you intend. Or to find a way to at least let the logical left brain to think it's possible, then it's not tossing objections at you.

[cylon]

Wow, what a timely time for me for Steve to put that article up!

Thanks for linking it wolfgang. Just reinforces what I'm saying, as I come to a deeper understanding more things to reinforce it show up.

[Protein]

what a nice post. Its amazing to read that stuff from others. I am in this forum since 3-4 weeks ago I am from spain, I am getting to understand how this affirmative thinking IM thing works, and I am also improving my english ! Your words really inspire me, thank you very much guys !

[jawillie]

Cylon, thank you so much for sharing your insight! So true, so very, very true!!! I bet you gained this insight from unpleasant situations you are going through now, right? Isn't that something? We wouldn't grow if we didn't get the opportunity to do so!

I am getting better at this, too. My life isn't "perfect," but relaxing into "what is" feels so much better than fighting it. And, things DO change once you do that. Suddenly the universe starts cooperating with you! IT's true, it's true!!!

I loved the way you put it.... "If you REALLY KNEW that you'd get what you want in the end, would the current situation bother you all that much? "

Brilliant!!!

[mej023]

One of the ways to step around "what is" is to practice prepaving.

Your current reality is a result of your past vibrations.

[cylon]

Thanks for the comments everyone.

Yeah this is coming to me out of necessity. My ego was in so much pain, being victimized, etc. etc. etc. I was exhausted, pushing myself too hard and not even knowing why I was doing it. I was trying to escape my life situation. Now that I'm learning to accept it, I can finally start moving PAST it. I think it's important to acknowledge that it is literally better and more healthy for you to focus on feeling good. Otherwise you get ulcers. You really have to put your happiness and peace of mind as your top priority, and that includes right now, no matter the situation or how much you are saying "when this gets taken care of, when I achieve this or that, THEN I can be happy".

No. RIGHT now. Start NOW. Allow yourself the luxury of happiness in the face of "obstacles". This is where I'm at. I have to remind myself I deserve it.

BTW I have been practicing pre-paving as well. Getting the hang of it.

[ciarac]

Great post, and funnily, your faces and really helped explain your point.
What do you mean by pre-paving? I'm listening to the Abraham hicks tapes and they mentioned pre-paving. I'm wondering if its the same thing?

[cylon]

Originally Posted by ciarac

What do you mean by pre-paving? I'm listening to the Abraham hicks tapes and they mentioned pre-paving. I'm wondering if its the same thing?

It is, it's segment intending. That's where I got it from.

[cylon]

You know what's funny is after writing this thread I've been yanked back and forth. Most of my day now is like in a dream, I feel warmer inside and better, my thoughts are stable, I feel good, then for the small amount of time that I get pulled back into ego, it gets REALLY strong. I start feeling victimized and want to say nasty things to people, then I say to cylon:

"been down this road. I have a new preference. Everything you're seeing is a result of ego. People see the world as scarce and fight for their piece of pie and that's all you're seeing. You have moved past this." Then I relax.

I wonder if this thread is helping me release even MORE resistance.

It's weird most of my day is unreal in how I good I feel, and the times when ego comes back it's twice as strong as normal. Anyone feel me?

[{aspiring_to_clarity}]

Originally Posted by cylon

It's weird most of my day is unreal in how I good I feel, and the times when ego comes back it's twice as strong as normal. Anyone feel me?

Oh, yeah. In general I have fewer moments of pain and ego, and more moments of calm and acceptance and presence. But when those old ego pains do flare up, they are huge.

[Angela]

Ever hear of the Herxheimer Reaction, Cylon -- a healing crisis? When you are in the midst of a big breakthrough in your life, a breakdown can be seen as support for that breakthrough. If you look boldly!

[cylon]

Originally Posted by {aspiring_to_clarity}

Oh, yeah. In general I have fewer moments of pain and ego, and more moments of calm and acceptance and presence. But when those old ego pains do flare up, they are huge.

yeah. When I first started this WHOLE THING, all I wanted to do was scream at people, which is normal when you start being conscious after years of being unconscious. I fluctuate. In general I feel pretty good but when I get sucked back in I really have to calm myself down big time or I start getting sarcastic and mean.

Originally Posted by Angela

Ever hear of the Herxheimer Reaction, Cylon -- a healing crisis? When you are in the midst of a big breakthrough in your life, a breakdown can be seen as support for that breakthrough. If you look boldly!

I haven't but I like this idea of a "healing crisis" and I'll check it out.

[cylon]

This is just for my own logging purposes.

But I have had an ego spell, and although it feels like it always has (not very good) it feels foreign at the same time. I remember how this wounded ego feels because it was like this everyday, and it hasn't been too long, but it already feels like something from the past. So I feel like I went back in time. See how long it takes to come back.

I've been listening to the audio book version of "Ask and it is Given" on repeat the last few days on my iPod, I wonder if that has something to do with it.

Had a fast manifestation today as well, but I won't get into it.