one obstacle - fear

[boat]

One of the things that prevent me from fully throwing myself into IM practice is fear. As I go throughout my day, there are some weeks where I inevitably find myself thinking of negative things - death of people I love, my own safety/mortality, etc. This makes me afraid of becoming talented in intention manifestation... One day, if I become great at IM, what if I accidently think a lot of bad thoughts? The very morbidity of these thoughts is an attractive force in itself - once I think of it, it becomes extremely difficult not to return to the idea no matter how scary it is, and it takes some time for me to stop thinking about it.

Do you guys have the same fears? How did you stop it? If you're good at LoA, have you ever noticed that your ability to attract negative things are quick and fast?

[jawillie]

I just read something today on this.

Try to come up with some good "after thoughts" you can use to keep you going.

For instance, I am starting a new business. I have great visualizations of this business thriving. When problems come up I meditate and see us solving them. We are kinda in a slump now, though. So.... I was going to start going negative.

BUT... I am reminding myself of what I KNOW. "I know I have a great service to offer and others will catch on." THis totally wipes out my negative thoughts and gets me to a calm place, so I can go on.

Here is the link to the article I read: Law of Attraction Videos, Radio, and Articles

Hope that helps! I am not an expert, but I am having a blast with this and seeing definite changes in myself and, ultimately, in my life.

Good luck!!!

[Dave Kaminski]

Originally Posted by boat

One of the things that prevent me from fully throwing myself into IM practice is fear. As I go throughout my day, there are some weeks where I inevitably find myself thinking of negative things - death of people I love, my own safety/mortality, etc. This makes me afraid of becoming talented in intention manifestation... One day, if I become great at IM, what if I accidently think a lot of bad thoughts? The very morbidity of these thoughts is an attractive force in itself - once I think of it, it becomes extremely difficult not to return to the idea no matter how scary it is, and it takes some time for me to stop thinking about it.

Do you guys have the same fears? How did you stop it? If you're good at LoA, have you ever noticed that your ability to attract negative things are quick and fast?

Yes, I've found that the negative things I attract come on quickly; I'm grateful for this because I can recognize and fix them that much more easily.

As for the fear of those things, I would address each fear specifically. What's so scary about someone, or yourself, dying? I'm not scared of death or poor health, and here's why - I know I take the best course of action to avoid these without sacrificing the things I'd rather die without.

I think that's the key to IM - it's more about logically thinking out your problems and going forward with that established logic than just "manifesting" things. The negative things come forward because I have reason to believe them! I'm clearly on the wrong path if I'm focused on the problems and not the myriad solutions that could solve those issues.

Fear is highly fabricated; you take someone else's emotions about an action or occurrence and say "I agree with that."

If a director plays a certain kind of music or if you see a certain kind of person, often times you will feel fear. What's so scary about each of these situations?

If you give me an honest attempt at something you're scared of, I'll give you my honest effort as to why I wouldn't find it scary. Whether you'd agree with my reasoning or not, I'm not sure. It's certainly a matter of will.

[jawillie]

Sorry! True to my form, I didn't answer your question. I was just so excited because I just read something on it today! lol

I haven't been doing this long enough to see fears come to light, other than last week: I was on a roll and things were great. I suddenly got fearful that I would "slip" and lose momentum again.... guess what happened?? Yup.... I totally lost momentum and slipped a bit into a negative frump. BUT.. it only lasted a few days and I am back at it. I recognized why I did it and I am stronger for it now.

[Dave Kaminski]

Originally Posted by jawillie

Sorry! True to my form, I didn't answer your question. I was just so excited because I just read something on it today! lol

I haven't been doing this long enough to see fears come to light, other than last week: I was on a roll and things were great. I suddenly got fearful that I would "slip" and lose momentum again.... guess what happened?? Yup.... I totally lost momentum and slipped a bit into a negative frump. BUT.. it only lasted a few days and I am back at it. I recognized why I did it and I am stronger for it now.

For the sake of the discussion, do you mind if I ask who or what event was responsible for the loss of momentum? I'm curious if this was just an inner frump or some real, external cease of action as well?

[Bradshaw]

In my experience the better i become at IM the more positive my outlook on life is... or is it the other way around? Eh. Well, and since with IM you essentialy choose your thoughts, you will pretty much just offer very little thought/emotion to any negative thoughts.

[jawillie]

Originally Posted by Dave Kaminski

For the sake of the discussion, do you mind if I ask who or what event was responsible for the loss of momentum? I'm curious if this was just an inner frump or some real, external cease of action as well?

Okay, I will answer. Boat.. I am not meaning to make your thread all about me.... though, life is all about me.. ha!!

In my case I just started to think of things as "too good to be true" almost. Like I didn't deserve to be in such a great mood, because it could all fall apart at any second or something?

Okay, so that was the inward-stuff. The outer stuff was that we definitely faced real-challenges in our business. We are starting to hear from the nay-sayers and that was starting to get to me.

I do believe all obstacles are just chances to make yourself better, though. So, I am reminding myself of that instead of "worrying" about whether my intention of having a thriving business can come true or not. I am learning to relax and go with the flow and truly trust that things will work out in the best possible way..... EVEN if it is at first perceived as a set-back or a negative.

[Acting Like Godot]

Originally Posted by boat

Do you guys have the same fears? How did you stop it?

Over time, I've become much more conscious of my own thoughts. So I tend to notice quite quickly when I am thinking negatively.

Then I will drop the negative thought immediately. I even have the habit of quickly selecting some opposite and positive thoughts, to counter those negative thoughts.

For example, I have two little kids who can be quite a handful. Sometimes I get cross with them for being so naughty. Once I catch myself thinking these cross thoughts, I stop myself and try to see the positive aspects in the situation. It isn't an artificial process. There usually ARE some positive aspects and they aren't difficult to see.

There may be days or times when you generally just feel negative (a "bad mood" day). On those days, you'll just want to take better care of your general emotional state, rather than keep tackling specific negative thoughts.

For example, when I feel anxious or stressed, I just go running. Half an hour of running wipes out all the pent-up negative energy. Or I may spend some time listening to music. Music is another quick way for me to improve my mood.

[garentee]

ALG,
Do you do IM on those negative days? Or do you avoid it? I am still new to this and can see how negativity could affect intentions.

[Dave Kaminski]

Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot

Over time, I've become much more conscious of my own thoughts. So I tend to notice quite quickly when I am thinking negatively.

Then I will drop the negative thought immediately. I even have the habit of quickly selecting some opposite and positive thoughts, to counter those negative thoughts.

For example, I have two little kids who can be quite a handful. Sometimes I get cross with them for being so naughty. Once I catch myself thinking these cross thoughts, I stop myself and try to see the positive aspects in the situation. It isn't an artificial process. There usually ARE some positive aspects and they aren't difficult to see.

There may be days or times when you generally just feel negative (a "bad mood" day). On those days, you'll just want to take better care of your general emotional state, rather than keep tackling specific negative thoughts.

For example, when I feel anxious or stressed, I just go running. Half an hour of running wipes out all the pent-up negative energy. Or I may spend some time listening to music. Music is another quick way for me to improve my mood.

Exactly! What happens is we put on a lens that judges one behavior and praises another, usually thinking from our perspective only. In these situations it's best to step back as you do and think from a different perspective. What are they doing, and why? It's rarely, if ever, to 'hurt your feelings,' it's often a preservation of ego or self.

So long as the actions of another are not harming anyone (and I mean harming, not intruding on your belief system) they should not have an effect on your happiness or well being.

[All Is Well]

I used to fear to be alone in a big room at night. Whenever I feel there is something in the darkness that I don’t like, I immediately image that there are angels/guardians inside and around my house singing and dancing. My home is filled with bright light. The light becomes brighter and encompasses more and more spaces, my home, my neighbor’s, the whole community, the entire city etc.

So if you have the same fear for any particular thing, it would help if you could come up with something that would replace that fear. Even a general affirmation would help if you repeat to yourself the moment you recognize you are in a negative state. For example, I would say “I will always be guided in the correct direction.”